We all have that one friend that has a running mouth, they can't keep a secret as promised, time has displayed their nature, now we are being careful at what to say to them and what not to say cause the next mouth we may be hearing it could be in the mouth of another. However there are others who we can truly confide in, although they could fail us because they are human after all, but then we know they tried, unlike others who would let off such information at the slightest remembrance to it.
Knowing how to hold words are great attitude. Keeping a secret can be likened to a snake hiding, a green snake hiding in a midst of green grass can't be easily detected or a brown snakes crawling admits sands, it can strike and still get away easily, keeping secrets are just like this, sometimes it's needed while other times is wrong to keep. More dependent on who is involved, and why such information should be withheld, from this we can determine if you are being smart and good keeping the secret or you're being quite the opposite.
Its no news that relationship should be built on trust, understanding and openness, secrets are often going to turn around to taunt the Union and if the love isn't strong, then its breaks and ends that's way. All grasses should be cleared, plain and smooth to the best of both abilities. Yet it's often hard to find relationship where both parties are not hiding something already, and the fear of the damage such information can do is heartbreaking to the one who is guilty of it, talk less of telling it now in reality, it's mission impossible. Are some secrets good to be withheld in a relationship?
Yes, but for a little time, I'm not talking about matters of little relevance, I mean those secrets that are great threat to the union such as cheating, health issues, finances, blood group and similar. There are perfect time for everything, some people would say "No just tell him or her, you can't be waiting for a perfect time", I find this untrue, our emotional states has often lead to different response to issues, he can't already be in a bad mood or she is having a bad guy and you decide it's the best time to pop up the matter, are you trying to lead her to depression or make him hit you? There are good times for all these, it is dependent on your partner too, especially if they have a good way of dealing with tough times, then you can say and pray they receive it quite alright.
Friendship is quite different, these people are close to you but somethings have played out or is about to play out, things you know would hurt them, now there's a secret you have hanging on your chest. With friendship I feel its better you just do yourself a favour by speaking out and apologizing, but first make sure you are truly sorry and won't be guilty anymore then go ahead, you don't want to be a hypocrite trust me. Friends has quite a tenser way of dealing with issues, that's more reason why you want to be careful as well as having done the right thing as quick as possible.
A friend can decide not to forgive and revenge cause its friendship, you are not a couple who loves each other and can't hurt each other, a friend doesn't see you as himself or else they are naturally just kind. Your partner who truly loves you is ready to forgive more than a friend. For the sake of being good, you want to come clean, but there after you need to be careful as you can never really trust the words. Moreover not all friendship would last for a lifetime, some distance would break or just very little communication from time to time, so you just have to relieve yourself off the pressure of holding it secrets and get it over with. As guys sometimes be ready to take a punch.
Now talking about things future intentions, some people tend to keep it a secret till when the action is finally done, yeah like a snake, keep everyone in a dark then suddenly surprise. This is good most times especially when you understand the people you are around. All around the world we have good people as well as bad, we have those who would spoil your plans out of envy and those who would support it, but how can you tell, the safest option is to keep it hiding till it's done. Some times too its not good to hide plans as it proves lack of trust especially to your partner.
Some relationships has broken off completely because they said out the secret and the partner who they told could not accept to continue with it, so they ended it, this sometimes is not because of the timing but the partner was hurt so bad and that was the best solution to him or her. So you can choose to apologize, wait for them to forgive or just move on, if you committed an offence you should expect and receive the consequences rather than run away from it.
Truly relationships foster more in an environment where there is openness and faithfulness, we wouldn't go through the troubles of hiding our dirty little secrets if we did the right thing and remain faithful to our promise. So more than trying to learn to deal with our hiding secrets, it's better we try to avoid the actions that would lead to keeping secrets from those you really care about. An exception to future intentions especially if its a big plan and their actions or energy can ruin it, we all have to be cautious with things we hope to accomplish, not all smiling faces are smiling hearts.
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