Emotional Scars

Hey, can I ask you, How are you? How’s your heart? Can I ask you about your scars?

Your emotional scars.

Maybe there are a lot of people who cannot notice and asked about them because they are hardly seen because of the pretentious smile that you’re wearing. Scars are permanent, wherever they came from and they deal with you every day.  And sometimes it reminds us of the painful things that happened that were caused by our loved ones and the things that scared us the most. It makes you cry, and you can hardly get rid of these scars. Maybe they heal, but they stay.

You’ve been holding onto so much for so many years. There are people, places, days, and times that you cannot get back. You’ve been carrying mountains, that you only meant to climb and that matter really crushing your heart and your will to go on. And all this time, you are not certain which is harder to do, carrying the weight of the world or letting it go.

There are nights that you fall apart but no one will notice how you spend the time putting it back together. Even if you screamed so loud, it seems like no one could hear a thing.

In life, you must feel hurt so you can heal, you need to lose so you can gain, take a fall so you can rise again and there are things that come to an end so that you may start again.  You need to experience sadness to appreciate joy, to feel the pain to appreciate peace and freedom; you need to experience heartbreak to deeply understand what love is.  It feels like walking through the darkness for you to discover the light that awaits you. Throughout your life, you’ve been loved and lost. You make mistakes and hurt, you trusted and been lied to, you are down and betrayed.

But just to remind you, these emotional scars are just proof that you’ve grown stronger, and you need to discover that the deepest lessons in life come from the greatest pain. While there are moments where you fail and falter or feel incredibly let down or sad, these things will not last forever.

It may seem so challenging to deal with your scars, to cope with your broken hearts, painful memories, and heavy emotions. You must not choose to remain a prisoner of the past, because those moments will not define you anyway.  Don’t beat yourself up over the past events, past experiences, and mistakes.  This past baggage, bad experiences, and memories can really make you feel down, feel unconfident, unworthy and lose faith.

But….. it will be the best feeling that you’ll be able to stand tall and fight that you fell apart but you survived! Be proud of your scars, choose to keep them to fire you alive and lead you where you are meant to be and for all the tough times and struggles that you need to overcome.

Lives may seem so unfair and complicated, very challenging and difficult, that even positive moments don’t occur as often as we envision, but all wounds will heal, and allow us to make ourselves better! Healing occurs in waves, you will float or sink or swim freely and be carried away by the tide, but regardless of anything, always be reminded that you will reach your destination, and these scars will be the most beautiful scars ever.