Unhappy Marriages

We have the awkward reasons behind marriages, some we frown at and so being so unacceptable. Especially when it comes to marriages that are being force mainly on the female child. The males get forced too but not as compared to the ladies. This form of slavery unfortunately happens also from parents, some parents because of money have in history sold their daughters to a financially capable man, it's not their concern if the girl loves him or not, they believe they are wiser and making the best choice for the girl, well in time they learn better. Money is a frustrating factor but not enough to predetermine someone else's life.

However its no news that some people are married today not because they were in love or there was some kind of connection they felt, but because they had no choice than to agree to marry. Often its the ladies being forced into it, guys sometimes can be force into marriage but very rare. If anything should be forced, it shouldn't be marriage, marriage is for a life time, you really don't want to choose any reason more than happiness. You don't want to choose money over happiness, happiness is Paramount in this area. Money brings happiness but believe me when I say money doesn't sustain much when it comes to marriage.

What other reason can be behind forceful marriage apart from money, kidnapping and pregnancy, these few has taken more percentage of this bad act. Two out of it are still in your choice to make, the other which is from kidnapping is really not in any ones power to change, we just pray that God always intervenes and stops this wicked act all around the world. The security agencies too has to be on the look out and take up this issues as serious as it should be, talk less of the trauma it brings. Such act has be have a severe penalty.

Money has been the leading factor however to this act. Parents while they are still in full control of a child's action can think it best to decide for their kid, some with the motive of trying to give her a better life. Let's marry her off to the son of the prime minister, like in the movies just as the Cinderella's step family, mothers trying to offer their daughters to the 'prince charming " literally, but in actual sense they all want their kid to get married to someone who can support their financial state for life. At the expense of their kids personal opinion.

No doubt poverty is a disease, its in every way bad, in fact there's no good thing about being poor, shun the ideology spreading round that it helps you to be humble, you are only faking yourself, then its not the real you, I have seen wealthy guys who are humble too, who care more about charity and hospitality than they do to show off and raise their ego. Its a personal choice to be good or bad, we all can distinguish between right or wrong so if someone picks wrong, who is to be blamed. So pray for money and don't be scared it'll make you bad. In fact its poverty than can make you bad.

No doubt poverty has caused more harm than good, especially in this case of forceful marriages, marriage has been the saving grace of some family, its an avenue to go out and join with a greener pasture, both male and females alike. Funny enough nowadays its no more forceful, the children by themselves are looking for greener pastures, I seriously don't know where love has run off to in this generation, rarely you see someone wanting to endure, now its money before love, well that's a personal choice so I have no issues with that, what my article is meant to conflict today is the fact that some people are being forced into marriage out of their will and most probably would have to deal with the unhappiness or bad connection for as long as they stay together.

Pregnancy too has brought out forceful marriages, these however is forced more on the male, they mostly are not prepared for the responsibility. The ladies too are not ready but then they care more about removing the shame of the child doesn't have a father, so they want to see to it that the guy takes is rightly place in both lives, her life and that of their unborn kid. Some irresponsible boys have run away leaving the girl to take care all by herself, this is bad.

What do we prescribe as the best line of action?, do we say parents should not marry their kids and continue leaving in poverty, what if the child grows up to say she would have liked the idea as she's tired of this poverty lifestyle. How about the pregnancy, should they marry just because of the child, what about if they are not compatible and the marriage becomes a battle ground. See these two points, one has to think deep. Everyone has their personal opinion to it. However I have mine too, not saying it's the best or enforcing it, just what Will Travis sees fit.

Firstly for the forceful marriage because of money, the issue of marry a child out because you see it best is more of a selfish reason for your benefit than it is for the child who can't yet decide for his or herself. At best keep it pending, then when they are old enough, express the idea to them along with the vivid reason and if its agreed by both parties then that's ok. Moreover its saves the parents later from hearing "you are the cause of all this troubles".

The issues of pregnancy causing a forceful marriage has its bad no doubt, we know every kid should have the experience of a mother and father,however some union are more toxic to the child than they are beneficial, what if the man is an addict or a Prevert or the lady sleeps around regularly, do you feel its best to get married to such person, the kid however most have both support from both the father and mother, but its not a must to get married, marriage comes from a connection and willingness.

We all would prevent all these troubles if we just do the right thing and be faithful. Like I said earlier this article has my person opinion which is open for debate or can be constructively criticized. Main idea though is to stop Forcing Marriages.

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