The 4 Of Cups represent being consumed by your thoughts, feeling “gray”, and just going through the motions in life. When you’re feeling bored and disinterested with life you close yourself off to the opportunities being presented. When the 4 of Cups appear then it’s time to get out of your own head and start paying attention to the signs and signals being offered. Self reflection is important, but not at the expense of watching your life pass you by!
The suit of goblets, cups, or chalices are one of 4 suits in the Minor Arcana , and correspond with the suit of hearts in traditional playing card decks. Water is the element associated with the suit of cups, and represents “going with the flow”. Water can be calm and soothing, or intense and destructive. It can provide life and be a source of growth or erode and decay whatever it comes in contact with. The suit of cups has a strong feminine characteristic, and ties closely to relationships, emotions, and intuition. The suit of Cups in a tarot reading deal more with the heart than the head, and rely heavily on feelings and relationships.
In the 4 of Cups we see a young man sitting on a hill with his legs and arms crossed, leaning his back against a tree. The man looks like he’s deep in thought, but his face seems downcast and disinterested. 3 Cups rest at his feet in front of him, and a fourth cup is being extended from a cloud out of thin air. It looks like it’s being offered on a silver plater, just waiting to be taken. The young man has zero desire to recognize the opportunities surrounding him, and is so consumed with his thoughts that he can’t even notice the golden opportunity in front of him.
The 4 of Cups remind us that opportunity is everywhere, but we must open our eyes to it. I wonder what the young man is thinking about while he sits alone on the hill? Is he reconsidering his position in life, and contemplating how he’s arrived to where he’s at now? Does his indifference signify that he’s unsure of his ability, so he doesn’t make an effort? Tell me what YOU think the young man is reflecting on in the 4 of Cups, I would LOVE to hear it!
Lack of Interest
Seize the Day
Glass Half Full
When drawing the 4 of Cups Upright you may be feeling stuck in a rut right now, and totally unenthused about life in general. The 4 of Cups Upright can also been seen as having a glass half empty mentality, which further prevent us from enjoying life and making the most of our limitless potential. Going through the motions and doing the same thing day in and day out would cause anyone to feel bored and unenthused. Knowing what to expect everyday, combined with an apathetic attitude toward life is a recipe for complacency and settling for less than what we’re capable of.
Imagine the only desert you can have for the rest of your life is vanilla ice cream. Nothing wrong with vanilla ice cream, but the same thing….every single time? You’d start to resent vanilla ice cream, get sick of it, bored and disappointed by it. Think how exciting it would be if you could put hot fudge on top, or you could get REALLY crazy and try a new flavor altogether? Variety is the spice of life, so consider opening yourself up to the new and exciting opportunities surrounding you.
The 4 of Cups Upright also places heavy emphasis on introspection and contemplation. When you’re feeling stuck or unenthused toward life then it’s time for self reflection. Identify what lights that fire inside of you, and gets you excited when you think about. Ask yourself what gets you out of bed in the morning, and why? Reconnect with what you’re passionate about, or try something different and discover a new passion. When opportunity presents itself, reach out and take it! You won’t know unless you try!
Receiving the 4 of Cups Reversed means that you’re pulling yourself up by your bootstraps, putting on your big boy (or girl) pants, and taking charge of your life again. This card can be considered having a new lease on life, and taking advantage of new and exciting opportunities being presented. Instead of waiting around for life to change, you’re now taking control and viewing the world from a glass half full perspective. George Bernard Shaw said it best: “People are always blaming their circumstances for what they are. I don’t believe in circumstances. The people who get on in this world are the people who get up and look for the circumstances they want, and if they can’t find them, make them.”
Another benefit of drawing the 4 of Cups Reversed is acknowledging the abundance and beauty that surround us. There’s a new found appreciation toward life, which wasn’t there before. Music sounds nicer, the sun shines brighter, and even that vanilla ice cream tastes better when the 4 of Cups Reversed appear! Take a look around….there’s beauty in everything if we only look hard enough. Having an attitude of gratitude and seeing the good in everything makes life far more enjoyable. Another quote that describe the 4 of Cups Reversed perfect comes from Wayne Dyer: “If you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change.” Perception is reality!
The 4 of Cups Love card is closely associated with complacency and stagnation. You may have a feeling of disinterest and indifference toward your love life when this card appears in a reading. This often stems from focusing on past hurt and failed relationships. If you’re single and receive the 4 of Cups Love card then there’s a possibly you’re pushing away potential partners. This can happen subconsciously without you even being aware of it. You may be missing the signals from someone interested in you while you continue living in the past. Don’t ignore the possibility of someone unexpected entering your life, and reigniting your passion for love and intimacy.
If you’re in a relationship and receive the 4 of Cups Love card this can indicate boredom and indifference between you and your partner. There may be a “take it or leave it” feeling toward the relationship, and you both are only together because of the familiarity and knowing what to expect. Are you all in on the relationship or feeling “lukewarm” and wishy washy? Remind yourself what attracted you to your partner in the first place, and contemplate finding new and exciting ways to regain that spark. Look for the good in your lover instead of focusing on the bad, and see how much of a difference it makes in the relationship!
There’s a feeling of monotony and apathy when the 4 of Cups Money card appears in a spread. You may find yourself on autopilot at work, and the days just blend together. If you go to work on Monday morning, and the only thing you can think about is Friday, it might be time for a change. Feelings of boredom and stagnation at work can result from a lack of challenge. Look out for opportunities at work to take on a new project, or branch out to a position you’re unfamiliar with. There’s opportunity screaming your name, but you’ll miss it by keeping your head down and staying in the background.
When the 4 of Cups Money card concerns your finances, you may be feeling unhappy and disappointed with where you find yourself currently. When you look around and see others making forward progress and getting ahead in life you could feel discouragement and envy. Why don’t you have what ‘they’ have? Reflect on the differences between you, and those that have what you desire. Are they THAT MUCH smarter than you? Probably not. Are they MORE talented than you? Probably not. We can come up with reasons why we ‘can’t’, or start coming up with reasons why we CAN!
Are you feeling in a rut, or like you're just going through the motions in life? Do you view the world as glass half empty, or half full? How do you "snap out of it" and regain that enthusiasm and excitement for life? What are you doing to make life interesting and avoid boredom? Tell me about it, lets have a conversation! :D