People who are Insulting other People on the Internet

Today, I would love to talk a bit about people who are insulting others on the Internet. No matter are they insulting famous people, people they know, people they do not know, from their profiles or from fake profiles...

About insulting on the Internet in general. Who is doing that, why, how does that affect to the insulted person... and many other questions are waiting for the answer.

But, before I start with the answers I have to tell that I am not a professional, I am not a doctor and I am not a sociologist, so I do not know for sure why is this happening and how does this affect, what I can say is my personal opinion, things that I have learned from professionals and some things from my personal expericence.

Now, we can start.

First of all, I am pretty sure that we all have been insulted at least once, maybe it was not horrible and maybe we did not even pay attention to it, because it lasted short, but I am sure that we faced it. Anyways, it is a kind of a violence. It is a kind of cyber violence. Any rude comment under your post or your photo is violence. Every single insult that you get online.

Now, I also have to say what violence is not. If you are doing something, for examplle writing article here and someone disagree with you in comments under your post, without being rude, without insulting, just sharing his or her critic, that is not violence. That is opinion, and it is okey to do not like someone. We cannot be liked always and by everyone. And, we need to accept that, because it will make us stronger.

Criticism is normal, it is everywhere and it is very useful. We simply need to know what is not good in something what we are doing, but everyone can recognize what is insulting and what is criticism.

Also, if someone is posting photos of himself or herself, you are not aloved to say bad things. Noone is allowed to say bad things about someone's apperance. That is not okay, that is always insulthing. If you do not like how someone looks like, that is okay, you do not have to like everyone, but you cannot say to someone that he or she is ugly, fat, too short, too tall or anything bad...

Just no! Never! To anyone. You cannot comment someone's face or body in negative way. There is not any reason for that.

You can say that you do not like what someone is doing, but you cannot say that you do not like how someone looks like.

When you think a bit about that you will realize that there is not need for you to say that someone is for example ugly. You will not feel better, you will not help that person, you will just make him or her feel bad. Bad about himself or herself, and that is not bringing anything good.

Now, when we know what is cyber violence and what is not and when we are clear with what is insulthing and what is not, we can move on.

Who and why is doing that?

Well, that are doing people who are not satisfied with themselves. Person, who loves himself or herself, will never have a need to tell someone that he is fat or stupid.

Many times you will see that people are using fake profiles to insult other people, and that can tell you many things about person who is insulting.

When you have a fake profile noone knows who you are. Because of that you feel free to say anything.

On fake profile you cannot see photos and even if you can, they are fake, so insulted person or any other person cannot insult the one who is insulting. That is what gives those people freedom to be very rude. Also, if the insulted person deciedes to report this to the police, for the police will be harder to find who is doing that.

That shows us that people who are insulthing are not very brave. They are usually afraid because in real life they are not powerful at all, they do not have anyone to protect them, they do not have a lot of money, they do not have any power. That is why they are hiding.

Their fears can come from various sources. First of all, maybe they were bullied in real life, in school or even in their family. They were victims and now, they have a chance to do the same to someone else, they have a chance to feel powerful, they have a chance to see how it looks like and how it feels like to be on the other side.

And, they are taking that chance, they are using it as much as possible, they enjoy it. But, they do not even know how bad their condition actually is. They need help. They need to heal their trauma, and traumatizing other people is not a way, but they do not understand that.

Lack of love in family can also be a kind of trauma that will lead to insulting other people to feel better.

And, those people really need help, and if you ask me, I am sorry for them, very sorry. But, that is not an excuse for what they are doing to other people.

And, if you ask me how to solve this, I do not know what to tell you.

We need first to heal all those people who are insulthing others, and lated we will have to heal all those people who got trauma from being insulted on the Internet.

It is a circle, we need to help to the both sides. When I say 'we', I mean whole society. Everyone needs love, and all those people who had no love, will later during their lives spread hate. We need to stop the hate. We need to help every bullied child before it grow up into a bullie.

Bullies will make new bullies and they will be torturing new people and making new traumas and making new bullies and that is a circle that will never stop unless the society do something about that.

I would really love to know what is your opinion about this and how you would solve this problem.

See you next time,

xoxo,

SuncicaZ!