They play games and you call it compatibility?
They know your weak points well so they will provoke you to the point where your patience ends and will blame you for giving a "reaction" till the rest of your life.
That's their trigger game and it's okay to lose it by getting distant.
It's not the situation, but whether we react negative or respond positive to the situation that is important.Life is 10% what happens to you and 90% how you react to it.