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YOU Can't Fake Your Identity Understand this *YOU CAN NEVER BE WHAT YOU DON'T IDENTIFY YOURSELF With There are two ways to be a Queen 1) By Birth. I.e Bloodline 2) By Making or Training It doesn't necessarily mean you must be given birth to in a palace before you end up as a queen. Palace in context here doesn't necessarily mean a building where traditional rulers live It's all about THE PLACE OF INFLUENCE AND AUTHORITY Your Domain to Rule Still on IDENTITY Becoming begins from IDENTITY What you carry in your mind about yourself eventually becomes your reality. If all you see and think about yourself is just to finish college, get married, give birth to three kids (2 girls and a boy in particular) and open shop at gbagi or alaba market No matter the opportunities or prophetic declarations over you, the truth is you will still end up at where is on your mind. Miracles don't happen overnight in the aspect of what you become or where you end up at, it builds momentum right from the scratch.I.e what's in your mind about yourself and where you are going I've seen a lady that came from a very poor background, and right from childhood she kept Confessing that THIS IS NOT MY FINAL DESTINATION Men, she suffered o. But still, she kept insisting that she's not gon end up like her parents. She kept looking at herself in the mirror, picturing mansion, first class flights, her own company.... Someone that doesn't even have her own personal room. But she knew her IDENTITY and she stuck with with irregardless of her present circumstances Why this story? Well, it's just to help your Faith tonight beloved. *You can't be it until you see it first* No matter the prophetic utterance over you, the rigorous trainings, the amount you spend If you don't settle the issue of your IDENTITY first, nothing will come to manifestation You can be there temporarily, but trust me, it's just a mirage. It won't last You need to have an answer (a definite, constant and unchanging one) ABOUT WHO YOU ARE Here is a rhetoric for you *DO YOU KNOW WHO YOU ARE?* Psalms 49:20 KJV:Man that is in honour, and understandeth not, is like the beasts that perish. See it here. Bible says a Man that is in Honor but doesn't understand it will still end up perishing like an animal In other words, even though you are something or better still, you have the potential to be something As far as you don't know it, or you can't identify with it IT'S A WASTE So hear this *WHO YOU ARE IS MORE IMPORTANT THAN WHAT YOU DO* I will say that again......WHO YOU ARE IS MORE IMPORTANT THAN WHAT YOU DO Because, at the end, your IDENTITY will Influence and affect your results Your IDENTITY gives meaning to performance. A whole lot of people participate in a competition, but ONLY A BORN CHAMPION WINS You can't claim you want to be a Queen, you can't claim you want to end up at a PALACE without first IDENTIFYING yourself with ROYALTY It doesn't even matter if you only have 3 clothes What matters is What and who you see yourself as when you put on those clothes There are ladies with Hundreds of clothes that just see themselves as ordinary people Whereas, somewhere else, a lady with just 3 clothes will carry herself as a QUEEN. Like she owns a major boutique It's not pride, it's IDENTITY IDENTITY has foresight Pride doesn't Some people will tell you that, forget o...I only have small right now, but trust me, this is not the end Now, that's a positive mindset That's IDENTIFICATION with greatness And then, you see some other people..they will always complain Negative words everytime Poor Mindset Fear of the future There's no amount of Anointing oil that can change that mindset. And trust me, that's what will eventually happen to them. Their greatest fears will always Catch up with them You can't FAKE Identity. You can fake swags, accents, appearance and all. But you can't FAKE Identity IDENTITY comes naturally, but Imitation doesn't. I WANT YOU TO THINK BIG In Fact, Bigger than you use to . And ensure you stay there. Don't take your mind of it. Don't take your gaze off it. Keep thinking it, keep saying it. David was stuck at the backside of the Wilderness, but he's always had that touch and class of Royalty. He never let the situation around his birth discourage him for once Wilderness is Temporary for a King/Queen Palace is Permanent for a King/Queen Don't mistake your wilderness experience for your final destination You are in the making You are in the process Stay there Learn Build capacity Maintain your IDENTITY Keep your eyes on the PALACE, not the Wilderness And I assure you by God's grace, YOUR GREATNESS IS INEVITABLE. Thanks for reading

How The Perfect Offering Have Us Eternal Redemption. First thing you should know is that, Jesus became the substance of the things that the old covenant saints hoped for and practiced in shadows…. He was the very manifestation of the reality which the old covenant guys saw in shadows. These old covenant men had genuine need for a relationship with God but they didn’t know how God relates with man…. The scripture said, God is a spirit and those that worship him must worship him in spirit and in truth... These men didn’t know this formula hence they got stuck in the shadows…they got stuck in the Law of Moses. And this law of Moses prescribed all manner of carnal ways of relating with the Father. The law of Moses prescribed activities for them. Whereas God only wants to be related through one reality - THE SPIRIT This law among other things prescribed different types of offerings that must be offered to God so that man may have boldness to come into his presence. They offered these sacrifices to God year in year out, so as to feel right with God and have a pure conscience when they approach Him. Yet they couldn’t achieve this authentic intimacy we now enjoy in Christ. They offered those things to God so as to have boldness to enter into his presence, but none of them ever qualified to enter into of holy of holies...except the high priest, who doesn't also enter without his own offering. What a cumbersome system With all their offerings they couldn't enter the holy of holies...but WE by faith in the perfect offering we were BORN in the holy of holies. I'll show you how Jesus came into the scene and fulfilled the law by becoming the perfect offering. He shut all other doors and became the ONLY WAY through which mankind can have access to the spirit of God thereby enjoying intimacy with the father. I will go straight to the point here and tell us what the offering of Jesus achieved for mankind which makes it the perfect offering that pleased the father. It is the perfect offering because there was no offering like it, none like it now and none will ever be like it. It is perfect. But before I get into that it will interest you to know that there were five major offerings offered to God by the old covenant saints, in their bid to feel accepted in the sight of divinity. I will mention these five offerings, I will briefly explain them and we will see how Jesus fulfilled them. 1. The Burnt Offering The burnt offering is the OLAH, which means ASCENDING. This was an offering that represented their total surrender and devotion to God. It is an offering of “Lord I am yours”. Offering yourself to God in total devotion of heart. Jesus on the cross became our burnt offering when he presented his body as a sacrifice unto God to become our way of devotion to God... And now by faith in him we have become a sweet smelling incense unto God. Our devotion to God is NOT BECAUSE we behaved well or prayed well, but because we are now the body of Christ by faith. Jesus on the cross offered his body as a burnt offering to God, and now he has made us his body by faith. This burnt offering is fulfilled in Christ and we enter into it by faith. We don't need to offer anything to show devotion to God...rather we believe that in Christ we are already God's! 2. The Grain Offering The grain offering people offered to God was their substance of worship. It was a voluntary expression of devotion to God, *recognizing His goodness and providence*. Jesus’ body on the cross is our symbol of worship to God. When God looks upon that sacrifice he sees mankind appreciating him for the work of salvation. Our faith in Christ and our consciousness of our oneness with him is our worship. Because of Jesus’ sacrifice, our worship and thanksgiving is eternally acceptable to God. There is no worship of God outside Christ. Worship is just our intimacy with God through Christ. 3. The Peace Offering The peace offering is also known as the communion offering. This offering assured them communion with God because they believed that when it is offered they have procured peace with God. Jesus became our peace offering on the cross. Scripture said in *Colossians 1:20*, "and through him God reconciled everything to himself. He made peace with everything in heaven and on earth by means of Christ’s blood on the cross”. So you see, God is at peace with mankind because of the sacrifice of jesus. *Mankind will experience this peace by faith* 4. The Sin Offering The sin offering was for atonement for sin. Atonement means to cover. On the cross, Him who knew no sin was made sin that we may be made the righteousness of God in Christ. On the cross Jesus didn’t just cover sin *He took it away.* He fulfilled what John the Baptist said, “lamb of God who takes away the sin of the world”…the sin of mankind was remitted by the sacrifice of Christ, those who believe come into the newness of life. I'm taking time to show us how Jesus fulfilled all these old covenant offerings... By his death on the cross. The fifth offering Jesus fulfilled by the offering of HIMSELF is.. 5. The Guilt Offering This is also known as trespass offering. It is a type of offering made for something one owes on account of a “sin.”. The purpose of this offering was to make reparations for one’s sin. Jesus became our guilt offering, for in him we are justified. On the cross his death paid everything mankind owed on account of sin. We no longer do penance or restitution for sin, because sin has been dealt with by the cross in totality and we owe the devil nothing! The price was fully paid and even an overpayment. So we are free from the guilt of sin in our conscience. When we remember what Jesus did we see freedom from guilt and condemnation. You don't need to wish you never committed that fornication...don't bat yourself up because there is nothing the devil has on you, old things are past away and all things are new. Let us look at the ingredients that makes Jesus’ sacrifice on the cross *a perfect offering to God*. Let us examine what the cross accomplished, it is from there we will know exactly the reason why we say his offering is the perfect offering. 1) On the cross, Jesus offered a sacrifice such that God will remember sins no more Hebrews 8:12, “for I will be merciful to their unrighteousness and their sins and lawless deeds I will remember no more” In the old covenant, Their sins forgiven were NOT taken away and remembered no more, that is why scripture says that *"in those sacrifices there is a reminder of sins year by year"* So the more those guys in the old covenant offered their bulls and goats, it was brought to their remembrance that they are wretched sinners. However the cross changed the game… Christ offered himself as our perfect offering and in that we have forgiveness of sins in which there is NO MORE remembrance of sin. God no longer remembers sin, he doesn’t know what sin is any longer just because of this perfect offering Christ offered to him on calvary’s tree. I can humbly say that *the blood of Christ removed God's ability to remember sin.* This is why we can say, your sins, present past and future is forgiven and thrown away. All that men now need is eternal life so as to express Gods kingdom. Sin is no longer something that can hinder man from accessing God, but men must believe the gospel unto eternal life. Just believe. 2) The offering Christ offered as our high priest was not with a substitute but of his own blood *Hebrews 9:12,* “Neither by the blood of goats and calves, but by his own blood he entered in once into the holy place, having obtained eternal redemption for us” The emphasis here is *"his own blood"*. The priests of old offered the blood of animals which was a substitute that could not even purify the worshippers...because it was a shadow and you can't hold a thing by it's shadow. Only the blood of Christ could purify. It is a known fact that without the shedding of blood there is no remission of sins, according to scriptures. Forgiveness required a sacrifice of blood. The people in the old covenant thought that the sacrifice of animals could obtain forgiveness for them, but they didn’t know it was just a shadow of christs offering, the perfect offering. The only reason the blood of bulls gave them atonement was because it foreshadowed the perfect sacrifice of christs blood. Atonement like I said doesn't mean purifcation or remission...it means to cover. So the sins where still there, only covered. Until the perfect offering came and removed it out of sight. Only the blood of Christ could remit sin and put it out of Gods sight forever. The sacrifice of Christ is perfect because he was the fulfillment of Gods will, for it was the blood of God that was shed. What the blood of animals couldn’t achieve under the law of moses, the blood of Christ in one sweep achieved it under grace. 3) The offering of Christ was a sacrifice for eternal redemption *Hebrews 9:12-15* The Hebrew writer uses the word "eternal" six times in his letter. *He speaks of eternal salvation, eternal judgment, eternal redemption, the eternal Spirit, eternal inheritance, and the eternal covenant. Three of those instances are here (Hebrews 9:12-15). The old sacrifices were temporal, that is to say they were offered and were effective on a week by week, month by month, or year by year basis. They were linked to times and seasons, to new moons and sabbaths. They were tied to time. But faith looks to an "eternal inheritance" that is "a heavenly one" which exists beyond earthly time and space The perfect offering have us ETERNAL REDEMPTION... This means that the effect of Christ's sacrifice affects past present and future age. It is called *eternal redemption and it is therefore greater than the deeds of man, for only faith can see it and receive it.* The sacrifice of Christ was timely made, however its effect transcends time. Even when time itself is no more, the redemption we have through Christ’s sacrifice will remain. Meditate on this one specially. 4) The offering of Christ is a sacrifice to fully cleanse the conscience This one is very important! *Hebrews 9:9,14*” Which was a figure for the time then present, in which were offered both gifts and sacrifices, that could not make him that did the service perfect, as pertaining to the conscience;… How much more shall the blood of Christ, who through the eternal Spirit offered himself without spot to God, purge your conscience from dead works to serve the living God?” Here we are looking at how man can become "perfect in conscience" and come near to God in "full assurance" that his heart is "sprinkled clean from an evil conscience". In the old covenant, the worshippers offering the old sacrifices still had sin in their conscience and consciousness. The sacrifice of Christ being the perfect offering, doesn’t just wipe your sin, it also cleanses your conscience from dead works...so that guilt doesn't stay there thereby producing more failures in the natural. You know when we manifest "dead works/works of the flesh" it makes our conscience feel guilty and if you are not careful you will see yourself as a wretched sinner, and condemnation sets in. But scripture says, “if your heart condemns you God is greater than your heart”. Yes, the perfect offering is greater than the accusation in your conscience. Jesus became your guilt offering remember? So in the midst of the accusations from your conscience, you can still rise up and scream, *I am righteous in Christ*. Oh what a perfect offering he became for us 5) His offering was perfect, made once for all *Hebrews 10:10-14*, "By the which will we are sanctified through the offering of the body of Jesus Christ once for all. And every priest standeth daily ministering and offering oftentimes the same sacrifices, which can never take away sins: But this man, after he had offered one sacrifice for sins for ever, sat down on the right hand of God; From henceforth expecting till his enemies be made his footstool. For by one offering he hath perfected for ever them that are sanctified” Heavy scripture here! Imagine that there was a way you could wash your car once, and wont need to wash it again forever…yet your car will remain neat and sparkling despite where you drive? Just imagine that. In the Old Testament times, the sacrifices and ceremonies performed for cleansing from sin had to be repeated over and over. Christ’s sacrifice was a once and for all offering. That is why no matter how many works of the flesh we fall into, we offer no sacrifices for sin... *Only a perfect offering can be ONCE FOR ALL.* Once For all times and all people! The offering of Jesus is the perfect offering that pleased God for all time and for all mankind... Meaning... Jesus wont need to die again anytime you “sin”(commit works of the flesh). Jesus wont have to die again before anyone gets saved. His sacrifice was perfect for all eternity. By this offering we have being made *complete in Him* And our completion is for all eternity. What shall make us incomplete? Jesus already died and ressurected....and for this He said, I will never leave not forsake you...He said, I will abide with you forever. His perfect offering is our eternal salvation and security. Thanks for reading

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Why Woman Is God's Plan. Society makes up rules as to who a woman can be and what she can do, but God has a plan for our lives - a plan that is not limited by society. How apt is this message today, as we hear of fellow sisters being raped and tortured in the hands of unscrupulous police officers? It just reminds us that we who are alive, who are free, must not allow what people will say to get in the way of our destiny (the Lord's plan for us. What does the bible says about woman's place? In the beginning, God created women in His image, just like He created man in His image (Genesis 1:27) What does this tell us about a woman's place? That we are representatives of God! What's my point here? That as a woman, our bodies can sometimes be reduced to sexual objects that exist only for a man's pleasure. But we are not. We are created to be representatives of God! The Lord created us to be images of Him, which means that we have a place in His grand plan. I once heard the summary of a teaching where the person said that God did not initially mean to create women. That he only created women as an afterthought. But this verse Genesis 1:27, this verse shows us that God intended to create females and in fact, did set the foundation for females/women to be created. On the same day he created males, he created females too! We were not afterthought. You were not an afterthought. You were planned. God has a plan for you! So, finally, what does the Bible say (Genesis 1) about a women's place? That she's just as valuable to God as a man! That she is just as integral to God's plan as a man! I will end with this verse: "There is neither Jew nor Gentile, neither slave nor free, nor is there male and female, for you are all one in Christ Jesus." (Galatians 3:28). See Amplified translation; AMP:There is [now no distinction] neither Jew nor Greek, there is neither slave nor free, there is not male and female; for you are all one in Christ Jesus. We are all members of the One body and God has a plan for you. Thanks for reading

Marry Someone Whose Real Weight You Can Carry Till Death Do You Part. One of my neighbors where I work has a cute adorable little daughter, Six months of exclusive baby friendly has left this little girl quite Chubby. The first thing that would come to your mind when you see this little child would be to carry her. So cute, cute smile, chubby cheeks and all. But then after a minute or two of holding her, you wlll begin to notice her weight, Your hand would begin to grow weary, weak, soon you'll be numb in that hand, You'll probably switch her to the second hand, in another five minutes your both hands will be crying for freedom and salvation. You'll be very quick to hand her over to any other person around, and where there is none you'll simply return her to her mom (who will not be very quick to take her from you) The next time you visit, between me and you, you will think twice before you carry the baby. I assure you. **************************** You see, Just as anyone who sees that cute baby for the first time will be so eager to hold her, and after having a feel of her real weight become eager to hand her back to her mom So also when it comes to Relationships When we meet people for the first time, or first start a relationship They seem so easy going from afar, The attraction is high We are elated, excited and feel so alive A few dates at very nice locations, They behave well on dates and when they visit Everything is so nice and perfect We are so happy to be with someone We flaunt them all over the place, telling all who care to listen we are "in a Relationship" Especially where they are good looking BUT as time goes on, we begin to feel their weight on our hands As the Relationship progresses, we start noticing their real weight Their financial weights, Their spiritual weights, Their emotional weight, Their character weights How they are impatient, stubborn, violent, how they have anger issues, proud, authoritative, unforgiving, intolerant, insufferable... Etc And then we start seeking to return back to our initial freedom, we start wishing we could drop them. **************************** Hear Me Do not be in a hurry to say I DO to anybody till you have felt their weight and it is something you can carry for the rest of your life. **************************** Do not be in a hurry to skip friendship and jump into courtship, and skip courtship to the ship of Marriage... **************************** Get to know them first Hang around them for a little longer to see how you fare with their weight aside from their looking good and adorable Time always reveals peoples real weight, Time will always reveal MOTIVE, CONTENT, CHARACTER, STRENGTH AND WEAKNESSES Do not be in a Hurry You'll never know the real weight of people till you have carried them for a while. Prayerfully Study and observe People before you commit to anything with them Reduce your "had I known" Marriage is a life time commitment Don't rush into it or you may just find yourself rushing out. **************************** Marry someone whose real weight you can carry till death do you part. *************************** Thanks for reading

Friendship: Why You Should Maximize Your Cycle. To me a friend is a person you know well and regard with trust. Friendship have to do with *knowing and trust*. It also mean an associate who provides cooperation or assistance. Or a person with whom you are acquainted. To maximize means to make the most of a thing, to take useful advantage of something. In knowing how to maximize your cycle, we will be looking at the types of friends. You as an individual will also know the type of friend you are. Also when you know the type of friends, you will know the category where your current friends belong and how to go about it. Type of friends Commensalist Friends. This is the type of friends/friendship where one part or one person obtains care, ideas, food (spritual and physical) support,helps or shelter from the other friend. In this type of friendship, it's only one person *(Friend A)* that provides everything that *friend B* need. All what friend B is doing is depending on friend A. Without rendering any support. Parasitic friends You see this type of friends/friendship sends the victim to zero. (back to zero point). Chop and clean mouth. The parasitic friends nourishes him/herself to the disadvantage of the other friend. These are friends that issue of life can't be trusted with, because they either help to announce (blow) it to world or use it against you. This type of friends don't see the things of the spirit as a must. The Spiritual, physical,mental,fiancial,moral,academic growth of their friends is non of their business. Everything about them is *me, myself and I* Parasitic friends are birthed from corruptible seeds(earthly/material things). They are always not available when you need them to help mostly especially in prayers/fasting. Now to the type of friend, I wish we could and will become. A Mutual friend Is where both friends *(friend A and Friend B)* benefits from the friendship. I love and cherish this type of friends 💯. Friends like blood, like a family. Sincerely this is the best type of friendship to keep, where iron sharpens iron. When you are slumbering spiritually and your friend is tapping/waking you. Where you are succor to each other. Where you both celebrate the good times and other times. A type of friendship where you complete one another. Mutual friends sometimes are more caring, concerned than relatives (but blood is thicker than water so don't neglect your relatives because you have a mutual friend ). And that the case of David and Jonathan. I so much love their friendship. 1 samuel 20. But let's look at some verses Verse 3 : And David sware moreover, and said, Thy father certainly knoweth that I have found grace in thine eyes; and he saith, Let not Jonathan know this, lest he be grieved: but truly as the LORD liveth, and as thy soul liveth, there is but a step between me and death. Verse 4 :Then said Jonathan unto David, Whatsoever thy soul desireth, I will even do it for thee. Mutual friends will always do anything to keep you in line/Gods path Verse 9: And Jonathan said, Far be it from thee: for if I knew certainly that evil were determined by my father to come upon thee, then would not I tell it thee? Now let me ask us this questions 1) What type of friend are you? 2) What type of friends do you keep? 3)What are your plans for your friend Please if you don't have plans for your friends. Please start having one now. Plans/mind that even your generations will benefit from. Plans in which both of you will be solutions to generations. 1) Take a genuine interest in them. Dale Carnegie, author of How to Win Friends and Influence People, said, “You can make more friends in two months by becoming interested in other people than you can in two years by trying to get people interested in you.” One of the things that makes friendships sweet,intersting and last long is having interest in whatever you friend is doing. And that is why it's good to make friends/have friends with the same mind. As you listen to and show an interest in what is important to a friend, you begin to truly love and understand them. Every person (friend)has an invisible sign around his or her neck that reads, “I want to feel important.” Everyone has something to offer this world. We need to search for it, find it, and bring it to the surface. 2) Be a giver, not a taker Ask not what your friends can give to you but rather what you can give to your friends. What can we give to others? ... This reminds me of one of my neighbors then, this sister's smile always make happy. Shes always smiling How about a smile, a kind word, a listening ear, help with an errand, a prayer, an encouraging note, a meal e.t.c. We can come up with many things to give others if we are willing to be attentive to their needs. To know someone’s needs, you must take a genuine interest in the person first. Giving may take time. It may take us out of our way. But giving and self-sacrifice are part of the definition of love. 3) Be loyal. Loyalty is a rare commodity in today’s world, but it’s an absolute requirement in true and abiding friendships. When we are loyal to one friend, we prove ourselves worthy of many. One way we show our loyalty is through our words or lack thereof. In fact, a key to being loyal is keeping a tight rein on our tongues. If we’re loyal, we won’t tear a friend down behind her back or share her personal story without her permission. It’s easy to gossip or pass judgment; it’s much harder to keep silent. Marsh Sinetar said: “When you find yourself judging someone, silently say to yourself, ‘They are doing the best they can right now.’ Then mentally forgive yourself for judging.” As positive women, we need to make sure our tongues are used for good and not evil. We should be builders with our words, not demolishers. Jealousy, envy, and a range of other negative emotions can keep us from being loyal. But true loyalty overcomes all of them. Let's look at Jonathan and David. Jonathan had reason to be jealous of his friend, David. Jonathan was King Saul’s son and in line to succeed his father to the throne, but God anointed David to be the next king instead. At the same time, David easily could have been angry with Jonathan. Jonathan’s father, the king, chased David out of the country and tried to kill him. Yet these two men pledged their loyalty in friendship and never wavered from it. Eventually Jonathan saved David’s life, and David continued to show his loyalty to his friend by watching out for Jonathan’s son. Jealousy, envy, bitterness, and anger are all sisters in sin and killers of loyalty in relationships. But if we continually take these emotions to God and ask for his help in overcoming them, we can remain loyal to our friends through the thick and thin of life. 4) Be a positive person. We all want our friendships to be positive and uplifting and that means we must be positive and uplifting friends ourselves. It has been said that there are two kinds of people: those who brighten the room when they enter, and those who brighten the room when they leave. Let’s make sure we’re brightening our friendships with our presence. Positive women demonstrate an attitude and a spirit that sees God at work in all of life and encourages others to see him too. They are generous with praise, with smiles, and with love. Francis Bacon said: “Friendship doubles joys and halves griefs.” 5) Appreciate the differences in others. Variety is the spice of life. God created people with a variety of personalities, talents, and interests. Each one of us is a unique creation. Mixed together we blend to form the body of Christ. I always wonder why instead of appreciating our differences as friends, we tend to despise them or become jealous of them? 6) Build on common interests. I want us to know that there are things that brings friends together in the first place. There is usually something that draws us to others. It can be Bible study, been in the same unit in the church/ or same department in school/work place e.t.c Therefore we should build on what brings about our friendship. 7) Be open, honest, and real. The word hypocrite originally described actors on a stage who covered their faces with masks to conceal their real identities. Today the word describes people who pretend to be something they’re not. True friendship cannot be built on false images. We must be true to ourselves. We may think we have to present a faultless picture of ourselves to the rest of the world, because no one wants to be friends with someone who is not perfect! We simply need to be our best selves and allow people to know the real us. Being open and honest doesn’t mean spilling our guts to everyone. As we already know, loyalty is a rare commodity; when we find it, we know we have a friend we can trust someone with whom we can share openly about our deepest issues and feelings George Washington said *"“Be courteous to all, but intimate with few; and let those few be well tried before you give them your confidence. True friendship is a plant of slow growth and must undergo and withstand the shocks of adversity before it is entitled to the appellation.”* Pastor Segun Onayinka said "Always be grateful for that friendship that covers your shame and inadequacies. It's worth the whole world and very rare these days". Be that friend too Thanks for reading

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Why Alcohol Isn't A Sin Is drinking alcoholic a sin in the bible? It is not a sin to drink alcohol.. If you should drink, it ought to be in moderation... And not to the point of being drunk, else you face the consequences of being a drunk Simple abstain and be filled with the Holy Spirit. Stop trying to justify. When u know the difference between sin and works of the flesh u won't mix things up. Ephesians 5:18-19 And *be not drunk with wine, wherein is excess;* but *be filled with the Spirit;* Speaking to yourselves in psalms and hymns and spiritual songs, singing and making melody in your heart to the Lord; Paul prescribed a little wine to as a medication to Timothy and not a means of justifying alcohol 1 Timothy 5:23 Drink no longer water, but *use a little wine for thy stomach's sake* and *thine often infirmities.* Is the motive that counts . Verse 18 says: Don’t be drunk with wine, because that will ruin your life. Instead, be filled with the Holy Spirit, Ephesians 5:18 Sin is denying Christ Jesus as Lord and Saviour Wisdom, Knowledge and Understanding.. is a very Powerful tool. I believe we all know what the English word used (drunk) means. (It means excess taken of alcohol) I am not saying this because i am a lover of alcohol, of course not. Let not create unnecessary fear in the minds of people that drinks, like that is an hindrance to making heaven, Leaving the true message untold. N.B. It wasn't sobo our Lord Jesus Christ was taken before been label as a drunker, because he was actually eating and drinking with the unbelievers. Let me make it clear that Christ actually drink alcohol "let go back to the bible please" LET IT BE UNTO YOU ACCORDING TO YOUR BELIEVE. I don't drink alcoholic drinks and I don't condemned those that drink also. I know that excesses of alcohol is bad. Romans 14:15-23 [15]And if another believer is distressed by what you eat, you are not acting in love if you eat it. Don’t let your eating ruin someone for whom Christ died. [16]Then you will not be criticized for doing something you believe is good. [17]For the Kingdom of God is not a matter of what we eat or drink, but of living a life of goodness and peace and joy in the Holy Spirit. [18]If you serve Christ with this attitude, you will please God, and others will approve of you, too. [19]So then, let us aim for harmony in the church and try to build each other up. [20]Don’t tear apart the work of God over what you eat. Remember, all foods are acceptable, but it is wrong to eat something if it makes another person stumble. [21]It is better not to eat meat or drink wine or do anything else if it might cause another believer to stumble. [22]You may believe there’s nothing wrong with what you are doing, but keep it between yourself and God. Blessed are those who don’t feel guilty for doing something they have decided is right. [23]But if you have doubts about whether or not you should eat something, you are sinning if you go ahead and do it. For you are not following your convictions. If you do anything you believe is not right, you are sinning. Let me share what happen today I met a good boy putting on earring on his ear alot of people has talk to him but he refused to listen, then I ask the person he was working with he told me he has been talking to him but he refuse to listen. I know this boy for sometime now he is good but his mood of dressing you with think he belong to a cult. So I went close to him an preach to him and immediately he listen and remove the earring. Some minutes letter some came in and accused him for what cult boys did before while he was not among them, until when he mentioned who is mother was before the man believe him. Why? Because of his mood of dressing. What am I trying to say....... What am I trying to say we don't just meet people and this is a sin you are sinning etc . Or meet people and say alcohol is a sin, you are sinning etc Check the drugs we take, alcohol is there... Even in some cakes, bread alcohol is present. Don't just drink to the detriment of your health if you can't say No to it. Thanks

How To Help Children With Autism Spectrum Disorder Autism is mostly common in children and early intervention is the key to improve the Health look for a child with autism. In this article we will be looking at what autism means, causes of autism, and possible solutions to safe a child from autism. Autism according to the medical dictionary is a serious developmental disorder that impairs the ability to communicate and interact. Autism spectrum disorder impacts the nervous system. More than 100000 cases autism is recorded per year in the world. Chronic autism can last for two years or more. The behavioral symptoms of autism spectrum disorder (ASD) often appear early in development. Many children show symptoms of autism by **12** months to **18** months of age or earlier. Autism problem can't be cure with medicines but some treatments which we are going to discuss in this article can help to safe a child from autism. The range and severity of symptoms can vary widely. Common symptoms includes; 1) Difficulty with communication 2) Difficulty with social interactions 3) Obsessive interests and repetitive behaviours. 4) Delay in learning to speak 5) Shyness 6)Disturbed behavior 7) Abnormal tone of voice The earlier you as a parent recognize these signs in your children, the safer it will be for them. There are different categories of Autism. **Autistic Disorder** **Pervasive Developmental Disorder** **Childhood Disintegrative Disorder** **Asperger Syndrome** The major causes of Autism is not really specified but researches made us know that Autism is caused by abnormalities in brain function. Brain scans show differences in the shape and structure of the brain in children with autism compared to in neuro typical children. The moment you noticed that your child is not responding to their name,not smiling when you smile at them or getting very upset if they do not like a certain smell, taste or sound.... Then you need to start giving them support development because medically, all these can't be treated. Now How Do We Help Children With Autism. 1) Medical Workup Parents are advised to take their children for a complete medical examination so that some behavior problems associated with Autism like temper tantrums can be reduced if physical problems common in children with Autism like gastrointestinal issues and allergies are alleviated. 2) Gluten Free And Casein Free Diet According to Wikipedia, Gluten-free casein-free diet, also known as gluten-free dairy-free diet, is a diet that does not include the proteins gluten, and casein. A gluten-free diet is a diet that strictly excludes gluten, which is a mixture of proteins found in wheat, as well as barley, rye, and oats. Put your child on a gluten free, casein Free Diet which means no barely, rye, oats, wheat or dairy. Many families of children with Autism have had good results because the diet is followed without exceptions. To make sure your child is getting the proper nutrients despite the restrictions, consult a nutritionist or dietian. 3) Therapy Behavioural, educational and family therapies may reduce symptoms and support development and learning. Get your child sensory integration therapy so as to make them sensitive to light, sound, touch etc. You can get them a therapist that specializes in upbringing of children with skills. Speech therapy is very important. Get your child with speech therapy as soon as you noticed. If your child is non verbal, then used Pictures Exchange Communication System that uses picture card for easy recognition. Try other therapies, most children with Autism get recoverd quickly through the help of combined therapies. 4) Floor Exercise. Here, the parents should get on the floor with the child and mimic the behavior of the child like how the child play so as to encourage them to have fun and join other children when playing. 5) School Enrollment Allow the child to mingle with others kids by enrolling the child as soon as he or she clock three years to school. With all these gradual steps,the child will do away with all the autism signs. Remember nothing good comes easy, help your child, help your neighbors children to get rid of autism in children. Thanks for reading...

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Learn A Lesson In Life Have you ever thought about this, we live in an unbalanced life, some are wealthy why some are poor. To be wealthy in life is not about brilliance. Some are brilliant and are not wealthy. Some are wealthy and yet not brilliant. Brilliance is not a prerequisite for wealth. To be wealthy is a rare chance that arrests a golden opportunity. Everything isn't equal, still that doesn't makes us stay idle because of life. Life is sweet if only we take life as a sweet. Sometimes people come into your life and you know right away that they were meant to be there, to serve some sort of purpose, teach you a lesson, or to help you figure out who you are or who you want to become. You never know who these people may be a roommate, a neighbor, a professor, a friend, a lover, or even a complete stranger but when you lock eyes with them, you know at that very moment they will affect your life in some profound way. Sometimes things happen to you that may seem horrible, painful, and unfair at first, but in reflection you find that without overcoming those obstacles you would have never realized your potential, strength, willpower, or heart. Illness, injury, love, lost moments of true greatness, and sheer stupidity all occur to test the limits of your soul. Without these small tests, whatever they may be, life would be like a smoothly paved straight flat road to nowhere. It would be safe and comfortable, but dull and utterly pointless. The people you meet who affect your life, and the success and downfalls you experience, help to create who you are and who you become. Even the bad experiences can be learned from. In fact, they are sometimes the most important ones. If someone loves you, give love back to them in whatever way you can, not only because they love you, but because in a way, they are teaching you to love and how to open your heart and eyes to things. If someone hurts you, betrays you, or breaks your heart, forgive them, for they have helped you learn about trust and the importance of being cautious to whom you open your heart. Make every day count. Appreciate every moment and take from those moments everything that you possibly can for you may never be able to experience it again. Talk to people that you have never talked to before, and listen to what they have to say. Let yourself fall in love, break free, and set your sights high. Hold your head up because you have every right to. Tell yourself you are a great individual and believe in yourself, for if you don’t believe in yourself, it will be hard for others to believe in you. You can make anything you wish of your life. Create your own life and then go out and live it with absolutely no regrets. And if you love someone tell them, for you never know what tomorrow may have in store. Learn a lesson in life each day that you live! Today is the tomorrow you were worried about yesterday. Think About it? Was it worth it? Thanks for reading.

My Special Advice To All Women Women are meant for building up each family, each home, each community, each organization and the whole national at large. To all ladies, Married and Singles,Young and adult....Listen up ladies.....Don't be the wife that stands by her husband in times of problems, rather be that wife that gets problems out of his way,why stand by him in solidarity when you can kneel & do the needful? Slot of women always wait for their husbands alone to give solutions to problems which is quite wrong, women are to serve as a pillar for their husbands. Be the praying wife, be the caring wife. He called you & said; Honey, I just lost the contract that we invested all our savings on. Don't start shouting; What? How manage? What happened? Oh my God! Just tell him; it is OK Darling, we will find the lost contract and go on your knees, get the contract back for him! You married a Pastor? Don't wait until scandal has eaten him up before standing by him, stay at d gate! No Jezebel should get your king! Be a praying queen. He doesn't just get married to you to enjoy the palace pleasures. Imagine, after years of marriage, nothing changed positively in your home? Then retreat, get on your knees, as a wife, you are a good thing & whoever finds you walked into favor with God. Be the wailing and a warrior wife. Deborah was not just a wife, she was a prophetess, a judge & a warrior. Even if you think you married an idiot "in your ignorance", don't die lamenting. Get on your knees and restore his head back to factory setting. You can't be wrong twice! Its is good to package so that he won't cheat, It is good to cook well so that he won't look outside, It is 'better' to be submissive so that he adores you, but it is 'best' to kneel on his behalf until you ward off danger. As a wife, slay in the kitchen, Slay in the bedroom, Slay in your dress sense, Slay in your intelligence, But slay more on your knees. Be your husband's prayer alarm. Until your son says; I want a wife as my mother, you didn't get it right as a mother! Be a virtuous wife. No matter how romantic you are, if you are not romantic in the place of prayer, get ready for rheumatism. Woman, you are not just a wife and a mother, you are also a minister. Let your lips be painted with prayer not the lipstick. If you know the power of praying the word, you will keep your territory under intense heat. Be your husband's retreat center. Be a good woman indeed! Be happy all the time. Learn to deal up your mouth amidst friends concerning your home. Be a cheerful giver, don't let people start giving you unpleasant names, be an adviser, be a solution provider. You will not fail as a woman, mother and wife in marriage. This article is to safe women in their marriages. Don't give in to divorce when you are the problem. Thanks for reading.

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Bad Habits Parents Should Put An End To. In this world we have both the good parents and the bad parents giving birth to children. What hurt me the most is that the bad ones has almost dominated the good ones.. what to do then? The only thing to do is to teach all parents generally and call their attention to some things in which they think they are less important. Let me say this, your children are looking at you and in one way or the other they will showcase everything they've learnt from you as a parents. If you teach them the right thing or you do the right thing in front of them, they will surely practice the same and it you do the wrong things, they will stick with them in the nearest future. In this article, am going to analyze some things or behaviors parents should end if they want their children to be of good behavior both in the home and outside. Don't forget, children are the gifts from God placed in your hands. FIRSTLY: UNNECESSARY ARGUMENTS You see, a lot of parents fight in front of their kids and which is very bad. Don't argue in front of your child because regular arguments can traumatized your children psychologically and lead to slow down in their development speech defects, nightmares, aggressions and being too quite. Constant arguments might become a normal thing for them. Do you know what? In the future they will treat others in the same way. Never let an argument turn into a fight. If a father raises his fist to a mother, the child will hate all men in the future. The best thing to do if a conflict is brewing, restrain yourself, go somewhere else and cool off. Don't make a mistake to insult or threatens each other in front of your children. If an argument occurs, explain to your children why it happened and convince them that everything is okay now and it won't happen again. In future, the child will develop the same kind of relationships as they saw in their childhood. SECONDLY: SPANKING Let's start like this.. What is spanking? According to the Dictionary, spanking means to beat, smack or slap a person's buttocks, with the bare hand or other object, as punishment. Don't spank your child because it doesn't work. Children imitate their parents and will also resolve their problems with force in the future. Spanking reduces children self esteem. They feel worthless and lonely. Infact, hitting a child is a crime, how is a child different from other people? Spanking destroys relationships Listen, the child you are spanking as a parent, will give in out of Feelings for fear. The fear will pass, trusts in their parents will disappear. The best thing to do is that if you spank your child apologize and explain why you lost control. The aim of punishment is not to make children feel pain, but to explain why you are upset with their actions. THIRDLY: SMOKING Apart from smoking is detrimental to the health of the smoker, smoking can also affect people around you. Smoking in front of your children is very bad and may affect them physically and mentally. Below, is what smoking in front of your children may cause; 1) It may reduces their lung functioning due to inhalation. 2) Passive smoking kills brain cells 3) Damages the functioning of the heart due to inhalation. 4) Lowers immunity 5) Slow down mental development 6) Slow down physical development. Remember, your children follows after your foot steps. The follow the example of adults. Don't be surprised if they start smoking early. Give up smoking for the sake of your kids. FOURTLY: LIES As a parent, it is very bad when you lie about little things. Don't be amazed when you see your kids telling lies all the times. Make sure you always dim it fit to tell the truth at all times in front of them. There is nothing called white lies, infact who tell you there are types of lies. If you want your children to portray good behavior at home and when outside, then start teaching them from inside. They say charity begins at home. FIFTH: GOSSIPING I will keeps on saying this, children catch up easily.. infact the children of nowadays has a brain that attract things fast. Know what you will say in front of your children. Don't gossip other people matters in front of them because they will do it. Don't be a talkative parents, talk less and say something that will benefit the child. A child will grow up one day and shows everything they've learnt from you. In conclusion, stick to this, for a child, their parents are a model to be imitated, be a good example to your children. A word is enough for a wise. Thanks for reading...

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Repent From Wrong Teachings I want to start with dictionary definition of the word *Repentance* Repentance [n.]: The act of repenting, or the state of being penitent; sorrow for what one has done or omitted to do; especially, contrition for sin. The word repentance could also means having a sense of remorse for one's wrong doing. But it is not just to feel remorseful for one's wrong doing. True repentance also calls for a turn around and a decision to change. When John the Baptist was preaching repentance,he was telling people not only to feel remorseful for their wrong doing,but to also prepare to accept Jesus Christ as the Lamb of God who had come to take away the sins of the world. Luke 3: 2. Annas and Caiaphas being the high priests, the word of God came unto John the son of Zacharias in the wilderness. 3. And he came into all the country about Jordan, preaching the baptism of repentance for the remission of sins; John's baptized people unto repentance but they could only receive the forgiveness of sin through Jesus. That was why John never said to anyone "your sins are forgiven you". But when Jesus came on the scene and began His ministry,He went about forgiving people their sins, and that didn't go well with the Pharisees. Mark 2: 1. And again he entered into Capernaum, after some days; and it was noised that he was in the house. 2. And straightway many were gathered together, insomuch that there was no room to receive them, no, not so much as about the door: and he preached the word unto them. 3. And they come unto him, bringing one sick of the palsy, which was borne of four. 4. And when they could not come nigh unto him for the press, they uncovered the roof where he was: and when they had broken it up, they let down the bed wherein the sick of the palsy lay. 5. When Jesus saw their faith, he said unto the sick of the palsy, Son, thy sins be forgiven thee. 6. But there were certain of the scribes sitting there, and reasoning in their hearts, 7. Why doth this man thus speak blasphemies? who can forgive sins but God only? 8. And immediately when Jesus perceived in his spirit that they so reasoned within themselves, he said unto them, Why reason ye these things in your hearts? 9. Whether is it easier to say to the sick of the palsy, Thy sins be forgiven thee; or to say, Arise, and take up thy bed, and walk? 10. BUT THAT YE MAY KNOW THAT THE SON OF MAN HATH POWER ON EARTH TO FORGIVE SINS, (he saith to the sick of the palsy,) 11. I say unto thee, Arise, and take up thy bed, and go thy way into thine house. 12. And immediately he arose, took up the bed, and went forth before them all; insomuch that they were all amazed, and glorified God, saying, We never saw it on this fashion. Our ministry is not to preach repentance only like old testament prophets,John the Baptist and the Apostles did before Jesus went to the Cross. We can now preach both repentance and forgiveness of sins through Jesus Christ. Meaning,we can now tell people that through Christ, they can now receive the forgiveness of sins. Repentance and REMISSION (removal) of sins are now available through the Gospel. Luke 24: 46. And said unto them, Thus it is written, and thus it behoved Christ to suffer, and to rise from the dead the third day: 47. And that repentance and remission of sins should be preached in his name among all nations, beginning at Jerusalem. Now we don't condemn people,rather we let them know that they can now receive forgiveness of sins and justification from Christ when they believe the Gospel. Now we don't condemn people,rather we let them know that they can now receive forgiveness of sins and justification from Christ when they believe the Gospel. Both the Jews who had the Law and the Gentiles who had no Law needed to believe in the sacrifice of Christ for them to be justified. Acts 13: 38. Be it known unto you therefore, men and brethren, that through this man is preached unto you the forgiveness of sins: 39. And by him all that believe are justified from all things, from which ye could not be justified by the law of Moses. Another meaning of repentance is to change one's mind. Which we can also call the renewing of one's mind. Meaning that a believer who has been wrongly taught or discipled would need to "repent" (renew his mind) and accept Gospel Truth when someone now present it to him. Many Believers need to repent from living by the Law and embrace grace in its entirety. Some preachers and Believers who are busy condemning the unbelievers need to repent from preaching condemnation and start preaching Grace because God didn't give the Church the ministry of accusation and condemnation but THE MINISTRY OF RECONCILIATION, telling people that God is not counting their sins against them. 2 Corinthians 5: 17. Therefore if any man be in Christ, he is a new creature: old things are passed away; behold, all things are become new. 18. And all things are of God, who hath reconciled us to himself by Jesus Christ, and hath given to us the ministry of reconciliation; 19. To wit, that God was in Christ, reconciling the world unto himself, not imputing their trespasses unto them; and hath committed unto us the word of reconciliation. 20. Now then we are ambassadors for Christ, as though God did beseech you by us: we pray you in Christ's stead, be ye reconciled to God. 21. For he hath made him to be sin for us, who knew no sin; that we might be made the righteousness of God in him. Meaning that if we present Gospel correctly to the people and teach them well,they ought to have known from the beginning that one cannot stand on his good works in order to receive help from God. No He must receive everything from God by grace through faith. Ephesians 2:8-9. Many Believers (preachers included) need to repent from dead works (legalism,self righteousness and seed sowing) and embrace grace. So repentance is not only for someone to repent from wicked works,it also means that self righteousness people MUST repent from their self righteousness as well. Romans 10: 1. Brethren, my heart's desire and prayer to God for Israel is, that they might be saved. 2. For I bear them record that they have a zeal of God, but not according to knowledge. 3. For they being ignorant of God's righteousness, and going about to establish their own righteousness, have not submitted themselves unto the righteousness of God. 4. For Christ is the end of the law for righteousness to every one that believeth. Repentance is not only meant for the "wicked", good people and morally upright people who are standing on their self righteousness also need to repent and believe the Gospel. Likewise,those who think that God is punishing them for their wrong doing need to repent from that wrong mindset and receive total forgiveness that Christ has already purchased for them through His sacrifice. We need to repent from wrong doctrines,teachings and beliefs that are contrary to Gospel Truth and embrace the Truth of the Gospel. Thanks for reading..

Helping With Constipation In Both Infants And Adults Constipation is very common in both infants and adults in as much we all eat daily. Constipation can be easily controlled in adults because they know any changes in their body, they know when to use medication, they know when to relax , in short how to feel ease. But in case of babies reverse is the case. Babies only show their pains through crying, not eating, not comfortable because they can't talk. In this article, I will be shedding more light on constipation both in adults and in infants, symptoms and cure. What is constipation? Constipation in simple terms is when the bowel feels hard and it's difficult to defecate. In babies, constipation occurs when the mother notice that the baby is suffering from stomach disorder leading to the baby not passing stools for more than three days. A mother or an individual must be aware of the pattern of their bowel movements and their babies too because constipation especially in babies leads to many problems in which we are going to talk about in this article. Normally, a good working bowel should pass stools at least once per day. Mothers should watch their babies everyday to know when to help the baby because babies muscles are very weak and they can't press themselves properly. So why does constipation occur? Constipation occur due to many reasons in which am going to highlight segment by segment. The major causes of Constipation In Babies Are: 1) Changing Of Milk Constipation occur due to the way a child is fed. Changing the type of milk in terms of formulas can affect the pattern of the babies bowel movement which will somehow leads to the baby been constipated. I advised mothers should make sure that the formula is not affecting their child's bowel movements. 2) Breastfeeding If you are breastfeeding,the mother should take note of the food she eats. The mother shouldn't just eat any how because the baby feed from whatever the mother eat through breastfeeding. Different kinds of foods may affect the babies bowel movement. I advised mother's should endeavor to eat healthy diet because of their own health and because of the little baby. The major Cases of Constipation in Adults Are: 1) Eating Disorder 2) Not drinking enough water 3) Too much stress 4) Pregnancy 5) Taking strong pains medications e.g. iron pills 6) Too much fiber in the diet 7) Resisting the urge to defecate 8) Not working well digestive systems etc. Although constipation is not that serious if you know what to do. Symptoms Of Constipation 1) Bloating 2) Excreting small stools or hard stools or not at all. 3) Stomach disorder 4) Discharging bad fart odours 5) Uncomfortable Feelings like you need help to empty your bowels, such as pressing on your belly or using a finger to remove stool from your bottom. All said. Now let's look at possible solutions to constipation both in babies and in adults. Solutions To Constipation In Babies 1) For babies, after waiting for 30_40 minutes of feeding try baby massaging. You can use Organic Sunflower seed oil, or coconut oil or even olive oil to massage the baby's belly. But always do a patch test to make sure these oil is fine for your babies skin. Don't just jump to use any oil, check is your baby's skin is allergic to a certain oil before use. Paddle your hands from above your baby's navel down towards the hip so as to encourage the air bubbles from the top of the bowel towards the navel line. You can also do side strokes so as to push the air bubbles around the intenstine. Repeat this massage for like 6-10 times after 30 minutes of feeding. 2) Mothers should eat healthy diets so as to prevent constipation in babies 3) Don't change the baby's milk formulas anyhow so as not to cause constipation. Solutions To Constipation In Adults 1) Drink water more each day. Take 1-2 glasses of water 30minutes before eating and 1 glass of water 30minutes after eating so as to aid fast digestion and allow easy stools. Drink warm water early in the morning before jumping into that your heavy breakfast. 2) Even apart from Solution to constipation, fruits is good for the body. If you want to stay healthy,then eat fruits well. You can check my other articles I wrote about fruits intake. Eat Fruits 30minutes before your meals so as to aid easy digestion.👇👇 https://read.cash/@Tonycrux/understanding-the-benefits-of-fruits-and-best-time-to-eat-fruits-ecace05d 3) Exercise. It's good to always exercise the muscles so as to stay fit and prevent constipation. When to do exercise or workouts, it makes your belly muscles very active. 4) Eat healthy diets. Don't just eat anyhow, checkmate your Eating habit all times. I wrote an article on learning about eating foods, please check👇👇 https://read.cash/@Tonycrux/food-is-a-skill-everyone-must-learn-54083e3e You can treat yourself from constipation by adhering to all the Solutions have highlighted above. The only time you can go to the hospital is when your constipation got out of hands. This includes; Seeing blood in your stools Not been able to defecate for more than a week When your constipation brings a lot of belly pains and cramping Unable to eat at all for days Loosing weight abnormally. I hope with this article, you have learnt about constipation, causes, symptoms, solutions for babies and adults. STAY HEALTHY ALWAYS BECAUSE HEALTH IS WEALTH. Thanks for reading..

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Children With Multipotentials When we say multipotentiality, according to wikipedia, it means an educational and psychological term referring to the ability of a person, particularly one of intellectual or artistic curiosity, to excel in two or more different fields. It can also refer to an individual whose interests span multiple fields or areas, rather than being strong in just one. Multipotentiality is common to only few people in our society. In simple terms it means multiple potentials. For instance, you are a teacher, you are are baker and you are a trader....just imagine...you can fit in any job you put your mind into. Lets take a look at an instant where by a kid is good at alot of things, he has high grades in school, he is doing well in soccer team, he is an artist and after school, he works in a pizza restaurant. Everyone around him says he does a great job in every tasks he is assigned to. In short, he is good at lot of different things. But along the line, he couldn't decide on which way to go So why is he so stressed out? Why couldn't he decides on which way to go? Motipotentiality children always turned out to be good at lots of different things but later they will found out that those potentials are not always as fun as they thought. Motipotentiality children when younger, they are always gifted at many things and they are always awesome. They are always loved by people around them because of their gifts and talents. Let me share my story with you, am a very smart girl in my academics, am a fashionista, am a baker and I can plait hair so well.. but you know what? When it's time to work after my college I find it so difficult to choose one because am actually good at everything even it those I haven't learnt about...I like learning new things all the time.. It was so hard for me to make a decision with what to do with my life.. In this article I will share with us how to help children with multiple potentials. Is multiple potentials bad? No... It's good to be talented and be gifted. But the ability to manage and make rightful decisions is the best. To be talented according to the dictionary, means having a natural aptitude or skill for something. It's perfectly normal for a person to have exceptional skills in one area and still struggle in others. Challenges of multipotentialities Individual with multipotentialities is likely to be involved in mulitple hobby and perform well in multiple subjects in academics but in one way or the other faced a lots of challenges. This includes; They may have Difficulty with decision making or following through on life. They may have signs of stress or exhaustion from all those activities they are involved. They may delay or put off decision about college and there future which can have serious consequences. Confusion at a time about what decision to make. How to possibly helped those children going through these challenges They do say 'catch them when they are young '. At young ages it is important to note kids interesting gifts but children grow up there are few things that parents or guidance can do to help. We should always remind our children that they are not limited to one career because many adults have two to three careers throughout their entire life. We should use our leisure activities to continue to develop their abilities and interest. We should organize career counseling as a value based activities exploring broad categories of life satisfaction. Emphasize peer discussion and group work with other multipotentialities kids so that they can all see that they are not alone with the concern. Keep reminding them what is important, it is not good to be jack of all trades. Teach your kids on how to maintain their potentials by reminding children that they can continue to pursue passions and strengths as hobbies, regardless of whether they lead to careers, and keep in mind that an area of passion might not necessarily be in one's greatest area of natural ability.  Thanks for reading.

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When Will A Man Ever Enjoy In Life? When I was a little boy, I was told severally not to give in for enjoyment, rather work hard and face my books. They painted a picture of "don't worry, deny yourself now and enjoy later". This was all I heard from my parents and those ahead of me all through my primary school and secondary school. It was another phase of self denial when I got into the tertiary institution. Coupled with living a Christian life characterized with rigorous fasting, vigil and many other self denials. My enjoyment was further postponed to a future time. After graduation, I had the impression that when I get marry I will rest from some level of self denial. But my dream never materialize. This is the time emphasis is laid on building my future a time I must eat less in other to secure my future and that of my children. The loads and burdens of family began to weigh me down. School fees, family bills and future security won't let me enjoy the little I sweat to make. I have to keep saving from the little I make, while I sacrifice those things my soul earnestly desire. As one begin to climb the ladder of 50, nature begin to deny you some privileges. Those food you like to eat are been taken away from you for health reasons. Strength to enjoy life begin to diminishes at 50. If you have accumulated wealth, others have to help you eat it why you subject yourself to fruits and vegetables. What a life of bitterness. When you have what it takes to enjoy life, you are barred from enjoying just to secure your future. Now you are in the future you sacrificed for but you are been monitored by your doctor. Your diet is streamlined and limited to what the doctor prescribed. When will Eccl.2.24 come to pass? "There is nothing better for a man, than that he should eat and drink, and that he should make his soul enjoy good in his labour. This also I saw, that it was from the hand of God". And Eccl.3.13 "And also that every man should eat and drink, and enjoy the good of all his labour, it is the gift of God". I think there is an error somewhere? Why will a man work all the days of his life without enjoying his labour? This is an error. In an attempt to save money for future they are not sure of, many had gone to their early graves because of malnutrition, self medication and undue self denials. I strongly believe everything in life has a time according to Ecclesiastes 3. There is time for self denials and there is time for enjoyment. A time to give to your soul what it desires. A time to eat good food, wear nice clothes, travel to memorable places and time to make merry. Life is not that long as we think. While working for your future, don't shutdown your present. Eat meat when you have teeth. Wear good clothes when you still have the shape. Have moment dedicated for relaxation. Don't invest all your life working for others. It is an error. Let's start enjoying from here before we enter into everlasting enjoyment that has no end. Some will miss enjoyment here on earth and still miss it hereafter, God forbid. Enjoy your life within the confine of righteousness and feel good. God bless you. Thanks for reading

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Academy Is Not A Yardstick For Children Success I am surprised why quite a number of parents are not impressed with the academic performance of their children. It is so disheartening that some of these parents already have this mentality that the usual mathematics, chemistry and other subjects remains the only yardstick and perhaps, the surest way to the success of their children. What is success? The definition of **success** - is really quite simple: '**Success** is the realization of our dreams, goals, and ideas. ' Since everyone has somewhat different dreams... the achievement of **success** will be related to these individual targets. **Success** means achievement, accomplishment, victory, and triumph.**Success** is very simple to me – I set up a goal, plan the steps required to achieve **it**, and then I implement that plan effectively. I attain **success** once I achieve my goals. https://www.google.com/url?sa=t&source=web&rct=j&url=https://www.natural-health-zone.com/true-meaning-of-success. https://www.google.com/url?sa=t&source=web&rct=j&url=https://www.natural-health-zone.com/true-meaning-of-success.html&ved=2ahUKEwjD7vG666XsAhVDyxoKHY6fBHMQFjAFegQIBBAE&usg=AOvVaw2h8fHBIf7qgAvi79Q96v7A It is true that your expectation over that boy or girl seems great and enormous, however, have you also considered that we live in a technological and digital age where unusual and unexpected positive things are happening? The world is shifting gradually from the conventional academic system and if you as parents are insensitive to this, it will certainly have great adverse effects on your children. It is time you start taking a closer watch at your children, and stop being perturbed about their performance in school subjects. There are lots of things your children are good at, but lack of insensitivity has made you not to see the other side of their brilliance. Listen; intelligence is not limited to academics alone, in fact, research has shown that there are more than 11 categorizations of intelligences. Suffice to say, school has limited and restricted the creative flow of many school children without knowing, and this is because school focuses only one side of learning which is the learning of the head. So, if indeed you are serious about the success of your children, please find time to sit with them, brainstorm and rub minds with them, ask them personal, professional and technical questions, and finally, be interested and ensure you give them all the supports and resources required in what they might be interested in. I have seen a lot of children who doesn't made it in class but when they get on field, they do exploit. One of my students once told me that he doesn't like coming to school because of low marks but one thing I noticed in this kid's life is that when it comes to art,he performed so well. He drew so well. At the end of the day I advised his parents to take him to technical school where he can improve more. Parents please study your kids well to know where they can be successful, educate them on why they need to go to school, don't force them to suit your own interests.. let them achieve their success themselves.. don't choose for them.. Most parent choose their children discipline. They will tell them , you must go to science class so that you can become a medical doctor or you must become a Lawyer.... Whereas, the kids finds joy in becoming an Engineer.. At the end of the day they failed and failed until they go back to where their fate want them. Parents it's time to wise up and stop choosing for your children, don't delay their success, don't cut their road short, don't obstruct their success. Together We Can Succeed Academy, shaping lives, transforming generations. Thanks for reading...

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Food Is A Skill Everyone Must Learn. **What is hunger? According to dictionary, hunger is a feeling of discomfort or weakness caused by lack of food, coupled with the desire to eat. It's a natural thing to be hungry because it is in man to eat food. There are hunger disorders which is the compulsive desire but that is not the focus in this article.** In this article, we will be talking about things that can make you very hungry. There is hunger that is long throat, there is hunger that is caused by other factors, there is hunger that is ideal. Things that makes us hungry 1) Being Overly Stressed Stress is a major cause of hunger because it stimulates the ghrelin hormone which is responsible for hunger. And many people use food as a coping mechanism for hunger. And in that overeating, people become overweight and obessed and also develop other health issues. First thing first, food is not a cure for stress and the food most people eat when stressed are junks because that is the quick fix especially when one is tired and that should not be. Stress can trigger hunger and knowing how to manage stress and food is a skill everyone must learn. Imagine you just got home after a long and tiring day, sometimes what is on your mind is ' let me just grab a bottle of coke or a plate of food or a quick fix'. But ideally what you need is a bath either warm or cold depending on the weather. You need a glass of water, you can grab a bite of fruit like apple. You need a quick nap for some minutes or a full blown sleep. Why? Because if you dive immediately on food you will overeat and if a tiring day is an everyday reality, that means you will over eat a lot and get your body in trouble. Food is the last cure for stress. Junks won't help either. If you don't know how to handle stress, you are in trouble of obesity because your hunger pangs are intensified. There are people who lose appetite under stress, that too is another thing. In whatever way, don't starve yourself and don't overeat. Rest more than you eat under stress it help a lot. 2) Poor Sleep This is pure chemistry. The hormone responsible for hunger is called 'ghrelin' and the hormone responsible for satiety is called 'leptin'. Knowing how to regulate both is what keeps people healthy and promote weight loss. When sleep is deprived, the hunger hormone is triggered and hunger spikes increases. Have you noticed when you don't sleep properly, like you slept just for 3hours in a full day, you know how much your desire to eat increases. Poor sleepers are more likely to over eat and get obessed than people who sleep well. If you want to control your hunger pangs, sleep well and your hormones will work properly. 3) Eating refined Carbohydrates. Eating refined Carbohydrates like junks. When you eat sugar, especially refined carbs your hormone for regulating blood sugar is awakened. Awakened to clear out the sugar in your blood stream. Insulin triggers hunger and increases craving too. That is why there is a level of 'insatiety' when you eat refined sugar. There is that call for more, that is why you can finish one pack of sweets and not even know, that is why you can finish one big bottle of soda and your brain is asking you to take some more. Even to sugars from food, you eat rice and eat and eat,your stomach is telling you "you are full" but you just will keep eating. Your hunger hormones are over active when you eat sugar especially refined sugar. What makes people fat is not fat, what makes people fat is "SUGAR". If you can control and regulate your excessive carbohydrates consumption, you are in for a good life. 4) Dehydration Different studies have down the brain sometimes confuses thirst for hunger. Sometimes what you need is not food, you need water. Dehydration is a situation where by your body Doesn't have enough water that it needs. So there is very high tendency to be hungry when you are dehydrated. That tiredness, that headache, that dizziness, that dry mouth is not hunger slot of times. Sometimes tiredness is not food problem, sometimes tiredness is water loss. Make it a habit to drink water first when you are hungry than eat food. If you keep eating food at the slightest tiredness and stress, you are likely to overeat. So dehydration can trigger hunger but what your brain is actually saying is ' Go and drink water". If all you do daily is sip water, you will be overweight if not now but in the nearest future and you will endanger your kidneys because they will overwork themselves to keep your body running and I know you don't want to do that. Handling and managing hunger is a key to health. You don't have to eat 5 times a day to stay healthy, you just need all your food within the 2000 calorie bench mark daily.. Curb your appetite, if you are unnecessarily hungry, go for a walk, call a friend and gist, read books watch a movie, do some exercises. Don't always jump at food... Dealing with long throat is something we have to intentionally learn. There is difference between starvation and being disciplined with diet. Starvation is dangerous to the body but being disciplined with diet is wisdom. Don't be quick to say "I cannot get fat in this life no matter what I eat". You are less than 40, trust me you can't say that until you are 60. And if you eat anyhow, you won't even reach 60years to make that confession. That you got to 60years very strong and healthy already shows you weren't eating and handling your body anyhow. Don't die before you die. I have worked in the hospital for many years and I can te you your diet can kill you, I have been obessed before and I can tell you as an health expert that if you consistently eat poorly, beyond becoming obessed, your internal organs will shut down. So help yourself, help others and take care of what you eat,how you eat, where you eat, when you eat. Everything is important, every detail is vital. This is for you, your good, your benefit, your health, your body and your life. Thanks for reading..

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Getting It Right I believe that once a man gets the one thing needed as said by the Jesus the Lord, most other things will be in place. The conversation between Jesus and the two sisters revealed how to get most event of life right Luke 10:38-42. Let's get a few point from here; As a believer of Jesus, the first thing I must imbibe, is allowing my heart to be filled with the very of word of God. This is what Jesus meant in Luke 4 when he said man shall not live...but by every word of God. And apostle puts it this way in Col 3:16 let the word of Christ dwell in you richly... All of this is to help us live right and get it right as we navigate the phases of life! Obviously, there were some characters in the Bible who became our examples in this subject matter: Saul the king must come to mind, how did he get it wrong in his quest? Disobedience, this doctrine defines my drift and shift from details and truth. This is what get him twisted and he became so wrong! Absalom the heir to David's throne; what happened to him? Pride, this is a destroyer. He was so prideful of his personality and position. Also a reception of false information and growing a false idea that is contrary to your believe. Joshua the successor of Moses; to some level, got a measure of successes in his journey of life, but how? From the beginning of his journey he has to involve God who called him... Josh 1:1; 8. Three things he imbibed to add upbhis success are; having a right attitude or character informed by the law of God; 2. He kept practising the law he had received from his predecessor; and 3. He refused to quit even when he had the chance because Jehovah kept encouraging him. (The Joshua, his life and his journey) Timothy, a protege of apostle Paul; guess what apostle Paul never wrote to Timothy about marital relationship. Because he knows that once the young man gets it right with God and His word, apparently most things will fall in place. There are a few things the apostle told him to help get it right: 1 Tim 1:4, stay focus on the word and do not be derailed by what you hear that is contrary to your believe. 1 Tim 1:19, be resilient in your believe and practice clean conscience as you journey in life. 1 Tim 4:13-16, embrace the doctrine of Christ, uphold your giftings and godly ideas, work out your believe, goals and check yourself. Checking yourself does not have you to relate with the self Jesus said you should deny. It is the self that is already relinquished to Jesus, which you are now Rom 12:1. Ladies and gentlemen, we can go on and on, to talk about so many like Judas the betrayer and Peter the denyer. These are two different characters but approached the event of life differently. While Judas never got back into the right path, Peter got it right and stayed on the path. Observe, what Peter did, he returned to seek for his relationship with his Lord. Judas did not come to his Lord rather he went to those he did business with in the sale of Jesus. Wrong!!! There are places we should not go and be, because of our vocation, this cut across marital relationship and choices, business relationship and choices, etc. Where are you right now? It is not always too late to return, I mean getting it right. It is always a choice, please choose to get it right now! There are places we should not go and there are places we should not be. Because of our vocation it cut across our businesses, marriages and other aspects of our lives It is not late to get it right. Rest on God, he is ready to give the part of life that will suit you. I hope these word of encouragement will help some one to remain make all things right like Mary the sister of Martha. Thank you for reading. And God bless you all.

Understanding The Benefits Of Fruits And Best Time To Eat Fruits When is the best time to take fruits? On an empty stomach or the first meal of the day? The best time to eat fruit is an hour before meals in the morning. It is never good to eat fruit as the same time with food. The digestion process and rate of both are not the same. One can begin to slow the digestion of the other which can lead to indigestion. It is either one or the other. There should be a time difference. Also, 2hours after Meals. Early evening and never close to bed time. This is to allow your fruits digest before you sleep. Different fruits and what they do 1) Anti inflammatory fruits An example of this is pineapple, cherry. They contain enzymes that reduces inflammation of the gut, they boost the immune function and they stimulate protein digestion. 2) Immune Boosting Fruits Citrus fruits are the highest sources especially because they are high in vitamin C of these. E.g grape fruits, straw berry, orange, lemon, lime, kiwi. Grape fruit is the highest source of vitamin C. They help boost immune system. They help fight against sickness. They are rich in both vitamin C and vitamin A. Straw berry seeds contains minerals that supports immune function. 3) Antioxidants Fruit A good example is red grape, orange. Bells pepper is another very rich source of antioxidants. They help fight diseases and combat signs of ageing. Grape is very good for the eyes and helps to keep it strong. They minimize the harmful effects of ultraviolet rays 4) Detoxifying Fruits Examples include watermelon, lemon. Watermelon contains vitamin A and C which helps to Detoxifying the body and fighting free radicals in the body. Lemon and lime are very strong detoxifiers. They have antibacterial and antiviral qualities. You can drink lemon in warm water first thing in the morning to help cleanse your system and keeps your digestive system going and active. 5) Beauty Fruit An example of this is pawpaw. Pawpaw is full of antioxidants and nutrients that help in the production of collagen which contains an enzyme called 'Papin' that helps to counter skin damage. Most toning creams contains 'papaya' which is pawpaw. It will glow your skin a lot. 6) Energy Fruits Examples of this fruits includes Banana, Avocado, Apple. They help to fuel and charge up the body. They give a boost and sudden surge in energy and help a lot before and after workouts. Banana provide quick energy. Apple are very high in fibre, it will keep you full for a long time and it aids digestion. Most healthier Fruits and their pictures Grape fruit Pineapple Avocado Apples Mangoes Straw berries Watermelon Lemon Banana Orange Guava Cucumber Pawpaw Cabbage Other healthier Fruits includes Coconut Tangerine Peach Soursop Tiger nuts Pear Carrots If you eat fruits a lot, your body will show it, your skin will reflect it. Eat fruits more and ensure everyday, you eat at least one of the fruits mentioned above. Thanks for reading..

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Ulcer Should Never Stop You From Taking The Right Meals: See Reasons And Possible Solutions You just have to eat the right proportion if you wants to stay healthy. This article is going to shed light on how ulcer should never stop you from taking the right meals.. A lot of people, once they see that they are gaining weight, they tend to start putting themselves to suffer.. I do see some young girls not eating all in the name of not having belly fat or overweight.... this is serious.... Have you forgotten if you don't eat well it might lead to ULCER. Let's start from here... An ulcer is a sore in the lining of the digestive tract. This can happen when the stomach acid damages the lining of the digestive tract and can be caused by bacteria ( H.pylori) or by pain relief like aspirin. **Why do people have ulcer** This is simple it is because they refused to eat at the right time Stress Anxiety Pain relief drugs e.g aspirin Bacteria Symptoms Of Ulcer Burning pain in the abdomen Indigestion Heartburn Feeling sick **There are different kinds of ulcer** Duodenal ulcer Esophageal ulcer These ulcers have common symptoms which is "Gastrointestinal Pain" which can be aggravated by different things. Ulcer patient no matter the type are usually placed on a very restrictive diet and sometimes very bland. They avoid peppery and spicy foods Proteins like moi-moi, beans, beans cake Citrus fruits like grape, oranges, lime, lemon Anything acidic Alcohol Cigarette Carbonated drinks because of its high acidic contents They also don't take drugs from the NSAIDs family like ibuprofen etc In as much it is important that they stay healthy. They have to stay away from anything that could aggravate the pain or causes heart burns. Dietary Implications Beans Beans is a highly proteinous food and one of the highest sources of protein and totally avoiding beans and it's other babies like moi-moi and beans cake is not a totally idea option except you have other sources of protein which cannot fully replace beans. Beans helps to buildup the body especially the muscles, repair of body tissues etc A removal of this plant protein means you will be left with more carbohydrates and starchy foods.... See, you are on the high way of being overweight. A total avoidance of beans and other highly proteinous diet is a total acceptance of overweight. That is why weight loss is more protein and less carbs, healthy eating is more protein and less carbs. So what should the ulcer patient now do? Possible Solution Remember totally scrap of beans will lead to weight loss. Therefore, the best thing to do is that, for every 6 tablespoons intake of beans, drink at least 100cl of water, if you are taking sachet water which is 60cl, take 2 of it and if it's 75cl bottle water, drink 2 of it. Why? Water helps for easy digestion and controls the pH of your system , because water is neither alkaline or acidic, it is neutral. So you can't totally avoid not eating beans. The more water you drink, the less pain from the ulcers. Antacids are palliative, they don't cure ulcers. So at the end of the day, you can't stay away from proteins else you will become overweight and obessed. Therefore, take more water than you eat when you eat beans because you can't completely cut it out from your diet except there is an allergy attached to it. You need beans more than carbs like rice in your body. Let's look at citrus fruits Citrus fruits are one of the highest source of vitamin C and they are very rich in antioxidants that fight against diseases causing free radicals in the body. Poor or lack of vitamin C in the body can lead to low immunity that exposes your body to all kinds of opportunistic infections and deadly diseases. You will fall ill a lot when you have allow immune system which a lot of time is a sign that you are not taking alot of fruits. See you can leave a very long life if your fruits intake is on point. Fruits especially citrus supplies some very important nutrients to your body like magnesium, potassium etc. Someone who has ulcer and avoid citrus fruits like oranges, lime, lemon, tangerine,grape etc completely will battle with health issues a lot. You wi be vitamin C deficient a lot except you really invest in other fruits like cucumber, water melon, cabbage but citrus fruits are citrus fruits and they have some very important things they do in the body peculiar to them. Possible Solution The best thing to do here is drinking water. Water is a neutral thing with the pH of 7 which is neither alkaline nor acidic. Instead of drinking lime, lemon, orange directly because of their acidity you can do this little trick... Press out your citrus fruits inside water and drink like that. For instance, you can dilute a medium sized orange into a 60cl cup of water and drink. That reduces the effect and the acidity on you. So instead of completely staying away from citrus fruits, dilute them with plain water fresh as they are and drink like that. Orange juice is not a better option, mix your fresh orange with water. That way they retain their nutritonal value and no artificial sugars added. At the end of the day... It is water to the rescue. So ulcer should never stop you from taking the right meals... I hope you find this article informative ... Please read, like , comment and tell your friends, family about it.... Been an ulcer patient is not the end of the world. Thanks for reading....

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Why Believers Should Stop Making Vows. Many believers today indulge in the act of paying vows so that there prayer requests can be answered quickly...I wonder if this should be so. The bible says Christ is the end of the law, so why should believers still use vows to get things done from God? You can make a vow to God but you can't make a covenant with God. Every Divine-Human Covenant in the Bible was initiated by God and not by man. You don't even need to make any vow to God. No father demands a vow from his son. People made vows in the Old Testament because they were servants and not sons. A son who knows his father's love does not make vows to him. He enjoys his love naturally. Search the New Testament you won't find any instruction for Children of God to make vows to their Father. All those who bamboozle you with the "special covenants" they cut with God are either mistaken or lying. There is only one covenant that is now available for man to gain God's approval - the Covenant Christ made with His precious blood. Every other covenant is invalid to this effect. My point is we are New Testament ministers. We are not Old Testament ministers, which the Bible calls the ministry of condemnation and death. This is why people feel guilty and condemned when they make vows which they end up not fulfilling on several occasions. We are not supposed to teach what Christ and His Apostles did not teach. Neither Christ nor any of His Apostles taught us to make vows to God. One of the major reasons Christ came is to reveal to us the Fatherhood of God. You will recall this is the first thing He taught His disciples when they asked Him to teach them to pray. God is our Father, He doesn't need any vow from us. If I may ask, would you as a father demand vows from your children before you bless them? Would it not look absurd to you if your children start making vows to you? How much more God, our magnanimous Father? I would not put a person who has been redeemed by the blood of Christ at the same level as Hannah, an Old Testament saint, who was under the Mosaic Law since the believer in Christ is into A COVENANT WITH BETTER PROMISES. Jesus Himself said the greatest in the Old Covenant era is less than the least in His Kingdom. Let the sacrificial death of Christ be sufficient for us as our guarantee before God. Part of our work as ministers of the Gospel is to teach people their liberty in Christ. The Gospel of Christ is simple. Let's keep it so. **Thanks for reading....let's keep growing spiritually and happy Sunday to us all..**

Secret On How To Cope With Breakups In A Relationship. This is an article to help some of us struggling or finding it difficult to cope with a breakup or breakups. Break up is not the end of life and to those that are in wrong relationships wanting to breakup but still considering one thing or the other, come over here, let's learn. How many people will agree with me that there is difference between "break up" and "heartbreak" ? You can break a relationship and not be heartbroken, you can be heartbroken and not break a relationship, you can break a relationship or experience breakup and be heartbroken. A relationship breakup, or simply just breakup,is the termination of an intimate relationship by any means other than death. The act is commonly termed "dumping [someone]" in slang when it is initiated by one partner. The term is less likely to be applied to a married couple, where a breakup is typically called a separation or divorce. When a couple engaged to be married breaks up, it is typically called a "broken engagement". There’s that old saying that “breaking up is hard to do.” Well, not only is it hard to do, but it’s hard to handle the aftermath and the emotional complications that burp up out of us when we’re in such a vulnerable state. How to know wrong relationships? Briefly, One of the sure ways to know a wrong relationship is when God is not involve. Some people will say God will not talk to everybody but I tell you He has a way of talking to you if you have a relationship with Him. John 10:14 says, I am the good shepherd, and know my sheep, and am known of mine. If you intentionally create a good relationship with God, He will tell you not only about your marriage but about your life generally. You can't hear God about some issues if you don't have relationship with him. Another way to know a wrong relationship is in the book of . 2Corinthians 6:14 , "Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness? and what communion hath light with darkness?" The above scripture is not only referring to people that are not practising the same religion but referring to people having total contradicting mentality about life. When you're always having issues with agreement on some things,it is a red flag that the foundation of such relationship is faulty. If your partner believes in marrying more than one wife or better still have profitable side chicks, which contradicts your own belief, then you're already unequally yoked. If you're in an abused relationship, you're unequally yoked. Abuse include, physical, domestic and sexual abuse. Don't say I love him or her. Don't say he was the one that desflowered me so I must marry him. Don't sign your death certificate before marriage. 1Thessalonians 5:22 says "Abstain from all appearance of evil". To abstain means to refrain deliberately. It doesn't have to be evil. It only need to appear like evil. When you're seeing red flags in your relationship, it is an indication that you're in a wrong one. You should attract who will reason like you not the other way round. Marry your mate in everything,I'm not talking about age. How to break wrong or difficult relationships After knowing you're in a wrong relationship, you need to know how to break it. The Spiritual point of view. Pray about it: Ask God to help you break difficult relationships. There are relationship that are stony and bony that vividly requires the help of God. And since the heart of Kings and princes are in God's hand,ask God to help you and He will give you the wisdom on how to go about it. The physical or social point of view. Breakups are also difficult because they’re as unique as the relationships that spawn them. Giving advice on breakups can be complicated because breakups are contextual. **We have the** **spiritual context** **medical context** **parental context** **societal context.** The spiritual context is a situation where it has been confirmed that both parties are not divinely meant to be together. The medical context is a situation where partners are not allowed to be together because of some medical conditions that might have adverse effect in future. The parental context is a situation where parents or parent are against the engagement. The societal context is the common one. It is situation where one party feels having another person as a partner will be better and thereby cause heartbreak for the other person. For instance, I would never advise anyone to break up with someone through a text message, but at the same time, I’ve done it when someone went crazy on me and I thought it was appropriate. The key to a graceful break up and a healthy recovery depends on a variety of factors. Are you the dumper or the dumpee? Did you break up over a singular issue or was the chemistry and excitement gone? Were things emotionally turbulent for a long time or did things just suddenly ‘snap’? And then there are the more permanent questions: Do you want to stay in contact with your ex? How do you get over missing them? What if they want to get back together with you? Breakup is a wide concept, we can not handle it the same way because the experiences are not the same just like marriage, there are no particular rules to a successful marriage, you just have to learn, relearn and unlearn everyday and allow the Holy Spirit help you to be wise. I will give some general rules on how to break wrong and difficult relationships, I hope it will help some of us that are experiencing this. So, How to break wrong or difficult relationships? 1. Don't break up when you're angry, breakup when you're settled and calm. 2) You might end up saying things that are not expected and end up hurting yourself or your partner. 3) Never make a scene and keep your anger or feeling to a minimum. 4) Feeling distraught is OK. Being torn apart from the inside out is fine and expected. Wishing fiery hell and brimstone onto your ex and feeling the urge to dismantle their life and everything they hold piece-by-piece isn’t totally out of the ordinary either. But any attempt to do so is going to just make you look like a child throwing a tantrum. 5) Control yourself, grieve and express your pain, but don’t do anything stupid. Do it in private and do it with someone you trust. 6) Do NOT try to make the other person feel better. This goes particularly for the dumper. Once the relationship is severed, the other person’s emotions are no longer your responsibility. And not only is it no longer your responsibility to help them cope, but comforting them will likely make them feel worse. It can also backfire in that it will just make them resent you more for being so nice (while dumping them). 7) And for God’s sake, don’t have sex with them. This is particular to those that are already defiling the bed. Seriously, you just broke up. They’re crying and saying how much they’re going to miss you. You hug them to make them feel better. You start getting upset because you wish things could have worked, but this is for the better. Suddenly you’re tearing up and wondering why you’re dumping them in the first place, because you, remember when things were good? They were great, right? Then the clothes are off and one of you is crying and smiling and suddenly the sex is more passionate than it’s been in a year and a half and what the fuck, what are you doing? No, really, what are you doing!? Stop! And it will do you a lot of good if you zero your mind about sex till you're married. Some people that find it difficult to do this always have issues in their marriages, that is when you start hearing stories of a married man or woman going back to their exs. 8) After the breakup, respectfully cut all contact for a short period of time. This is the second thing that many people don’t muster the courage to do. A lot of people get hung up on remaining friends and actually force contact when it’s causing them more emotional stress. I'm not saying you should delete numbers that has been crammed and can be retrieved from your brain like some do but avoid reaching your ex especially when the breakup is still fresh. Research on relationship breakups finds that people who limit contact with one another emotionally recover much faster. Not only is it totally reasonable to refrain from seeing/speaking to each other for a brief period of time, but it’s healthy. The more contact you’re in, the more risk you run of setting off an emotional time bomb, relapsing, and ending up in that messy no-man’s land of “we’re not together, but we’re still kind of together, but we’re definitely not boyfriend and girlfriend. I’m going to call really quick to check in, but seriously we’re not together — why are you looking at me like that?” And other emotional nonsense. 9) Avoid breaking up with someone in public if possible do it in person to avoid social embarrassment. The person can react anyhow. How will you feel if you share the news in public and people gathering to ask what you've done to him/her. You might end up retrieving your breakup speech as you will be pitied by reactions and actions. 10) Talk to somebody about it. This one may seem obvious, but make sure you do it. If this is a particularly serious relationship, talk to a trusted friend or family member or a relationship expert before making the decision. And then take whatever advice they give you seriously. We are often poor observers of our own relationships, but our friends and relationship experts can see how its affecting us better than we can. How to get over Breakup? Rebuild your self esteem: If your partner initiated the breakup, question the areas you're lagging behind. Add value to yourself and focus on what you value about yourself. Don't judge yourself about the qualities you don't possess rather add value to the values you possess. Take a realistic walk down memory lane. Reminiscing good times you two had will help forget the bad parts. Hold on to the things that helps you feel grounded, don't stop attending classes or church because you're heartbroken. Do the expected things and stop making a fool of yourself. Social media Detox: Detoxifying yourself from social media is not the solution. Unfollowing your former partner isn't enough to rid your social media their presence. In that case, you should limit your social media use until you're matured enough to handle the oppression. Stop posting your feelings online for everyone to see, for example: 'Men are wicked' I'm heartbroken My present situation is not the end of the world, I will scale through. All these are childish and it won't add any value to you. You should act maturely and not childishly announcing what you're passing through to the world You may allow yourself to be sad/angry/upset but don’t judge or blame anyone. And you may allow yourself to be happy and joyous but that is also a choice. Emotions are healthy and normal. Even negative emotions are healthy and normal. But judging and blaming people, whether it’s them or you, doesn’t get you very far. This doesn’t mean you shouldn’t distinguish good/bad behavior or good/bad choices.Learning from your errors and what went wrong in your relationship will go a long way to helping you move on. I was really messed up about my first serious relationship. I harbored a lot of resentment because he left me for a stupid reason. The second serious relationship I had left me for another lady with the excuse that he was trapped and came after two weeks to beg for forgiveness. I didn’t really start to get over it until I came to terms with all of the ways that he was not meant for me in the first place. That was my first time I sincerely ask God about the right or wrong person. And God told me that the man won't allow me do the assignment He(God) has purposed for me. Once I realized that I wasn’t such a perfect angel and he wasn't my last man standing or perfect gentle man and that I wasn’t completely the victim, then it was easier to come to terms with what happened and let go of them. Start by recognizing that maybe they weren’t as great as you thought and there really were some things you didn’t like. Recognize the things you didn’t do well and how you could have been a better partner. But don’t blame them or trash them as people. Everyone goes into a relationship with the best of intentions. Most people come out of them feeling hurt and betrayed in some way. Most people come out having messed up royally somewhere along the way. There’s nothing uniquely horrible about you or that one person. Just learn from the mistakes and move on. Recognize that the break up itself is a sign of your incompatibility and you’re both better off. Here’s something that grates on me: people who just got out of a relationship and lament that “he/she and I were perfect together.” Obviously you weren’t. Otherwise, you’d still be together. While we do all have perceptual biases for remembering things better than they were, it’s important to remind oneself that you broke up for a reason. And often that reason is a very good reason. And for those of you still holding onto that one special ex's, months or years later: stop. If they were right for you, they would have realized it by now. You’re deluding yourself. Move on. Invest in yourself: The most important post-breakup advice on the planet is to invest in rebuilding your personal identity. Rediscover your old hobbies. Focus double on work. Start that new project you’ve been putting off for months. And most of all, spend time with good friends. Evil communication corrupt good manners. Your friends will not only reassure you and make you feel better in the moment, but they will also help you reinforce your own personal identity again. Friendship is the best medicine for heartbreak. Good friends oo not corrupt ones that will pour more sand in your garri. Don't enter a rebound so fast: Only start dating again when you’re legitimately excited to. A lot of people break up and enter a “rebound” period. They’re immediately back on the market and throwing themselves at the first thing that comes by. I call this "throw of affection". This is worst than breakup especially when the person stops giving you the expected attention. I once experienced this and I ended up blaming myself. Because it was not appreciated which helped me back to my senses. The problem is this is more of a coping mechanism than genuine enthusiasm for the new people one’s meeting. You can tell because the new connections you make feel complicated and lacking. Anxiety and desperation come back with a vengeance, and overall the process of meeting someone new is far less enjoyable. After you break contact and invest in yourself, don’t pressure yourself to meet someone new until you’re legitimately excited to do it. There’s a difference between excitement and desperation. Desperation is feeling alone and incomplete without dating someone — like you need to be with someone to be happy. Excitement is being genuinely excited to discover what’s out there and feeling fine regardless of what happens. Besides, when you’re excited to meet new people and are in a good place emotionally, you are far more attractive anyway. It’s worth it. Only attempt to be friends with your ex again once you’re over the idea of dating them. Some people have the admirable goal of remaining friends with their ex. Other people have the admirable goal of breaking the kneecaps of their ex with a tire iron. We still hear of married that have affairs with their ex's, when you know your ex is better than your spouse, why go into the marriage. This is call outright infidelity. “closure” Delete the idea of closure. You know real life doesn’t play out like a rom-com, yet you may find yourself wishing you experienced a dramatic break-up, like a “He cheated on me” or “She was secretly in love with her best friend” scenario in order to move on. Unfortunately what tends to happen is that two people slowly drift apart, and after the split, one of you is left wondering, why?? One thing you need to understand is that underneath the desperate need for closure is a desire to get back together. The healthy thing to do is accept that you simply weren’t meant to be together. If the other person isn’t able to articulate why they no longer want to be with you, tell yourself that the fact that your former partner couldn’t commit, or didn’t love you enough, is all the explanation you need to properly close that chapter. “The subtext of those explanations are ‘I deserve someone who can commit,’ ‘I deserve someone who can love me enough,’ and ‘I deserve somebody who appreciates everything about me.’” Lastly, things that worsen breakup are: 1: Actively seeking out the other person. 2. Thinking dating app will make you feel better. This is one if the most stupid thing to do. I've been there before I can tell you its nonsense. 3. Comparing your experience with others. You guys are not the same. 4. Asking too many people for advice. And lots more. In conclusion, failed relationships will help you appreciate the right one, don't give up and don't commit suicide, better days are ahead and the right person will appreciate you. Thank you for reading, God bless you. I hope some of us I've gained one or two things in this article.

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Understanding Fibroids: Causes,Signs, Treatment The effect of uterine fibroids on pregnancy and it's general influence on fertility. I will like to say this..this is a very sensitive article. In as much as we pray against sickness and diseases as believes.,?. we still find Christians with diseases like uterine fibroids. The most important thing is to take appropriate steps in treating it, yes faith works and I believe in it too. Let me stop there.. God created medicine, sciences and faith. The truth about diseases is...first prevention is better than cure. Secondly prompt treatment is better than future complications What is fibroid? It occurs in the uterus so it's called uterine fibroid. Looking at this article we will see how it affects pregnancy and how pregnancy too affects it. Uterine fibroids are abnormal growths within the uterus. The uterus is also called the womb. That is where baby grows. That is where menstral periods come from. The womb has 3 layers 1) The outer layer or perimetrium 2) The middle layer or myometrium 3) The inner layer or endometrium The uterus has different parts too 1) The fallopian tube where fertilisation takes place 2) The body of the uterus which contains the the layers I mentioned 3) The cervix which leads to the vagina. The cervix is called the mouth of the womb. This is where baby pases out of the womb to the vagina during child birth. The reason why am mentioning this is because fibroids happen in those parts. Uterine fibroid are abnormal growths within the uterus. It grows there because the uterus is like a cavity. Abnormal growths but usually non cancerous. Fibroids are fibrous tissues. Contains fatty tissues too It's also called myoma leiomyoma fibroma Some call it false pregnancy because of big tummy and you will be expecting the woman to deliver. Types of uterine fibroids Intramural fibroids this occurs within the myometrium Subserosal fibroids exists between the myometrium Perimetrium rather.The outer layer of the womb. This occurs within the second layer of the womb Submucosal fibroids occurs within the innermost layer of the womb . Where periods comes from where baby grows So tell me how will baby grows when fibroids have become landlords in the womb. People get pregnant with fibroids miracles happen. But you see that submucosal will either cause miscarriage or any other thing. It gains ground for itself big time Causes of fibroids Genetic cause... it runs in some families Hormonal influence Race... common in some races Early menarche....early onset of mensuration Obesity... Being too far is not healthy Lifestyle....eating too much of red meat and fats..leads to obesity Alcoholism Signs of fibroids 1) Very Heavy menstral periods 2) Pelvic pain 3) Frequent urination 4) Difficulty in emptying the bladder 5) Constipation 6) Back ache / waist pain 7) Increasing abdominal girth......tummy increases in size Note this can occur in other diseases too. Don't start calling fibroids when u start passing urine. Diagnosis of uterine fibroid is by doing an ultrasound. And examination by a gynaecologist So how it affects pregnancy When people say marry early, they are not totally wrong.. but do not rush into marrying just anybody...you can't have fibroids. This is because the womb is a cavity if u don't give it something to carry it will fill it by itself especially if the person has a genetic link. Fibroids comes in various sizes. Some as big as a baby 3kg, some 4kg. Some presses the fallopian tube that fertilisation can't take place. Some becomes landlords and causes miscarriages. Some causes severe bleeding that the woman bleeds for like 15 days out if 30 days in a month with heavy cloths and severe pain. Some women have low blood volume..making them so pale and weak I hope we can see how it causes infertility. Majority of women get pregnant and carry their babies to term immediately the fibroids are fine..if there are no other factors causing the infertility Treatment Firstly, I want to beg all women here to avoid herbs...herbal concoction they sell on the street. Am sorry I do not like them because they do more harm than good. They tell women to take them to treat toilet infections etc Those 3 layers of the uterus can gum together, it can only take serious expertise to release them, if not the woman becomes infertile for life. At times... but when something is going wrong you won't know. Fibroids happen to older women before... Now it happens to young unmarried ladies. I have nursed a 22 year old before and no one had it in her family...may God have mercy on us. The only acceptable treatment of fibroids are provided in the hospital by a gynaecologist. Usually Myomectomy....surgical removal of the fibroids When people use too much herb's, some causes the fibroids to adhere to the uterus, some use harsh solutions that even seal up their vagina and still end up doing the surgery later. I have seen a woman who had no vagina hole again because she was pouring a concoction to shrink fibroid. She had to do cosmetic surgery to open up the vagina. Another woman had all her uterus glued together and had to remove the uterus when she was bleeding so much. Surgery if properly done does not kill. Lets prevent further complications. As a young lady or married woman when u start having heavy bleeding with clots...pleases see a Doctor. Some women have it and have their babies with no issues. In conclusion take charge of ur health and don't run away from good treatment options, it's better to live than to die. I hope this article is well informative...Thanks for reading...

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The Secret Of Sweet Cakes I know everyone loves eating cake. Most people preferred getting a cake at a groceries shop than doing it themselves or getting their cakes from any baker because they want a perfectly made cake. Cake is so simple and straight forward to bake. In this article am going to teach everyone on how to bake cake. We'll be looking at how to bake some types of cakes. You should be able to bake a sweet cake for your children and spouse. Children really loves cake. As we all know we have varieties of cakes:Sponge,Genoise,Pound,Chiffon,Vanilla,Carrot,Red velvet,Apple, Chocolate cake and the likes.... Am going to teach us how to bake 3 common cakes which are; 🍰. Vanilla cake 🍰. Chocolate cake 🍰. Red velvet cake Before we begin, I want us to note that there are two main types of cake: a) Butter: (also known as a "Shortened cake"). Shortened cakes have either butter,oil or shortening in them (A classic yellow cake is a perfect example) b) Foam: foam cakes are more or less like sponge cakes. Foam cakes have little or no fat and typically involve whipped eggs (either white,yolk or both) which make them lighter or airer. The primary difference between these two cakes is the fat content. Do we understand this now? Okay....let's move to the kitchen.... **VANILLA CAKE** To start with Vanilla cake🍰 **INGREDIENTS** I want us to note those measurements 4 cups of Cake flour 2 cups of Granulated sugar 500g of Butter(2 Simas/Nappa) 8 large eggs 1 tablespoon of Baking powder 1 tablespoon of Vanilla extract 2 sachets of Powdered milk flavour 1 teaspoon of Salt **ILLUSTRATION** Preheat your oven to 350⁰F. Grease your size 8 cake pan with butter and pour in flour, shake well and pour out the remnant flour (this seamlessly helps the cake release from the pan) In a large bowl, pour in sugar and butter. Using stand mixer,beat the sugar and butter on high speed until smooth and creamy, about 3 minutes.Scrape down the sides of the bowl with a spatula and set aside. Get another 2 bowls, separate the egg yolk from egg white. Some people don't separate the yolk from egg white but I love to separate (Makes my cake more fluffy). Pour the egg yolk into the mixed butter and sugar and add vanilla extract. Sieve in flour,baking powder,powdered milk flavour and salt, then mix on a low speed just until combined. Always sieve the dry ingredients ooooo, they mostly have lumps) And finally, whisk the egg white until it's well foamy. With the mixer still running on low, pour in the whisked egg white and mix just until combined (You may need to whisk it all by hand to make sure there are no lumps at the bottom of the bowl. The batter will be slightly thick Pour batter into cake pan and bake for around 30-45minutes or until the cake is baked. To test for doneness, insert toothpick into the center of the cake. If it comes out clean,then it's done. Allow cake to completely cool before trimming(to avoid breakage) and before frosting/decorating (to avoid melting) Hummmm yummy yummy 😍😍 **CHOCOLATE CAKE** Now we move to Chocolate Cake. Guess we all know why it's called chocolate? It because of it color and it comprises of cocoa powder. Okay let's see the ingredients we will be working with. **INGREDIENTS** 4 cups of All purpose flour 2 cups of Granulated sugar teaspoon of Baking soda 1/2 teaspoon of salt 1/2 cup of unsweetened cocoa powder 2 cups of water 1 cup of vegetable oil 2 tablespoon of Distilled white vinegar 1 teaspoon of vanilla extract We can all see it's not almost same with Vanilla ingredients. **ILLUSTRATION** Cocoa powder is the key..It serves as colouring. Cowbell chocolate won't give you any result. Then no egg is involved here. Preheat oven to 350° F. In a large bowl, mix flour,sugar,baking soda,salt and cocoa powder. Boil your water. Then pour warm water, vegetable oil, vinegar and vanilla. Beat by hand until smooth. Pour in your batter into the pan and bake for 40minutes, or until toothpick inserted into center of the cake comes out clean. Your batter will be kind of watery Here comes your yummy Chocolate cake... **VELVET CAKE** Up to Red velvet cake. INGREDIENTS 4 cups of flour Cup of Granulated sugar. Cup of natural unsweetened cocoa powder Sachet of powdered vanilla flavour Teaspoon of Baking soda 1 teaspoon of Salt 250gram of Butter 4 large eggs 1 cup of Vegetable oil 2 tablespoon of Red colouring 1 tablespoon of pure vanilla extract 1 tablespoon of Distilled white vinegar **ILLUSTRATION** Preheat oven to 350° F as usual. In a large bowl, whisk together the cake flour, cocoa powder, baking soda, and salt. Then sieve the dry ingredients to remove any lumps of cocoa powder, then set aside. As instructed in Vanilla cake process, pour in sugar and butter. Using stand mixer, beat the sugar and butter on medium speed for 4-5minutes. Add the eggs and mix until fully combined, then mix in the oil,red colouring,vanilla extract and vinegar, stopping to scrape down the sides of the bowl as needed. Now pour the dry ingredients into the wet ingredients and mix well until just combined. Be careful not to over mix the batter. Pour the batter into cake pan and bang the pan on the floor/table 2-3 times to remove any air bubbles from the cake You could do the banging for vanilla and chocolate cake too. Bake cake for 25-35minutes or until a toothpick inserted into the center of the cake comes out clean. Finally, carefully remove from oven and place on the table to cool in the pan for 15-20minutes. Then, carefully remove the cake from the pan and place in a tray/board to cool completely. Hmmmm..... yummy yummy. Thanks for reading Love you all Like and comment plus practice.

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All Marriages Will Have Their Unique Issues But Preparation Makes The Difference A man will only focus on the outside than the inside only when he's not truly inside in the first place. We get bored of people and a particular way of life and that's why feelings and emotions are always misleading cause a time will come when they will become totally useless. God is the only one who keeps marriages and when he's not involved stuffs like this is what you'll see. The grass is not always greener on the other side but you won't know until you reach the other side. The role of the woman in a marriage should not be forgotten as well as things will start falling apart the moment she let's her guard down. She has to be at it 100% Hmm... I believe a man that's truly ready for marriage should have dumped everything called outside world to focus on building a good life with his family. He wouldn't have a reason to look outside even for once... But men marry for different reasons of which some are so just quite insane. Why will a man marry primarily because he wants a woman that will be satisfying him sexually without having to do it secretly? Or primarily because he wants to have children? Or other shallow-minded inclined reasons. Preparing for marriage for both men and women demands more than those babyish thoughts/reasons. Readiness should cut across spirituality, mentality, commitment and responsibility. There is always a sign. It just don't happen like that. If the man history is taken. It will be discovered. All marriages will have their unique issues but preparation makes the difference It's not that those men that are not looking outside are having 100% smooth marriage but they are just committed and determined. Their heart is locked up; they are ready even for the worst, so a worse situation can't make them think the otherwise You ll know when a man or someone in your life or in each other's life doesn't put you first. Attending to other matters that come late. Not giving attention toward the most important needs of one's life/need and still attending to others. E.g, sometimes back a man needs to pay his son's school fee. But instead use the money for his younger brother's wedding (buying one big cow). The brother; same father but different mother ooo. He failed to pay his son school fees. And the mother was one that struggled to pay. After many years, the whole thing burst. That's why she should wait and for him to complete his house in the village and postgraduate. For how many years? No specific number of years? I am sure the wife will turn to season film in his husband house. People are achieving great things in their marriage with all sources. So something ephemeral shouldn't stop them. The house can collapse, Asuu might be on strike and couple with covid-19 pandemic. A sensible man to lead a home is required... The sad truth is that the children are on their own and they are fully responsible for the choices they make. We can only pray for them at this stage which is a crucial stage, any mistake will have a lasting effect. The older child can be the model for the other ones and help guide provided he/she has made good decisions already. There are pple from broken homes who still did good things with their life, though it's hard but it's also possible. Do something good with your life today. Thanks for reading.

Sexual Abuse Hmmmn the rate at which the word rape has taken charge today as become more rampant. It is a non consensual sexual intercourse. It's often committed through force, threats or fear. (legal encyclopedia) According to Wikipedia, sexual abuse is a type of sexual assault usually involving sexual intercourse or other forms of sexual penetration carried out against a person without the person's consent. Most times, rape isn't always from a stranger but from someone you know, love and even trust. But with a this have you ever think of why do they commit this ungodly act. Rapists molest because it's in their nature. Most men are insecure, that's why they rape. Yes, just as it's in our nature to be angry, envious, sad etc, same is it with rape. Dressing provocatively, isn't a reason neither is flirting too. Before you question me, remember babies, children and even old women are also raped too. What of the male child? They are also molested by their own gender and vise versa. What curves does a baby, child, grandmothers and even boys got to show to deserve rape? Have you ever imagine the trauma, abused victims go through? I would be giving three categories. a) PHYSICAL TRAUMA The physical trauma most rape victims endure are as follows; They may get Sexually Transmitted Diseases like HIV/AIDS. And gynaecological diseases like; Dyspareunia(Painful Sexual Intercourse) I have had this. When I used to have sex, I used to experience pain during the intercourse. Chronic Pelvic Pain. They sometimes get pregnant too. And I don't want to talk about the verbal torment they suffer from society too. b. PSYCHOLOGICAL TRAUMA. They become slaves to anxiety and fear. While others feel depressed as they couldn't decipher why they were raped. They isolated themselves from people. This particular trauma is shattering and painful. Oh, it's like the rape experience has left a deep scar in their heart and healing is quite difficult. As they become anxious, they begin to blame themselves for someone's handiwork. They feel there's something wrong with them or they've done something which triggered the Rapist to come after them. Yes, they believe they're to blame for being raped. As they blame themselves, they begin to feel inferior. They watch as their self worth diminish within their sight and they do nothing about it. Oh, they often times suffer from Post Traumatic Stress Disorder. The pain within them is so severe go them to endure hence they begin to have suicidal thoughts. They feel they ain't fit to live in the world. They feel that since their dignity and pride has been trampled upon, they don't have anything to offer the world again. Trust me, they go through hell on earth. c. SPIRITUAL TRAUMA They feel God has deserted them. Yes, hence they no more hold Him in high esteem. Some turn into atheist just because of what they've been through. Indeed, rape victims go through hell on earth. And most times those gals don't talk and if you are not very observant, you won't know. May God save our generation. There's no pain as hurtful as the one inflicted on a person by their loved ones and family because these are the set of people that are supposed to have your utmost interest and welfare at heart at all times. Let me share you with a story that will make you see the reality in what am saying. It was a hot afternoon, can't remember the exact day nor month. With everyone occupied with their daily hustle, I was in a deep and restful sleep when I felt a cold palm touching and caressing my thighs. I opened my eyes to see my maternal uncle looking at me with eyes filled with lust. He tried to make me understand that he wants me but I refused to reach a consensus with him. He then decided to use force. I struggled with him yet it was in vain. He got on top of me and began kissing me. I clenched my eyes shut. As tightly as I could, hoping it would end soon. He forcefully entered me. I felt a sharp pain in my lower regions, it was like nothing I had ever experienced. I thought I was going to die. Within a few minutes, the ordeal was over. He stood up with a large grin on his face. Few days later, another uncle of mine got to know about what happened. He demanded his iota. I was so depressed to fight back which made his work easier. Within minutes, he groaned loudly, hurriedly dressed and left to his abode. It's like dying in silence.. It's never the fault of the victim, at all.. I tell you. No one knew until I decided to speak up From that day onward, they both kept coming to have their way with me. I travelled to hell and back but I was still surviving for a six year old girl. I'm way stronger than I thought. I have learnt learnt to live in constant pain and I don't try to fight my oppressors anymore. I just let them do as they pleased. I came to understand that, while others were born to enjoy the luxuries this world, I was meant to suffer. Rapists don't always look like Lucifer, not like that street dog, you see chasing out the flies with its tail. They are people we live and dine with, even joke and play with. They are those we trust and are supposed to protect us from the evils of the world yet they use this power to manipulate us. Most rape victims have chosen to stay mute not because they don't have any choice but because they are confused. They try to think of the reasons such a thing has happened to them. Was it the clothes? Were they too short or maybe too long? Maybe the way they walked. Did they flaunt the bodies too much to the extent of arousing the villain? Are they supposed to be called the villain, when they are just a stone throw from us? Or maybe they've been cursed? All these questions yet we can't get the answers out of the manipulator's mouth. Or maybe, because I'm a female? Perhaps, as a man, they're supposed to inflict pain on the female gender sake of we've been labeled as weak. But males get raped too? I just couldn't get answers to the over razing questions in my mind. For days, weeks, months and years, I had not talked to anyone about it. I knew that even if I did, no one would believe me. Even if they did, they would never confront them. Have you ever trusted someone so much only for you to be betrayed? Have you ever had someone you ever respected and defended only for him(her) to turn their backs towards you? If you have, you would understand this part of this story. When I was in the brink of my adolescence, I sought for a fatherly love. I wanted to be showered with praises, be appreciated for the little things I do. I wanted to be loved and cared like I see my friend's fathers do. I wanted to be hugged when I start throwing tantrums. I wanted to be patted at my back for a job well done. I wanted someone to wipe my tears when I'm broken and tell me that everything would be fine. I just got to believe. ...............and I felt, I could find that in a father. I'd a man, who was probably my mum's age. He showered me with excessive kindness, care and love, the kind I would never find anywhere. I felt so cherished and loved in his embrace. Sometimes, I go to his house to help him out with his house chores as well gist. One cool dusk, I went to his place as usual to render my help. I saw him looking at me in a lustful way. My instinct told me to run but before I could even make an attempt, he held my hand. He scanned me from head to toe, then let go of my hand. "I love you, Christy." He said. "Just leave me alone." I said as I took a few tentative steps back. "You don't have to be afraid of me." He whispered as he came closer to me. "Uncle Charles, please." I begged as I tried to wipe the tears that were rolling down my cheeks. "I said, I won't fucking hurt you. Don't you understand?" He spat out loudly. I froze. He got pretty close to me and pushed me down the bed. He got on top of me. I tried to crawl away from him but he got hold of my foot and pulled me back to him, pinning me down with all his weight, I could barely breath. A trillion things were going through my mind. My heart was aching. I curled up like a little girl with my hands wrapped around my knees, crying uncontrollably. "You don't have to cry, can't you see I love you? You need to understand this is my way of showing you how much I love you." He fiercely tore my dress and threw it down. I tried to scream but he covered my mouth with his palms. I struggled to free myself but it was in vain. When I was completely naked, he ran his fingers through every part of my body, then he started sucking my breasts, he bit my nipples. In the process. It was extremely painful. I felt completely helpless. He went in and out of me roughly as he was breathing heavily. I tried to stop him and pushed him off me but he was stronger, so in the end, I stopped fighting him. I shut my eyes and laid there like a plank of wood, waiting for him to finish. After few minutes of what seemed like eternity, he rolled over and lay next to me. "This is supposed to our little secret." He said. "If you tell anyone, including your mum, I will kill you." He threatened. For a short while, my mind went blank and I felt nothing. I felt numb and limp wishing that what happened was a nightmare and that someone was going to wake me up but none of that happened, this was my reality. The people, I so much trusted had forcefully taken away my innocence without an ounce of shame. I stood up and slowly went home. I quietly went to the bathroom, I stood there as I poured the warm water on my body to soothe my pain. I felt broken, betrayed and deranged. I sank to the floor helplessly, curled up in a festal position and sobbed. It was there and then, I made a regretful decision. If this is what they want. My body? I'd give it to them. I wouldn't fight it. That was why when my would to be step father came after me, I just let him in. Right from there, I became a slave to sex. It was my food. I could hardly do without it. No single guy came my way without me accepting his proposal. I used them to satisfy my sexual list. My mind was dirty. Filled with all form of sexual images and thought. I could meet a guy today and undress him in my mind eye. I was so sexually driven. Gradually I became fed up with guys. I began to have a sexual attraction towards my gender. This was triggered due to my interaction with a lesbian. So I met her online, she asked for my nude but I refused. I might have been naughty but I had never shared my nudes with anyone. So she invited me to meet her doctor before we can do what lesbians do. Hmmmm I met the doctor who turn out to be a photographer and a Rastafarian. The woman actually tricked me. Since she knew, I wouldn't send my nudes, she positioned some one to do in the name of being a doctor. I was quite annoyed. I felt betrayed. Though I loved to watch other people's nudes, I hate it when others see mine. So ladies can betray their fellow ladies? With so much pain in me, I blocked her on all my social media handles. I didn't hear from her until one day, something happened. The so called doctor, called to tell me that the Lady was so furious that I blocked her and she has threatened to post my nudes on social media. I became frightened. I removed my sim from my phone and completely destroyed it. I never heard from them again. But my interaction with her made females appealing to me. I can meet a female today, then undress her in my mind. So I got involved with another one. You can call me foolish, mad but I was just a young girl hiding under a woman's body following the directives of her drive. This time around, I did everything she asked me to do.. She promised to visit me in school. A promise that was left unfulfilled yet led to my healing I never heard from her for a long time then he showed up when I was gradually healing from the pain of being abused and betrayed. She showed up as a he this time. The person I thought was a female, was a male. He began to blackmail me. He asked for a nude video or Gh500(#50,000) else he will post my nudes on social media I did neither of that instead, I spoke up to my school mum and an organization that came visiting my school. They instead got me a counsellor and helped me redirect me back to God I was a Christian while still practicing these immoralities. I thought going to church on Sundays and Wednesday is what Christianity means but I was wrong. I tried my best to abstain but it was quite difficult. I kept stumbling over and over again HEALING STRATEGIES FOR ABUSED VICTIMS. Healing as a rape victim is a very painful and traumatic experience. Most victims just mute up when they need to unmute. And that's one of the worst mistake a victim can do. Do you know why? Because keeping mute rather intensify the pain and the more it's intensified, the more the hole dug in the heart by the rapist deepens. Some use sex to numb their pain while others develop a kind of hatred for sex. They do this as a means of gaining control over their abuse. This rather cause more harm than good to them. Some blackout from social networking. They prefer to be alone with their thoughts. To them, they believe that's the easiest way of healing from the trauma of being abused but it rather worsen it as isolating from the rest of the world makes you have suicidal thoughts. One vital healing strategy that has helped not only me but thousands of rape victims is knowing the POWER OF UNMUTING. UNMUTING simply means SPEAKING UP. When you get to understand the power behind UNMUTING, you'd utilize it to your advantage. Whenever you decide to be mute, you're putting yourself under a kind of bondage. Do you know the pain that comes with staying mute? If you've been through what I've gone through, you'll understand. So unmute so you can be free from whatever bondage you're in. See, the demon that make people commit fornication, homosexuality, masturbation as well as to rape etc, hate to be revealed. It is always hidden. So if you decide to unmute, you're gradually getting hold of whatever bondage, the demon has on you. I know that is the last thing you'd ever do. How can you forgive someone that has inflicted a lifetime pain within you? I know it's hard but if you forgive, you free yourself from bitterness. Hurting people hurt people and perhaps, your abuser was also abused. That doesn't excuse the person or lessen the pain but forgiving your abuser will make you free from resentment, hatred and the at least heal part of the scar in you. You see, I didn't use heal you completely but used part, because the only one that can heal you completely is our creator. The one who redeems and restores. When you got to know about the negative effects of premarital sex, pornography, masturbation, etc, you will asked for Grace from God to abstain. When you asked God to use you as a vessel to impact lives, you will be able to abstain. It's not easy. You will still feel the urge but you will be able control it. Thanks for reading...

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Regret Can Be Useful Good evening fellas. This is my first article here. There is always room for regrets and you can find that very useful if you choose to use them to make a difference which is moving forward. When it comes to looking at what others have achieved,this world is divided into those who look at others enviously and those who look at others as a motivational tool. If you find yourself saying I wish I had done this and that, then you need to learn to follow it up with and now I will do something I won't regret. In many cases the thing you wished you had done might not be out of the question even if it's not exactly as you would have done it previously. Let's take a look at some examples, if you are thinking I wish I had taken a year out before getting married and travelled to Canada like so and so did, then you are clearly not going to be able to reverse time. Obviously, if you regret is that you didn't win an Olympic 400m gold medal, because you gave up athletics at 12, it's not going to happen if you're now 35. What you can do is resolve not to let any more opportunities pass you by. Ensure that you won't be saying I wish I had learned how to dive in another 30 years time. Why do I say regrets can be useful? To me, when you regret on something great and immediately you find your way to a good path, then it's useful because with regretting, you won't be able to obtain something greater. Regret and learn from it. Thanks for reading Like, comment and subscribe. I'm TONYCRUX.

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