The thoughts inside of our heads often reflect on how we truly feel about ourselves, even when that self-talk is negative. We have the ability to control them, to refuse to allow them to affect the decisions we make, the actions we take, and even our self-worth, yet we stand back and do nothing.
We give in to the negative talk, which can lead to anxiety, stress, and worrying, so much in fact that it can cause us to feel sad and even depressed. It can turn small issues into major ones, and it steals your happiness.
Why do we do this to ourselves? Why do we put ourselves down with negative self-talk? We have the power to choose. We are in control of our destiny, our lives. You can either choose to live in fear for the rest of your life or you can decide you are worth all of the happiness in the world. You deserve to be happy.
And while it might not be possible to be happy every single day of your life, there is no reason you should spend it being downright miserable and depressed either.
Our lives will never be perfect. There will always be that possibility of a not-so-perfect day where you just want to throw in that towel and give up. But don't allow a bad day to become a reason or excuse to be hard on yourself with negative talk. Turn those negative thoughts into positive ones. Take control of your life.
Be Aware of the Negative Thoughts -
If you truly want to live a happier life, you have to be aware of your negative self-talk and stop it in it's tracks before it happens. As soon as you realize it's happening, stop and turn those thoughts into positive chatter.
Fight Back -
The truth is we tend to stay quiet when we put ourselves down. We nod our heads silently and agree with the destructive criticism in our heads. We have got to fight back! We must be willing to take a stand and tell our inner critic that it's just not true! Stop arguing with yourself. Your best friend wouldn't talk to you that way, why should you?
Don't Believe the Excuses -
You might excuse yourself from a situation or the dinner table, but it certainly does not mean you should bring the excuses out when you feel like you deserve it. Don't make excuses when you cut yourself down. Negative talk is negative talk just as excuses are excuses and nothing more.
We all deserve to be happy even when the situation seems hopeless. Don't allow the negative thoughts to steal that happiness. Take control!