Locust beans stew.(
Hello people, and happy Sunday to you all.
In Nigerian homes, I don't know about other part of the world, we take Sunday as a major day of rest after Sunday service and all, also it's a day of rice and stew, you see anyone from this part of the world, we take Sundays to visit , and the most meal always served is white rice and stew .
Today Sunday I decided to make stew for my family, but as my person doesn't really stew ,the normal tomato and pepper stew ,I had to think if another way of garnishing this stew up, then I remembered I had some locust beans saved up in fridge, I took it out and holla I came up with a another stew recipe
This stew I made from
Locust beans
Palmoil
Fresh fish
Seasoning
Salt to taste
Pepper
Tomatoes
Redd bell pepper.
Onion
The pepper and tomato I blended them together
So after frying my fish , I brought all my ingredients together to boil. And yea it came out with the right spiciness and all.
I served this with some boiled rice .
Voila!!!!!
Do you have stage fright?
It's a beautiful Saturday afternoon here on my end , I had a splendid night, though I wasn't sleeping during the night,we had an all night vigil in church, and it was awesome, I personally haven't missed any vigil In this year this is the second one so far and I hope and pray I don't miss any.
So yea,do you have stage fright?, Well I do.i almost shit my pants yesterday night, i happen to be among the choisters in church, and last year I was given the task of making the roaster for 2022bmtaisevand worship leader ,which is normally done yearly by another sister, but. Sadly she left the choir, and I had the mantle given to me to do it, though I have been a member of this church for seven year going on to eight years now , I wasn't added to the praise leaders cause they have a strict rule guiding that aspect of the choir. But during our last meeting of the year 2021, there was a shuffle of things, I was asked to make the roaster and I and some other members of the choir like @JessicaOssom haven't been partaking in the praise leading , but for this year after been asked to include our names on the roaster , I was overjoyed and frightened at the same time. So eventually I put in our names for during vigil period , so as to enable us improve ourselves for the next level.
My turn came yesterday , though I had written down some songs I would be singing I even prayed along with it, but on mounting the stage yesterday all the song listed on my note didn't seem right I was scared at some point , and at one point I started singing offkey not because I didn't know how to sing but because if the fright in me. But one mind was just telling me to keep on, that I can do it and I did it .
How did I overcome this stage fright .?
I blocked out every thought , negative thoughts that were coming to my mind , I zeroed my attention only on the song ,though the first 3songs I sang weren't offkey but I quickly picked myself up and concertrated on the song coming to my mind
If I can over that fright there in the stage you too can do it. Really. Yes I know you can.
Just concertrated on what you are doing and all the fright will disappear.
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How do you see African salad
A splendid afternoon to you all,
My afang was delivered safely to my client , so I posted images of the soup on my WhatsApp status, wow I had so many comments and also orders from some people, one particular order came in for African salad, this is the image she sent to me.
This particular dish is made from dried shredded cassava, I once had the opportunity of tasting this meal and It was delicious.
This meal is from the eastern part of Nigeria , it is usually made with
Palmoil
Seasoning s
Potass
Dried Shredded cassava(main ingredient)
Then for protein you can use goat meat any part of the goat meat but the head us always best for this meal.
After all the cooking, Yiu can serve it with boiled yam or boiled unripe plaintain.
Yea so that's it . Who is trying thus with me .
Happy eating. 😊
Happy reading.
African delicacy
Hey guys, you know I promised to make a post whenever I made the dish that a client ordered, so here it is .
This is a picture of the Afang leaf blended with crayfish and yellow pepper( we call it Cameroon pepper) here in Nigeria .
I made this soup with
Beef
Stockfish.
Cowskin
Seasoning
Salt to taste
Fish
Palmoil
Periwinkles
Water leaf
Here is a periwinkle, it's a seafood, it's gotten from the river.
Seasoning cubes and water leaf already sliced.
This dish is from the south south side of Nigeria. It is our main meal whenever there is an occasion, or whatever celebration.
What's the main dish of your tribe.?
Thanks for reading.
What can you bake.
Good day all, I now you are having a splendid day just like I am.
Another business order just came in for me, but this time it's cake. As a baker I have this issue of charging my client, especially when they are close friends or people I know from church. So this new client is a church member of mine, though she has patronized me before.
She's always wanting me to bring down price for her, with all happening in our country and that, I really need an advise in this.
She asked for a buttercream cake frosting, the inside would have three flavours ,like I would have to stack them up in three layers , I love baking , but when I think of the stress and the little pay there is on it I just get tired.
But here is an image of the cakes I made last before going in my maternity leave, God I know I am no there yet , How do you like my cakes. What can you bake?
Do you know semo?
Hey lovies, happy Sunday
I came back today from the church without knowing what to cook for my family, I had semo only in the house ( this semo is a packaged product, but from the ingredients it looks as if it was made from wheat or so).
So I made the semo by boiling water and gradually adding the semo to the boiling water and continuous stiring, it was so tiring really but it final outcome was worth it.
I prepare it with stew, and vegetables stew inclusive of tomato es ,red bell pepper,and this bonnet pepper. I made the vegetable the main course of the meal. I just seasoned the vegetable with a little seasoning.
And hola it's came out perfect .
Maenwhile , my first job from my soup bowls business for the year came in today I am so excited. Though I can't tell the name of the leaf in English, I will be using but I know it's so medicinal and it comes from the south south region of Nigeria .my side. The soup I will be making is called AFANG SOUP.
I CAN'T wait to get feed back from my client, when I make the soup I will be posting it here for you all to see the final outcome. So happy
Cheers to a week. May this new week bring us favour and blessing s.
Thanks for reading.
Why do marriages breakup .
Leighann Blackwood.
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Hello guys,
I woke up this morning to the noise of my neighbor things being thrown out by police, I took one look at her and my contenance changed about married couples.
it happened that during the last week of November 2021,we moved into a new apartment in a new area let's say another community entirely, just two week of being at our new place , we heard a sound from my neighbor apartment , the woman was screaming that the husband has killed her, we tried as much as possible to settle their dispute to no avail.
Not up to three days later the man took the son to his family people and left the wife with the house which we got to know that ,their house rent expired , so he left her with the daughter and moved his things out of the house .
A marriage of 7year with two kids just ended just like that, with no really big deal happening, when I asked the wife this morning about what really happened, she just said he got tired of the marriage and started violence with her.
My perspective on thus is when two people want to get married there should be enough courtship before venturing into marriage to avoid breakup.
SOME CAUSES OF BREAKUP IN MARRIAGE
1. lack of effective communication : when there isn't means of communicating between the pairs.
2. UNDERSTANDING: Two people who come together without really understanding themselves,surly the marriage will not work out.
3.TOLERANCE: YOU are not able to tolerate one another in a relationship , it won't work out.
4. FORGOING EGO: we know that men especially have this pride in them that they can't seem to let go of, but once in a while we need to let go of such pride in certain things
As a man and a woman in relationships, let's tend to advise each other as mates as you would to either your sister or brother, try to settle things in one accord.
when there I dispute , find way to settle amicably,thing of the future you can create with that person, think of things you will make out to be in future.
Let's be guided by love in all things we do . Let love lead. Revisit what brought you together .
Thanks for reading .
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African dish
Hello people,
I know I know, looking at this picture of this dish you might be like what is this?
But seriously, this is one of Nigerians ( the western side ) best dish. It so delicious
The swallow is made from yam flour and the soup is made from a leaf called ewedu, though I don't know the English name for it, it is mixed with tomato soup.
This combo is always first in parties, any party with this is not a western Nigerian somebody.
Though I had a poor photography of this.
What do you think. Would you like to try it out if given the opportunity?.
Confusion in courtship . (To quit or continue?).
Hello people and happy valentine's day, I am just so happy about this topic of mine. I sat to understand this and coupled with the coupled meeting we had in church yesterday i decided to create this topic, cause i know someone here need to see this.
Every God ordained courtship will face challenges enough to make you quit! The devil knows once you marry right, he is in soup so he will do everything in his power to break your focus and marry someone else!
Are you confused in your courtship? Why do you want to call it quits? Because of any of the following reasons?
BOTH OF YOU ARE AS
Some singles are 100 percent sure they heard God till they did genotype test and discover they are both AS and get confused. A lot end the relationship! If you are really sure you heard God not your head, tell God to change your genotype to AA or have the faith none of your kids will be SS. I see godly, faith filled AS couples have healthy children all the time. Some have their genotypes changed to AA by God before their wedding date. Some never have SS children. If you are very fearful and lack faith, then you didn't hear God, end the relationship!
NO PARENTAL CONSENT
The devil can use anybody to stop your wedding including your parents. That is why you must spend lots of time praying together instead of having sex. Ask God to speak to and convince your parents and He will. You don't have to end your relationship because your parents are putting pressure on you to marry someone else. If you are sure your partner is the one, pray, stand your ground till you win the battle!
FINANCIAL MISFORTUNE
Everything is going smoothly till you are planning for wedding and mysteriously, your finances went below zero! You don't need to call it quit. Both of you should join forces together and pray till that yoke is broken!
THEIR HORRIBLE PAST
If you truly, really heard God, their past should be no big deal even if she has once been a whore with multiple abortions or he was once an armed robber or cocaine addict. If you can't accept their past, love their present and believe in their future, end the relationship, you didn't hear God!
THEY WANT TO QUIT!
Your partner may come under attack and wants to quit the relationship for no sane reason whatsoever. You don't need to follow that line. They are not in their right senses. If you are very sure you heard God and they are God's will for you, stand your ground, pray, seriously intercede for them till they come to their right senses and marry you properly.
YOUR EX SHOWS UP
And says you are the one for them. Why did they quit the relationship in the first place? Didn't they hear God before proposing and quitting? Shun the distraction and focus on your fiance/fiancee, it is the distraction of the devil to make you lose your life partner.
THEY ALWAYS DEMAND FOR SEX
Sit them down and let them know you won't have sex till marriage. Honestly discuss how long you can "hold body" and plan your wedding accordingly. If your courtship has no expiry date, you are both in school and still have a long long way to go yet he keeps demanding for sex, and won't take No, END THE RELATIONSHIP!
These are some of the reasons people run away from their God ordained partner and marry someone else. You don't have to quit that courtship if it is God's will. Just carry God along! Intercede for your partner. Both of you should pray together and never quit till you overcome your battles.
However, never beg anyone to stay in a relationship with you. If they want to go please, let them. God will never force or beg anyone to stay in His will. He will rather pick someone else. He has a better partner for you.
If they keep threatening to end the relationship, please, let them. Someone who appreciates, celebrates and honour you will come your way in due time.
May your God ordained relationship be super successful!..
Thanks for reading
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Valentine food tray
Today I have been so deep in thoughts about how to go about my business, since I am into baking and cooking, I recently got an outlet to to do Business for some time I have been posting in my WhatsApp status on what I do , though am still yet to get serious clients , but I believe they will turn up.
So my husband asked me on what I can start with 100,000 naira. I gave it some thought, cos though I want to only do only pastries , then something said I can add food along side it.
I came across these food tray on a friend's page and I thought if it, I can do these two .right?.
The combination of the food on the tray is just perfect for a valentine combo. Right?
So I posted this on my wall an I have had some people coming in my dm to ask how much it is.
So I guess I can finally venture into food too .
Yippee.
Thinking business.
Hello everyone, have you ever been in a situation whereby you can say what to do ,you are always thinking about things or business to venture into.
Actually what got me thinking about this topic was a friend of mine whim I sometimes wrote about ,She asking me to give her advise on the matter of her husband not wanting her to do any job. Then I got thinking I am also a stay home mom , I haven't gotten any serious to business I am doing, does that make me a bad wife for not helping in bringing income to the house. 🤔.
No it doesn't actually but then I have been thinking about it for some times, I bake and all that, I thought if going fully In baking business or opening my own bakery.
So many people are out there like I and my friend who have one way or thing or the other stopped working . But that doesn't mean you have to stay dormant, instead you think of things you are good at and try to venture into them.
This morning I had to call my friend and I told her this. *girl you can't stay home just because you are married and also you can disobey to your husband too, cause it against the bible law, instead venture into your own personal business, instead of looking for job * after our discussion of 1hour on the phone . I felt an urge to also consider this for my self. And I know it gonna work out .
Surprisingly she called me and told me it worked with her husband , he supports her to do her own business. Now why do we think he supports ,cause she won't stress her self out and all that and it's going to be long term and no one is gonna fire her from her own business.
I am really happy that it worked out well. .many are in the position why not think this way like I did. I know it will pay.
Thanks for reading, I know so many will gain from this.
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Activating faith to destroy fear.
This morning I want to be religious 😂.
But on a serious note I feel this article will help some people in their day to day life. So I will be writing along side my point with some verses in the bible, and I believe we will learn one or two things from here.
WHAT IS FAITH?
The oxford dictionary states that faith is having complete trust or confidence in something or someone.
While Hebrews 11verse 1 says " Now faith is the assurance of things hoped for, the conviction not seen.
Yea so many people have their own definition of faith ,I personally take this bible definition seriously.
When one has faith that he or she can achieve something, that things you want to achieve it might seem like a very impossible task, but as an individual you just have that believe that you can achieve even when others are looking at you as if you lost a screw in your head , yea that's what faith is. Believing strongly in the impossible .
WHAT IS FEAR?
Fear is an unpleasant emotion caused by the threat of danger, pain, or harm(dictionary meaning).
Fear is the opposite of faith. When one becomes too fearful, you wouldn't be able to achieve certain things.. cause you will be too scared of even venturing into that thing.
SOMS CHARACTERISTICS OF FAITH.
WHY you need faith.
Faith produces good results: there is no how when you trust completely u. Something that it won't give you a good result .
Faith makes ones life meaningful': in the sense that you having faith adds value to you as an individual.
Faith makes you escape the edge of sword. This particularly as a spiritual meaning. If you go through the bible in Hebrews 11verse 34." Quenched the power of fire,escaped the edge of sword , were made strong out if weakness,became mighty in war, put foreign armies to flight". Faith makes you escapes battles.
Faith makes you stronger when you are weak.you win any battle or fight.
Faith can divert problems from you if you believe that you don't want to have problem s by faith it is possible.
Faith makes you achieve what others burn their fingers to .you achieve things easily when you have faith .
Many people lack faith in life , when you are faithless, you start drowning in fear.
Let fear depart from you. Always try to activate faith in whatsoever you do . The level of your faith will determine how far or much you will achieve in life.
Thanks for taking time to read
Birthday.
Hey people,
Today I am so happy , it's my niece birthday, she clocks 4 years old today. I remember when she was just a baby , she was so adorable, I remember going to help her mom out with house chores and errands.she was then a fine little baby.
Then before she clocked 1year old ,she fell sick, we were so worried , we did all test and all to know what her sickness was at that little age but all they could tell us was that she had malaria and typhoid, her mom was already going crazy and all , cause she didn't understand what was going on with her , and at the hospital she was losing blood asin they said her blood percentage was low, we were like what was going on with a little baby to make her PVC go low. We were so devastated , they were looking for a donor for her, my husband volunteer to donate the blood, he went there and donated the blood that year that resulted the nurse to take more than the pint of blood needed, which made my husband faint that year, so my sister being tired of the hospital angrily bust into the office in which they were collecting the blood and saw that my husband has fainted and the nurse was still withdrawing the blood and raise an alarm, that year was a terrible year for us all. But we thank God we overcame it now she is 4 years old I am so happy to celebrate her today.
Elena I wish you a prosperous year in good health and wisdom , knowledge and God's understanding.
So people hel me wish my Niece. I will be in the comment section.
Drugs
This morning I woke up sad to a very bad news, I sometimes wonder why people endulge in things that will bring harm to them, I feel that when a particular thing is being condemned by the society or the world at large people are supposed to refrain themselves from it.
So this morning a man of 20 years old dies cause he do smoke, he takes weeds, he was sometimes said to have taken cocaine ,this young guy was a very bright person that he was the star of the community, at a point of his career, he was sent abroad to explore his career, I can't what really happened that made them deport him, so many stories started coming out that he was charmed,if you are a Nigerian or believe in superstitions ,they said that his village people charmed him not to do well. Me personally I don't believe in such, I feel he got too proud of himself ,he let the fame go up to his head. He started mixing with the wrong crowd abroad and for just two years he stayed there , he turned into something else.
I tell young people not to take harmful substances , or whatsoever can be harmful to the health.someone like me even when I am sick I find it hard to take medicine, but you see people misuse or take this drugs in harmful ways. In Nigeria here there are some drugs that the country banned from pharmacies because of the abuse of it.
That young boy has destroyed his career and life now he is dead, why? Because if abuse of drugs.
Let's be guided as human, lets be watchful of our health , in what we take into our body .
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Mom life
Good morning beautiful people,
Whoow, this morning I have a lot on my mind. I took my son to a new school today, after going to and fro from buying registration form to sitting down and waiting for him to take their entrance test, in my mind I was just praying for him not to mess up but to do well in the test,
Not that he is a dullard or anything, I believe in him alot cause he's just 3 going onto 4years old, I just thought since he's still a little boy that they were just going to put him in a class. Well all things being good , I know he will do well.
So yesterday I was supposed to make a post but we have had electricity issues in our community for a while now. And I have been careful on how I use my phone. Though the light got fixed this morning ,I still haven't had time to charge my phone . Life of a mom. Being a mom require all sacrifice you can ever give .
I decide to write about my morning today , I have been awake since 4am , I believe all mom's should be paid , asin there should be an income given to mothers 😂
I writing while sitting and waiting for the result in my son's entrance test, I just hope they retain his class.
I will come back with the rest of the story later.
Thanks for reading my thoughts today.
Another week.
Hello lovely people, how did your weekend go?, Mine was great.
Today Monday,I started my day with prayer , did some house chores , took my kid to School, well it's not easy been a mother and a wife . I had a lot to do today cause I had visitor s over on the weekend, I had a lot of cleaning up to do . Also my 8months old daughter has been a great help cause she doesn't disturb.
Well well that's that, it another week ,thus week I believe many of us has one or two things to achieve, like me I plan to start job hunting since I will be weaning my daughter soon, it hasn't been easy being a stay home mom, and it's also not going to be easy being a working mom, but one has to work in other to survive in our country.
Many of us has made a new year resolution, I will be sharing mine too, let's have it at the back of our mind when we go out,so as to be able to achieve them.
Here's a story today . I got out this morning to look for a job , before leaving the house I had a positive mind that all would be well , on getting to a location to start searching my mind was racing, how was I going to do it?. I eventually took a step and entered the office I was going to summit my application letter. And after leaving there I was just praying I was taking the right step. But one thing I had at the back of my mind was that I need this job to survive.cause it's part of my new year resolution.
Lets not get distracted by situation of life, let's take that step to the next level of life ,even if it isn't convinent.
Thanks for reading .
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Be who you are( yourself)
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At one time of our lives as individuals ,we tend to try to please people, we try to impress other around us and neglect our own interest
At a time I was once in this category, I used to believe I had to impress others or people, so that I can gain their love and attention , and respect. But that's all wrong, cause at the end if the day it turns out bad .
A quote from LAO TZU
" WHEN YOU ARE CONTENT TO BE SIMPLY YOURSELF AND DONT COMPARE OR COMPETE , EVERYBODY WILL RESPECT YOU"
I have held in to thus word for quiet sometimes now, I don't let anyone tell me what to do and what not to do, or what to say and how to behave or do things ,etc.
I tend to focus on myself and try to make a difference in my own way, I don't force myself on people . This mistake almost everyone makes it .
I don't over do things. I take things a step at a time, Thu should be applicable to every other person in earth.
Hold in to your principle. First great a great principle and hold on to it, only you can explore your potentials.or achieve your goals and dreams, and get to that greater height. Only if you believe in yourself then can your dreams come true.
Some people might call it pride when you try to stand your ground about certain things , but don't make that stop you or discourage you. It sometimes can be exhausting being insincere ,being a pretender.instead follow your heart,follow your dreams, live your life,Believe in yourself.
T Hanks for taking out time to read this.
What do I do
Hey people, I am so happy writing today ,a lot on my mind, a friend of mine called me up last night crying in the phone , I asked her what happened ,she then narrated that her husband doesn't want her to work but be a stay at home wife, I asked her if before marriage there was any discussion about this and she said know.
My opinion is that the husband might feel insecure or lack of trust today her .but come to think of it. I sometimes ago had the very same topic with my husband and we argue alot about it and now my friend comes to me with the same issue what to tell her .
I haven't got an idea in what to tell her to do, because I myself haven't sorted the issue or discussion with my own husband , how do I advice her?.
Many men feel being married is the time to reign dominance on the wife, even the bible says women are supposed to be helpmeet to the man not being a liability. Many men this day succumb the wife to being a wife house or stayhome mom . This is 21st century, and even with the situation if the country women should be allowed to work.
I Seriously think there should be a seminar or a platform where women are encouraged to work. I tried to call a single friend of mine to ask for her opinion , she told me point blank that she would be able to be a stay home wife, that if she wanted to stay home she wouldn't have gone to the university, she would have just gotten married straight .
Guys how do you think I should advised her and myself. What do I do .
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Myself
Hello people, my name is treasure adeleke(ossom) I got married In 2020.
Though I have made a post about myself before,I got to notice I didn't post it in the right community, since I still learning more about the platform from here , so I would make a proper introduction.
So my name is treasure , am a female ,you can see from my picture , I am darkskin, I am a nigerian, from akwaibom state, I am married like I said with two beautiful kids, aboy and agirl , I am a baker , I make anything from pastries to cakes to soups , though I don't have enough client on my business , when am not baking I love reading, cause it's one of my best hobby..
My sister @jessicaossom introduced me to the e platform readcash like a year ago, reason why I haven't been active is because I was pregnant with my second child and the pregnancy weighed me down I couldn't do things I usually do .
I am happy to be here , ever since I have been posting on here and commenting I have been gaining alot of things . I love platforms like this , cause it make it easier for me to express myself and improve on my writing skill.
Thanks everyone for reading .
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Consequences of lack of sleep
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hello wonderful people, how your day going or night? recently I have stressed without any proper rest that I have been having alot of headache, you know the struggles of mothers .
So we changed apartment like late last year and have really not been able to get back to our normal day to day life, like my son, from the first week of resumption in school we have been making him go to his school which was In our former neighborhood, like seriously the stress has been much and the distance even the transportation fare too has been taking a toll on I and my husband , so this week Monday we decided to let him stay back and I would have to be teaching him at home until we gather enough money to change his school to a new one in our current place,
Well, that hasn't been going smoothly because it's not so easy, with my baby of 8months and he my son is 3unto 4years old , he always wants to have his way .
My baby also needs my attention mostly all the time that I would be trying to balance the attention on them.its not easy let me say
I have been sleep deprived, that whenever I turn my head I feel this strong headache and also my neck is in pain .which lead s m to my topic
when you don't get enough sleep as a human and you are working day in day out .
1 . it causes fatigue: you feel so tired to go in
2. pains in the body, unnecessary pain overwhelms you
3. You get angry at any little thing being said to you.
This is a few of my experience of being deprived of sleep 💤 . feel free to drop a comment you you have experienced something similar.
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Cybercrime
Beautiful morning to all you beautiful people, how did your sleep go? Mine was great. Hey people why is cybercrime so common in around us? I don't know.
This morning I and my husband and his friend were having an argument about it ,that's is if it is a good thing to be involved with people that are into it?. And I was like how would we know who is involved?, will they tell us?, Then he made one statement that when we see guys ,as in young guys living flashy life style,that that's when we know they are into Cybercrime, an I told him that it isn't all of those young people ,some older people commit these offences too, but they get away with it,covering it up like they work to get money.
I beg to differ cause the world we are living in now is hard everyone wants to make wealth but go the wrong Way, all those involved in cybercrime I detest them cause I feel they are cheating people, which is not supposed to be so, and I think a way should be made out by the law to eradicate such .
As christian ,we should abide by the rules of the bible, even Muslim also should abide by their quaran. .it is a wrong Way of life, many are getting rich duping people and they are using to accumulate wealth , but do they think of the consequences?. NO.
What do you think should be out as a law for people who indulge in cybercrime?
Let me know in the comment section.
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Reunion.
My reunion with my one and only friend happened Saturday night(22nd of January) after being apart from each other for 8years,but we have only being talking on phone and video calls.
Yea, you might be wondering why it's a big deal for me, it is cause obstacles came that stopped us from seeing each other, firstly how we met and became friends was when I went for a visit at a family friend's ,there our friendship started, we were 12 years olds then,we clicked at first interaction. The obstacles that came between us was she got sick an had to be moved to another state (Lagos) while I was still there at my aunt 's place. I miisee her terribly that I requested to be sent back home(Lagos) cause that's where my parents stay. Thank God I went back home and we saw, she got better and I visited her often for a week, before she broke the news to me that since she was better ,her aunt asked her to come back and stay with her. I was like NO! , But she already made up her mind and in the two days she went back .
When we got older (2020) I was getting married and she was in school , also due to the covid19 lockdown, she still couldn't make it for the wedding,which we had just among close families and friends. I was sad because she couldn't make it cause I didn't have any friends, I was all alone on my wedding day, no friends to dance around with me, I was sad throughout. But I had to understand it was the rules of COVID-19.
But finally she's here after 8years. She surprised me on Friday morning that she was coming to spent her two months holiday with me, I was excited, and she came in Saturday night though she was tired from the long travel we still laid awake and talked till the next morning.
My patience was worth it.
Here is a picture of I and my friend from yesterday service. You can see our smiles
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THINK about today
Most people make mistakes of always being worried about the future, when they have thought about the present, there is something my pastor/ mentor always say ,
"**Don't worry about tomorrow cause it will take care of itself, think about now "**
I have sat down and thought about what he really meant , you see some people give themselves lots of headache over things that aren't worth it,take for example, some times ago I and my husband when we newly got married it was kind of challenging coping to be with another person from a different background and tribe, even with the financial ups and down that first year brought us, my husband always held on and said it it going to be fine, but as young lady I was full of doubt and worries thinking of how to get money and all. But my husband kept in believing and repeating my pastor's words to me, that I should think about the present not the future, then it dawn on me that we don't know what might happen in the next 5minute, talk less of tomorrow.
From there I change my mentally and started thinking straight and let all that bothered me stayed at the back of my mind.
You see today I have two kids and I'm still living and my husband is doing his business well to some point. When we let go of worries and troubles, we give a clear path to new understanding of things.
Let's learnt to take each day as it goes and close up all worries from our mind, that way we give ourselves peace of mind.
Yea peace of mind is all that matter in life as an individual
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Ideal age gap for silbings
It's so funny when you think you can handle all that comes with pregnancy until you actually experience it yourself, before I got married I do see alot of pregnant women change and their attitude also changes, one time I saw a woman shouting at the husband, and I was like what ? Why?.
Then I got married and got pregnant too, then I recollect to that day I saw that woman venting out on her husband, and I was like so it's like this?.
Personally the ideal age gap for silbings should be 3years for in-between the first and second child, as a mother even medically your are supposed to wait 18months before trying for a new baby. But I advise mother's to wait for 3years, so as to understand your first child well and to also know things about him or her so that when the second comes he or she won't feel like he is been paid less attention, you know children can be so intelligence.
My son was 3years old when I had my daughter,who is presently 8months old now, he asks lots of questions about his sister like when is her birthday? Why did I give birth to her? . You see I try all my best to give him a good answer. Yes we interact. Even when I was indisposed I send him on little errands around the house. But if you don't give that space you will be taking care of a baby with another baby still on ground, you get?
Truly being a mother isn't a joke ,I see lots of people spacing their children,yea cause of comfort and what will be convenient for them.
But all still falls in the joy you get at the end of the day when you look at their faces and thinks she came from me, he came from me 😁😁.
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My everyday thought s
I always wonder where I would be if I wasn't married now ,or sometimes I wonder what will happen tomorrow , u an always full of thought on what the future holds, sometimes I feel like Giving up on all things, sometimee I wonder if I will ever leave my present status, sometimes it's about why am I not working?
Still after all this thought s I still go back in my mind and soul and comfort myself that all will be well oneday, cause that's just life for you, I think about my kids and I am comforted about the future and what lies in store for us.
Life is a great teacher ,we need to learn gradually so it doesn't swallow us whole.
My point is life gives a great lesson to all who are willing to learn it process
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Fraudster are .....
FRAUDSTER
Many people have fallen into the hands of fraudster in one way or the other, most of us have had it bad with them in a very bad way.
I am a victim today, and I think we ignorantly let them fraud us.
Ways in which they attract our attention.
* Telling us what we want to hear. Like we all need 🤑 money. Yeah we look for ways to enrich ourself more .
* Also they make that thing they are advertising look so good that you want to have it.
Let's say no to scammers even when their scheme looks so real.
I know and pray I won't fall victim again cause anything that looks so good to be true I am not endulging in it .
Have you any any experience?
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FEAR
Fear is opposite of faith, when you ve got something to do and you start doubting the possibility of that thing coming to pass it's called fear.
Fear can torment an individual that is fear can lead to death, many individual has taken been taking to the grace for instant fear .
For this 2022 one important thing we all should mark as a new year resolution is always having faith in whatever we want to do.
Have a nice Sunday people
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Wedding bells
Hi people,
We all know Nigeria is a country blessed with so many traditions, especially in term of marriage, our culture differs whether you are igbo ,Yoruba, Hausa,etc.
What got me thinking mostly was I recently attended the wedding of a friend , God the wedding was so elaborate ,it got me thinking , how much would she have spent on such wedding was it worth it? Well I don't know. Cos we all have different perspective of things, I remember when I did mine almost 2 years ago. If you are from akwaibom or you have anyone from that side you would know what I am talking about. My God ! The list my people gave to my husband then was neck breaking, we had to start negotiating on how everything would be done, long story short. The list was endless, was frustrated at some point , But all things working together we came to an agreement and we got married..
So this friend isn't from my side but a Yoruba, but she fixed the traditional and white for two days. Instead of one like we do see many people do nowadays.but alll glory to God she married, yeah!! 😁 😂
So how would you like your wedding to be? If you're married,how did your wedding look like. I am curious 🤨.
Let's talk
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Hi everyone I am treasure by name , though I have had this account for over a year now,I haven't bin able to really come in here, until I stumbled in it again while going through my phone history.
So let's say I am still a newbie,and I also believe I would add impact on this platform also.
It so good to finally be writing again. It's been a while though.
Thanks in advance peepz
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