Things that Never Dream oF

Most of the time we dreamed of something that we want to achieve in life, a good life, a beautiful family, and a successful career, work, or good business deals in the future. But what are the things that you never dreamed of and you don't want to happen?

No one dream to become an "other woman"

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I've come up with this topic because I've watched the movie and an interview about "Etiquette of Mistresses".One of them said that they never dreamed or even wonder that they will end up becoming a mistress. It was unplanned, unexpected things that happened to them, which makes their life end miserable. Well, we don't have the right to judge these people who just fall in love with the wrong guy. Most of the time people will judge them and mock them that they are labeled as a " third party of the story ".They are considered as " (kontrabida, )destructive, but people maybe don't notice that they also have a battle inside.

One of the women in the interview said that she is not aware that the guy he falls in love with is already married. Which makes her suffer and feel too much guilt while she is in the situation. It took her many years to get over and break the chain the hold her and her children. One of the things that hurt her was when her children were called, "Anak sa labas, not a legitimate child".But despite her situation, she chooses to do the right thing for her and the kids, and now she's already happily married.

We are not born to do undesirable things, it's just that sometimes we fall into something which we are not aware of. Maybe not just me, but all the rest of the women didn't dream to be like this. And also the kids didn't dream to be alive in the family which has a setup like a "third party."

All of us dream to belong in a family which is right not only in society but in the face of God. We all dream to belong to a family with love, respect, kindness, and loving one another.

But if we are in a family that is following the standards of society, it doesn't mean that this child that is born differently is not deserving to be treated in the same way. Whether rich or poor the right to live free and not being judge by anyone is for all.

I'm just touched by what the woman says, "A man who is not contented with his wife is not deserving to keep", that's why she choose to do the right thing. Plus the emotional baggage that the children will carry, of why, did their mother had a child on the first and the second husband. It's just a matter of taking responsibility as a mother to become a good influenced on their children.

One of the reasons that they try to figure out was, they said they're trying to base their decisions on their emotions, without using their intellect to decide and get to know a certain.

Maybe it's just that a fact, that when a person falls in love he or she is blinded when a person wasn't able to balance her thinking and emotional aspect. Well, it was an unending debate, which one should you consider, your heart or your mind, if you consider your heart and commit a mistake it was painful, but if you consider your mind and neglect the emotional aspect it's also painful. The game of love is just a very wide explanation which sometimes can make someone's life confusing. Our mentor said before that God has placed our brain on the top so that we should consider it first before our heart, but oftentimes we consider what's in our heart before our mind.

If we belong to a good family maybe we can say that we are lucky enough to have it. Every person has their fate, we should not underestimate those people who have to undergo different life situations. As I have seen, the people who have suffered a lot and encounter hardships in life are stronger and they have built their maturity early rather than those who just live a happy go lucky.

I have two kids now, and they are just so young to predict what will happen to them in the future, I dreamed for them to have a positive outcome in life. Well, it's all depends on God's plan and the choices in life that they are going to make in the future. Nobody dream to live a broken life and on the wrong path.

Somethings things happened accidentally, and we are often unaware that we are already into a mistake. If we have a friend or a relative who suffers like this or encountering this kind of situation, I think we should understand them and as much a possible. The more we dig deeper into their hurts the more they feel the pain.

As a woman, being emotional, men defined us as weak, because we sometimes easily fall with their sweet smile and charm, but we should look upon beyond their deceitful outward look and keep our heart guarded every time.

I salute all men who stay loyal and love their wives faithfully and never cheated in their marriage life.

Like Robin Padilla said," ang loyalty Hindi pinagyayabang yan, kundi ginagawa".

• No one dream to have a broken home ever

No child on earth dreams to live in a broken home, where the family is incomplete and the parent's situation is unstable. And that is one thing that I never dream of with my family.

Just like when I was a kid, when I'm angry with my parent, when I sleep I used to say to myself, "if could have chosen my parent, I would never choose them,".I know that it would hurt them if they will know, but that was before when I was young, I've realized that we exist with a family which is prepared for us. Have you happened that you also think of it? I admit that I make a mistake against my parents when I used to think of it.

That's how unpredictable life that is in us, some are born rich, some are born, poor, some are born who live in the street and some are born who live in elegant houses. Therefore, our existence is already planned and our creator knows the best for us. We may have complained today, asking why am I here on earth, and what's the purpose of living, but in my opinion, I born with a purpose and not by accident. Even if you exist through an unplanned pregnancy, still you are not an accident.

My message

There are a lot of things that we never dream of, but still so sad that it happens. Well, that why it's called life, full of shapes, curves,s, and rivers to cross and mountains to climb it's a part of it.

It's upon us, on how to deal with it, where do we find our strength, and the fire that keep us going. At the end of every race, it doesn't matter if you win, but what matters is that you have finished the race.

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