Make That Love Work
Love is crazy, love is insane, we would be insane to expect only sane things from a relationship. Many people have gone narrating their troubles or relationships drama to a therapist or someone more experienced, and all they did was to laugh, like what did you expect in the first place. It doesn't always go as we think or plan it, but however since its love, a matter of the heart, we must make it work, we owe as much to our partner, for commitment sake we all to put in our best shot. What's making the love deteriorate, find it and amend it, more so look for ways to spice it up, let things get more exciting, more intriguing, love is fun, don't miss out from the fun love has to offer.
Its probably a lot of time spent already but do you remember how it all started, when you both just started the journey of love, the constant calls, the text and meeting up, the love was thrilling, we went to bed craving for the next day, our dreams was engulfed about our partners, nothing else matter much, we found a new source of joy and we were swimming in the moment, oh I'll love you forever, I can't spend a day without you, you are my world, lol, few years afterwards all the thrill and excitement are no where to be found, and funny how we blame it on the kids, or on jobs or on life situations. Yet there are more busy people who still enjoy their relationship like they just started yesterday.
Love is never secluded to a certain age nor is it restricted to some certain issues, even the very poor still find ways in their own little space to make their love life worth envying, you don't necessarily need the costly vacations nor do you need a trip to the resort to make the experience memorable, all what is required is the both of your willingness to make it work, the man and the woman both channeling their desires to see each other happy, that does the trick.
Of course, we can't push aside the place of sex, sex is a very important aspect to the marriage, its designed by God for the sole purpose of spicing up the emotions, as couples it must, not should but its a must to explore it to the fullest, it boosts the love. Much more than money can go, a good sex would surely create a stronger bond. You never get too old for it, for couples its a divinely ordained act, why stop being happy, why stop.
Everyone else would stay for a short while, the only person who is going to stay with you till death would and should be your spouse, therefore nothing should be strong enough to stop your love level, everyday is an opportunity to create a whole new different feel. We are dynamic as humans so we can never run out of creativity. Today we are feeling like we this is the height of it all, nothing can cause a greater excitement than this, then boom you see what another couple is doing and you see that something better can still happen, be open to learning new things that can spice things up.
Fights doesn't mean a decline in love, infact if twisted right, it can bring a closer bond than that which previously existed. Fights are mere misunderstanding between couples who are truly in love, because couples who are truly in love would still act within the confinement of not wanting to hurt their partners, so the wrong they could end up committing would be something they both can resolve in a sit out. I don't see how couples who are truly in love would still go ahead to lay with another person, maybe if someone can explain better to me, but that act is so painful and would most likely lead to a complete termination of the Union.
No matter the misunderstanding, true love still makes us act in the zone of not wanting to hurt our partner. Doesn't mean all couples break up when the discover their partner infidelity, some have forgiven and are still together till date but the statistics is not adding to their favour as most couples calls it a quit. Its very painful you must agree.
The question today is what can I do to spice up my relationship, it's Monday and work is most stressful today, what do you have planned to relief him or her of the stress. Would you get a gift today, do you plan to susprise him or her today. Have you taken your calendar to single a day or a week out just for the both of you, worry less about the kids, in fact they need to learn so when they grow, they can learn the secret to why their dad and mom stayed stronger together over the years.
Its as simple as wanting to see your partner happy, this only brings the zeal and the ideas that would foster the bond. You need to be happy and so also do your spouse, don't wait for him or her to do it first, its not a game, its a joint life already, if your partner isn't romantic, then teach him or her, sooner they would learn and reciprocate, you'll be amazed as to how soon they can transform. We are dynamic as humans, change is something everyone is capable off. Never get tired, loving up on your partner is as good as loving up on yourself, moreover when they are happy, you too is happy. Spice it up, make plans today.
Thanks for reading.
All the mentioned points are so beautifully descriptive and so enlightening, I do not posses any words to comment on it anymore. I also sometimes talks in a manner with my girlfriend that she get hurts but she is so beautiful that she even do not say it that I hurt her and also after just in a moment I apologise to her unconditionally)) she is beautiful, she is so understanding)