Avoiding conflict

Who wants conflict?Of course,it's a big big "No",for all of us.We always want to live peacefully each day of our life ,where we don't need to feel pressured.Conflict can be avoidable ,or sometimes we didn't know that we are already into it.Conflict can happened anywhere,everywhere,in family,friends and recently,in the world.

It is stressful and everybody didn't like it.What can we do about it?If possible,we should "avoid conflict",so that we can live in harmonious life.

Check this list below;

• Listen first before talking

In any conversations,it's a must that we should listen,before we speak out.This is to avoid misunderstanding and one-sided opinion.Personally,I really like to talk to people who are a good listener,rather than talking to someone who speak a lot of words without responding to the topic that I have started.In marriage,my husband and I sometimes have conflict in our day by day conversation.That's why I have learned to listen even if I didn't like the topic,to give respect.Listen more,talk a second.

• You,it's you

When conflict arises,it's always a thing that somebody will point fingers as a way of blaming with someone who caused the problem.I have learned that when we point one finger with the other ,the other four is pointing to us.So much better to face the real issue.

• Stay in tone

Conflict create pressure and anger ,it shows the way we talk,if we raised our tone,like yelling.This is hard,yes,but this is the proper way of solving it.Turn down the tone,and start a proper conversations after.

• Be a joker

Break the ice ,in times of conflict,it's good to have a sense of humor applied (inna good way,not in a sarcastic manner of creating another problems ).In order just to take the energy level normally.I can apply this during the war in my place,we have companion who run with us who makes us laughed when he saw our face frowning and feeling nervous ,it really helps.

• Don't target personal issues

Just like talking to a friend with certain issues,we should not drag down each other issues in the past,like failed relationships,and others undesirable experiences that the other party had in their life.Focus on the issue that needs to resolve.

• Okay,your right!

Sometimes it's hard to fight that we are the one who is doing the right thing when ,everybody is against us.Its better sometimes to just agree and let the others voice speak up and gave a fair time to listen in both sides.Everybody has its own rights to stand,and I think it's better to come up with a win-win solution all the time.

• Don't judge

This a very thing that people didn't like,when they are being judge the way they live ,or act,dressed,and even with their opinion.We don't have the right to judge others unless we are perfect. We cannot therefore conclude the way people do.Because life is still rolling like a ball,we never know yet what will happened in the end,there maybe something that surprised us.

• Have more patience

• We may patience but I think in times of conflict we really need more of it.Theres nothing beats a humble heart ,it always result in peace and reconciliation to anybody who has a conflict.Just like what happened in the world today,there are conflicts,but we need more patience to continue living.

• Respect each other

Respecting each other's opinion and beliefs,relationships,and rights .Conflict comes,everytime there is disrespecting manner with people,friend or anyone around us.We don't have to violate people,their culture and opinion.

My heart felt so sad when there is a conflict in my family,like my cousins and my siblings ,especially within my family circle.And also,its alarming that countries have conflict already.How is wonder if this kind of conflict will be avoided ,for the sake of the majority people.Realizing the fact that there are people who need to sacrificed their lives ,just to fulfill their goals.

Be resilient , and stay still for conflict can be resolved,stay patiently living until the end.

This article take me a long hours of writing,and I thank you all for patiently reading it.

Have a nice time.

Salamat.