Overthinking

Have you know someone who over thinks everything, or probably are you the overthinker? Being an overthinker can give you the two sides to a person or an action which may be correct or may be incorrect, they don't feel anything happens so casually, there has got to be a reason for it, an intention, why would this just happen, on the long run you may discover that you were right or you may discover the matter isn't even that serious, you only took it out of context. That's why Its advisable we don't act based on a hunch, wait until its clarified, then we can act and see better.

Overthinkers in a relationship is often trouble, we have seen many innocent actions misread, and life happens in such a way you see what you want to see, when you start suspecting someone off something, then is the time it appears as though that person is guilty, cause his actions unknowingly may be conforming to your hunch, but it's all because that's what you wish to see, and so you pay attention to those little detailed that wouldn't mean much in the normal sense. It probably isn't the first times such scenarios have happened but you are angry now cause you are suspicious.

Overthinking isn't bad, no it isn't, when you feel some kind of way its good you pay attention and try thinking deep, bring in the past scenarios and see if it adds up, wait and see what keeps happening, if at all your suspicions could be right or not, should you refuse to do so, you may be taken for a fool and hurt on the long run. However the issue with overthinkers is when they take actions base on what they think without really being sure. It's just an hunch, you haven't cleared it out with the person, you haven't heard or self discover their side to the story, rather you took actions anyways.

It may be shocking to discover how many relationships or mutual understanding has been ruined only cause they overthinked and read false meaning to things. Imagine a man leaving the house secretly because we was trying to plan a surprise party or having to leave the house in time he didn't regularly leave, but his intentions were to plans a surprise for you so he can't tell you off his true intentions, rather tells you a lie and later find out, an overthinker of course is already thinking of the worst, he is cheating on me, and it's not wrong to think it, no its not.

However suspicions cause for investigation, not an outright disengagement of things, now you feel he's cheating on you and you got so angry and this anger led you into doing the unthinkable, maybe you left the relationship and ended it with a fight, or did a payback by cheating with someone else, anger can often direct us into the craziest of things. It doesn't change the fact that you haven't discover the main truth before taking such actions, when we take crazy actions only to soon discover the truth and the truth was only harmless, what then do you do. You're now the guilty one.

It's bad when an overthinker has a low self esteem also, they dont accept every good that comes their way, they feel they don't deserve it and start putting their guards out. Why would she give this to me, hmm maybe she's using it to get me cool so she can be free to do what she wants to do. Why is he so nice to me all of a sudden, is he trying to get to bed with me. Not believing you naturally deserve love, so anytime it comes you put your guards up and become extra arrogant, could you just relax and enjoy yourself, just be smart about it.

What happens when an Overthinker is a jealous one, oh my God, it's so funny, they could actually be extra protective of the littlest of things, as little as you smiling to their younger sister, why is he smiling at her like that, I don't like this. To make matter worst, when he or she talks to your friend or ask about your friend, it's so funny how that can change the mood for a long time, especially when that friend indeed is cute. But it could only be a kind gesture and not any fishy intentions. But you wouldn't see it so cause you overthink. Imagine coming home to see both of them talking, omg just don't burn down the house.

In all it's good we think about what's happening, overthinking is too extra, just think, it's ok to just think, but never take drastic measures following what you only thought about, like you've got to be certain, you've got to be sure and unless you got concrete proof, the next best thing could just be to talk it out. Here it from the person first, see what truly happened, how it truly happens and then you can act afterwards. Most often you discover its only your psychic mode setting in again, you've got to take it easy, Overthinking is that bad but you should be in control, dont let it lead you into crazy deeds.

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