Review on: The subtle art...

February 02, 2022
Wednesday blog

#35

In today's writing, I will be sharing my thoughts and a brief review of the book "The subtle art of not giving a f**k".

A very helpful or you may say guiding book written by 'Mark Manson' who wrote this book basically as a counterintuitive approach to living a good life.

A total of 140 pages with Nine chapters and about 140 pearls of wisdom haha Do not derange I just wrote to make a rhyming but actually it really has a lot of wisdom and one who lacks vision or stability or has hovering thoughts/uncontrolled thoughts it is a must-read for them. At the outset of the book, you will get to learn that all the so-called societal words wishing you to be better, best, more successful than others and all these advice which we get are actually the ones we start thinking that we actually lack, for instance, If you are beautiful and someone comes to you and say to you that you got a bit of chubby fat there and you go into your bedroom stand in front of the mirror and you keep telling yourself that oh I see I am really getting chubby cheeks there but in reality, it is not there. Apply it to your other perspectives, you start telling yourself that you are a bold person why? it actually that you are not bold but just telling yourself that you're bold, In reality, if you think it the other way Do you even need to remind yourself that you are bold, or do you need to be bold when you actually are bold?

Further in the book, you will read that 'we actually do not need a life without problems but we need a life full of good problems' which keeps us aspiring and encouraging to do further with our life. We can already tell ourselves that a smooth situation never creates a wise man and only a weak man who tries and fail gets to become wiser. The harder problems you face in your life the more you will have to solve them and the more you will get to feel happy after that.

Also, the author tells about that "No one's life is without suffering so just ask yourself what you actually want to suffer about, what are things that really matter to you, who are the people that really matters in your life, what are the problems you really need to give a damn about" Take time ask yourself these questions and when you find the answer you will found things much easier and less suffering.

ALSO, we always hear that being positive is what we always follow I wouldn't disagree but the actual thing that follows is if you are always being optimist then what you unconsciously do is you are denying your problems ad when you are denying problems you do not get the opportunity to solve them and when you do not solve your problems you do not feel the happiness of solving problems.

When we move further ahead in the book we get to read about how we actually choose things wrongly always for instance if we are blackmailed to do something we will definitely do that to avoid the situation that follows ahead but when we choose to do the same thing we get empowered to do that.

Many of us always say that 'I do not care about anyone or anything but the actual reality about them is that they care way too much' and that's the sad reality that others do not know, forget about others you actually do not know about yourself and you always run away from it.

There is a personal experience of the author that he wanted to explore the independency and wants to visit other countries and get happy about it but the author also conveys that when he keeps on exploring with various countries and sleeping with different women on different occasions in different countries he actually realised that he is spending his life in something that is actually not worth about he is sleeping with others may be to let past the worse situations of his life but the next morning when he gets up he is alone by himself, nobody to hold his hand, nobody to share his thoughts, nobody to love him in a real sense. And when he saw his friends who actually settled and make a family they were living a much happier and peaceful life than him and they have someone with whom they can share their bitter things/moments/thoughts anything.

The author also mentioned that the moment we get ourselves very certain about something is the moment when we make ourselves rigid and that's the moment when you will not see things the way they are but you will start seeing the things the way you want to, for example, if you get yourself so rigid that no ones can be trusted then you will start seeing every other person that they are cheating at various places and maybe that person is actually not cheating really. It could destroy your relationship, family, or anything valuable to you.

For this, the author also mentioned some questions which you can ask yourself as a practice to make yourself less certain about yourself.

The author emphasized the importance of saying no. We very well have heard this a hundred times and if you haven't heard it then you are still so young, in order to impress all the people around us we actually forget our real identity and start presenting ourselves as the way to please them and in reality, it can backfire, forget about backfire the impact it gives you in your life is that you will lose your own identity and you get entitled yourself into pleasing others and finally you are doomed.

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