10 things every lady looks out for unconsciously
Whenever a guy and a lady is in a place, interaction is bound to happen just like positive and negative wires😉. This interaction now leads to attraction which is otherwise known as **chemistry.** A woman can have chemistry for multiple people around her like her friends, acquaintances etc. When she's got good chemistry with you, she smiles more often, talk to you about personal things, she treats you with respect and care. Doing all this doesn't mean that she's given you the green light. No!**(many have this misconception)** this actually prompts you to do more especially when you want something more than friendship. It's just the first step to the many more steps you've got to take. Here's 10 things ladies look out for
**Intelligence**:
*”There's nothing sexier than having an intelligent guy who can hold intelligent conversations" a* quote from a site and it is so true.. Women loves intelligent men who they can have quality conversation with not just the **hi hello have you eaten routine.** This intelligence doesn't necessarily mean being good in academia only. We love creative and interesting guys that always know what to say at the right moment and time. A woman pride in men like this knowing fully well her demands and needs will be met with better communication and understanding.
Author's note: I've always been sapiosexual ever since childhood. The only male friends I had then was my competitors in terms of intelligence. My first crush was the guy that best me for a term even though I took my award back lol. It is one of the first things I look out for till date.
**Sense of humor:**
Who wouldn't like to be with that someone that cracks him/her up huh? Women has got imbalanced hormonal system that makes us upset or pissed easily. It's difficult to alter this default settings of ours so we need someone who can put smiles on our faces and make us forget all that is bothering us even if it's for a minute or two.
Author's note: Having a good sense of humour is really great skill but then I've seen people over do it which is a red flag. Be you always.
**Vulnerability**:
*A woman sees so much strength in your weakness*. She loves to see the fragile person in that macho body because there's this intimacy it brings. Vulnerability is the ability to share how you really feel, with the sole intention of sharing, whilst knowing you cannot control the outcome or response. Love is vulnerability. You wake up everyday loving someone who may or may not love us back, or who might leave without notice. Love is vulnerability , vulnerability is love. So my friends, basking all strong and all that won't get you the girl😉🙂
Author's note: Vulnerability gets to me a whole lot. When a guy is being vulnerable towards me, telling me all those messy things in his head, It might be stuffs that I don't agree with but then the act just show me that this person is courageous and really trust me which is sexy.
**Stability**:
This is quite important as it subdivided into Emotional stability and financial stability. A woman being created with hormonal imbalance wouldn't want a man that easily gets angry and would slam the door on her or hung up because of the things she says. She needs a one that would keep his cool and not become violent towards her knowing fully well that she'd always apologize for her wrong if handled with maturity. A woman also needs one who can take care of her needs and make her feel special by spoiling her with gifts, take her out on dates, go on shot trips. Women loves to be pampered.
Author's note: Gifts is one amongstmy love languages. I like to be spoiled silly even though I never really ask for it. He should know lol
We'd continue the other six in my next article.
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God when?¿😱
Written On The 30th April 2022
By: Venvie
God when is a phrase coined by Nigerians and used when describing two emotions namely happiness and a wish. So instead of saying just congratulations you use God when to show that you're felicitating with the person celebrating and you're also praying to God hoping for your own celebration to come; killing two birds with one stone. My creative and cruise people of Naija I hail thee.
Well today been the last day of the month is a day to retrospect. A day to reflect and evaluate our progress, lapses, loses and wins inorder to improve with a better results in the.next month. On Readcash, it's a like a ritual for some people to account for their earnings gotten from the platform or other sources. I've a number of articles accounting for their monthly Readcash earnings and no lies It's choking and I've been saying God when. In the.sense that.it makes me feel like I've just been playing and not taking full advantage of the platform maybe Because am not that active or because I'm not a good writer or so..else how do you explain a 3min post that made up to 25$ in a day whereas a post of 5min long has less than 0.06$? That is not in anyway encouraging at all. This would only make the writer lackadaisical and feel lazy to write. Everyone would attest to the fact that writing is not a piece of cake. It's not easy at all but Seems the random guy doesn't care about the number of words in a particular post. It's been 5 months since I joined Readcash and barely have 5 views in my article and sometimes it takes more than a day to write about a particular topic that people don't get to see. I've only got 29 subscribers and I really appreciate all this persons that subscribed but I still feel I'm not doing as much. Maybe am not doing certain things right I don't know but I'd like to know Going through this articles I must say encourages me and drives me to put some more work, post more often and see what comes out of it
Ok let me quit whining and join the bandwagon and account for my little wins on Readcash.
My first official sponsor: I got my first sponsor @Ellawrites a very good writer on this platform in this month. Previously I've had request but I mistakenly tapped the wrong button that ended up rejecting the offer. This time, i wasn't even aware that she sent a request. She was the one who told me in the comment section. This time I ensured I taped the right button and accepted the request. I was really excited and I still am. Hopefully in the month of May, I'd have other sponsors.
Since it's the month May, I believe it's a month of wishes and not just wishes but also granting of all our wishes. Make a wish today! but first let me make mine: "*May all our your desires come alive this month"*
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Small things ain't Small
I just hate the way I feel right now. Like how would something as small as this get to me this way? I feel so angry and disappointed right now. I feel like exploding.or yell at the top of my voice but I can't because it's late and doing that would scare my family. The only thing I can do right now is to cry or write. Well am doing both as at the time of writing this post. Wondering what is making me react this way? **My Charger!**
Strange right? Well yes it is very strange that a common charger would make one react this way.Being someone who has seen and heard things that's enough to make someone break down but didn't cry so why am I teary because of a charger, a non living object? I don't know but I just can't help it.
Here's what happened:
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I bought this charger days ago. Before then, I've been battling with my previous charger which do not charge fast. 5 hours uninterrupted power supply is not enough to get one's battery charged with the previous charger whereas other phones with bigger battery size than mine would get charged in 2 hours tops. Sometimes, the charger would be unstable going off and on because when the light is low. I was practically using a conductor for a charger. At a point, i started borrowing charger from my siblings. I had to wait for them to finish charging before I could charge and most of the time, the lights would go off before I do that. After doing this for a while, I got tired and I decided to get a new charger for myself. I went to the electronics store and bought the charger..I heaved a sigh of relief after getting the charger. I was happy that finally I would be free from charger issues as it's made by a popular brand. I had so much hopes.
When I got back home, I announced to my siblings that I've got a new charger. They checked it out and told me that the charger is good. I smiled praising myself for having eyes for good things. I started using the charger and it worked just fine. If only you could see how i used the charger. I would clean it everyday, carefully put it into it's pack after use. I handled it like an egg that would break.
This evening, I tried to charge my phone as usual but then it just kept blinking going off and on. What could be wrong i asked myself. I moved to the extension that's in the living room. I was suspecting it might be that the extension in my room has gone bad. When i plugged it, it started charging. I left the room for mine. Few minutes later, my Dad called me and told me that my phone has been blinking. When I checked, the same thing it did in my room was what it was displaying in the living room. I tried to fix it by switching to other sockets but nothing changed. There and then, it dawned on me that the charger has gone bad in just 4 days after purchase just when the warranty has expired! I immediately felt weak.. I removed it from the socket and went into my room. I was so angry that i was considering smashing it to pieces but i decided not to at the last minute. I resorted to listen to music and calm my nerves and then the tears began to flow as I force myself to sleep.
Just see how a charger has humbled the strong girl and even made her cry. It's surprising how this small things get to me deeply.
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Flashbacks Friday
I remember a six year old who didn’t like going to school but is very brilliant. She would create excuses and sometimes feign illness just to miss school for the day. When she’s in class she’d annoy those that were bigger and older than her even to the extent of even challenging them to a fight when she knew that she can’t even throw a punch herself or stay any close to a multicolored chicken (lol) but then she had those who could beat anyone blue and black. This little one is the perfect description of small yet untouchable. I know this girl so well because I am HER.
At that time, I was in primary one; the smallest but the one who called the shots(winks). As the captain of my class, I am second to our class teacher. I was in charge of distributing books kept in my class locker to my classmates, make sign out notes, represent the class in any competition, sometimes help the teacher to correlate test or exam scores and my favorite of them all write names of noise makers. I practically leap for joy each time I hear the words “write the names of noise makers” not because I loved seeing my classmates being punished but because I carry out my own special assignment. Each time I’m given this instruction, I write the names quite alright and even add (X2) to the name of anyone who has refused to listen to my warnings. When the names get to 15 and my class teacher isn’t back yet, I begin my personal execution.
First I’d announce that am taking the names to the school disciplinarian and my classmates knowing fully well how ruthless he is would beg (just how I wanted them to react) then they’ll suggest that they prefer I do the spanking to the disciplinarian. (It panned out just the way I wanted them to. sound good to me) I would then go find a cane and do the needful. When our class teacher gets back and asks for the names, I’ll simply tell her that everyone behaved well.
My classmates became too relaxed and don’t listen anymore since my cane strokes don’t hurt so much. This gave birth to a fresh idea. I decided that not to spank anymore but for every name that appears in my list, a fine of 20 naira is automatically attached or else I would simply report to the disciplinarian. They had no choice but to adhere to the new changes.
What I’m given by my parents in a week, I got in a day. I wished that students make more noise so I can get more money. I kept saving the money in a piggy bank my brother had then. After a week or two out of curiosity, I broke open the bank. I got a 1000 naira which is a lot of money in my eyes then. I walked to my mom and told her that I want to sell sweets and chewing gums in school. I can never forget her loud laughter (before telling mummy, I already tried it and made gains) she asked how I’d get the money to start and I said I’ve been saving my lunch break money. She smiled and asked me to forget about the idea and focus on school instead and I did
As days go buy, the noisemakers list started decreasing in number. Those who couldn’t afford to pay decided to adhere to the rules. No one ever reported my act.
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Collecting money from my classmates was wrong. Maybe the money they gave me was their lunch money for the day which meant that person will have to watch while other kids buy things during break. Not cool!
I’m still wondering how I came about that business idea @ 6. Is that how much I liked money? Lol.
So this article has inspired a prompt. Have you done something not cool, shameful or funny while in school as a child? Kindly share and tag me so I can enjoy and catch a good laugh too.
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Situation Room 2
Read the first part here if you haven't https://read.cash/@Venvie/situation-room-8d79b517
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Betty was still in deep thoughts trying to wrap her head around the sight she's beholding before she felt a tap on her shoulder that jerked her off. Is anything the matter? Lina asked. No sorry. I was just thinking of something. It seems like I've misplaced it in the cab that brought me here. Nice to meet you emmm ....( pretend not knowing his name) Trust Lina chipped in. I've heard good things about you Betty continued with a smile. Trust was short of words.. he didn't know what to say so he kept quiet and stepped back into the car. Lina sat in front of the driver seat while Betty sat the back.
Trust POV
Ha.. My God! I'm finished.. I've been on this for a while now and I've never given her any reason to doubt me but now She caught me red handed. What kinda nonsense is this? I should have heeded to my instincts that were giving me signs not to come..if i did i wouldn't be in this mess that I've put myself into. I was expecting a showdown but no she didn't react like i thought she would. What is she even thinking in her head right now huh? I'd give anything to have such powers. Is she planning to kill me? Yes i know i deserve all the insults there is but since she's not doing any of that i should be scared. To think that she's still in this car is suffocating me already.. God help me. I don't want to lose my wife or my life.
Trust was seen sweating profusely even when the A.C is on. Babe? Are you ok? You are sweating. Lina said.. naaaaoo Trust managed to mutter.. i think it's fever but I'd see the doctor next week. You should. I'm dropping here Betty interrupted. Oh you're close to your house now? Lina asked. Yeah Betty replied. The car came to a stop and Betty thanked Lina and stepped out of the car. She watched the car as it drive off with tears rolling down her cheeks. What have i done wrong for Trust to treat me this way? I've been a good wife and mother. In all this years I've dedicated all of my time to my family. I've refused to work just so that i can be available for them all the time, refused to get maids, made sure i did all he asked me to do and all i get is cheating? This ain't fair. Not fair at all as she burst into a loud sob. She cried for a while and decided she won't let her sister or the kids get to know the situation of things so dried her eyes with her handkerchief and stepped into the house. The kids and her sister welcomed her warmly. One of the kids asked "Momma what happened to your eyes?" Same question I was about to ask Betty sister replied. Betty smiled. Oh that! "Something got into my eyes . while i was coming back. It itched so i scratched it, maybe that's why it's red. (Telling them the truth won't solve the problem so why bother them?) The kids bought the story but her sister seemed not to convinced. She excused herself to go shower and as she did, she cried some more. It was just to painful for her. Is my marriage going to end?l she asked herself a rhetorical question.
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4 hours later, Trust finally had the guts to go back home. Previously after dropping of Lina at the apartment he rented for her, he decided to go relax somewhere. Take a few drinks and calm his nerves. Two drinks changed to four and then six. He was so tipsy that driving home safe was a miracle. He managed to get in whilst saying some words that didn't made sense. Betty was shocked when she saw her husband. She hurriedly ran towards him. He touched her face and then dosed off. Another look at him made her shed tears. She has never seen her husband thi way before.. luckily the kids were asleep. She wouldn't want them to see their father like this so vulnerable. She removed his shoes and manage to drag him upstairs to the bedroom.
Coincidentally, Lina called to check up on her. As they were talking Betty decided to tell her the truth. Betty told Lina that her boyfriend was her husband. At first Lina couldn't believe it but when it dawned on her, she begged Betty for forgiveness and thanked her for handling the matter in a way no one would ever done. She promised never to have anything with Betty's husband and that she'll turn a new leaf. It was an emotional moment for both women.
**Curtain Falls**
Wow!! Sometimes creating a scene or handling situation based on solely our emotions is never the way to solve any situation. Sometimes we need subtle approach. God help me to be Betty cos her kind is rare.
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Situation Room
Hi lovely writers on Readcash! There's a situation in our hands that needs attention. So I overheard a true life story and I felt I needed to share this and also hear what your views are. Here it goes
The curtain opens and one can see Trust, his wife and kids having breakfast on a Saturday morning. It's a weekend and this implies that the kids will be home all day which also implies that their mummy has to work some more as the kids whilst playing will scatter the arrangement of the house. The kids were done eating and left the table to go do their business (play). Trust and his wife Betty were alone. Darling.. Betty began, as Trust attention was drawn. Betty continued, Today is the day that's affixed for the PTA meeting of our kids. will you kindly drop me off at the school gate? Trust replied almost immediately obviously without thinking: I can't dear. I've got to fix something in the office. Why don't you use a cab instead? Babe it's difficult to get a cab this days. One has to wait for a long time. Please reconsider Betty replied. Ah ah don't make it seem like I don't want to take you. I have to work. This is what puts food in our table remember? Betty knew that making any further statment might lead to a quarrel so she ended the conversation my grudgingly uttering Ok..
Some minutes later, Trust drove out and well she also had to prepare and do the chores quickly so that she'd be able to attend the meeting on time. Betty doesn't have a maid. She never liked that kinda concept because of the Ill stories of how maids sleep with people's husbands and also go as far as getting pregnant for their boss thereby breaking.the home. She doesn't want to experience anything of that sort so she resorted to do all chores herself. Her husband has even suggested that she get a maid and stop overworking herself but she refused. While doing the dishes, Betty's sister walked in.. Sister.. good morning she muttered. How are my dear? You came earlier than expected (Betty had earlier called her sister to come look after the kids while she'll be at the PTA meeting.) Let me help you with this. Betty's sister took over with the dish washing. Thank you dear. Let me quickly go and prepare for the meeting Betty said. Go on sister. I'll take care of everything.
An hour later, Betty was all dressed up and ready for the meeting. She called the kids and bid them goodbye. She stepped out of the house and walked to the junction. unlucky for her the sun was out shining like never before. She hissed and said to herself "Trust won't listen to me" after about 30 minutes, she got a cab.
The hall was filled with lots of parents and guardians alike. Betty was navigating around for an empty seat when a soft voice called to her attention 'Come seat here ma'am' it says. When she turned and saw who the voice belonged to; a young pretty lady who gestured an empty seat close to hers. Betty got to the seat and sat down. One thing lead to another, Betty and this lady whose name is Lina got talking about themselves and their personal lives. A look at them, one would think that they were best of friends. Lina ain't married yet. Her younger sister who stays with her attends the school. After the close of the meeting, Betty and Lina exchanged phone numbers. Betty was about to go in search for a cab but Lina told her not to that she should wait that her boyfriend will pick them up.
She waited and kept on conversing with her new found friend Lina. In a jiffy, a jeep came by their direction. Lina hurriedly came out of the shade they stood to welcome her boyfriend. Betty came out after Lina She couldn't believe who her eyes behold! Betty, meet my handsome boyfriend, Trust!! She was motionless, lost in thoughts.."My Husband"😨😨😨
Betty was lost in thoughts wondering what to do. Her husband is Lina's appraised boyfriend. What will you do if were in Betty's shoes? How would you handle this situation? Would you create a scene, yell or beat up someone? If the you were to do the latter, who would you beat up, your husband or your new found friend?
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Beauty out of pain - Easter morals
Easter is a very significant event in the life of every Christian out there. It is even more significant than Christmas because of the great life lessons it talks about.
First it speaks about someone who loves. A God who cared so dearly even when h toe shouldn't have and we didn't give him the reason to. He loves us so much that he wanted to reconcile that father-son bond that existed between man and himself in the garden of Eden. He created us out of dust and gave them all that they ever wanted and needed. He gave them all the privileges that one could ever ask for like the right to meet and talk with him(oh so great) he gave power and authority to rule over everything and he also gave the one that we used to our own detriment; the power of choice. He had all the control and being the ever loving maker, his desire for us to make good decisions should made him force us to do what's right but no he didn't force his will on us. He gave us ability to choose thereby being pained when we make wrong moves. Despite all our flaws, he should've abandoned us and allow us pay for our wrongs but yet he's still the one who extends his hand of help and creates a solution if we accept it.
Moral lesson:
1. God is not forceful.
2. Don't bLe disappointed or go overboard when your love is not reciprocated. It started right from the beginning of creation.
3. A true leader serves and doesn't boss people around.
Secondly, even when Man changed his initial great plans and choosed to trade power, authority, and enjoyment to being a slave to suffering and pain, his love for us made him compassionate enough to release his one and only begotten son to the earth. God being a king of the heavens, the earth and the realms beneath practically walked through the paths of men. He came out of a woman's womb just like every other person in a place that wasn't even befitting for someone of his status. His birth was without class like a commoner! He should've choose to come into a royal house or maybe from a wealthy family that would give him more acceptance in the eyes of the people but he didn't. He was subjected under the control of same humans he created. Just imagine being at the top but for some reasons you find yourself at the buttom or working for someone who used to work for you. If you do, then you'd recognise the humiliation that comes with something like that. Some of us can't even do it but yet God who is the greatest of all had to go through that because of the love he has for us. He flipped the coin for our sakes. He was obedient to his earthly parents. He walked with them, did house chores just like every other person, he experienced lack living in a place that's meant for the poor;did menial jobs just to assist his family when he can just command wealth and all manners of food.
Moral lessons:
1. Love is compassion
2. Christ was humble - you must be humble to go far in life.
3. Laziness doesn't pay. One has to go out there and work inorder to get what you want.
4. The fact that you went through hardship or come from a poor background shouldn't define you or limit your chances of being the better person you want.
Thirdly, Christ laboured and worked for his needs as a carpenter until he was 32 years before he started his ministry/assignment on earth. He went around performing miracles healing the sick, preaching the gospel and breeching the gap that existed between sinners and salvation. He obeyed constituted authority and was of no sin but yet once again the people he created and intends to save wanted him dead. Despite all the help he was provided them. He was accused beaten and paraded like a criminal. I think the most painful thing that one can go through is false accusation. Being a God, he went through it all even when he had the power to kill them all his accusers in a blink of an eye. It was the price that he had to pay for us. He was hanged on a cross, with his clothes all shredded off and bruises all over his body. At a point he got tired of the suffering like every other person. He couldn't take the pain anymore and then he gave up the ghost and on the 3rd day he rose again giving us a new life away from sin and destruction. Hallelujah!!!
Moral lessons:
1. There's time for everything. One has to be prepared for the new position,task or greatness that is ahead of us..this is.preparedness can come in life challenges, pain etc.
2. God understands every situation we fine ourselves..he.went through them first hand.
3. He showed us that love is.sacrifice 4. No matter how we try to please people or have good intentions, we'll always have those that don't appreciate it.
5. No one can ever love you like he does.
6. He came, suffered and died to include you and I no matter the bad things we've done access to his kingdom.
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Actions and Reactions
I read an article earlier today that was really disturbing. It got me thinking and wondering about how much life had happened to that person for him/her to reason like that. I tried to imagine the level of frustration and pain whose after math is now being displayed. Even after all my pondering. I couldn't exactly pinpoint what really happened for I am only but a curious upcoming medical practitioner and not a seer or mind reader but then..
Life is always tough no one has it easy - if one has the power to look through the hearts of people, you'll discover that everyone is actually going through one thing or another despite all their smiles and laughter. Even those that we idolize thinking they've got all things sorted out do have a truck load of problems and sad experiences that will keep one in hours of awe if opportuned to hear it. If you hear stories you'd shed tears and.maybe go to God in prayer thanking him for the little problems or experiences you've been through. Life is no respecter of anyone at all. It plays no favorites and not a respecter of anyone. I've discovered that life only seems to favor us when we align ourselves with the principle of harmony, health, joy, and peace.
How do you want life to favor you when you've let dark emotions from past experience to overshadow you? Making the past experiences to live on like a cockroach with 9lives? Thereby attracting more danger and pain to yourself? I'll tell you how
Resentments: Resentments can be of different types. Like those who are resentful towards family members or friends and also towards God blaming him for their pain, aches, personal tragedies or the death of their loved ones. It's actually normal to be resentful at first after going through a painful experience but then letting it build castle in our minds is detrimental to ourselves. A resentful heart has robbed itself of joy and happiness because for every action there's an equal and opposite reaction, the mind which is very creative begins to manufacture its own negative reactions in our lives. We must see let go of resentments or else keep punishing ourselves.
Life forgives you why not forgive yourself and others? : life never holds a grudge against anyone. . It forgives you when you cut your finger (it creates new cell to bridge the cut) when we eat something poisonous without knowing, life forgives us to regurgitate it, preserving us. Life never condemns, We are the only one who condemn ourselves with unforgiveness with the negative thoughts in our mind. An unforgiving mind reacts by wishing others evil things not knowing that we are actually wishing same for ourselves. So as a man thinketh so is he that's what the Bible says. If you point a finger towards another, your other four fingers points at you. This is no coincidence but a very symbolic act to remind us that anything we wish others same thing with more intensity will come to us. Forgiveness is something that's needed for us to attain mental peace, growth and perfect health. Let's not deny ourselves of all this by not forgiving others and ourselves.
Forgiveness is love in action. Love in the sense that you're sincerely wishing good that person who has hurt us good things and all the blessings life has to offer. Why should I wish someone who has hurt me good things huh? It may seem stupid but yet it's actually a smart move because you're not forgiving for their sake but for yourself. Your wishes for them comes 10x back to you. Ah I've forgiven all those that I've wronged me.
Let's pave way for good things to happen in our lives by getting rid of all of those negative emotions. Let's love, be happy and guide our thoughts as it can make and destroy us
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Five reasons why you are not where you want to be - No. 5 a secret😉
Well the thing is everyone wants to be great, excel and be rich, be the best. This desire is something that everyone wants. It's an additional package that came with everyone right from birth; having the thirst for all good things of life but then only few people get to satisfy this desire while the many others gets lost while on their way to achieve this which then leads to frustration and then the end is always to give up.
Now I ask you, yes you reading this article right now. Do you want to satisfy this thirst for greatness, financial freedom, good family life and stability? If Yes then I ask again." Are you willing to pay the price? This is a question many people find difficult to answer even those who answer in the affirmative will find it difficult to pay when the price is stated.
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1. To be successful physically and spiritually, we've got to pay the price. Let's be specific now. In a scenario where one wants to be good on a job then you've got to work hard, study both at night and day, endure other people tantrums just so that you get what you want but then people don't want to go through all the process. They want everything to come easy peasy, effortless. It doesn't work that way. Many things that we see working out effortlessly someone has worked his or her butts off just to make sure of that. During exams in school that's when you'd see many students running around looking for ways to cheat and pass. You'd see them writing answers in their thighs, hands, taking a paper to the hall and even wearing mask to hide their lip movement taking so much risk. The energy they are using for all this if channelled to some hours of reading, will make them pass but no they ain't willing to pay the price they rather go for shortcuts. Be wiling to pay the price for the greatness you seek.
2. Trying to access the Door without a Key: Imagine that you stepped out of the house without taking your keys, you'd be stucked and stranded outside if you get back. No matter how hard you hit the door, you won't be able to get in unless you've got the keys same thing with success. You can't go through the doors of succes without using the key of right approach. Every aspects of success has it's on rules and you must play by them to get through them. If you're working hard, doing things all right and it's not yielding the required output just know that you're like someone who is hitting a locked door with all of his might which very soon, he'd get tired and feel frustrated but we don't have to go through that. Once you notice this, change your approach immediately. It's a plus if we study others who are in the position where we want to be to know what they're doing right so we can apply same and also discover ourselves. I wrote an article about that (here). https://read.cash/@Venvie/what-do-you-believe-in-77355012
3.Low Self Esteem - Low Self esteem affects many parts of our lives and also prevents us from achieving success even if we've got what it takes(the key). W become cold feet from the failure stories of other persons or intimidated by over exaggeration of how difficult the path is which makes us want to stop in our tracks and give up.
4. Being Ashamed of your desire - This actually sounds somehow in the ears.. someone asked how can one be ashamed of his or her desires? Actually they are people who are actually ashamed of their desires which is an aftermath of Low self esteem. They are scared that people will laugh at them maybe because of the desire is too big or looks unachievable at that instance. Imagine someone who's living in a bamboo house in the village sharing the desire of living in the city in a spacious three storey building that him or her owns to the friends. There's a 99% chances of mockery and even envy but the story of Joseph in the Bible shows an example of one who wasn't afraid or intimidated to the response of his brothers towards his dreams. We should be like that too because there's no limit to what we can achieve unless we set it for ourselves.
5. The secret - In every successful person out there lies a common secret that is actually uncommon in the sense that not everyone knows it. The secret of greatness lies in SERVICE. You have to serve in one way or the other if you want to be great and successful. It follows the concept of giving and receiving. You can't access the success realm without serving. Service can be in many forms like serving a master, serving in a position, serving humanity; providing solutions to problems of people makes even those who don't like you, increase your wealth. If you examine all the billionaires that are making waves you'd notice that they are serving in one way or the other. Are you servicing your society? What value are you adding to people around you? It's actually not foolishness to serve but great wisdom.
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What Will You Be Known For?
Last Sunday church service was a blast. The music was one that made everyone danced so much in appreciation to God for all that he has done and for that which we are expectant about. During the sermon, our Reverend asked an usher to read the passage of the day. This was strange owing to the fact the he has never asked anyone specifically to do that. It has always been the first to open – first to read tradition.
This usher is actually a lady. A beautiful one that is devoted to service - It is not easy to stand every Sunday when everyone else is sitting, moving around to either bring the offering boxes or share fliers and other books to the congregation, being sent on errands sometimes by those that are younger while service is going on and being disrespected trying to make people sit right or act orderly. All these and more is what being an usher entail and this Lady is not lagging behind at all. She stood up in her shinny looking attire and read the passage. After the service came to a close, I saw her receiving some money from a group of people as share for a contribution that they do. Slowly and gradually, everyone left for his or her abode.
On Wednesday, 6th April 2022, my mum received a call and yelled almost immediately.
When I heard her yell I already knew that something has happened. I came out of my room and my mum after hanging up told us that this lady that I just talked about has now kicked the bucket! and in a terrible and heartbroken way possible; she was on her way, travelling to another state to buy goods for her business when the event that took her life occurred. The vehicle she boarded had an accident and not only that, it caught fire and this lady got burnt beyond recognition. Such a sardonic and horrible way to die especially at this time when the weather is so hot. Her remains were not what could be kept in a mortuary facility so her family members buried her next day. This is someone who we saw in church just days ago is now dead and buried!
I wonder what she could’ve dome differently if she was ever told that she would be six feets under in a few days. Would one even want to be told when death will come? Its just sad. Death really comes like a thief in the night. You do not know when. Where or how, it just comes unexpectedly.
We that are still in the land of the living should be grateful to God each day for our lives and that of our families. We should take advantage and make good use of the time we still have and put smiles on people’s faces, be happy and let go of anything or anyone that makes us feel otherwise. We cave out time and create a personal relationship with our creator (the one who gives and takes) worship and serve him in sprit and truth because no matter how hard we work to achieve anything, the God factor will always come first. There are many things in this world which makes one wary, disappointed and tired but then being angry at the maker won’t savage the situation because after all we are just like pencils; tools in the creator’s hands. A tool should not be mad at its boss (user) because the user has got all the control.
Remember that we are passerby’s in a market that is called the world and we’ll all go back when the time is due to give account to the sovereign one.
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Where Are We headed? – The Future Looks Dark
`With the many things that are happening these days, I am forced to think that we might just be approaching climax…`
Early Tuesday morning, I received a call that a package arrived in my name and I should come pick it up. I’ve been expecting this call so I hurriedly did my chores in order to pick it up early as this package is perishable. Around 9:30am, I was fully dresses to go out. I applied my makeup (lip-gloss 😉) and wore my flip-flops and off I went.
After standing close to my house for over 5 min without getting a tricycle, I decided to walk to the main road which is not too far away from where I was. When I got there, I saw some people standing, probably looking forward to get a ride to their numerous locations. A tricycle passed by and two women hailed it and in few minutes, it left without taking them(he didn’t accede to their bid) this made me discover that they were actually going towards my direction(the place I want to go) I quickly drew closer to them. Getting a tricycle if you’re the only one is a bit difficult but when the persons are three in number, it’s easy as pie. In a jiffy, we got a tricycle whose driveragreed to our bid and we all stepped in.
The women chit-chat about random stuffs while I was just looking across the road enjoying the cool air as we go but the new topic of discussion got my attention and left me dumbfounded and cold.
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One of the women began: “*this morning around 5:30am, I was fetching water to go take my bath and go to work, I saw my daughter washing the dishes. I was shocked because this is a girl who sleeps so much and has made it a point of duty for me to wake her up for school everyday. This is unlike her so I asked her what’s the reason for this rapid change and she told me that, she’s going to school this early because she is one of the contestants that will be contesting in a math competition. I didn’t see her studying last night so I asked “how do you intend to compete when you haven’t prepared and my daughter replied that she read in school” It will interest you to know that she told me a day before that today will be the result sheet collection and also the last day of school for the term and that I should give her money which I did. I didn’t ask any further thing. I simply entered the bathroom and took my bath. When I stepped out, she entered the bathroom too. While in the kitchen preparing breakfast, I saw her painting her face. All these for a competition? I asked myself recalling that I’ve got the number of a teacher in her school; I quickly took my mobile and dialed the number. This teacher told me that the there’s no competition at all; that students are only told to either come along with their parent or guardian for their results. I thanked her for the information and ended the call. Ah! In anger, I left the kitchen and entered the room. She was already fully dress in her church clothes. Feigning ignorance, I asked her if she was also told to dress like this to school and she replied in the affirmative. At this time, I couldn’t control my anger any longer; I descended on her with slaps all over. How dare she lie to me? The neighbors came in and begged me to let her go and I did after washing up all of the makeup off her face and asking the neighbors to help me ensure that she doesn’t step out to anywhere” The other lady added: “she must be going to see one of these dirty boys in her school. My daughter told me on time while we are discussing that students even have sex in toilets get pregnant and bring shame and disgrace to their families. You had better take your daughter to another school. The boys are not left out they’ll do anything to get expensive items like IPhones, watches etc.”*
She went on to talk about a 16 year old boy who removed the eyes of another 15 year old boy who happened to be his friend because he was told that’s the sacrifice he had to perform to acquire money. I felt hot at that moment imagining how this took place. So much guts and effrontery for a 16 year old. This is something that we hear big people do but now teens? No contentment and things are getting worst economically. Hmmm the future is scary.
God help us.
Will suffering ever end? - a tale of the wailing
I was in the living room with my eldest brother watching my favorite novela - ***"the search for frida"*** *a* suspense filled drama series that keeps one on the edge trying to decipher what will happen next which airs on telemundo. we never miss an episode of this drama at all. whether it's as late as 2am, myself and my brother will always find our way to the living room just for this drama and other interesting dramas which made my family nicknamed us both telemundo special. While watching yesterday, daddy stepped in and said *"please put on channel 91". Our* countenance changed immediately. Just when the action is about to kick-start and now we'll have to switch to NTAi a news channel ah such bad timing. We couldn't complain. I grudgingly stood up and pressed 9 and then 1. my brother walked out to his room immediately and well as for me i decided to sit back and press my phone hoping daddy will say the magic words *"you can change it"*
Few minutes down, i didn't hear any magic words but heard a loud cry of a woman instead. The sound was coming from the television so i looked up and yes it was an older woman who was crying. I paid more attention and i got to know the reasons for her tears. she and many others were instructed by the lagos state government to leave their place of abode which is under a bridge! the news reported that some after being told about the instruction fainted and were being rushed to the hospital. All of this for a space under a bridge! a spot where there's no security where one can be robbed, raped or even killed!
I felt really pained as this is going on in a state that's nicknamed the seat excellence with almost all the celebrities living therein. Why will the government even do that to them? well the news also had it that some part of the bridge(bothering big cities) was starting to get destroyed as a result of fire and other things that those living under were doing. It was so bad that it got the attention of the Governor of the state who had to go and see for himself alongside his entourage. Looking at the damage done, i really do not blame the government for taking that decision. It cost a lot to build a bridge and it'll cost so much more if it gets destroyed as lives would also be lost but then what will this many people do now? where will they put their heads to rest? some have lived there for many years, doing little business to get what to eat and wear. what will happen to all that now? i feel really bad for this people and i can't seem to understand why they'd be rich people that can feed a generation at a place but yet in the same place, many others are suffering for shelter and what to eat. why can't they extend a helping hand to them? it is something like this that pushes one to do something the society will consider a crime just to ensure survival which is also why i really do not judge anyone at all. you don't know what that person has gone through that made him or her the way they are. Look at what's going on in ukraine. People are forced to flee from the place they call home, the place they've lived all of their lives, people are losing their lives to a problem that they ain't concerned about personally
After the news, i headed to my room and went on my knees to appreciate God for the life i've got, the shelter over my head, for my parents who ensured i eat three square meals. i did more of appreciating god in my prayers that night
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How our eyes look the same but see’s differently. – do we really see with our eyes?
Hi amiable friends, writers, readers and my future sponsors. hope you all are doing well and making the best of the day. well i’ve been on and off for a while now because of power issues in my area. we seldom get electricity for up to an hour. they bring and take it back almost immediately and don’t bring in back till after a day or two and all this is happening at a time where the weather is so very hot and sunny. People are going through a lot really but thank God i am here now right?😌
This topic came up in a very dramatic way. I was with some my friends who are designers and programmers. we gathered together in the house of one amongst us to ponder and create a roadmap for an ecommerce idea that came about just recently. Kelvin the project manager suggested that we watch a video clip that will prep our minds up for what we wanted to do so we all channeled our eyes towards the screen. It then got to a point which i think is the key highlight of the video by the event that followed where damian said “fellas this pink color for this is a bit too exaggerated” someone replied almost immediately “this isn’t pink bro this is purple”. in a few seconds, this turned to an argument bickering every where. when i looked at it myself, i saw purple and not pink so i joined team purple as everyone except our project manager belonged to either team pink or team purple. we were actually looking up to him to make a statement and take a side but then he choose to stand on the neutral ground.
Curious to know which team is correct or wrong, we took a picture of the object in contention and used ai colour indicator to determine the color which turned out to be pink. we all laughed at ourselves and each other as the winning team make fun of team purple. it’s their win so we allowed them bask and then we later proceeded with the main reason for the gathering.
What a moment! the meeting was a success. i got back home smiling while thinking of the event that happened earlier. how did i not notice that it’s pink ehen? i was trying to justify myself in my head for that blunder when a scenario came up in my mind. Some what if's: If someone who is known to be rich is seen begging for alms on the street three things are bound to happen 1. Some will say sorry to him and try to help 2. Some will say he's paying for a sin he committed 3. Some will say he's trying to take advantage of peoples kindness having enjoyed himself spending lavishly on luxurious items and now he's broke trying to take advantage of people's kindness. All three sect of people have same eyes but why are they viewing differently?
Another scenario: When a puzzle is being given, 1. Some people having looked at it will say the puzzle is hard. 1. Some will try to solve it maybe in an hour or two 3. Some will say it's easy peesy and then solve it in 2 minutes or less. What the similarities of this people? They both looked at the puzzle with same eyes.
Last scenario: When a religious leader is seen going into a restaurant at night with a lady side by side how will people respond? Three things again 1. Some will say he's having an affair with the lady 2. Some will say he's with a church member 3. Some will say he's with his wife or sister.
In all of these three scenarios, the eyes are being used but then the results are different. It's supposed to be the same why? Because every eye has got same shape, and the same components except for color and those with eye defects and we know that the eye is the object of vision. So why the difference in results?
There's something playing an important role in our vision that our biology didn't include as a vision object. It is so effective that it can even function in the absence of the eye's.
What is this Vision component? It is OUR MINDS EYE. Despite the name, it’s not a giant eye in our mind. It’s actually the place in our head where images are recalled and created. Everything you’ve ever pictured or imagined was in your mind’s eye. I like to think of it as a giant movie screen at the front of my head like in the movie Inside Out influenced by owledge, past experiences to interactions with people which inturn affects the way we view things. Have you ever auto predict a word from your head that's not in the text you're reading? That's your mind's eye at work.
Now I know why I saw a different colour -;I was imagining something else like a look alike if what I saw sometime ago. Good justification!
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Saved By Grace Alone
It's a dusty and breezy but hot day that happens to be a Sunday. The weather is so strange nowadays. It's hot today, cold tomorrow, a mixture of both the day after tomorrow. The weather in this part of the country will not cease to surprise you everyday. Maybe it's global warming at work or something else I don't know but then it's unpredictable
Today's service was wonderful. We dedicated more time to pray. We prayed for the people of Ukraine for about 45min and then prayed that they won't be a third world war. I was very committed to this prayer because i don't want that to happen.. my dad has told us about wars and i never want to experience it in my lifetime.
I'm back from church now and the confession i overheard yesterday clouded my thoughts. This life is tough. No one is holy not even the ones that looks and behaves holy. This person that made the confession was such a one. I would never have imagined not even in my wildest thoughts the things i overheard yesterday but *who am i to judge?* The statement that got to me more worried is thus: *"I hate the fact that i am who i am and now i just want to run away from God; he doesn't need someone like me"* from the corner that i was in, i felt the pain that statement contained. I felt like coming out of my hiding and given the person a hug or a tap on the shoulder. It takes a lot of strength and pain to reject oneself but..I*s it true that God doesn't need someone like him?* ***Or God has stopped loving him for all the things he did? Can anyone call him or herself righteous?.*** The truth is no one in this world is righteous from the Pope, Reverend, Bishop to every single person. We are all sinners in the sight of God but it amazes me how people want to look righteous in the sight of Men knowing fully well deep down that they're sinners. Condemning other persons and having special man made standards for holliness and those who don't fit in are being chastised and labelled as ungodly. **We are only saved by Grace and not by works.**
What is God's grace?
Grace is God's favor towards the unworthy, God's kindness towards the undeserving. God's power towards the powerless, God's mercy towards the needy. By this it is evident that God doesn't help those that don't need help or feels satisfied. It is those that are seeking that he lends a hand to. That moment when we feel helpless and tired having tried all the available options that's when God is gesturing to us with his open arms to assist. He doesn't condemn like we humans do. He usher us in with all our fears and flaws, regardless of all the sins we've committed. He came to this world being a God but had to walk and suffer in the hands of Men he created just because of our sins - to give us the nature of holiness; Something we cannot provide ourselves no matter how hard we try. So why write ourselves off when our creator haven't done so? Why condemn ourselves when the creator is still ever loving and wants us? The Devil knowing fully well that God can help us at this time will keep reminding us of our mistakes and makes us judge ourselves and in make conclusion run away from God. We no longer want to pray, go to Church, or do anything that involves God but God is saying *"Come unto me and I will give you rest. I will relief you of that burden, I'll make you as white as snow only if you believe in me"*
Let us get rid of that ill feeling of condemnation and guilt feeling ochestrated by the devil that stands as a barrier between God and us. Let's focus on the ever loving sight God has towards us. Our friends and family might know our story but only God knows our glory.His blood is more potent than our flaws.
`It's been a while I know. Some issues hindered me from writing. I'd explain in my next article tomorrow.`
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THE WOMAN - Breaking Bias
`I was supposed to write this on Wednesday but then we had power issues so I couldn't write until today.`
I was going to write an article titled “if I was a boy” inspired by @Olasquare article if I was a girl. When I thought about it, I realize that even if am giving the power to change my gender, I won’t change a thing at all – I can’t be anything other than being a girl – a woman because being a woman is a blessing; a woman is exceptional; a superior being. God created the woman out of a man – science has made us understand that when something new is made out the knowledge of the previous, that new creation is thereby an upgraded version of the previous with added capabilities and features; features that can shake tables at high places be it that of Presidents, kings, high profile personalities and everyone in general dances to her tone – if this not power then I don’t know what that is.
The theme of 2022 Women’sDay is **Breaking The Barriers** – for that to happen, there’s a need to remind ourselves and others who we are really.
A Woman is a Gift That Keeps Giving
She is a store house of life. Inside of her lies the life of generations to come, a generation she can foster into being good or bad. Without her, mankind will go into extinction no wonder God blesses families with lots of females.
*Before guys will come at me let me state* that guys are pretty important in these process as well but at least it has been recorded that a woman(Mary) gave birth without the help of a Man or his product(you know what I mean winks) but can the men do same without a woman involved? No is the right answer😁.
A woman is a pillar
She is a support system. She has to worry about herself, her small kids and the big kid (her husband). Women are the stitches in the family. The home is incomplete without her.
A woman can make or break (but we prefer the making)
She has the ability to make a man, a family or an organisation, a success or a failure; rich or wretched; she can be the one way ticket to the prison cell, the end of ones career and also be the beginning of something great in ones life or family. *The next time you want to toy with any lady please be careful. Her wrath is venom.*
A Woman is Capable
She can do anything at all as long as her mind is set and determined to do it even if there’s restrictions she still scale through. A woman is an aeronautical engineer, she is a lawyer, an accountant, she's in the crypto space, she is a truck driver, a painter, and she also hawks on the street and she holds key positions in all these. `The possibilities of any woman is endless unless she chooses to do less.`
A Woman is an embodiment of strength
If you view strength as having big abs, large shoulders or being able to beat up someone then you’re actually seeing the physical mini strength and even at this, female bodyguards and wrestlers who can beat up someone blue and black are present and doing well at it but what am referring to here is the inner strength. A woman’s inner strength is unquantifiable. Women go through a lot from `intimidation` to `rejection` to `pain` and `shame` but remain dogged and still smile and forge ahead. Imagine a lady that got pregnant via rape or sensual and the guy denies and runs away. The woman goes through disgrace and pain and yet she still smiles on arrival of that baby knowing fully well that her life has changed.. *Please if you’re not serious with any lady don’t get down with her because anything can happen .*
A woman is pressurised at many instances and yet she still manages to be the reason behind other people’s smiles. The song Woman by Simi explains better.
A woman is Vulnerable
God is indeed wonderful. After giving a woman all the great attributes that can fit in all aspects of life; he also gave us a point of weakness that is abused on a daily. Women are loving and soft hearted in nature – even the ones that are hard falls hard in love. Women are like eggs, so fragile.
Before now, I used to hide my gender my identity on socials while interacting with professionals because I was scared of being labelled unserious and always looking for help *(the tag for girls)* I behaved like a guy amongst guys but now I’ve chosen to be the change I want to see. `I am a girl (a woman) – a man and more. I won’t limit myself anymore.` I reintroduced myself on Women's Day.. And the reaction was wow. They couldn’t believe it until we did video call.
If you are a girl, a woman that’s always dependent on a guy for urgent 2k or 10k you are not living half or even quarter of who truly are. Deviate and make a life for yourself and you’d see how that guy will adore and respect you. You wouldn’t even ask before you receive.
If you are a guy that’s complaining of the demands of your girl, I ask you: `are you not benefiting from the relationship?` All that smiling and talking or chatting for hours and other things shouldn’t be free of charge eh😂😂
This does not end here. I’ll dedicate the rest of the week to writing articles about women, our pain, our gain, our mistakes and this poem too
“You are the star
You are the recipe
You are the melody
You can be whatever you want.
You are a spice
As beautiful as the rainbow
You are blessed with all of these things
So you can shine as bright as the sun”.
*Have you made a woman smile this week? If you haven't what are you waiting for?🙂*
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Curiousity II
Source https://www.npr.org/sections/13.7/2017/09/25/553443078/is-curiosity-a-positive-or-negative-feeling
`"I am neither clever or having any special talent. I am only very very curious" - Albert Einstein`
These quote rings a bell. It shows what a curious person can achieve by simply just being curious. Imagine a great man with a Noble prize in physics say that he isn't `special!` That's says a lot but then no one ever heard that Sir Albert Einstein ever broke a radio just to see what's in there like i did😂 or tried peeping through a car window to see who's in there or check a room to see where the strange sounds are coming from or get thrilled and want to give something a go when the word **don't** is mentioned or asked questions so much and termed nosy. This is because curiousity itself have types. Yeah actually five types!
Joyous Exploration
This type of curiousity focus on the desire to seek out new knowledge and experiences as this act brings in joy and happiness. If you seek after situations that changes your views about life and the world, like travelling to see new places or find unfamiliar knowledge interesting and fun, You fall into this category.
Deprivation Sensitivity -
This is just the opposite of the previous. This kind of curiousity comes with a burden sensation of anxiety and panic pondering about complex problems and doing all it takes to find solutions to this problems. If you seek answers to questions bigger than you, if you spend hours on one single problem and don' rest until you find a solution, if you feel frustrated when you don't find a solution and work even harder to get things done. You fall into this category!
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Stress Tolerance -
I never knew this is also a curiousity type but while making my research i discovered it is. This focus on the curiouser's ability to absorb in the sense that being able to handle the anxiety, doubts, confusion, and distress while being curious. If the smallest doubts, fear, makes one stop seeking for new experiences.
Thrill seeking -
This type of curiousity focus on those capable of taking physical, social and financial risks inorder to acquire intense or complex experiences. If risk taking brings excitement to you, or if you like doing things that are a bit scary, or if you prefer friends that are unpredictable. You are in this category.
Social curiousity -
A socially curious person is one that wants to know what people are thinking, doing or what they feel about a particular thing or person and what makes them tick. They do this by having conversations and listening. Those who fall into this category are often referred to as nosy while they're just being curious and care.
By now I believe it's seen that curiousity is not a talent or a skill. It's something that everyone do. The only difference is that some people are more curious than others. I've discovered that Curiousity is a very broad topic; It's amazing how curiousity affects our daily lives(how it contributes to our success, happiness, anger, pain etc) As I research some more, I'll definitely write an article on it
Curiosity is a good trait. Let's fan it to flames. Let's be curious!.
Curiosity - A blessing and a curse
Being curious leads one to discovering amazingly new things and this comes with a wonderful feeling but what then happens if what is discovered is something dangerous and life threatening??
Curiousity is a very strong desire to know or learn about something. It is being inquisitive; wanting to explore and investigate. When this feeling comes knocking, it takes full control of the person in question, it makes one do anything like going against the rules just to satisfy it and when it's not satisfied, one loses his or her peace. The result of one's curiosity can make one even more curious which can lead one from one phase to the other, deeper and deeper and before you realize it, you're at point where the knowledge acquired can lead to life, regrets or maybe death.
I speak with so much vague because I am a curious person too. I have gained and lost friends, appreciated and punished as a result of curiosity. The first incident happened when i was just 4. Anytime i remember, i laugh out loud even if am alone. Was the discovery a thing of joy or punishment? You'll find out.
I always see my Dad listening to the radio. I hear voices come out of a particular part of the radio (which i now know is the speaker) but the question i had then was: *"Who is the person that is speaking behind the radio"* i wondered and pondered. I could've asked my Dad but no i did not maybe because of the trait of kids disliking being told but loves first hand experience. I decided to launch a mission of discovery.
I waited for the right moment when no one would be home. That moment finally came yippee!.. my Dad just recently bought a new radio with two distinct colors that looked so beautiful. I could've used the old one but no i didn't. I picked up the new radio and i happily took it to the spot of the assignment (the corridor) *"today, I'll finally see the person speaking behind the speaker."*
I raised the radio up and threw it down but it didn't break open. There's a big stone close by so i hit the radio against the stone as hard as my small hands could. On the third or fourth time, it broke and when i opened it, ***friends I saw no one!! .*** I saw something round like a satellite dish with a magnet behind.. who's speaking then? Immediately, the door clicked open and i heard "You have destroyed daddy's radio" i needed no one to tell me that I'm in big trouble. I quickly packed up the remaining pieces left and keep it aside. Please don't tell I'll give you my biscuits. I said to my brother. Give me the biscuits first he said. I already ate the one i had so there was nothing to give. I quickly went to lay down and pretend that am not well lol.
A while after, a tab on my body woke me up. Daddie!. My body started to shake in fright. Are you ok baby..i shaked my head indicating no. Joe came in and said "Daddy, she broke your radio" i immediately started crying. Why did you break it? Daddy asked and i answered amid sobs.. i was expecting him to yell or spank me but instead he laughed so hard. There's no one behind the radio dear and he went further to explain how the tuning button is used to connect to a studio via radio waves. I learnt something new and told my friends the next day.
Woah..that was a close one..i ought to be punished. Other friends who tried to be curious like i have were punished severely and some almost lost their lives (like the one who thought the small Silva bag in shoes were sweets but i was lucky. Till this day I'm being called Investigator at home.
This is just the beginning of my journey with curiosity.
Have you ever done something so dumb like I have?
To be continued!
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Making High Quality Decisions
Stucked in between two very difficult choices and by the end of it all, one has to stick with a choice and let go of the other. Both of which you can't do without. Oh no this is so very hard. Dang it! Why can't we just have them both? The keeper says that ain't possible. A choice must be made to move forward. Ah.. A decision is demanded not just any kind but a high quality decision.
Decisions determines Destiny. It is what separates the accomplished and the unaccomplished. It makes and mars the human race, nations and families.According to research, humans makes over 33,000 decisions each day which can be either hard or very simple like watching movies instead of reading, reading instead of resting, resting instead working etc. These are simple decisions yet they have long term effect in our lives. I thought options were there to help but no it only makes decisions harder. The more the options the more harder it becomes. Decision making is a science in the sense that you have to use tools, techniques and frameworks and an act because you must learn to manage people, set expectations and learn not to be disappointed if anything don't go well as planned.
We are a product of our decisions be it good or bad. Imagine what could've happen if Elon musk didn't transfer from the University in South Africa to Canada or if Mark Zuckerberg continued schooling instead of dropping out at the time? Maybe they won't have achieved what they have.
Decision making styles:
Everyone falls in one of these decision making categories which ranges from
Data Driven
These are People who make decisions based on data. They make analysis, compare and contrast based on the information they have about that particular thing or person.
Spiritually Guided
People who commit their decisions to God, before acting. If it takes 2 years or more, these set of people are willing to wait until there's a reply or an answer which might come through dreams, or ideas.
Collective Reasoning
People who must make decisions with a group or they don’t decide. It's likely to get a wrong or biased decision as we live in a world where there's a lot of nfriendly friends who act as our friends but don't have our interest at heart.
List Checking
People who make decisions from a list. No list, no decision is their mantra.
Gut Reaction
People who make decisions based on their feelings or thinking. Which can be manipulated by some factors.
Story Living
People who make decisions based on the story they perceive or create.
Passive Undecided
People who rarely decide, until situations force decisions their way. They struggle to create boundaries in their jobs or relationship. To themusing the word "No" is the hardest word in the dictionary. They don't solve or make decisions untill the problem comes knocking. Passive Undecided decision-makers have gifts that are not utilized as they tend to hope things will work themselves out. Being undecided is a very dangerous decision making approach.
What is your decision making approach?
I've always been a data driven person but then i realised that using just one approach only does not give out high quality decisions. Using multiple approach works best. Eg. Being data driven, spiritually guilded and gut reaction. You can mix them up if you want to even if you're a passive undecided person.
How to make High Quality Decisions - These tips really works.
1. Explore all the options in every situation
2. Understand that your decision will affect others
3. Receive feedbacks from trusted advisors
4. List all the decisions or action that scares you
5. Take your decision to God for guidance.
6. Take your best step forward and first step to execution - deploy with the ideas you have and perfect later
There is no such thing as a perfect decision making process. However, we must recognize one thing - Every decision we come across comes with trade-offs So, the greatest danger is not making decisions, but ensuring that the decision you make today or tomorrow is a High Quality Decision that makes us achieve more and not a Low Quality Decision that keeps that makes us achieve lesser or no goals.
Elon Musk said and I quoted
"It is possible for ordinary people to **choose** to be extraordinary"
Being an achiever is a choice it's a decision.
I hope we make better decisions this month. Happy new month!
My Bio
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*Now it feels like beautiful madness. Feels like never enough but you know that you're the baddest my love my love my lovee.*
That's the song that's blasting out of my headphone giving me good vibes as i write this article about myself. Sincerely i don't know where and how to start from because there's a lot but then i'd use these set of questions i found over the net.
Let's get on with it already..shall we?
What's your name?
My name is Victoria Daniella Christopher. They are other names in between. So in total I've got 4 names lol. My parents wanted a little girl running around the house so bad and when the had me, they gave me as many names as they could.
What are three words that Best describe you?
Ok there's a lot of words that describes my persona but let me try as much as i can to squeeze it into three words namely - Caring, Witty Sarky
What's your favourite colour?
That should be Lemon Green. Love this colour so much.
What are three things you can't do without?
I can't do without my family, music and my phone. I hope food is available because no one can do without food
If you could win an Olympic medal for any sport, real or fake, what would it be?
That should be football. I played football when i was growing up. My position was that of a striker but i quit when my team mates(who were guys) started discriminating. Saying am a girl and i shouldn't be playing with them.
What would you describe as a perfect day?
I love it when it's cold. When I've to put on cardigans or cover myself with the duvet
What is your favorite subject while in high school?
I loved mathematics and i still do.I actually wanted to be an aeronautic engineer but couldn't so i channeled my knowledge into programming
What’s something I would never guess about you?
I am studying to become a Doctor. Anyone i say that statement too is always astonished as i don't act or look like it
Where do you most want to visit in the world?
There's a lot of cities I'd love to explore not just a particular one. First things first, I'd like to visit the one here in Africa.. Lamu Archipelago beach, Kenya
What’s your most hated household chore?
Oh how i hate washing the dishes. Most of the issues I had with my mom is somewhat related to washing plates. Seeing a lot of plates waiting for me to wash can make me cry but I found a way to make them look smaller by arranging them in their order. Up till this moment i still arrange plates before i wash
If you could go back in time ten years and tell yourself something, what would you say?
I will say: Stop praying and wishing to grow up. Enjoy and loosen up some more because being an adult is so not easy
If you could erase one event from history, which one would you erase?
I would've stopped the first coup in Nigeria. This singular act changed a lot of thing. If avoided or erased many lives would've saved.
What’s your favorite content genre (horror, sci-fi, rom-com, etc.)?
I prefer horror movies. The one that can make one cringe in fear. The first i ever watched was when I was 7 or so. It was a Nollywood movie where the ghost of a dead lady kept appearing to her fiancee because of an oath they both made. I remembered hiding behind my dad when the soundtrack changes indicating that the ghost is around.
If you could only eat one food for the rest of your life, what would it be?
I really don't have a favourite food. Once it smells nice and is yummy, I'd eat to my satisfaction.
Would you rather have 10 hobbies or one passion?
I think I'd go with the 10 hobbies. You'd agree with me that doing one thing all the time is boring.
What would your parents have named you if you were the opposite gender?
Ever since I was borne in my mother's womb, my brother's, my mum and dad had this unshakable faith that I'll be a girl. I was even named before i was born.
Whoah.. I think by now you've known some facts about me. You can as well choose to answer any of these questions that appeal to you in the comment box.
Thanks very much
Journeys - From Noise to Read
I was browsing through readcash. Reading other people's articles, commenting on them and tipping with the little I've got and then I tapped my account details by mistake because that wasn't what I intended to do and boom I saw it - When? How? This can't be real lol
Wanna guess what I saw? Well don't worry I'll tell you. It just saw that I have been active on Readcash for 3 months😨😨 yes 3 good months! At first I didn't believe it so I had to go to my chat achieves on WhatsApp to confirm and yes the stats is right. I joined in the month of November 2021. This also means that in 3 months I've got 11 articles, 12 subscribers and 0 sponsors. Inhales..., such a bad and a sad record.
Let me take you on my Readcash Journey for a bit
How I Joined Readcash -
One faithful evening, I saw that the unread messages on my WhatsApp were piling real quickly so I decided to view them(I stopped reading each and every message because some are irrelevant from people who don't know you and don't bother knowing who you are. All they do is ask for this or that)I read and replied to relevant ones and ditched the others. I was doing so when I came across this strange WhatsApp message. It is strange because the number is saved on my contact list but we've never had any formal conversation not even hi or hello. When I read the message, he addressed me with some name that ain't mine so I replied and corrected the previous mistake. I also confirmed if Ebiz @CandyBoyis his name and he said yes and thats how we got talking. We chatted for a day or two before he brought up Noisecash. When he first mentioned the name, my mind immediately drifted to all this mediocre sites that ask you to post contents, click on their Google ads,post on your Facebook status and then demand for subscription fees. All these for a peanut payment. If this payment comes consistently then at least it'll be worth something but no this sites will crash in a month alongside people's hard earned investments. I've done a lot of these (an article for another day) He told me that Noisecash ain't like those scam sites that it really pays and all I needed to do is write about interesting topics and the cash will i fall into my wallet. Sounds good to me I told him. After all I can write a bit. I was about to ask about to ask how much the subscription fee is when my eyes just saw the new message he sent which reads *“joining noisecash is free. You don’t have to pay a dime”*
Eh?? Freee?? Is there anything that goes for free without any hidden obligation or motive? This must be a honeypot definitely a red flag so I hardened up immediately becoming very difficult. I told him that I’m no longer interested and I think that pissed him off a bit. He showed me his earnings on both noisecash and his wallet and told me that if I join or not that will not change the fact that it’s real, free and paying. His last statement really got to me. After a little while, I decided to have a change of heart and I told him to send the link let me give it a trial and he did. Although it took me a while to register because my browser was old but after I upgraded, the registration went through without a hitch.
Woah… to convince someone is so hard maybe this is because it’s a cold copy. Copywriters should understand that *winks*
After I registered, he added me up to a group and not quite long after I joined, a number chatted me up and introduced himself as a member of the group I just joined and enquired if I am new to the platform. I replied in the affirmative and then he guided me through the set up process. That person is @Greatwolfman Great gave me hands-on directions which I followed and was able to make my first post. I also used the opportunity to ask more questions and that conversation ended up with a readcash link which I used to join this amazing platform. I wrote my first article on read cash (`here`) which wasn’t even an introductory post. Guess that’s how unconventional I am lol. I write articles once in blue moon and he keeps encouraging and supporting me to write some more.
I want to use this opportunity to thank this two wonderful guys Ebiz and Great. For changing my perception about free things, for all the encouragements and support. Thanks to them, I am here, writing this post and interacting with other nice people. I am really grateful.
What Now—
Going forward I do not have an introductory article which is kinda important; I am going to write about that and other personal articles so you all will get to have a clue about me just like I have using others people's articles
**About the low number of articles –** well am working on that and which is why am going to be embarking on a 10 articles in 7 days challenge between myself lol (you can join me if you want to) it sounds difficult already but so help me God
**As regard sponsors** – I am not in control of this part but I hope to get some few people who will support me and my writings.
I also hope to make more good friends here.
Thank you very much.
Good health, Riches, Poverty - Your choice
The weather is cold and breezy such a perfect Sunday morning if you ask me. Although it makes the skin look dry and makes one sleep so much but I love it any way. I dressed up hurriedly to church. I was able to meet the Sunday School - a very interactive session that i like very much. At around 9am, the service was in full swing. A lot of people showed up. I was expecting the turn out to be low as it is mostly a student church but guess not everyone wants to go home after the strike.
The praise and worship session was on and everyone sang along and danced to the sweet melody and harmony of the song the church band sang. These set of people are really talented and I must give it up to them. You can't come to my church without shaking your body or nodding your head at least. After the praise and worship session everyone one clapped tremendously. It is a customary measure of appreciation to God and to ourselves.
The service director for the day announced that a certain person will be giving a testimony and that made me think so hard. He came up before the congregation and testified thus:
*"He said he has been battling with an infection that made urinating frequent and painful. It was so bad that he cried each time he feels his bladder is full because of the pain he go through. He said this went on for 5 good years. In all these time he has been visiting different hospitals who prescribe drugs that never solved the problem. It got to a point that his family told him to forget about Christian doctrines and go with them to a native doctor in their village. He grudgingly obliged and went with them. After doing all the sacrifices, he was given a concoction to rub on the particular surface for a week or so, which he did and still yet nothing changed. The thought of living with the pain all his life made him to come to the conclusion of committing suicide. He was invited to a programme which he reluctantly went to and there the pastor preached about mindsets. That very day he decided to give what he heard a trial. He told himself that his situation will go away that i won't last forever like he previously thought. Although it sounded like he was lying to himself but he held on to the new notion. With that believe he bought 50 naira antibiotics and took it for a few days and that was how the pain stopped. This is someone that has spent Hundreds of thousands trying to cure the infection but just 50 naira drugs did the magic.*
When he concluded, everyone including myself stood up from our seats and shouted in joy. We did a Thanksgiving offering and our pastor warned him never to go to any Native Doctor or risk being suspended.
The service went on but without me. Being the curious person i am, my thought was hovering around and asking questions. Questions like what made this trial different from all other failed trials? Why did it take 5 years before he discovered the 50 naira drugs? Is it the drugs or God that did it? And many other questions i asked myself.. while I was thinking of the answers to these questions, i remembered a book i read which says that "our subconscious minds lies the secret to all our desires be it good or bad". The verse Luke 10: 19 which says that God has given us the power and authority to tread upon lion and adder and nothing will ever harm you made sense. The book also defined that faith as believing to be true and correct even when your reasoning knows that it is actually false. The verse Matthew 14:22-23 where Jesus was walking on water and Peter walked half way but started drowning because his sense of reasoning got the best of him made even more sense and then i answered my own questions. This brother took this long to get his healing because he did not believe or had faith. Even the native doctor couldn't help him because of that too. It was not about the money or cost of the drugs. It was about his Mindset and Believe system. The healing he was looking for was right there but he didn't notice it until after 5 years!
Although I didn't get to listen to the Word of the day from the pastor but at least i was able to come to terms to a life changing Truth. I'd put this into practice in my daily and see what comes out of it.
I'll end with this question. What are your beliefs?
Frabjous Valentino experience - Without a partner
Hi readcash family! It's been a while. Busy schedules and the burden of writing articles didn't let me. Damn it's not easy to sit and write many words especially for a speaking type like me. I'd tell you how the past days went. So where do we start from??🤔 Valentine Baby!
5:00am on the 14th day of February -
I was still in bed, awake but with my eyes closed. the day before was very stressful. I wished i could sleep some more but no I've got some things to do. I tried to pray but the blazing sounds of music won't let me - My roomie at work. I will so bite her when i get up.
I pulled the duvet over my face covering my ears just so i can focus and talk to my maker. Done praying, I dragged myself out of bed. I looked around but couldnt find roomie.. where's she by the way? I asked myself. Before i could pounder some more, she walked in with something in gracefully with a nylon bag.
*"So you're awake? Sleepy head she said.*
*No I'm just waiting for you to come wake me up with breakfast I replied.*
*Am not your boyfriend She said.*
*You want to burst my ears with music yet you couldn't prepare breakfast for us to eat. This is not fair - I said*
That's when my mind drifted to the bag she was holding. What's in here i asked as i stretched my hands towards the nylon bag trying to open it. This is our breakfast girl she said. When i opened the bag, my stomach just made a sound - a sound of jubilation i guess. We're having pizza and milkshakes for breakfast! You're the best i managed to say as my mouth was already busy devouring it. Happy Valentine she replied. Special day Special Breakfast.
6:00am -
We were done eating and it was time to do some tidying. I was on it when some calls and messages started popping in. A message and a call stood out amongst all. So my course mate sent a message that reads
"Baby Girl how far? Where you go take us to today na?"
Coming from a girl who has a chill boyfriend. I should be the one asking.
So i decided to reply sacastically "Be like say our thoughts are in sync o. Meet me at 4pm let's go to the cadaver. You'll love it there!"
She replied asap and we kept bickering over text and laughing for the next 15min.
Can you please me my sponsor??🙂
The next was the call - Solo my gee called after exchanging pleasantries, we suddenly started arguing who should buy Valentine presents whether the girl or the guy. It got to an extent that my rommie and some female flatmates had to engage with other guys at his end too. I laughed so hard that i fell on the bed at the reasons that was given as to why ladies should do the surprising during Valentine.
9:00am -
I took my bath with glee knowing that my day was already made. I dressed up and headed to class. When I got to campus, the news of the strike was everywhere. I wished ASUU would give us more time but no they didn't. I wasn't happy but the thought of relaxing and having the time for myself, My General and my coding projects made me happy. It's a win win situation anyways. When i got to the hall, i saw course mates sitting and waiting for the lecturer so I joined the wait list.
12pm -
The lecturer came and did his bits and left although earlier than usual. Students weren't in a rush to go out- very unusual. All of a sudden our class rep was in this front of us all.
"*Great Doc in the making we shouted Great! He did the call and response twice and then he said. Today is an important day and we know it. Today is Valentine* and we all chuckled. Maybe it's because we thought he was referring to the ASUU strike. Class rep continued,
as *we all know it's a day to show love. If your girlfriend is here amongst us, just know you're getting something for her and another person here*. He stalled for a while and looked at us. All eyes and ears was on him. *We are going to be showing love to a special person in this place. Who's this special person? Some people asked? The special person is that person that you go close to during exams and test, it's that person that you run to for tutorials at night and mornings, it's that person that you copy from.* Everyone in the hall started laughing no one was expecting this. Some guys stepped out and came few minutes later with snacks and drinks which was shared amongst us. I was able to speak to coursemates that I don't normally interact with. What a way to show love🤗
2pm -
I walked to the library to get a book. I found it and decided to read for a little while. 45 minutes after, my phone started buzzing. I took it, looked at the caller ID and saw it was my roomie and the following ensued:
*Hey babe where are you? She asked Am at the library what's up? Well I want you to come along with me. BF wants to take us out. Really? But why don't you go alone I don't want to be a hindrance o i said. No. He's actually coming with a friend of his too so don't worry. What time? I asked. By 6pm. Okay then.* I returned the book back to it's shelf and headed to the flat.
3:15pm -
When I got there roomie already prepared lunch. What a gem she is. I ate and decided to rest for an hour. Please wake me up when it's 4:30. I said to Roomie
I thought my day was already made until another experience hit me hours later. I wasn't expecting it but then it made me really happy😉😙
Jeez I just realised that I've written 939 words!.. OMG I broke the Jinx yay!!!.
I've never written this much on readcash so I have to stop here for now as this realization is choking 😂
"You don't have to get a partner to enjoy Valentine" - now I understand and can attest to it as facts!😁
Enemy Within - The Unmask
**Warning**! This ain't for the faint-hearted!
This enemy we're about to unmask is the reason for all the things that are happening to you and me. The realization is astonishing and frightening. Not the devil nor your friends. Who is this enemy then? Take a sit, have an open mind and **let's go unmasking!**
This article actually reminds me of an action movie series named NOW YOU SEE ME. According to that movie, I remember it was centered on **cyber hackers** who actually steal from very wealthy people who they think are stealing from the people. The theft that caught my attention more was that of one **CEO of an insurance firm.**
This insurance firm owed many people and refused to pay for some reasons. The cyber criminals made up of four persons, who weren't known, organized a show with so many people in attendance and also invited the CEO of the insurance firm. The man was given a special seat close to the stage. He felt he was being honoured, ignorant of what was going to happen.
Some persons in the audience were asked to pick a random number. After picking, they won huge amounts of money, which was credited in that instance to everyone's amazement. Whilst they receive credit alerts, the CEO received debit alerts. These cyber criminals eventually emptied the account of the CEO of the insurance firm. He couldn’t do a thing. He realized that his legs were tired when he tried to attack the criminals. **The criminals escaped, and every attendee left the show with money in their accounts.**
I felt really sorry for the head of investigation. He was doing his best to unmask the hackers, but then these criminals **were always 10 steps ahead of him and his team.** It was a humiliating experience, but as the movie was about to end,
I got a shocker!
It was the very same police investigator that was the leader of this cyber criminals! You can only imagine how open my mouth was, lol. If I was asked while watching the movie, who is responsible for all the crimes I wouldn't in my wildest thought think or ever come to the conclusion that the investigator is the enemy.
What an Enemy Within he is! – someone very close, someone that can not be suspected because of the confidence and trust you have, destroys and create havoc and comes to console. **No one deserves an enemy within,** but that does not stop them from existing anyways.
Personally,
who do you think can be classified as an enemy within? Your friends? Your close relatives? Your wife? Husband? Girlfriend or boyfriend?? Well, just so you know none of these sets of people are your enemy. The real enemy is closer to you than all of these people and knows you way more than them.
Can you guess who that person is?...
that person is **YOU!!!**
Surprised? Yeah, that was exactly what I felt when I heard it, but the realization of its authenticity hit me after thinking for a while.
How can I be my own enemy? Is that even possible??
Well yes it is. Let's ask ourselves some questions:
Who decided to give up and missed a great opportunity?
Who allowed others to determine your value?
Who always think about negative things that in turn killed the dreams?
Who expected so much and was later disappointed?
Who kept comparing to others which later led to unhappiness and rivalry?
Who made excuses and later discovered time has been wasted?
Who accepted the idea that friend brought, which later ended in regrets?
Who kept doing same things but hoping for a change and change never came?
Who kept holding on to things, didn't let go and was unhappy?
I believe by now you can see that it wasn't any village people like we say in Nigeria or any other person that was actually responsible. It was you all along doing the havoc, causing the problems.
I will write more about what and how in Enemy Within 2. For now, I'd give you time to come to terms with this realization.
Thanks, @GreatWolfman, for always encouraging me to write.
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Thank you very much, see you soon
Prayer - what & how
Prayer is an act of communication or intercession to our creator. It's not just any kind of communication but a deliberate communication in the sense that one's mind and heart is being lifted to God and then the father - child communication
When we lift our hearts and minds to God, we offer ourselves just the way we are to him. We tell him what is really going on in our minds whether good or bad thoughts but then we rarely do that. We feel it's only when we have **good feelings towards God,others and nature.**We think it's not right to lift vile and impure thoughts to God who is holy and pure so instead we rather choose to come to him when we are in need of something, or is asked to pray for **formality sakes** or when we feel our instincts are pure but that's not all that is fit for prayer. We are not perfect neither are we holy. We experience other thoughts good and mostly bad thoughts like **Obsession, anger, boredom, tiredness, doubt, bitterness, selfishness or even distaste for church.** Its at this time we need prayer the most and we should go for it. All feelings is a valid point of prayer. If yoy are sexually obsessed, lift up your sexual fantasies; if you're bitter, lift up the bitterness; if you're tired don't be afraid to let God see it, tell him about it.
God loves us no matter what we feel and do. No wonder Jesus says if we must be like little children to enter his kingdom. **Children do not hide their feelings, their frowns and pouts.** They are completely honest with their feelings and a good mother will handle that with a smile. God is capable of handling that task. Will you be comfortable with him?
Everybody prays but what is prayed for?
We pray about many things like God should change our situation, that God should provide for us, that God should heal the sick and feed the hungry and so much more. Most times we are already envision how we want God to intervene. For example we pray that God bless us and then envision that it will happen by someone gifting it to us or getting a high paying job etc. We keep hoping and waiting praying for an answer using the already envisioned idea. When it doesn't come, we get disappeared and feel God has failed us or God is a delayer but **prayer doesn't change things but changes us and then we change things.**
God gives us ideas -Help us to change our mindset about things which inturn opens our eyes to ideas, opportunities and discovery. If it's an attitude that needs to be changed, he tells us.
God guides and leads us. He shows us the path to follow to get the best of that idea. He gives us strength and then it's left for us to use what he has given and shown us to change things. Mother theresa said she used to pray for answers but now she prays for strength because prayers changes us but we change THINGS
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Happy Sunday!
My Clique
This is me just thinking out loud in the form of an article.
In life, it's important to have good support systems. Who is a support system? A support system is that person or set of persons that are there for you, that knows you, that advise you, that encourages you, that criticize you, that have your back no matter what. **A support system is a friend.**
While growing up, I had a lot of friends. We play ten ten, we build mud houses, we cook with cans lol, we play football too. Then all i wanted to do was play but as a young teen, things began to change. We weren't the consistent players anymore. It got to a point where we lost interest totally. The feeling of being a big girl started settling in. The bars of friendship went higher. Division was the next stage with two options; You either be in trending class or be labelled a local champion. Distance was the last straw. Some of us relocated to another place and some totally from the state. I just discovered I've been smiling trying to summarize my childhood. I am friends did lots of fun things that I can't forget ever.
Well during that time, I had my own fair share of disappointment. Fair share of pain by the one you care for a lot. **A friend.**
I really loved her. She was more like a sister to me. We do everything together and at a point we were labelled as a twin. The only thing that we didn't do together is sleep in same roof. Our bond seemed inseparable, **but then life happened**.
It started when her family had to relocate back to their hometown. I was hurt deeply and when they finally left I cried so much. I couldn't go to school, I felt lonely, and I slumped into a moody girl. My mum got scared for me. I remembered she was of the opinion of bringing bestie over.I was very happy when I heard the news and **felt like flying without wings** when I received a call from my bestie same day. We kept in touch all through, and every day I wished to see her again.
Long story short, she came back but never told me. She kept visiting all our friends, but never came by my place. What hurt so much was that we talk every day all the while she was back but she kept telling me I'd see her soon.It was after 8 months of her arrival that I someone told me. I felt like a stupid person, I felt betrayed. She came by a week after my discovery and was telling me that she wanted to surprise me. She changed and was sounding indifferent. **I needed no one to tell me that the friendship was over.**
I promised myself that I will never give anyone such access to hurt me again. I became uptight. A lot of acquaintances but no friends. I was better off without them. I was enjoying my own company to an extent I started finding it difficult to go out with people. To be sincere I don't regret this as it made me realize a lot about myself.
This is the best life I thought, but it isn't.
Everyone needs a support system
There's an opportunity to enjoy even more. You might have gone through the worst experience than I have but the ability to go through **an experience and coming out strong with an open mind to try again makes one a champion .** It's good to take a break for a while in order to take note of errors made, forgive and heal but don't do that for too long missing out on other great people that'll come our way. Having an open mind is very important. So we don't go judging people based on what we've seen, or experienced earlier.
**Give everyone a chance.** The benefit of the doubt and who knows, you'd meet people that'll wow you. Looking at myself with my new friends chilling and have fun, I thank God that I didn't remain in isolation.
Good people still exists. Have an open mind and you'd find them
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Ciao.
Who am I?
I am going to turn heads today. That was the exact words of Didi as she concluded her make up, ready to attend the end of the year feast. She was dressed in a shiny straight gown displaying her beautiful figure, her feet enclosed with stiletto heels, her face as bright as a star and her lips painted in nude. Didi was dressed to impress.
High personalities are ever present so getting a ticket to this event ain't easy at all, especially for an average person like Didi. Last year during the event,someone was awarded with the sum of 3M for carrying out a simple task. He was an average person too. She hoped to be as lucky as the person.
Don't get the wrong impression! Didi is not a call-girl. She is a girl with raw talent, very smart, but she lacked one thing..
Didi got a cab heading to the location and when she got there, she was amazed by how beautiful the event centre deco looked. ***I don't expect anything less, she said to herself.*** She got down, paid the cab and as she walked towards the building, she noticed someone was trailing her, so she stopped. A cute looking guy came up to her ***"*****you look beautiful mind walking with me?*****"*** She smiled and replied **"sure thing"** He held her hands and the walked into the hall.
The event started proper and everyone including Didi was having a good time. it's time for the talk show segment. The organizers were calling for entries, but Didi was reluctant. She has done something similar but was still scared she would disgrace herself, **she did not participate.**
She laughed at the people who tried. The fashion segment came up and she said to herself, **"people have been looking my way and that's because I am looking very beautiful. This will be a walk in the park"** Didi stood up as quickly as she could, **go on girl,** Brian said. She cat walked to the stage with smiles of victory on her face, people cheered. When she got there, other ladies started trooping to the stage too. This time the claps were even more resounding. Didi's countenance changed immediately. Dsappointment written all over it. Her competitors were way better than her.
Didi did not make it to the top 3 at the end of the segment. The top 3 in two categories were not only given prizes, but also given the opportunity to advance more on the field. **Didi lost out!**
She could've done better than all those in the talk show segment, but Didi got nothing because she **focused on her weakness which in turn took away the opportunity in front of her.** She was uncertain because she didn't know her strength and that made her choose the wrong segment.
It's ironically how we know very well what our weakness is but is uncertain about our strength. We struggle because we don't really know what we are made of. Life takes advantage of us because we don't know our purpose, our place. **It's like traveling without a map, wondering without direction.** The possibility of getting to the desired location i close to zero
How do I know my strengths without thinking so much?
In here are sites that helps you with all that. You'd be amazed with the results.
Click here for personality test https://www.16personalities.com/free-personality-test
Click here to know your strengths https://high5test.com/
Be sincere with your answer you'll get an accurate results.
You can also check for career that fits your personality type. You can share in the comment section
And here to know your weakness https://www.quizony.com/what-are-my-weaknesses/index.html
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Knowing our weakness and strength is very important as it makes us identify our value our Worth and helps us take ourselves to the right places where we will be appreciated.
A quote by Albert Einstein says "everybody is a genius. But if you judge a fish by it's ability to climb a tree then it'll live it's whole life believing that it's stupid.
A Do or Die Affair
MyFirst ArticleOfTheYear
If Ranta my resolution checker goes around checking each and every one's resolutions/goals for the year 2022, I believe it will discover that over 90% of the goals involves money someway somehow. I am this certain because even mine is not left out at all as they are lots of figures in it. Money is a currency, but also a language everyone understands. Am not surprised when I see people who don't understand a certain language suddenly understand the money vocabulary of that language even though they are just hearing it for the first time. It goes to prove that money is a universal language.
Everyone wants it
The rich who has it, wants more and more; the poor, who don't have it, strive day and night to get a grip. Personally I think those that deserves money more are the labourers, hawkers, the iron benders who struggle in the sun every single day in order to make earns meet. Although very few will be opportune to taste wealth while many others won't no matter how hard they work.
I know you're about to say life ain't fair, but this is not the case here. Have you ever sat down and wonder why the disparity between the Rich and the Poor is getting bigger every day? Why it seems like the more we chase after money, the more it runs far away from us? The reason is because of our ***Attitude towards money.***
On New Year's Day, I didn't go anywhere. I decided to stay at home throughout the day. It was an intentional move to retrospect on my achievements, my mistakes and things to improve upon. To be sincere, I didn't do well, especially in the monetary department. When I begin to ask myself some series of accountability questions, I discovered that my attitude towards money was bad, very bad. What is this attitude?
Too much focus on money.
For everything we do, money is the number 1 priority. It's either money or it's a waste of time and efforts. I used to tell myself money is the goal 💯 whereas **money is actually not a goal but a result! A result of Value!**
The minds of the poor are clouded with the desire of making money so much that value creation is not found in their mindset at all thereby making themselves poorer while the rich are so focused on creating value (solving problems) thereby making themselves richer.
Value is the currency exchanged for money. To create value, you must Learn( have knowledge) because Nemo dat quod non habet meaning you cannot give what you don't have. Here is the sequence
LEARN - EARN - CREATE VALUE
You can't earn without learning. If you take away the L from Learn it gives Earn. This is not a coincidence but a fact. This sequence can't be skipped. When we learn, we unlock the gold mine of ideas which enables us to create value and also opens the door of money, coming with ease.
In this year 2022, I've decided not to shoot myself in the foot like the previous years working for money, rather I'll work for value instead. If you've made this mistake like I have, it's not too late to correct it. You can do this by switching money from being the goal to the results of the actions you'd take this year. For example: By December 2021, I will have in my possession 5,000,000 which will come to me in various amounts when I sell 5000 copies of my book empowering people to be efficient at this -- area. Working towards this will definitely bring the required output.
Always Remember, money is shy and runs away from people who focus directly on it.
Thanks for reading
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It's been a while. I've been busy and not active for sometime now but now am back! I'd continue from where I stopped (Industry 4.0) and other exciting post. Can I get a welcome from y'all?
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What do you believe in?
Have you ever wondered why some people are sad while the other is happy, why one man/woman a great success while the other a failure, why someone a genius in his/her profession and the other not able to accomplish anything even after acquiring knowledge, why good people suffer while immoral people prosper?
Having thought about all these many would end up with the inference that "life is not fair after all" but then again is that true?
In Christianity, we are taught that God has given us power to tremble on anything at all which also implies that we should be able to trample upon poverty, sickness and diseases and live a happy life but only few people are enjoying this but does this mean the Bible is lying? Definitely not!
I've always heard the quote" your mind is the compass to your life" but it was only yesterday that I actually decided to research some more about this quote.
If our minds is the compass to our lives then it simply means that it's something that will show us direction which also means that our minds ain't just for random thoughts but also a treasure house capable of many things. In our minds lies intimate intelligence, power, wisdom and supply for all that's necessary. All that it needs is the expression and open mindedness
This explains the power the Bible was referring to. We already have it but didn't recognise it.
The law of the mind is the law of belief. The belief of your mind is the thought of your mind itself!
What are you thinking today?
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