Many of us may not be familiar with the term "parenting." But parenting is very important. Childbearing and child rearing are not the same thing.

We usually focus on the physical health of the child, with little regard for mental well-being. When a child is slowly growing up, we think about his physical well-being and development, but we do not focus on his mental well-being or development.

Much depends on the child's behavior, including emotional growth. Early childhood education is a lifelong commitment, and parents can make their childhood better.

Table of Contents

What is parenting?

Extra study stress:

Mutual understanding:

Comparison with others:

Child talent development:

Emphasis on will and reluctance:

Blame:

What is parenting?

Simply put, parenting is about focusing on the child's physical, mental, and overall development as a parent and helping him or her to grow up accordingly.

We think parenting is not a matter of learning, it happens by itself. Not really, there is a lot to learn in parenting. Parenting is even more important in the current generation.

This era is changing very fast, leaving a huge generation gap between our parents and us. And with this gap comes a gap in understanding.

Today we will discuss some of the things about parenting, which we may not think about but it has a huge impact on our child which is detrimental to his future life.

Extra study stress:

In the present age we are very much aware of the education of children. From morning to coaching, private, school, home tutor comes home again, the whole day is spent in this way. Apart from this, sports or other talents are not given a chance to develop.

Sometimes we also hire more than one teacher for one subject. But I don't even think about whether our child can take so much pressure or how much he can hold, what he wants..

Under the pressure of this education, many talents of our children are suppressed. As a result of this stress, maybe your child's anger and stubbornness is increasing a lot lately.

Mutual understanding:

We don't usually be friendly with our children. Unbeknownst to us, we build a wall between us and our children.

We think that treating them like friends will lower our self-esteem. In fact, being friendly with them will enhance our self-esteem and strengthen our family bond.

Make them realize from the side that parents are needed in every moment of life, parents are not a burden. Then maybe no child will think of sending their parents to the old age home.

Today's children can't tell their parents everything. Because their only idea is that parents will not understand that. This is a wall, if it is not there, then it can be seen that the children are sharing everything with their parents and many of their problems are decreasing. And worries about parents and children are greatly reduced.

But sharing doesn't come overnight. It is much easier to motivate a child than to motivate an adult, much easier as a parent.

So if you want to make friends with your children, do it at an early age and keep it intact. Let them know that you are the safest place in the world, everything can be shared with you.

Comparison with others:

We do this a lot. I compare my child with others. This is something that almost all parents do, but this is one of the biggest mistakes parents make. One of our misconceptions is that when compared to others, our child will be stubborn, will be like them or will be inspired by seeing them.

In fact, such comparisons create a kind of inferiority complex among children. They lose self-confidence and begin to think less of themselves. In this way, children basically lose interest in work, lose faith in themselves. At this age anger, revenge grows more than promised.

Another common mistake among our parents is to compare their own children. Have you ever wondered if this comparison of yours today will be the main reason for the breakdown of the relationship between your two children in the future? No one will rejoice in anyone's success. They will become each other's biggest enemies and that's because of you!

Remember, everyone is different, everyone has a different personality. Everyone has their own talent, some are good at singing, some are good at dancing and some are good at something else. Good results can be expected by focusing on who has what talent. Never compare children with anyone else.

Child talent development:

Everyone has different talents. Education as well as other talents should be given a chance to develop. A lot of times we just look at academic education. There are many talents like sports, dance, song, recitation, drawing hidden among many.

What children want, what they want, what they want to do, they have to enjoy and enjoy. And we have to let them work accordingly, it will develop their mental development and talent.

Emphasis on will and reluctance:

Most of the time we don't care about the wishes of the children. We think they are small, do not understand, do not understand. Parents, of course, want the best for their children, but they also want their children to understand the good and the bad.

What they want, how they want, their will-reluctance should be given importance. They should cooperate in any decision they make. They need to be built in such a way that they can consider their own right and wrong.

Blame:

We always tell our children why don't you do this? Why are you doing that? If it was because you didn't listen to me, it wouldn't happen if you didn't listen to me today, if you didn't listen to your parents. We talk more like this. It is beyond our comprehension how much of an impact this has on the children.

If they do something wrong, we say it is wrong, why they did it. But I never correct his mistake. I don't try to understand him, I don't try to understand him. He is wrong, we think our responsibility is over. But it disrupts their mental development, deteriorates mental health.

Good parenting is about encouraging your child to take new steps, letting him make mistakes and correcting mistakes. And again, these would mean that you have to spend for these processes.

Childhood mistakes will not ruin your child's life. If he can learn from his mistakes, no one will be able to stop him in the future.

Last words:

Parenting plays a very important role in mental health. There is no substitute for positive parenting if the child's mental development is to be maintained.

Only with a little understanding and attention can children develop their lives in a beautiful way, otherwise their future lives will be plunged into darkness.

If necessary, the advice of a psychologist can be taken. Due to the importance of the role of parents, parenting courses have become very popular in Europe and America. Family ties are important for a child's healthy mental development. So try to increase family ties.