Whenever we see thunder and lightning in the sky, we knew that there will be upcoming storm. We can't control it and it is inevitable. That's part of the natural phenomenon of earth. Sometimes, it comes together, trumbling the earth and flashing us, storm showers us with rain and sometimes blow us with strong wind.
Like the natural phenomenon of earth. Our life is just like that. We hear thunder of conversation, slice of hurtful words that comes flashing without further notice, and rain of problems, storms of challenges, winds of uncertainty blows us. It is inevitable and is part of life that we have.
LIGHTNING
Lighting is define in the Oxford dictionary as the occurrence of a natural electrical discharge of very short duration and high voltage between a cloud and the ground or within a cloud, accompanied by a bright flash and typically also thunder.
In our life lightning is an occurance of natural emotional discharge of words that comes flashing with a very short duration of thinking. It has very high voltage of damage between the person who spoken and who listen or vice versa.
In any situation, family, friends, neighbors or significant others, lightning happened when words comes flashing especially in a heated discussion that allows anyone to be hurt, or both. It is inevitable and part of our challenges in life. The source of this are unspoken words, unfiltered actions, jealousy, and or bitterness and so much more, that lead to high voltage of pain and even full shutting down and closing of self to others.
THUNDER
Thunder, also define from Oxford dictionary, is a loud rumbling or crashing noise heard after a lightning flash due to the expansion of rapidly heated air.
After a flashing of painful words comes the heated discussion, thunder comes next with a loud rumbling of egos and pride. Of who is the right and who must humble down and accept their defeat. A loud roar that would crash the heart and the healthy relationship of anyone who involved with it.
Thunder comes after lightning for the reason that, light travels faster than sound. It is suppose to be liked that. Our thinking should be faster than the sound we make in our mouth as we speak. But because of the pain, hurt ego and lose pride we tend to forget to think before speaking. Resulting to outburst and shouting.
STORM
Lastly, the storm. According to Oxford dictionary, A storm is a violent disturbance of the atmosphere with strong winds and usually rain, thunder, lightning, or snow.
Accompanied with the two, lightning and thunder, storm is present. It is not just rain or snow but their are other form of storm such as sand storm in the dessert island or the hurricane in the other part of the world.
In life, whenever lightning and thunder is present the storm will be coming. Storm that was created from a violent disturbance of any form of relationship. With strong winds of challenges that enable the relationship to became shaking and prone to distraction. Sometimes though the storm will not totally form whenever the pressure will not fully enter the area. This will happen if there will someone who will put down the pressure by lossing his pride and chose to be humble.
MY LIGHTNING, THUNDER AND STORM EXPERIENCE
These phenomenon are enivitable and part of life. In every family passed a lightning, thunder and storm experience. And ours is not an exemption.
I will tell you a bit of my life to avoid confusion. We don't own land and we constantly move from time to time. And last year we move in the vacant land of my brother-in-law near their house. We paid small amount just to compensate the time of our stay. But I know it's not enough and I feel shy whenever we do something that involve the land.
I am so tired listening Mom's constantly nagging because of the situation we have in the kitchen. I, myself is tired of the situation too, the roof will pour water whenever the rain is hard, the chickens constantly roaming and every livestock that we have in the house. It is tiresome keeping them away but still come back. Since the rain will pour because the roof is old and rusty, the mud will get wet and making the kitchen area so dirty and I always worry that mom will accidentally slide herself, because she is the one always attending the kitchen chores. Dad seems no plan of repairing it because he doesn't suffer what we suffer in the house especially during rainy days. One time, he and mother had a heated discussion because of the situation. I was mad because it is still early in the morning. What makes me mad even more when he mention of his plan for the house. That he will build a new room and extend the house at the back. I was furious and jump in to the conversation. I know I was disrespectful for doing that but I couldn't shut my mouth anymore, and I exclaimed to him my expression of his plan with a big "wooooow" (I mean the prolong one) followed by "I am a shame of how great your plan is? Could we start from the small one? please for Christ sake? We can't even fix the small problem and her you are planning of such a skipping plan. Let us have small step first, let's not jump we might get fallen." With that his ego was hurt. And our debate and exchange of hurtful words started.
The lightning that starts from my spoken words that is not intended, which became the outburst of his anger and roaring of his mighty ego, resulting to a heated arguments and a violent disturbance that determine the storm. I shut myself from him and I keep my distance. He was hurt and so am I.
Conclusion
The lightning, thunder and storm that we encounter in life is part of our existence, and turning back and hiding will not contribute to any solution. It should be face with humble heart and open-mind.
My father and I talked later that night. I humble myself so as his ego.
Every heated conversation and arguments could be avoided and for this not to end with a big storm. Just like the weather not all storm hit its area of responsibility and would not damage us if we will know what to do, and how to deal with it.
To avoid lightning, thunder and even storm in our life or any situation we should ;
Think before speaking
Thinking before speaking will help us avoid future conflict. We must learn this virtue so that we cannot flash lightning of unintended words that may hurt or break relationship. Before speaking ask yourself if it is important? is it appropriate? Is it kind? If not, then silence yourself. It is important to know what to say, when to say, and how to say it.
Lower down ego
Always remember that your ego can bring no good to you. It will just destroy relationship that you build to last. Your ego can't make you happy or find any happiness. Ask yourself if is it necessary to put your ego in the situation? If you will what would possibly happen? If you will, do it give benifits to you? If no, then lower down your ego.
Humble yourself
This is the last and the hardest thing to do. Yet, it is the most essential of all. When you know when to say, what to say and how to say things and you can lower down your ego but then you can't humble yourself and do the first move, then the two would be useless. It is either you shut yourself and drone to silence or continue the relationship neglecting the unpatch conflict. Always choose to humble yourself and you will be happy.
These three is base on my experience, and I am sure if you apply them you can surpass the lightning, thunder and storm that will come in your life. It is inevitable, at least know how to deal with it. It is also important to know yourself and the people around you.
Sources
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Definition from Google chrome
Oxford dictionary
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Sometimes it is better to remain silent and not enter into discussions. Annoying people never come to an agreement. It is better to wait for a quiet moment and talk. Giving a personal opinion without offending is better than an airy word without aim.