Can I love my neighbors?

Most of you must be very familiar with these words, since it was written in the holy scripture in Mark 12:31. Why did I came up to this topic? It's because of the recent problem we had with our neighbors here as a result of the past election day.

Last Monday night, we have attended a birthday celebration with my aunt who lived also with the place where we re residing. Some of the relatives are there but we were not complete, and here comes the friends of my cousins wife which cause the commotion on that night. One of them have opened up about the competence between the mayoral candidate of our place. They have different choice and our family too have our own chosen candidate.

The lady have started a conversation that all barangay captain who did not vote with the recent mayor will be replaced from their position. But it was not yet confirmed and still a humors that spread all over the neighborhood because of them. I used to stay on one corner and continue eating my food, and they were keep on talking loudly. But what triggers me is that, they confronted my mother who was trying to advise them not to spread gossips, I didn't say anything because I know it will not worth even if I will talk, they won't listen to me anyway.Their actions have caused conflict to the whole locality.

I advise my mama not to speak up and just let them talk as long as they want to, and she listens to me. I and my daughter go home right away after I heard everything that they say. I can't afford to listen hearsay and vulgar words against each other.

These 3 girls are the one's who stress us out lately, for speaking negative and vulgar, they even post it on FB, and have confronted some of our neighbors whom they disagree.

Now, back to my topic, how can we loved such kind of neighbors who are against us, or dislikes us?

Honestly speaking, I have a hard time dealing with this thing, but one thing that I learned from this, "we should learn to live with the cringe, just like what Taylor Swift said, they really exist here in our place. And what can we do about it, unless we will transfer to another place to live. What I did is that," I will never respond to them when they talk badly, I just let them talk in front of me, but I will not say anything.

" I can say, that loving our neighbors need some sort of sacrifice and denying ourselves". If we can't stop the fire from burning, at least we will not add any firewood to make it burn.

It also needs self-control, which sometimes I am out of stock. But it really pays to have it, all the time, yes, it's very hard thing to do, I must say that. And I guess I have no choice, but to do what's the best for all.

All of us have different kind of attitude, and we also differ from each other when it comes to our capacity to cope up with this. I am not good at this,but I am tired already of feeling mad with the people around me.

I think, I've come to the point that, I just want to live peacefully, that I need to put down my pride, ego and let them what they want as long as I am okay with myself.

In order to prevent myself from being annoyed with them, I have;

1.Uninstall my Facebook account today

Finally, I'm thinking with this decision may times already, and it's just this day that I made up my mind, and uninstall it for the last time. I already did this before but I downloaded it again, and for the last time, I therefore conclude not to have it. Why?

Everytime I opened it, and read some negative posts from my neighbor, like bitter quotes, it hurts me when I read it. I can't handle too much stress any more, that's why "I quit FB".

The more I can read negative posts, chances are, I will fight back posts, that's why I can't handle it anymore but to quit.

A. Were still friends

Even if I don't like them 100%, but I still remember the times that were close to each other, and how did we go together as friends, I keep those memories and serve as my motivation to still keep them.

B. I tell myself, that I need to understand their weakness

Each of us as human beings are very vulnerable people, maybe they are in their moment to be one of those, I still believe that sooner or later, they will realized what they did, was wrong, after they felt cold relationship in the whole neighborhood.

C. There's always a time for them to change

Generally, they are not bad people, I don't think that they are like that. They are nice to be with, it's just that they are on their weakest spot that time, because they were affected by the humors which touches their emotions.

From now on,

A. I will set boundaries with any conversations

Even if were still friends, I have learned that I need to set boundaries when I have a time talking to them. Maybe it's hard to turn back times that we we're close to each other, there maybe a gap which serve as a warning sign to prevent another problem.

'Once trust is being broken, it takes time to gain it back".

B. I will be more sensitive when it comes to being friends

It's so hard to find true friends, that's what I have proven with this experience, true people are considered as "elite".

Not all of my neighbors are my close friends, but I have observed that everyone here is trying avoid conflict as much as possible. There maybe few who commit mistakes but as I have heard in our meeting yesterday, everybody wants to live in peace.

Many people might think, that love is just an imaginary thing which really is not happening. But, I must say, that love really covers all sins, that is so true with us here, no matter how hard it is to love but as long as we let it prevail, we can be victorious.

I also believe that every actions that everyone did, has rooted with a reason,maybe they are miscalculated by anyone, that's why they speak up. But once they have poured out their feelings, I hope they can find peace.

Everyone might have likes of dislikes but in the end the bottom line is love.

This is my published article for today, I'm grateful to everyone who keep on reading my posts.

Respectfully yours,

@Winx1988