Peer Pressure: Being Inside the Relationship

At what age does the peer pressure of being inside the relationship starts? Does it starts when you are already half way through your 20s? As a person turning 20 soon, I can already see the peer pressure towards the people below my age ranging from 14-20. They hook up, they like each other and they will seal for a relationship then they will break up so quick.

As a person who have never dated anyone, I have never experience the peer pressure of being in a relationship and I hope I will never. I see a lot of minors dating anyone every month hoping that the relationships they have failed to build will end. For me, it doesn't make sense. That is exactly why I do not like to rush because entering a relationship is not like playing unless you are treating it as a game then good for you.

I am not a high standards person. I just have a considerable standard in selecting for someone at the same point, I am weighing my brain over my heart. It means I am not letting my emotions control my right decisions because I want to be rational always.

These are the reasons why peer pressure doesn't affect me:

Is the world going to end if I have never dated anyone yet?

Nope.

Am I alone and lonely if I have not dated anyone?

Nope.

Am I less human if I have no experience of being in a relationships?

Nope.

Am I ugly if no one dated me? Nope.

Have I never experience love if I haven't been with someone? Nope, love is not found through that.

However I am not quite certain if I will never really ever experience this. If I will reach my 30 one day and I still haven't been in relationship my whole life, I think that is the time where I am outcasted and everyone else that I know are already married or couples. I don't like to think about it. I have my own ideology, philosophy and beliefs. If I know how to stand on my own, then maybe there's no reason for me to fear being outcasted in the future.

Another thing that I want to tell is that I have a fear in being inside the relationships.

1.) I Have Trust Issues

Nobody broke my trust like it's going to be my demise but I have trust issues because I am the kind of person who doesn't easily move on from everything. My attachment lasts longer more than my patience.

2.) I'm Scared of Being Cheated

After watching and hearing different stories from people who got cheated, I am scared for myself. I am a very loyal person to everything. I am loyal to my favorite singers, to the food I eat and everything that has a big part in my life. I am scared that my loyal personality will be taken for granted.

3.) I am a conservative person

Call me close minded but I do not like to be touch nor to be kiss. I want my body to be sacred and if the person will leave me because I am boring and very conservative then it's not my loss. We have different perspectives and ideologies.

4.) I want to stay away from toxic relationships

I do not like to fall in the trap of manipulations and abuse. That's why selecting a partner is very scary, you will not see their true colors unless you stay with them for a longer time. I do not like those kind of movies where they are romanticizing manipulation and they find it cool when in fact it wasn't.

After listing all these scary things, I had never develop a peer pressure towards the relationship. I am keen not to fall in the trap and I am smart to live my life wisely. I hope once I will get old and I'm still single, I will never feel alone. Although I still believe that for so many people around this world, there is always someone who is heaven sent and genuine to us. We have to be patient until we will find them and be smart not to rush everything.

February 19, 2022