This morning, while I was drinking my first coffee and scrolling You Tube, I saw Lady Gaga's song 'Bad Romance'. I have not heard this song for a very long time, so I played it. And, to be honest, for the first time I was listening to it carefully, and it made me think about some very deep and very important things.

This song is about love that is obssesive. It is about a person, who falls in love with a person that is not good for him or her. I will leave it here, so you can hear it, if you want to.

And, that made me think about toxic relationships, about toxic people, about how people, who are not bad, can be bad for exac other...

What makes people get into toxic relationships?

This is very simple and very complicated question at the same time. We see someone, we meet someone, and we like him or her. We simply like that person. After liking we fall in love, and when we fall in love we cannot see whole situation very well. We do not see 'red flags'. While people are in love they do not see that bad siodes about their person and about their relationship. They are happy, not because other person but because themselves. They are in love, they are happy, they see everything in pink, and they feel good. One side. One person. That is how we get into a toxic relationship.

When do people see that they are in a toxic relationship?

As time is passing, people, who are in a toxic relationship, start realizing that something is wrong. They see that they are not happy anymore, they are annoyed by other person, they are arguing with their partners.

You simply feel when something is not right.

And happiness is replaced with sadness.

Positive is replaced with negative.

Now, all the feelings are not about one person, one side, they are about the relationship, about relation. Two sides, two people now.

Now, you can see all the red flags, all the things that you do not like.

And, that is when you realize that you have a problem. That problem can make other problems to you. That problem can make you feel anxious, depressed, stressed...

One problem always can make other problems.

And, being in a toxic relationship is really serious problem. Your relationship can affect to all the other aspects of your life. This may sound scary, but a toxic relationship can really destroy your whole life.

Why do people stay in toxic relationships?

There are a few reasons why do people stay in toxic relationships.

First one is habit. People simple get used to each other. They get used to being in relationship, and they do not have enough strength to change anything. They go with the flow. They live their lives as a routine. They do same things for years and they are not in the mood for changes.

Next reason is a good aspect of their relationship. Something in that toxic relationship is good. They love that person, or they are having fun, or that person is also their business partner, and business is going well, or they have mutual friends... There are many things that can possibly be that one good aspect in their relationship. That is what keeps them together, that is what makes them believe that they can still be happy togethert.

Also, there are some people, who are afraid to be alone. They do not know how to be alone and for them toxic relationship is better than being single. That is why they chose to stay in relationship.

How to leave?

First, you have to realize that your relationship is toxic.

Next you have to make a desission to end it.

And, third step is to leave.

I know it is not that simple to do it, I know you have your reasons why you are in that relationship, but it is good for you to leave.

Sometimes hardest things are the best for you.

And, in this article I focused on romantic relationships, but it is the same situation with any other relationship. If your friends are toxic leave the, if your relatives are toxic, leave them.

You can leave anyone who is not good for you, you ove to yourself to find good people for yourself. Develop yourself, be happy, and love yourself. Love yourself enough to find what is good for you.

Thank you for reading!

See you very, very soon in next article,

Sending you all love and support,

SuncicaZ!