As I said every parent is trying to raise their children the way which seems fit and feasible for their children. Some find the eastern parenting style more suitable just because they are raised with the same style and the same goes for the western style. There are some positive and effects on the children in both styles.
Parenting is mostly influenced by upbringing and the environment. If someone is brought up with eastern style there is a 90% chance that he will implement the same set of rules and set the same boundaries for their children.
Now the debate is which system is good for the children? Which systems can nurture them to become highly successful and gentlemen? Which type of parenting has the best outcomes and which one is harmful to the children?
My question is, Is it mandatory to completely follow a specific parenting style? Why shouldn't we apply all the positives and throw off all the negatives in both styles? Fathers used to beat their children here, and honestly, it is considered normal where I live. It's not normal actually but just because it's happening mostly in the surrounding that's it looks normal. I know western would not take it lightly. Just like easter dont take the decision of sending aging parents to old age homes lightly. They think it's horrible but it looks completely normal in western families as it's happening in the surrounding.
So abolishing all these negatives from both these styles might help us create a better environment for the children. Creating a balance between these two types will help grow the children in a more efficient and perfect way. I will most highly go for the combination of these two styles. There are times when the children need a bit of pressure and there are times when they need to handle it with love and care. Treating with constant affection might make them careless and keeping constant pressure might break them. So there should be a balance between both behaviors depending on the situation.
I think the best solution is to raise children using a combination of styles instead of implementing a single style. The best solution in my opinion is both parents should treat their children differently. If one parent is keeping the pressure the other parent should calm the child and handle him with care. It will create a balance. If both keep pressure, it will make the child suffer from emotional and psychological problems. And if both the parent gives liberty, the child will become careless. So creating a balance is highly important, even in every aspect of life.
Be protective of your child but dont become so overprotective that your child can't survive without your help. Also, dont uninvolved yourself to the extent that your child does not have any regard for you.
Also, dont get involved in his life to the extent that your child starts thinking you are driving his life and he felt he does not have any control and authority over his life. Be friendly with him so that he does not hesitate to share his problems with you. Dont push your child to the limits. Realize that your child has emotions and never hurt their emotions.
There are some advantages and disadvantages to both styles. Both can create problems while both are fruitful in some ways. So the best option is to avoid the negatives and apply the positives from both systems. Always choose what is good for your child according to his nature and attitude. This will not affect your family environment.
These are all my personal opinions and I dont claim to be any parenting expert. You can disagree with any of my points.
I think no matter how you try, you can not completely eliminate the negatives. For me, raising kids is about doing your best and hoping its enough for them to turn out right