Peacemaking

She wants you to say "I'm sorry."

There is a fourth side to connectivity that we need to look at very carefully which is Peacemaking. In some ways, it might be most important. If there is a rift, a

conflict, even a sense of tension, you and your wife are not fully at peace, and,

therefore, you can’t really feel connected. Without peace in your relationship,

she doesn’t feel close, she doesn’t feel you’re open, and she certainly thinks

you don’t understand. All this can be traced back to the tension or rift that has

come between you.

This made me to remember a day I felt offended by my husband. I was angry, my countenance went off road 😁😁😁😁 into the bush I guess 😂😂😂😂😂.

I was very unhappy, I felt misunderstood, unloved. That day I wondered if he ever loved me. Yes, it was that bad and it can be made worse if he hadn't come back apologising. It happened in the morning.

During the day, he called to check on me.

I answered not lively as my usual self.

He asked what happened, I said nothing.

Holy Spirit whispered to my ears to be easy on myself but I was just too pained.

He returned in the evening and on seeing my face, he asked what happened to me.

I was like, are you kidding me? Me that I have almost lost myself to anger and you are here asking what happened to me.

He didn't realise I got offended. And that brings me to a point. Women are easier to notice and pick an offence. Most times, what a man would have overlooked, a woman would not take it lightly.

To cut the long story short, he apologised and immediately my countenance came back 😉😀😀😀.

There are many couples who are divorced today because the husband could not say "I'm sorry."

Some men find it difficult to apologise to their wives thinking they would lose their respect or be seen as weak. This is a deception and it is very far from the truth.

"I'm sorry" is a very powerful word you can't afford to joke with and it can save you from unnecessary trouble, pain or escalated issues.

SHE’LL FEEL AT PEACE WITH YOU WHEN . . .

• you let her vent her frustrations and hurts and don’t get angry and close her

off.

• you admit you are wrong and apologize by saying, “I’m sorry. Will you

forgive me?”

• you understand her natural desire to negotiate, compromise, and defer, and

you meet her halfway.

• you try to keep your relationship “up-to-date,” resolving the unresolved and never saying, “Forget it.”

• you forgive her for any wrongs she confesses.

• you never nurse bitterness and always reassure her of your love.

• you pray with her after a hurtful time.