The word "moderation" is not a new word to most of us but for the sake of emphasis, moderation means; less extreme, medium in amount or intensity or quality. The rootword of "moderation" is "moderate".

For the sake of this article, moderation is the state or quality of being moderate or avoidance of extremes [Oxford dictionary].

When you want to have a bath and the weather is cold, you boil water. You do not use the hot water if you don't want to boil your skin. You need to add cold water to the hot water so that it will be neither cold nor hot but warm. This is what I am talking about in my article today.

Moderation is very essential to be observed in every area of our lives. The following are some of the areas of our lives that mrequire moderation; marriage, dressing eating, spending & education.

Marriage

In getting married, you need to be moderate. You must not be carefree neither should you be too extreme. What I mean by carefree is ignoring the red flags coming from the person you are about to get married to. Signs like being bossy, selfish, getting angry easily, beatings or threats. You must not ignore the signs but when I tell you not to ignore the signs that doesn't mean that you should then come up with attitudes that will make the other person to be angry and taking every action seriously. You must be moderate.

There are old ways of getting married. In the olden days, many people get married without knowing the person they want to marry very well. In those days, partners get to see each other once or twice in two weeks and in that kind of situation, there is no way they can know each other's character very well whether they are compatible or not. That kind of marriage usually have problems. It's an achaic way to get married. But today, we have the opportunity to know the person we want to marry very well but not to the extent of going the other way around. No fertility test before marriage.

Marry only one wife that you can take care of. Don't give birth to many children you won't be able to raise properly.

Dressing

In dressing, we must not be archaic. Being archaic means dressing like people of the fifteenth century. For example as a lady wearing some clothes that were won by our 90s and 80s women and men. Those kind of dressing in those days were okay but not nowadays. Dressing like wearing a blue blouse over a red skirt with a yellow scarf with a green footwear. That will be too weird. Anyone that sees you will think something is wrong with you upstairs. Or as a guy who wear a red top over purple trousers with blue face cap. Or wearing oversized and undersized clothes. That is odd.

Be moderate in the sense that don't be archaic and don't follow various trends in the world. There are some kinds of dressing that is in vogue now. Wearing tight and revealing clothes. I don't know how people feel comfortable in it. There is a kind of dressing that is trending now that the people look like mad men and women. DRESS SMARTLY including the way you style your hair both male and female. Don't copy bad examples. Don't make your hair like that people will say a mad man's hair is better than yours. Be decent. Don't be too fashion conscious.