Forgive and forget

Can you forgive and forget as well? It's one of the hardest thing that a person can decide or being done in his/her life. I was blessed with the message of a woman, during our christmas celebration last friday. She kept within her heart a heavy feelings towards another woman that is also one of their family member. She was acting weird when that woman was in front of her during her reunion day, she looked at her with haughty eyes.

And there was once a time that they had their reunion day, she have listened to their speaker's speeches which talked about forgiveness which she lack as of the moment. After listening the speaker's topic, both of them have come together and forgive each other, they embraced each other reconciled. She felt relieved and freedom after what had happened.

She said that unforgiving heart can drag us into sadness and unhappy. Which is true, it was like a chain that we carried away everytime we walk somewhere. It can give us a heavy burden, like a deep hole digging inside our heart, that when once it reach it's limit will blow up and bring damaged.

But, there's one argument, if we forgive, is that mean that we can forget? Mostly, people say, they won't forget even if it takes a very long time, they still remember that awful thing that is being done to them. And it was true, it really happens.

Only the person who have the sincere love for others who can forgive and forget by God's grace.

Forgetting is not an easy thing to do, especially when we are being hurt so much, and have done the worst thing in our lives.

This new chapter of our life in the coming year, in my own opinion,it is better if we can leave behind all our sorrows, unforgiving spirit, bitterness, and faced the new year with a grateful heart.

I know it wasn't an easy thing to do. But, we will not be doing this for others, first and foremost, its for ourselves. So that we can go and travel along this life with less or no baggage to be carried, so we can go smoothly along the way.

Well, I didn't write this, not because I'm goo at it, but, I'm learning into it, day by day. Why can't we just let the past behind and moved forward to another milestone of our journey. Our negative pasts, should be put into forgetting and never let it occupy in our heart.

One scenario that my friend have illustrated about this forgive and forget. It is when someone in your family have made a mistake in the present, she said that, we should not rewind the past mistakes with what he has done. Its just like pressing a wound that is already on the process of healing, where can turn back the pain and let it trigger again.

https://unsplash.com/@christopherstitesJust let another chapter to be unfolded and lived with it, for the moment because each day that passed will never be turn back. Yesterday will never be back again, it only happened once, so forgiving and forgetting can help us a lot.

Lastly, there's one that we need to forgive first, its "ourself". We may made a lot of failure from the past days, months or any time in our life. There's only one key to settle it, "forgive yourself", set yourself free, from hating what you've done.

It is for our peace, and calmness.

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