Who's To Blame??

So, yesterday I was reading an articles on the Nairaland forum and one in particular got my attention. The article was about a certain woman whose nudes and sexual videos were uploaded online. The story goes thus.

This woman has a husband and two kids. The husband would leave them and travel abroad in search for greener pasture, so he can afford a better life for them. But after some time, the rent of the apartment she and the kids were staying got expired and the property came for his rent as expected. The husband was still trying to find his feet over abroad, hence could not send the money required to keep a roof over his family's head. The woman and her two kids were thrown out of the house into the street.

Confused and seemingly helpless, the woman was desperate for the sake of her children. A guy offered to help her out by letting her and the kids stay with him until she could afford to get a new place for her family. She agreed to go live with him, but as soon as she started living with him, he started sleeping with her.

If the story is to be believed, she didn't leave even then, because she needed a roof over her children's head. So she let him continue to have his way with her body. After almost a year of abuse, the husband was able to raise the required funds for the renting of a new apartment. The woman was happy. She got the new apartment and decided to leave Mr abuser behind and move on with her life, but this guy wasn't going to have any of that.

The abuser whom apparently had been recording their sexual encounters unbeknown to the woman, tried threatening and blackmailing the woman into continuing the role of being his sex toy/slave, but the woman refused and made clear that he was done with him. The guy kept threatening to expose her nudes and sexual videos online, but she wouldn't budge (probably because she didn't believe he actually had such). This fellow later followed through on his threat by releasing an edited video of their sexual encounters revealing only the woman's face.

Broken and utterly devastated, the woman gathered enough strength to report to the police and the evil fellow was arrested. The story was really heartbreaking. For the people of Nairaland forum, someone had to take the blame for such evil.

Who's At Fault?

In this story, there are obviously three players which are the husband, the wife and the other guy. As the players were many, so was the blame spread across. Although most of the people who commented either blamed the evil guy or the wife, few people even considered the husband, but let's be reasonable here.

The responsibility of providing shelter for the family falls to the husband. He also must have known when that rent would expire, but he failed to provide their shelter need as at when necessary. He evidently also failed on checking up on his family, as that's the only way he would not have known his wife was living in with another man, and if he did know and he was okay with it, that makes him even more complicit in the whole saga.

The wife in the other hand can argue that she was desperate and that would be understandable, but it still doesn't make sense for her to think it's okay to go live in with an unmarried man. What about her own parents? Her parents in-law, her relatives, what about all these people? Why didn't she go live with one of them; her female friends? It really makes no sense that she chose to go stay with a random man whom isn't family. It's either she's a really stupid and naive person or there's more to the story.

While for the fellow who was abusing her, we can all agree he deserves to die. The fact that a woman is desperate to put a roof over her children's head doesn't mean you have to turn her into a sex slave/ sex machine to help her out. It is obviously clear that he didn't intend to help but to sexually abuse the woman and the help route was the easiest way to lure her into that trap. The sex videos was his strategy to keep her enslaved forever, but thank God she finally had enough wisdom to get out of it.

Conclusion

We can all see that they all have a share in the blame. If the husband had done the needful, the wife would not have made such a stupid decision and would not have become ensnared in the trap of a sexual pervert (who deserves to die).

I'm really pained for the kids as this will become a stain in their lives for a very long time. We can all guess that the marriage is likely over. I really hope the husband would find a place in his heart to forgive the wife, for the sake of the children, after all he played a role in letting this happen.

We are really living in dangerous time. The evil that men do these days is beyond human understanding, and lastly, we should always remember, all that glitter is not gold. The intentions of people concerning others are rarely pure. In today's world, everybody is a means to an end for most people. Be careful, be vigilant, be wise.

Thanks for reading me always. I love you guys.