How To Focus When You Have ADHD
When you have **ADHD**, you know it can become overwhelming by all of the distractions that are a part of life.
Life Can Become Distracting
You are constantly distracted by everything from scrolling social media, to checking emails, to managing the household and working a job! Just trying to focus on any one thing can feel like a never ending battle that seems literally impossible when your ADHD has a mind of its own.
When life becomes overwhelming and you just can't seem to focus you may find yourself doing everything but what needs your utmost attention.
For many of us, social media can become a major distraction, especially when you work from home online.
Tuning into your favorite television show can also keep you from your priorities because you just can't get beyond the idea of doing anything that is dull and boring.
Or how about when you've got a mile long to-do list that you have yet to check off because as soon as you've started one task, you see another and start it before you've completed the first one, and so on.
Having ADHD and finding yourself constantly distracted is a common occurrence that often happens when you just don't feel like focusing on what's important because it's tedious and boring. Or maybe it's because you fear anything new and different.
Being Afraid of Life Can Be Overwhelming
*Whatever your reason for being distracted, you already know that focusing is the only way to get things done, but where do you start?*
**You start with knowing what you really want in life and in order to do that you'll want to turn it into a goal.**
**Creating goals** that are simple enough to focus on will allow you to spend some time every day on what really matters to you the most.
When you schedule goals that are important to you, it allows you to avoid the distractions that keep you from focusing on what you really want in life. Anything that doesn’t fit or allow you to move closer to your goals, shouldn't be scheduled.
Decide how much time you want to set towards each of your goals and stick with it. When the time is up for that goal, move on to the next one. One of the biggest reasons your goals like that to-do list doesn't get done is because your ADHD says, *"No more, this is too much, I'm done!"* The result isn't anywhere near positive and you tell yourself you'll do it another day, but it never gets done.
The Struggle of Getting Things Done
**If you struggle with a negative mindset, change your thoughts.**
Instead of thinking about how hard it is to manage your ADHD symptoms or how you wish you weren't so distracted, turn those negative thoughts into positive ones. Your brain is programmed to respond to the messages you send it. If you're telling your brain about a negative feeling, it will believe it. If you respond with positive thoughts, your brain will believe that too.
**If the distractions are still keeping you from focusing on your goals, remove them.**
**Focus on your goals** where the television isn't present, log out of or temporarily block your email and social media accounts. Anything that's a distraction, find a solution that works for you, and don't allow yourself to make excuses as to why you can't.
The more you are able to train your brain to focus rather than just giving in to your ADHD symptoms, the more productive you'll become and the more you will find yourself enjoying the life you have always dreamed of.
What Does a Narcissist Really Want
Chances are you probably already know that a narcissist can be charming and focused on you at first, but sooner or later, the person you thought they were, turns bitter and demanding. And if you've found yourself in a relationship with a narcissist then those changes probably have you confused and wondering what happened.
Unfortunately, the word narcissist also gets more recognition that doesn't always relate to some people. When we talk about being a narcissist, we are referring to someone who often has a grandiose sense of self-importance with the belief that they are special and are entitled to everything that they should have and will let no one stop them from their goal. Narcissists will also have an excessive need for admiration and rarely feel sympathy for others.
**So what exactly does a narcissist want?**
Narcissists want to be able to feed their need for their ego no matter what it takes to get them stoked. The person who is often the victim of their need must give them the admiration they desire by showering them with compliments and making them feel important whether it's about how perfectly they do their job or how good they look, it's an absolute must for a narcissist. Anything that isn't about them or their interests, they won't want to hear about it.
Narcissists also want a relationship that makes them look good. They want someone who will provide the resources they want to live the life they desire without argument and they will use you to get what they want because love doesn't exist in their world.
They will also want to be in control of every part of your life because they need to know that their needs and wants are going to continue to be met.
Their ultimate goal is to hook you with promises that they never intend to keep, but will allow them to fulfill their desires and keep you under control until they have no more use for you.
When a narcissist no longer feels like they are in control it can be dangerous for their victim because chances are you have already caught onto their lies and stood up to them. Once they have been confronted, narcissists will react by playing the victim and turn anyone who will listen against you.
And if you do happen to leave a narcissist or they decide to look for another victim, don’t believe for a minute that they're through with you completely. A narcissist has a need and if they think that you can still fulfill that need for them, they'll try to get back into your life. They will tell you that they're sorry, they made a mistake, and want to change. Don't believe a word of it. Narcissists don't change and only care about themselves. And a narcissist who is already aware of your concerns about them will make certain your actions don't go unnoticed or unpunished once you let them back into your life.
Narcissists will always have a backup plan whether it's you or a new victim because they don't want to be alone. If a narcissist is alone they won't be able to get the recognition they believe they deserve and their needs met with ease.
But those needs don't just stop with you. A narcissist will always use anyone that they believe can give them what they need by attempting to gain their sympathy.
Narcissists feed on sympathy by telling their victims their life story and playing the victim themselves. Once they've convinced someone that they are the victim they know it will be easier to get them on their side and give in to their needs.
A victim of a narcissist can be anyone as long as they can be used to fulfill their needs. They may pretend to be your friend or be interested in being in a relationship with you, but they really only want to use you. The only goal a narcissist has is to get your attention so that they can get what they want from you and nothing more.
And if you're holding onto hope that a narcissist will change, they won't. Narcissists are dead set on being admired by the world and nothing will stop them from that. So if you have the opportunity walk away from that relationship. No real good will come from forming a relationship with a narcissist.
**The Fight With Her -Joy Smith**
How to Make This the Year You Achieve Your Goals
With the New Year in full swing, most of us have a goal or two in life that we had every intention of setting, but we never achieve. Setting a goal is the easiest part, but when it comes to achieving our goals, but a lack of motivation can prevent us from even getting started. Getting motivated and reaching your goals doesn’t have to end your New Year if you know the steps you need to take to get there.
The first step in setting and achieving your goals in 2023 is to know exactly what you want. Don’t set a goal that you really don’t feel passionate about. For some of us, we have a habit of setting goals for reasons that aren’t our own. We want to please others, so we set goals that align with what others want for us, but not what we really want because we are so used to the demands of others. Let’s get one thing straight. You, my friend, are your own person. Take charge and decide what you really want in life, not what someone else wants for you. Set goals that you really want in order to be motivated to achieve them. If it’s one thing that I have learned from **setting goals of my own**, it’s that you’ll never accomplish a goal if you’re not passionate about it. So make sure it’s a goal that truly stokes your passion. https://anchor.fm/thefightwithinher/episodes/EP--95-5-Simple-Life-Hacks-To-Help-Improve-Your-Focus-e1ss3ab
Once you have the goals you want to achieve in mind get specific and start by asking questions like:
*“Why do I want to achieve this goal?”*
**But don’t just ask why. Also ask the tougher questions like:**
“How will I accomplish this goal?” and *“When do I expect to achieve this goal?”*
Now dig deeper and really get in-depth with your goals by thinking about how your life would change if you were to achieve those goals. Imagine that you have already achieved your goals and you are living your dream life! How do you feel? Do you feel inspired? Motivated? Are you living your best life?
Once you have all of the details noted, the next step in achieving your goals is to make a visual reminder. I honestly never believed that a vision board would be anything other than another project that I haven’t completed, but I was wrong! Creating a vision board has allowed me to see exactly what my goals are and has helped me stay forced and **motivated toward achieving my goals**. Vision boards work because when you see them visually, you start to turn that vision aka goal into reality. https://anchor.fm/thefightwithinher/episodes/EP--91-4-Reasons-Why-Your-ADHD-Could-Be-Making-You-Tired-e1r16ir
Whether you use an online vision board that you’ve saved on a social media site like Pinterest or a physical one that you hang on your office wall will depend on your mindset. If you’re anything like me, you may want to create both a digital and physical board to achieve your goals. I love the idea of a digital board, but my problem is, I can’t see it without logging online, which means there is a 90 percent probability I never will.
*“Out of sight out of mind!”*
When you’re able to see your goals in front of you, it’s empowering as well as motivating and a physical board is great at doing just that. You can create a physical vision board using a posterboard or corkboard for the base of your vision board, office supplies such as glue, tape, pushpins, scissors, or markers to help create your vision, and magazines or other printed images that represent the goals you want to achieve.
Keep in mind that the images you add to your board should inspire you and be related to the goals that you want to achieve. Don’t just pick an image you think is cool, but you could also like another. Be specific and choose images that represent your goals. When I first started **creating my digital vision board** on Pinterest, I would just add images that I thought could relate to my goals with no specific path in mind. I soon learned that once I narrowed down my images with specific step-by-step goals, I could see where I was headed next. https://anchor.fm/thefightwithinher/episodes/EP--87-ADHD-and-Your-Creative-Side-e1ga7us
The choices you make, and the actions you take, you are in control of. If you continue to make choices that you really don’t want, then you will keep making the excuses that you feel are necessary and live a life you don’t want until that cycle breaks. The excuses you make tell your brain that you are okay with your life and you don’t need to change anything.
When you start taking the steps that lead you to your goals, your brain begins to acknowledge and accept those new habits. And the more specific you are with your goals, the more your brain welcomes your dream life. What do you feel like you really deserve? You can achieve your goals if you are willing to take those steps. And If I can do this, you can do this!
That step you take doesn’t have to be big. Just one small step can motivate you to the next and so on. With every step you take, you are creating a path toward reaching your goal. If you’re ADHD like me, don’t overwhelm yourself, just focus on one step at a time.
Yes, tiny steps count!
One of the most difficult decisions we often face when we want to achieve a goal is actually starting it. Starting anything is the hardest part, but once you do, you’ll feel motivated to keep going. Just remember, that those steps you are taking, won’t always go as planned. There will be struggles, but it’s all a part of the process of reaching your goals. If you feel like things aren’t going your way, step back and reassess your goals, rather than getting discouraged and just stepping out permanently.
If fear is your enemy then maybe **it’s time to fight back**. Ignoring your fears won’t help you to succeed with your goals, but you can use that fear as a motivational tool to push forward and keep going with your goal. If you’re still struggling with the idea of facing your fears, figure out what goals are important to you and whether or not you would regret not achieving those goals if you didn't follow through with them. If your goal is important enough, you will find the courage to face your fears and crush your goals. https://anchor.fm/thefightwithinher/episodes/EP--59-How-to-Take-Advantage-of-Your-Fears-e11ndvq
Once you’re ready to push past that fear, you will want to break down the goals that are important to you and focus on the steps needed to achieve those goals. Start with the smallest step that you need to focus on until it's completed and then move on to the next step. Creating smaller steps allows you to focus on the bigger picture without feeling overwhelmed by how much further you have before you reach your end goal.
If procrastination is preventing you from achieving your goals, try focusing on your goals during the time when your productivity is at its highest. If you find that you are more productive in the morning, use that time to your advantage. If you’re more of a night person, focus on your goals then. If you find yourself able to concentrate in the afternoon, use those midday hours to your benefit. Taking full advantage of your peak hours will boost your productivity level which in return may even get you to your goals faster!
There is never a guarantee that achieving your goals will be easy. And you may find that some of the techniques I’ve mentioned, may not work for you, while others do. And finally, above all else, you must be willing to put in a lot of hard work. Without it, how else are we going to succeed at every single thing our heart desires and create the life we have always dreamt of?
Just sitting here wondering if I can get through all of the projects I have added to my to-do list today. One of my biggest projects is sorting through the mess in the living room that I have going on. It's something that has bothered me enough to mention in my latest post over at read.cash.
https://read.cash/@Thefightwithinher/how-i-survived-working-from-home-with-my-adhd-db77699b
So what is everyone else up to today?
How I survived Working From Home With My ADHD
During the start of the pandemic a few years ago, I found it challenging to stay productive once I transitioned to working from home. Aside from ADHD symptoms, I struggled with the worry and anxiety of teaching and caring for my son with autism, as well as the stress of a Covid virus quarantine. And while I know there were a lot of us who struggled, I wanted to share my own story because maybe, just maybe there’s someone out there who can benefit from something I’ve learned along the way.
**Working From Home** has always given me the freedom to do my work wherever I wanted. And while I do have a designated office space, I honestly love just being able to work from my couch in the living room, outside on my front porch when it’s a beautiful day, or anywhere I want! https://anchor.fm/thefightwithinher/episodes/EP--1-8-Lessons-I-Learned-Working-From-Home-as-a-Mom-with-ADHD-eeghpg
I know some will disagree, but when I’m able to freely choose where I want to work, I feel energized and productive. I feel like I’m in charge of my destiny and powerful! Plus, being flexible with my workspace allows me to escape from others in my home when I can’t be disturbed.
I found myself working as much as possible during the pandemic because I needed to build up my savings and because there was always something I could do. This also meant I was spending less time with my family.
I thought it was harmless at first, but all those hours I worked caused a great deal of heated debate because I was always on the job rather than spending time with the family. There was also that familiar feeling of burnout, which I definitely didn't need to add to my already severe ADHD symptoms. I knew I had to set a time to end my workday and at the designated time, I had to stop working and shut down my laptop for the rest of the day. There are some days when I still want to fight the urge not to respond to a client or work on a job-related task but taking a mental break from my work no matter how much I love what I do is an absolute must.
I also realized that having my son at home with me would mean I would have to work while he was asleep if I was going to get any work done. By changing my work hours, I not only had more time for myself to focus on my job, but my productivity also increased. 5 AM may be early for most of the world, but it makes perfect sense for me.
Others follow a schedule, but I throw even the thought of following one out the window. I can't tell you how many times I've heard, "Get a schedule." But for people with mental illnesses like ADHD, schedules may not always be helpful. Having a schedule isn’t for everyone, but for me, it’s bad. I get stuck in a rut when I do the same thing every day. Variety my friend is the spice of life, or at least that’s what I believe!
**I Need Flexibility Instead of Strict Routines** in my life because I am a caregiver to my autistic adult son and I’m always on the go. I like being able to do my workout in the mornings, but sometimes I need that extra oomph that I get from my workout in the afternoons when fatigue has reared its ugly head. And sometimes, I use that flexibility to work on projects that require my immediate attention. But that doesn’t mean that I don’t have specific hours that I designate as my workday, but what happens in that designated time is all up to me! https://anchor.fm/thefightwithinher/episodes/EP--3-ADHD-and-Being-Your-Own-Boss-ef1k2a
I do, however, have a list of daily tasks that I include in my workday. There is no order in the way my tasks need to be completed just as long as I have done them within my work hours. I also make sure that I know what my tasks are for the next work day within those hours. That way I have a good idea of what I need to focus on ahead of time.
One of the most important rules I think we sometimes forget when working from home is taking a break! Even as much as I love my work, I also know that if I don’t **Take Regular Breaks**, I’m setting myself up for burnout! It also means taking a lunch break, which I sometimes have been known to work through. Missing lunch also means my energy levels plummet and my productivity drops, which is something I don’t need! One of the benefits of living in a rural historical town happens to be what locals call, the noon whistle. At precisely noon every day, the whistle can be heard through the entire town, which is a reminder of not only the time but also to let many of us know that we need to eat lunch! https://anchor.fm/thefightwithinher/episodes/EP--91-4-Reasons-Why-Your-ADHD-Could-Be-Making-You-Tired-e1r16ir
Lately, I have started to notice the pile-up that is never-ending in the corner of my living room. Somewhere underneath that pile lies a very gorgeous turquoise leather chair and an elegant black desk that remains hidden from my view and the rest of the world. It’s a real shame because they really are some absolutely beautiful pieces that don’t deserve to be hidden away from the world and that mess of a pile-up is an eyesore that frustrates me more than I care to admit. It’s another overwhelming area in my life that I have slowly started tackling. A paintbrush here, a notebook there, slowly getting put back in their rightful place, organized! And I must admit that an overwhelming mess does distract me when I’m focused on trying to be productive. I felt drained by the sight of my mess, I guess you could say, and once I started cleaning, my productivity improved significantly.
One of the biggest issues of working from home is being isolated from others. Sure, you may be surrounded by family at home, but they aren’t your work tribe. When I first started working from home, I missed the interaction I had with my friends from my old job and began to experience depression. But then I found myself surrounded by online friends and mentors whom I had connected with during the Covid, and that depression disappeared! There’s never a reason to feel alone during your workday. Set aside a few minutes every day to spend chatting with a co-worker or a friend with similar work experiences.
Instead of focusing on the amount of time I spend working, I have made it a habit of staying focused on my productivity. Rather than working on a task for eight hours, or as I like to call it, watching the clock, I set a goal for the day. If my goal gets done, I’ll either focus on the next goal or end my day early.
If I'm not motivated during my workday, I often switch things up. Do you remember when I said variety is the spice of life? This is it! This is where my ADHD tends to take over, but it's okay! When you have ADHD and are easily distracted by everything going on around you, working from home can be challenging. To keep myself focused, I usually change my environment by finding a different place to work, whether it's outside on my porch or in a different room. Occasionally, I will even visit the library when I need to focus!
Even one strategy to help you be more productive and get through your workday is enough to keep you going when you have ADHD. Not to mention the freedom to work wherever and whenever you want! Moreover, being **Self-Employed Means New Opportunities** pop up online all the time. https://anchor.fm/thefightwithinher/episodes/EP--87-ADHD-and-Your-Creative-Side-e1ga7us
Just wanted to say hello! I was a part of the old noise cash site, so I am hoping to reconnect with some familiar faces from there as well as new ones. :-)
5 Simple Life Hacks That Can Help Improve Your Focus
There are days when my ADHD makes it difficult to get things done. Due to my lack of focus, working online is one of my favorite things. Yet even working online can be difficult for me some days. As a result, I rely on a few simple life hacks to stay focused and accomplish my tasks.
**For Example:**
I have tons of notebooks that I use specifically for my to-do lists. The notebooks were a disorganized mess at one point in my life because I hadn’t checked off the items on those lists in quite some time. I had no strategy in place because I would get overwhelmed just thinking about what I do need to get done on my lists. It took me years to get used to writing down anything but my story ideas because I always had a habit of associating a to-do list with a schedule, something I truly loathe.
But not long ago, I came across a blog post from one of my favorite entrepreneur inspirations, Richard Branson.
In his post, he talked about how he uses labeled lists to get things done, so I thought, if this was the kick in the pants I need to help me focus, then let’s do this! I realized that once I labeled my to-do lists, I was motivated, and my mind stayed focused on the goal in sight!
**Of Course:**
There are still moments when my ADHD wants to fight back, and all I want to do is absolutely nothing! But being unproductive doesn’t pay the bills, so I will put on my wireless Monster headphones and play motivational music.
**Chill Music Lab**, an independent digital music label I recently discovered, creates mind-blowing playlists of music videos from independent artists whose work deserves recognition as well as some stunning graphics featuring famous movie characters. https://youtube.com/@MusicLabChill
The videos give listeners looking for motivational music for their workday a chance to visually feel like they are working side-by-side with their favorite character.
For example, two of my favorite videos from Chill Music Lab’s collection are **Work Music — Superhero Mix for Concentration** and **Music for Productive Work — Tony Stark's Concentration Mix**. I am a big fan of Tony Stark aka Robert Downey Jr the actor behind Iron Man. https://youtu.be/eUAd5f936Yg https://youtu.be/LVbUNRwpXzw
I don’t know about you, but just seeing Tony Stark working beside me while listening to motivational electronic music is incredibly inspiring.
Another simple life hack that I use before I even begin my workday, is **Youtube**! I use youtube to play motivational meditation songs and binaural beats which helps me prepare for my day. I am a firm believer that music can heal the soul even on days you don’t think it’s necessary. https://youtube.com/@theinsanewriter
There are days when I’ll wake up feeling fantastic and ready to start my workday, but I still tune into my meditational music because it removes any negative thoughts from my mind, even those I’m unaware of, and helps me focus on positive ones that inspire and encourage me to do my best.
It’s like I’m upgrading my mind and I feel like I can take on the world. So in a way, it’s like having a superpower!
There are also days when my ADHD leaves me mentally and physically tired, so I have gotten into a habit of fitting in some form of exercise in the middle of my workday, which gives me a boost of energy and helps me focus. I’ll do a quick workout on my elliptical trainer or lift weights using my home gym. If I have errands to run and the weather is nice, I’ll walk instead of driving to my idestination. Just getting outdoors makes me feel energized and ready to focus again.
Because I sit in front of a computer screen at work for most of my day, I take a 2-5 minute break after every task to refresh my mind and stay focused on my productivity. I learned long ago that if I didn’t focus on how many minutes it took me to complete a job, my productivity excelled. I don’t feel overwhelmed or stressed when I don’t keep track of the time. Of course, this solution may not be the right strategy for everyone, but it works for me and my **ADHD**! Sometimes you just have to find what works for you, even if it means thinking outside of the box. https://anchor.fm/thefightwithinher/episodes/EP--94-ADHD-Isnt-Real-e1s27h0
**And finally:**
One of the biggest life hacks that I rely on is always keeping a bottle of water or a cup of unsweetened herbal tea within reach. When I hydrate regularly, I feel more energetic and ready to focus. **The importance of staying hydrated** extends not only to the body but also to the mind. https://anchor.fm/thefightwithinher/episodes/EP--93-The-Cause-Behind-the-Symptoms-that-Mimicked-My-ADHD-e1rmg7q
Your ADHD Diagnosis Isn’t Real
*“People are strange.”* Those simple three words, made famous by *The Doors*, and the 80’s vampire movie, *The Lost Boys*, have always reminded me that people really are strange, especially when they’ve convinced themselves and others that your **ADHD** diagnosis isn’t real. https://anchor.fm/thefightwithinher/episodes/EP--90-How-You-Can-Avoid-the-Emotional-Stress-of-ADHD-e1qlilh
And if you’re ADHD isn’t real to them, then chances are they don’t believe that any professional mental health diagnosis is real, no matter what proof there may be.
It’s already a challenge just trying to manage the symptoms of our ADHD on the not-so-great days, but trying to convince someone else that we have a real mental health condition, proof in hand, maybe a challenge we won’t always win.
But I know we keep trying because we’re fighters. We’re survivors. And we know darn well that our ADHD diagnosis is real.
But why are we so worried about those who can’t accept our diagnosis? Those who refuse to believe we have ADHD. Well, we worry because we are not in control of the situation.
It’s a power struggle we want to convince those who are not on our side, especially those who we love and care about, that we need their support.
We worry about anything and everything constantly. It comes with the territory, a symptom of ADHD and we know that.
But when it becomes a power struggle that causes more harm than good, maybe we need to ask ourselves what are we really fighting for. Is it really that important that we have to convince everyone in the world that we really do have ADHD and that our symptoms are real and not just some made-up excuse?
We may be determined, but trying to convince someone that doesn’t want to be convinced is like trying to convince the entire world that aliens are real. And there is no doubt in my mind that we wouldn’t try.
And honestly, it does get frustrating when you’re just trying to get through your day. I mean, who needs someone telling you to get over yourself when you’re just trying to manage the **symptoms of your ADHD**, but nothing is working at the moment, or that your ADHD is just an excuse? https://anchor.fm/thefightwithinher/episodes/EP--91-4-Reasons-Why-Your-ADHD-Could-Be-Making-You-Tired-e1r16ir
But guys hear me out. It doesn’t matter if it’s your next-door neighbor, your boss, your co-worker, your parents, your children, your siblings, or even your spouse. If they don’t believe ADHD is real, there’s a good chance that they never will.
Mental health awareness is still new to those who don’t understand as well as those of us who have been diagnosed with it. And most mental health diagnoses were practically unheard of until the pandemic arrived.
Even when I was growing up in the 80s ADHD wasn’t as common of a term as it is today. My brother we didn;t discover had severe autism until he was in his late 30’s, doctors had simply diagnosed him with having a severe mental handicap when he was a child.
Unless you have a severe mental or physical health problem, anything less was considered a problem child, especially if the school you went to had anything to say about it. Most parents thought that the school they sent their children to knew what was best and often never questioned their judgment.
I can’t remember how many times during my childhood I was misdiagnosed by the staff at the school I had attended because the teachers assumed I wasn’t capable of handling a regular classroom because to me most schoolwork was boring and I often found it difficult to focus on it.
Some teachers often saw my silence as a problem child, especially when I was too scared of the authority figure to answer, which resulted in an innocent me getting swatted with the paddle in the principal’s office because I was too scared to stand up for myself. Maybe things would have been different that day had my teachers known I had ADHD.
And while my parents didn’t know I had ADHD, they did know that the principal and teacher were wrong, and immediately pulled me out of that school.
In another particular school, I remember being placed in a disciplinary classroom with my cousin who happened to be there because he couldn’t sit still in his chair and often rebelled because it was the only thing he knew how to do at that time. I was there because I wasn’t interested in learning about most subjects in school, so they thought I was slow.
I also remember the day that my mother found out what the school had done. She and my father pulled me out of that school without question. She knew I was reading and writing college words at 6 years old because they were words she had studied with me at home after school every day, so she knew I wasn’t slow.
People just didn’t talk about diagnoses like ADHD or autism when I was growing up because they didn’t know much about it. They also didn’t know that symptoms like depression are commonly associated with ADHD and other mental health conditions such as Autism.
And if you did have depression it usually meant being labeled a freak by society or sent straight to the mental hospital aka looney bin and all because you literally cried over spilled milk.
Not only did doctors not have a better understanding of mental health when I was growing up, but they also didn’t have a pandemic that made them aware of our conditions.
And, until you’re officially **diagnosed with ADHD** the only thing you know is that something is off and it has been your entire life. You suspect it might be ADHD but then what happens if you’re right? There’s the worry rearing its ugly head. Authority figures like doctors scare you, and you’re just not sure you can handle that. And there my friends is another symptom that’s often associated with ADHD. https://anchor.fm/thefightwithinher/episodes/EP--92-Diagnosing-ADHD-in-Adults-e1rcd4o
But then once you decide to take that leap and get a diagnosis, it’s an ahh ha moment, because you realize, this is not so scary after all! You took that risk and it’s an adrenaline rush, your brain feels great, but as for authority figures? Ya, that still scares you. You do, however, start to notice your symptoms more clearly. You even notice those symptoms in others who may or may not be aware they have ADHD.
It’s like buying a car and seeing your car on the road everywhere you turn, even though you would have never noticed it before. That diagnosis explains so much, yet it also leaves us feeling frustrated because we can’t just tame the ADHD beast at will.
And we most definitely can't seem to ers convince others our symptoms are real, no matter what we say or do. I mean, you and I both know that we could have the proof in hand, a doctor say it right in front of them, and they still wouldn’t believe you.
And yes we know that we can’t just make ourselves focus for a long period of time no matter what anyone says, especially when we have to focus on something that we find to be downright boring, But try convincing that to a person who loves the very thing we loathe, of that.
We’ll also wait until the very last second to procrastinate like we’ve never procrastinated before because it’s in our nature, yet another symptom we know all too well that’s you guessed it, associated with our ADHD, but we can’t convince others of that.
Nope, life just doesn’t work that way for us, and there’s not a lot we can do or say to convince anyone who doesn’t want to understand that ADHD and its symptoms are real.
But you know what, we get our best work done when we do procrastinate. We do what works for us. We being to embrace the quirky habits and avoid the boring stuff by following the roads that guide us to our passions, even when it means taking one baby step at a time.
We know our habits and we know them well. We know that when we start a project, we will probably stop, then start another project before we have even completed the first one. It's a never-ending cycle that frustrates the heck out of us because we insist on everything being perfect, all thanks to our ADHD. Yet it’s never perfect in our minds but we can’t convince our brain of that. So why again are we trying to convince other that don’t want to be convinced that ADHD is real.
What we experience in life that often sounds fun and exciting at first, usually results in us bailing out of the situation, task or whatever got us there in the first place. We know our brains stand no chance of slowing down and focusing on one thing, so we try different things because we live for variety and excitement. When anything piques our interest we want to dive right into it because why should we wait?
We have our rude habits of interrupting others during a conversation or all throughout the movie because we get way too excited and can’t wait to tell the world, but at the same time also because we know if we don’t we will forget about it later. Yes, we know we are rude, but when our thoughts move faster than a speeding bullet, we don’t have the super ability to just stop our minds at will from blurting everything out. Heck, most of the time we don’t even realize we’re doing it until it’s too late.
We like to explore where we know we shouldn’t take chances that are risky and we don’t always follow society’s set of rules and maybe that is what bothers those who don’t believe ADHD is real. So why should we convince them otherwise?
You have enough battles to fight, why add another battle if it really isn’t necessary?
If it’s one thing I have learned about having ADHD or any mental health diagnosis, it’s that we are our own tribe. We understand each other, even when the rest of the world doesn’t. It is who we are and whether we want to focus on using our ADHD as an advantage or we want to focus on convincing others who we may never be able to convince is up to us.
And yes, that will never change the fact that those who just don’t get us, will still think we are lazy, no good, making every excuse in the book because you don’t fit their ideal person. We have better things to do and **more important battles to win**. then try to convince someone who cannot accept what has been a part of us all along.
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I know it has been a while since I have updated on here. Life has been busy, but good! I have been blessed with not having seasonal allergies over the past year. Here's why! 👇👇👇👇👇👇
https://read.cash/@Thefightwithinher/how-to-boost-your-immune-system-with-herbal-teas-9c1ebc7b
How To Boost Your Immune System With Herbal Teas
With seasonal allergies in full swing and the everchanging Covid virus still lurking around every corner, I started drinking herbal teas to help boost my immune system. So far, I haven’t even experienced a slight sniffle since the Covid began, even after being around others who became ill. So, why herbal teas and not the ever famous green tea that has been noted to have immune-boosting benefits?
**Green tea is a fabulous choice for those looking to improve their immune system, but it’s not for everyone.** The tannic acid that is commonly found in black, white, and green tea can cause bleeding and pain in your bladder, especially when you have been diagnosed with IC (*Interstitial cystitis*) disease. Most herbal teas have little to no tannic acid and are caffeine-free, making them a safer alternative to their immune-supporting green tea counterpart. https://anchor.fm/thefightwithinher/episodes/The-Negative-Effects-of-Caffeine-and-How-to-Kick-the-Habit-For-Good-eollk4
A few of my favorite immune-boosting herbal tea flavors that I tend to sip throughout the day include turmeric, ginger, chamomile, and echinacea. Not only do the teas help support my immune system, but they also offer other health benefits as well.
**A quick note:** Ginger and turmeric are spices and not herbs, they are caffeine-free however, and may contain herbs when purchased from a tea brand such as Yogi Teas.
Turmeric
Turmeric spice contains Curcumin, an active compound that is known for its **anti-inflammatory** and antioxidant health benefits. Turmeric is a double bonus for me since it has been known to help ease inflammation caused by arthritis and boost the immune system. https://anchor.fm/thefightwithinher/episodes/7-of-the-Best-Anti-inflammatory-foods-for-Your-Arthritis-eohlnv
Turmeric tea can generally be found anywhere teas are sold with or without other natural flavors, or you can make your own if you're concerned about what goes into your cup of tea. I’m partial to the Yogi tea brand when it comes to turmeric because with my ADHD it’s just less time-consuming for me.
But you can make your turmeric herbal tea by Adding ½ tsp of fresh or 1 tsp of ground turmeric to a tea ball and steeping in 1 cup of hot water for 5 minutes.
Chamomile
Chamomile is a flower that is commonly used as a tea for its calming benefits. When my stress level is up, I tend to make a cup of Chamomile tea before bedtime, which tends to make me feel relaxed and sleepy. If I’m feeling fatigued due to stress and not getting enough rest, I don’t feel well enough to take on the day! Having a good night’s sleep is essential for both my mental and physical health.
Again, I am partial to Yogi teas and their Comforting Chamomile tea brand, but you can make your own by adding 1 teaspoon of dried chamomile flowers to a tea ball and steeping in 1 cup of hot water for at least 5 minutes.
Echinacea
Another favorite herbal tea I drink often is Echinacea, which is an herb that may be effective in building up our body’s immune system and reducing allergy symptoms. I tend to use Echinacea Immune Support from Yogi Tea, but again you can: Add 1 teaspoon of dried echinacea herbs to a tea ball and step for 5 minutes in 1 cup of hot water.
Ginger
Ginger spice packs a lot of punch as a tea because it contains several health benefits that may provide relief from arthritis, help aid in digestion, and reduce infections caused by seasonal allergies. I try to drink at least one cup of ginger tea per day because of my arthritis and to keep allergies at a minimum.
Because ginger is a very common spice that's easy to find, I will use both fresh and Yogi Tea brands in Ginger. To brew fresh ginger, you will need to bring 1 and 1/2 cups of water in a medium saucepan to a boil. Slice about 1 teaspoon of the spice and add it to the boiling water, then reduce and simmer for about 5 minutes. Strain the tea before drinking.
Keep in mind, that any of the above teas can be made hot or iced. If you prefer iced tea, simply add the brewed tea to a glass filled with ice. I tend to drink both hot and iced tea, depending on my mood and the weather!
One last thought I would like to leave you with! While a good cup of tea may be beneficial in strengthening your immune system and reducing seasonal allergy symptoms, including healthy foods and exercise in your life can greatly increase those immune-enhancing benefits!
Why Your Luna Health Bar Could Be Affecting Your Health
Not too long ago, I decided to try the ever-so-popular Luna Bar. I had forgotten (Thank you **ADHD**) about the free sample I had requested in the mail from them until it arrived that day. Let me tell you, the Lemon Zest Luna Bar is not recommended! The first bite was so sweet it reminded me of that candy powdered dipping fun stick you got as a kid. Parents, why did you ever allow us to eat that?! The second bite just continued to get sweeter and sweeter until finally, I ended up tossing the so-called nutritional bar into the garbage. I'm honestly not even sure why they consider it a women's nutritional health bar when it isn't all that good for you to begin with. For one, the bar has so much soy listed in the ingredients that it is a serious concern since it has been shown to cause cancer and infertility in women. https://anchor.fm/thefightwithinher/episodes/How-Dehydration-Can-Effect-ADHD-el5g9c
**These are the ingredients listed in the Lemon Zest Luna Bar:**
*Protein Grain Blend (Soy Protein Isolate, Organic Rolled Oats, Organic Rice Flour, Organic Roasted Soybeans, Organic Soy Flour, Organic Milled Flaxseed), Organic Brown Rice Syrup, Organic Dried Cane Syrup, Chicory Fiber Syrup, Organic High Oleic Sunflower Oil, Vegetable Glycerin, Palm Kernel Oil‡, Organic Palm Kernel Solids, Organic Soy Flour, Organic Lemon Juice Concentrate, Organic Glucose Syrup, Natural Flavors, Organic Natural Flavors, Organic Soy Lecithin, Citric Acid, Sea Salt, Pectin, Sodium Bicarbonate.*
**The other big issue is that there are a whopping 9 grams of sugar and 95 milligrams of sodium listed in the nutritional facts:**
*190 calories, 6 g fat, 2.5 g saturated fat, 26 g carbohydrates, 9 g sugar, 8 g protein, 2.0 g fiber, 95 mg sodium*
Our body does not need all of that added sugar or salt! Sorry Luna Bar, but it's not a healthy alternative for women and downright scary with all of that soy!
If you are looking for a nutritional alternative to help curb your hunger, reach for a piece of fruit that contains natural sugars. Try an apple with a small amount of natural unsweetened nut butter.
If you simply need a boost of energy for your work day, may I suggest Mantra Labs, which was co-founded by Jared Padalecki (*Sam Winchester of the hit television series Supernatural*).
Mantra Labs is home to good wholesome products like **GO**, a nutritional drink that contains no sugar. Just the all-natural good stuff like natural caffeine from tea leaves for energy, oceanic electrolytes for hydration, recovery herbs, and vitamins that will keep you going when you need to power through your work day. https://gomantralabs.com/?ref=LtWsKfqBbzIHD
**Go contains:**
*0 Calories, 0 Sugar, 100mg caffeine, Minerals, Herbs, Algae, 70+ trace minerals, Deep Ocean Minerals Vitamin, and mineral boost. 500% B12, 250% B5, and 50% for C, B1, B2, B3, B6, and B9.*
Making the right choices for your health is vital in 2021, especially as we continue to age. For me, it means ditching those health bars like Luna and following a healthier journey in the new year. What about you?
**Note:** *This post contains affiliate links that I get paid for. You are under no obligation to click on those links. If you do choose to click on the paid links, thank you so much for helping to support me and my family. We appreciate you.*
Lemon Ricotta with Fresh Strawberries
With my busy life as a work from home mom and my ADHD, I'm all about simplicity!
And of course, who doesn't love a little sweetness every now and then. I chose this dessert because:
I had fresh strawberries that I needed to use before they went bad.
I had a 15 ounce container of ricotta cheese again, I needed to use.
I have been dying to try my hand at using ricotta cheese in a dessert.
It made just enough for 2 servings
It's healthier than a heavy sweet dessert.
**Ingredients:**
3 tablespoons honey, or **Monk Fruit Blend Sweetener** (Get it here: https://amzn.to/3LEEhZX )
🍋4 teaspoons lemon juice or more to taste
🍓 1 cup strawberries, hulled and sliced
🧀 15 oz whole milk ricotta cheese
**Directions:**
**Step 1**
In a blender add honey or monk fruit blend sweetener, the ricotta cheese and lemon juice; until well combined.
**Step 2** Divide the ricotta lemon mixture equally into two dessert dishes.
**Step 3** Top the ricotta and lemon mixture with the strawberries and refrigerate to chill for 2 hours before serving.
**Notes:**
If you’re one of those curious souls like I am, you may be wondering, ***why Monk Fruit Blend Sweetener?***
In the upcoming months you’ll find that I'm making some huge changes in regards to my health in becoming Titan strong. I'm also doing this to show my youngest son who is working on his own health, that change is possible at any age!
As for the choice in sweetener, we chose to focus on a lot less carbs and natural, rather than processed fake foods. You know the ones!
*Please feel free to leave me a comment and let me know what you think if you tried this recipe!*
So I did a thing about a week ago and invested in a fitness tracker for my titan goal workouts. So far, I'm loving it!
I'm able to:
✔ Track my workouts
✔ Control my music
✔ Check the weather
✔ Monitor my heart rate breathing and blood pressure
✔ Keep an eye on my stress levels and sleep
Plus I Can:
⭕ Check my To-Do List
⭕ See who is calling me and be notified of incoming messages
⭕ Set alarms and change the clock face
⭕ Use Alexa to check the weather, etc.
Sitting here thinking, brain overload! Too many worries and too many pickles on my plate. No time for ADHD scores as I mentioned from a fan's question today over at read.cash. 👇👇👇👇
https://read.cash/@Thefightwithinher/what-ive-learned-about-adhd-ea36f3b4
🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏For the innocent affected by the world's recent events. 🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏
What I've Learned About ADHD
I learned something new weeks ago. I learned that the world is full of surprises when it comes to being diagnosed with **ADHD**. https://anchor.fm/thefightwithinher/episodes/EP--82-Breaking-the-2022-Podcasting-Rules-e1cjm6p
Since then I've questioned my own sanity when it comes to my diagnosis and how I handle it both on the air and in the real world. More specifically, I did some soul searching to a question I never knew was really an issue.
Is there really a specific set of rules that makes a person qualified to talk about their ADHD?
A few weeks ago I received a message from a follower on my **podcast show, The Fight Within Her**, who wanted to know why I had not taken the Professional test for my ADHD because I hadn't given the detailed results of my ADHD score. https://anchor.fm/thefightwithinher/episodes/EP--1-8-Lessons-Ive-learned-When-Transitioning-to-a-Successful-Work-From-Home-Job-eeghpg
At first I started to beat myself up for not memorizing that number because I thought may be others really don't believe that I have ADHD without memorizing that score. Maybe I shouldn't even be talking about ADHD on my podcast without being focused on that number. But then I realized, why be someone I'm not?
First and foremost, I do want to thank that person for their question and for listening to my podcast.
Growing up, I was never a fan of math or science. Heck, I was never a fan of a lot of classes unless they held my attention.
I failed Algebra with flying colors because I would always do my English assignments in math class. Poor Mr. Harding who was my Math teacher at that time would always get so frustrated when I would do his wife's ( Mrs. Harding ) assignments in his class. But Algebra never fascinated me and still doesn't. I mean X =Y what is that and who the heck thought the entire world needed to be just like them in knowing that answer!
Now science was a slightly different story. I found the videos of snakes and how they ate, and the hands on dissecting to be a bit interesting, but when it came to the scientific names, chemical reactions and so forth, my mind was out the door because to me it was tedious and boring. Maybe that explains it. I honestly don't know.
What I do know is that number scores and how low or how high I rank has never been a focus for me as far as my ADHD. I guess it's because when I received my Professional diagnosis for ADHD by my doctor, I already knew I had the mental disorder, and to me it didn't matter how low or how high I scored because no matter what the results say, my ADHD is going to do its thing score or no score. I'm always going to have the symptoms of ADHD no matter if I obsess over a score result or not. And I know that my ADHD affects my day to day life, some days not so much, while others more than I want to admit, but enough where those around me do notice it. They have noticed it all of my life, and of course so have I.
A test score doesn't change how ADHD effects you. It doesn't tell you how you should manage your symptoms. Despite what any test score states, no two people are exactly alike. While one person who has been diagnosed with ADHD might exhibit some symptoms, another may exhibit one symptom or all.
Our lives also play a big part in how we manage our ADHD symptoms. And what might work for one person may not work for another because of how we were raised, how we live our lives and the symptoms we have. It also depends on if you are taking a prescription medication for your symptoms or if you are managing them naturally.
So to me, ADHD isn't a number. That's like the companies out there who only see a personas a number. It's crappy and it makes a person feel unappreciated. ADHD is a diagnosis that I have slowly learned how to manage because of what works for me and what does not.
So here's a question for those of you who have been Professionally diagnosed with ADHD. Do you focus on that test number or do you focus on your ADHD and it's symptoms only? I would love to know your thoughts on this matter?
It is indeed late where I am, but I was focused on my writing. One of my latest articles with read cash involves ADHD and Essential Oils.
https://read.cash/@Thefightwithinher/4-essential-oils-for-adhd-8067721b
Feel free to let me know what you think.
4 Essential Oils for ADHD
After being diagnosed with ADHD, I decided to take a natural alternative approach to help ease my symptoms, including the use of essential oils.
Most of the essential oils I use for **ADHD** have a calming or uplifting effect, which helps my stress levels and mood tremendously. https://anchor.fm/thefightwithinher/episodes/EP--79-Are-Your-ADHD-Symptoms-Holding-You-Back-e19sejn
An essential oil can be applied in several ways. The oils can be mixed with a carrier oil such as almond to prevent irritation, then applied directly to the skin for a relaxing or uplifting aromatic scent.
A few drops of your favorite Essential oil for **ADHD** can also be applied to a light bulb in a living room lamp or ceiling fan. https://anchor.fm/thefightwithinher/episodes/EP--79-Are-Your-ADHD-Symptoms-Holding-You-Back-e19sejn
If youYou can also add a few drops of essential oils to your cloth mask. When it's necessary to wear my mask, I sometimes have to deal with my own breath, so adding just one or two drops to the fabric makes things smell a whole lot nicer and uplift my mood!
I have an aromatherapy diffuser like the Innogear, which is one I use personally, simply add a few drops for an uplifting or relaxing experience.
Essential oils for ADHD can also be applied to your pillow case for a relaxing night's rest.
Some of the most popular essential oils for ADHD are:
**Chamomile**
Not just for teas, Chamomile is another one of my favorite essential oils because of it's calming fragrance. Chamomile may help reduce the stress and anxiety symptoms of ADHD. The essential oil can be used in your bedtime routine after a stressful day or when your anxiety is at its worst.
**Lavender**
One of my favorite essential oils, Lavender has a relaxing scent that may help reduce anxiety, a symptom of ADHD. Keep a bottle of Lavender essential oil by your nightstand for those nights when you need to add a few drops to your diffuser or pillowcase for a good night's sleep.
**Orange**
Orange essential oil has an uplifting citrus aroma that may help ease the depression and anxiety symptoms of ADHD as well as boost your mood and help you focus. Stash a bottle of Orange oil in your vehicle for moments like rush hour traffic or a quick dash into a crowded store where a mask is essential.
**Peppermint**
Peppermint is an essential oil that may help calm hypertension and anxiety in ADHD. A few drops of Peppermint oil can be added to your favorite essential diffuser necklace or diluted with a carrier oil and applied lightly to the skin.
And finally, as with any natural alternative treatment, you should always consult with your doctor before incorporating essential oils into your ADHD routine since they can have side effects and counteract with certain medications that you may be taking.
Happy New Year! Did I make goals? Yes! But I made them before 2022, so I'm way ahead of myself, like my writing. ✏👓https://read.cash/@Thefightwithinher/adhd-and-your-creative-side-6449f85d
ADHD and Your Creative Side
Have you ever noticed that people who have **ADHD** often possess a creative side to them? That creativity is what keeps us motivated, and excited about life. https://anchor.fm/thefightwithinher/episodes/EP--3-ADHD-and-Being-Your-Own-Boss-ef1k2a
Yet when life gets too stressed, we tend to box up our creative side and tuck it away for another day because we can't handle another thing!
However, unleashing our creativity has been known to both reduce stress and help manage ADHD symptoms like distraction and procrastination.
But even with that knowledge, we just can't seem to find the time to create! Instead, we are focused on keeping our ADHD symptoms in check so that we can push through all of the important stuff like putting food on the table for our family and keeping a roof over our heads.
And between the never-ending battle of our **ADHD symptoms**, work, home, and life, by the end of the day, we are beyond exhausted, so the idea of creating something feels anything but fun! https://anchor.fm/thefightwithinher/episodes/EP--79-Are-Your-ADHD-Symptoms-Holding-You-Back-e19sejn
Then, we are constantly being told that our fatigue is an everyday feeling everyone experiences and we need to deal with it as the rest of the world does.
Unfortunately, not everyone has a **diagnosis of ADHD**, so they don't understand that we can't just deal with it like everyone else. With ADHD, fatigue can cause irritability and depression, which can eventually lead to serious health problems. https://anchor.fm/thefightwithinher/episodes/EP--76-The-Power-of-ADHD-e18i8kn
However, that creative side we tucked away because we already have too many pickles on our plate is an essential part of treating the fatigue caused by ADHD.
If creating something sounds a little intimidating, start small with your favorite hobby or anything you are passionate about. Try to incorporate your creative side every day, even if you only have five minutes to spare on it.
Just remember, success doesn't happen overnight. It may take some time before you start feeling less fatigued or notice an improvement in your mood and even your health.
Not convinced? I have always loved expressing my creative side even as a child. My love for writing began when I was 5 years old. I would sit in school and write stories about the shows and characters my mother and I would watch together. One television show that I remember writing about was the 1983 sci-fi tv series, Voyagers, which starred Jon-Erik Hexum and my childhood crush, Meeno Peluce. At 10 years old I had written a script for the series and by high school, I had written and published a poem that led to even greater accomplishments like publishing my science fiction novel, **The Generation**. http://www.amazon.com/The-Generation-Series-Book-Volume/dp/1514255383/ref=as_sl_pc_tf_til?tag=theinswri-20&linkCode=w00&linkId=H5ITD4XPSMLQCBEH&creativeASIN=1514255383
But there was a time when I stopped expressing my creative side because I had too many pickles on my plate and I had started to experience burnout mode. After taking two weeks off work to do nothing, I realized that not only was I bored, but I still felt drained.
Then, one day I felt an urge hit me to work on a story I had started writing several years ago. Since then I have noticed an improvement in the way I feel. I have even taken my creativity to another level with paper mache that has earned me a bit of money.
For those of us who live with ADHD, we can't be compared to those who don't have the mental disease because we are not the same. We think and act differently. Yet, we forget about the important things like being creative.
Learning to express our creative side every day isn't just another task on our to-do list or something others see as unproductive. Expressing our creative side gives us the motivation to do others things and it makes us feel confident that we can take on any challenge in life! Our lives are less chaotic and more at peace when we can express our creativity.
So embrace your creative side no matter what and make something!
Was surprised with lunch out today! Delicious food, but the service was very slow. Waited about 30 minutes to get our food despite the fact that we were the only ones there! 😔
Sometimes the urge hits me to work on one of my stories. Seth Bloodstone is one of those stories. He's been put on hold for a while, but now he is back. ✏
The Bloodstone
Seth Bloodstone stood outside on his front porch and screamed at the top of his lungs, not caring if he woke the neighbors. He hurt and there was no holding back. The monster inside of him had been unleashed and he would kill before they lured him away or convinced him otherwise. No other woman tore at him as she had. No other woman could fill him with so much rage, yet fill the emptiness in his heart and soul that had vanished along with her. She was gone and there was no getting her back.
Now they were trying to convince him that she wasn't worth his torment, his pain and that she was never worth it, to begin with. But, they were wrong and he was going to prove it to every damn one of them. He let out another scream that ripped through his soul like the jagged edge of a knife, while across the river she hid in fear hoping he would find her. Hoping he would know they had taken her where there was no escape.
They had tormented her just the same, told her he was dead, but she knew better. She knew in her heart he was alive. God only knew what they had done to him. She closed her eyes and tried to block out the pain.
The wounds were deep this time and she knew without a doubt, she didn't have much time left. She only hoped he would find her before it was too late. Before they found her.
Today starts a new mission with an iced coffee. I'm determined to get things done! Goal: Make enough in bitcoin to purchase a screen door for our home. I've got this! First article towards that goal, done! 👏💪 👇 😁
https://read.cash/@Thefightwithinher/the-emotional-side-of-adhd-5ed815af
The Emotional Side of ADHD
It's not always easy to control one's feelings when the situation becomes intense, but throw in the **mental diagnosis of ADHD** and those emotions are in overdrive no matter how great or stressful the situation is. https://anchor.fm/thefightwithinher/episodes/EP--3-ADHD-and-Being-Your-Own-Boss-ef1k2a
When a person's emotions are at a happy place, they are focused and productive in both work and life. When feelings such as being overwhelmed and stressed come into play, it can lead to impulsive decisions that could have negative consequences.
A person with ADHD may even avoid projects that need to be completed because of the overwhelming emotions caused by ADHD.
When those negative feelings get in the way, a lack of motivation sets in, and that to-do list gets put off for another day, sometimes months, even years if it's a project that's tedious.
Those emotions can also wreak havoc on relationships because those who have been diagnosed with ADHD often experience symptoms such as interrupting others and impulsive responses that often lead to an argument.
Gaining control of the emotions that are often seen with those who have ADHD requires a good understanding of the original problem.
For most people affected with the emotional symptoms of ADHD, stress is often a result of the underlying issue. If stress is left unmanaged it can cause unwanted health conditions and even death.
It's also not uncommon for anyone to experience stress in their life. For those with ADHD however, a stressful event can turn overwhelming if it's left untreated.
One of the simplest methods of treating stress is by reducing your to-do list to only include urgent tasks. Including every little thing that needs to be done. Staring at a list that seems like it's never-ending can be overwhelming even to those who don't have ADHD.
Stress can also be a factor when certain situations occur. Avoiding unnecessary events that trigger **the emotional symptoms of ADHD** when possible can help reduce that stress. https://anchor.fm/thefightwithinher/episodes/The-ADHD-Mind-Discover-How-to-Use-Rosemary-for-Focus-and-Concentration-ek2gu9
If it's not a situation that can be averted, try to keep from acting on the emotions that are causing the stress. Consider stepping into the other person's shoes if it's a confrontational situation. With ADHD, it's not always easy to agree with the other person, especially when it feels like a personal attack.
If seeing the other person's side of things isn't a possibility, take a step back until the overwhelming feelings have passed. Even when the situation seems helpless, there is no point in making things worse, especially when those feelings have turned to anger.
To avoid becoming emotionally overwhelmed in future circumstances, play out possible scenarios to cope with those feelings and explore any options that may help reduce a stressful situation.
Finally, find the time to enjoy any activities that bring out positive feelings associated with ADHD. Whether it's joining that new yoga class at the gym, exploring a new restaurant in the city, or binge-watching a favorite television series at home, making time to enjoy life's little pleasures is a big part of reducing **the negative effects of stress and ADHD.** https://anchor.fm/thefightwithinher/episodes/43-ADHD-and-the-Misconceptions-Behind-the-Mental-Health-Condition-eq38m0
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It's been one of those days where my ADHD flow is going great, meaning productivity! Took my supplements today too! Yes! I love it when everything falls into place, so I chose to write an article about my ADHD and how I'm treating it naturally.. 👇👇👇👇
https://read.cash/@Thefightwithinher/treating-your-adhd-naturally-6fc4fb9f
Treating Your ADHD Naturally
As a child, I was self-aware that I was different from the other kids when it came to learning and school. I would often become distracted by my surroundings and found schoolwork to be tedious. I was barely passing my classes because I chose to write stories instead of doing the lessons required for class.
But it wasn't until my early 40's that I decided to confirm what I had suspected since childhood. I was diagnosed with a mental health condition known as **Attention deficit hyperactivity disorder** (*ADHD*). https://anchor.fm/thefightwithinher/episodes/EP--81-How-To-Get-Through-the-Holidays-With-ADHD-e1a889r
My diagnosis as an adult confirmed my behavior as a child in school and life in general.
I had all of the common ADHD symptoms:
I was easily distracted
I refused to follow the teacher's directions
I interrupted others
I procrastinated
After my mental health diagnosis, I attempted to treat my symptoms with prescription medication for ADHD. Unfortunately, I learned that prescription drugs were not for me after experiencing several rare and potentially deadly side effects from every medication that had been prescribed to me.
So I chose to **treat my ADHD naturally** with nutritional supplements that help relieve my most common symptoms. https://anchor.fm/thefightwithinher/episodes/EP--79-Are-Your-ADHD-Symptoms-Holding-You-Back-e19sejn
Zinc
Zinc is a mineral found in foods such as oysters, beans, and whole grains. The supplement plays an important role in brain function and health. A deficiency of the mineral is often linked to those who have been diagnosed with ADHD and its symptoms. If you have a short attention span and lack focus, a zinc deficiency may be to blame.
Magnesium
Another essential mineral that is often missing in those with ADHD is magnesium.
A magnesium deficiency can cause mood swings, a short attention span, and confusion, all symptoms of ADHD.
The good news is, even if you aren't getting enough of this important mineral, it can easily be incorporated into your diet with magnesium-rich foods such as leafy greens, beans, and whole grains.
If you choose to take a magnesium supplement instead, talk with your doctor first since a high dose of the mineral can cause unwanted health issues like severe stomach pain and diarrhea.
Omega-3 fatty acids
Omega-3 fatty acids aren't just necessary for those who want to increase their heart health. The supplement can be beneficial for those with ADHD.
Omega-3 fatty acids can increase your body's dopamine level which is responsible for your mood and memory.
Foods that are rich in Omega-3 fatty acids include mackerel, salmon, halibut, and tuna.
Iron
An Iron deficiency has been linked to those who have ADHD. Iron plays an important role in the production of dopamine, which helps keep your emotions in check and stress levels under control.
Be sure to talk to your doctor before adding an iron supplement to your health regimen, since consuming too much can be toxic.
Melatonin
Insomnia can sometimes be a common symptom for those of us with ADHD. Melatonin may help those who are affected by insomnia and other sleep problems.
When taking Melatonin, allow for 8 to 10 hours of rest time as the supplement can make some users a little groggy when waking up. Melatonin also works best when taken 30 minutes before bedtime.
Because there are some prescription and over-the-counter medications that can counteract with the natural supplements listed above, always check with your doctor before trying any new supplement or health regimen.
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Even after adding the supplements above to my health regimen, I still felt I wasn't in full control of my ADHD. I started researching some of the processed foods I was eating and discovered they were a big no-no for ADHD. Artificial flavoring and food dyes, gone! I don't buy soda or those fun cereals that don't even keep you full! Since then, I've noticed a difference in how much easier it is to focus naturally.
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How to Prioritize Your To-Do List
If you have been diagnosed with **ADHD**, chances are you are no stranger to procrastinating. When it comes to how we respond to even the stuff that seems simple. https://anchor.fm/thefightwithinher/episodes/EP--79-Are-Your-ADHD-Symptoms-Holding-You-Back-e19sejn
We tend to become indecisive and overwhelmed, which then leads to procrastinating on decisions that need our immediate attention.
Putting off what should be a priority could result in a costly mistake making certain circumstances, even more challenging. Yet it doesn't have to be a challenge if you are willing to focus on the tasks that you know need your immediate attention.
First, decide what tasks are a priority and schedule them as you would an important appointment. If you have several tasks that need to be prioritized, start with the tasks that can be completed in a matter of minutes before tackling those that will require several hours to complete.
If your prioritized tasks will take several hours to complete, break them down into manageable steps that can be done in a timely manner but won't leave you feeling overwhelmed.
Any remaining tasks that don't require your immediate attention should be placed at the bottom of your to-do list and tackled only after completing the ones you have listed as a priority.
If you find that you are procrastinating on getting started with your prioritized to-do list, ask yourself, *"Why?"* Is the task tedious perhaps?
Having a clear picture of why a particular task on your to-do list is a priority can help eliminate any fears you may be experiencing with completing it.
If you're a constant worrier, write down those fears that are preventing you from moving forward. Then for each fear you have listed, ask yourself, "What's the worst that could happen if you embraced that fear?" and note all of the ways you could handle that fear.
If the task on your list cannot be completed without additional resources or help, set aside the time needed to find a **solution to the problem**. https://anchor.fm/thefightwithinher/episodes/EP--78-How-to-Connect-With-Your-Audience-and-Keep-Them-Coming-Back-For-More-e19ac13
If there is more than one solution, decide on the option that works best for you, then take the necessary steps to resolve the problem.
If you discover that the option you chose isn't working for you, consider giving one of the other solutions a try. You just may find that option to be better than your original choice.
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How to Get Things Done When You're Overwhelmed
Every day life is stressful enough as it is when you have **ADHD**. Throw in a to-do list and things are bound to become overwhelming to the point that you put it off for another day. https://anchor.fm/thefightwithinher/episodes/EP--76-The-Power-of-ADHD-e18i8kn
Instead of procrastinating on the things you know you need to get done, try getting focused with these 7 strategies:
**1: Take Advantage of Your Smartphone -** Instead of stashing notes all over your office or home, try texting yourself messages to keep all of those important notes in one place.
You can also use the voice recorder app on your smartphone to gather your thoughts for future use.
You can also browse your smartphone's app store where you will find a variety of note taking solutions to suit your specific needs.
**2: Complete a Task On Your To-Do List First -** Before you tackle a new project, finish any tasks you haven't completed already.
Completing even a small task can give you the motivation to get through your day and that next big project that you've been procrastinating about.
**3: Schedule it On Your Calendar -** Using a calendar to assign the tasks on your to-do list allows you to see what needs to be done on a day to day basis.
You can even assign each of your tasks a specific time slot, so that you stand a better chance of completing them.
**4: Organize Your Office Area -** If your desk is a cluttered mess, it can make you feel overwhelmed when you have ADHD.
Clear the clutter, one small section at a time. It doesn't matter where you begun, just as long as you are getting it organized and getting it done.
**5: Change Your View Often -** People with ADHD are often more productive when they focus on their tasks in different places.
You can take advantage of a beautiful day by working on a task or two outdoors. Or if you need a little quiet time to do some writing, head to your local library or even the park.
It really doesn't matter where you check off your to-do list, just as long as its a place or two that allows you to focus on your tasks.
**6: Check in With a Family Member or Friend -** When you can't seem to find the motivation to get things done, check in with a family member or close friend who will cheer you on to your next completed project.
Or, join a social media group for ADHD and create a post about your intentions for the day. Chances are, you're not the only one tackling a dreaded chore or project on your to-do list. Just remember to take a moment to support others who are struggling with their own tasks or you may find yourself all alone at the end of your day.
**7: Worry Less -** Worrying is one of the most common symptoms of ADHD. It's also one of the biggest reasons those with **ADHD** feel overwhelmed when it comes to that dreaded to-do list. https://anchor.fm/thefightwithinher/episodes/EP--1-8-Lessons-Ive-learned-When-Transitioning-to-a-Successful-Work-From-Home-Job-eeghpg
Instead of worrying over every little thing that needs to get done, start with the task that worries you the most. Once it's accomplished, move on to the next task that has you worried, and repeat.
Even if you can only manage to check off one item on your to-do list a day, you'll be less likely to feel overwhelmed since you've already completed those tasks that had you worried the most.
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