Should decision making be personal or depend on second party.

What life entails for us to live a meaningful life was not written in manuals for us to study while we are still foetus in the womb. They were not presented to us when we are given birth to and they are not taught to us when we are still very young so that we can live with them for our whole lifetime.

Even though some parents do taught those things to their children after birth, they were not completely engraved into the children like the engraved word written on the ring that Sam was wearing in the Lord of the rings.

The way children learn are numerous, ranging from what they learn when they are still children. Those knowledge at times don't fade away easily and they as they are supposed to be inherited by the generation to come.

...I don't mean that it's little children things, partially about children and adults.

What is this all about? It's about choice and decision that we make every day of our lives. The conclusion we arrive at when we are in a certain situation that demand for our decisions.

Let's take choosing a course to study in the university for an instant. One of the things that people here in Africa are facing is choosing the career course to study.

The choice is mostly influenced by what parents want for their children. What the want the children to become and the friends that could help their children after they graduate from school. In some cases, I have heard about a rich father planning a future for his son, setting up dreams ahead for the son and helping the son to achieve those dreams. What do you think about that? how well can you cope with it, when your father is making you to walk in his own way and live life in his own footprint?

Okay, let's talk about you now. How well have you been doing in making your friend be like you or think the same way that you are thinking? What's their reaction about it. Obviously, many times the follow you when the think you are right or maybe they are left with no other option than to follow.

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Parent's are the sponsors you have in your academic most of the times and that is why it is possible for some of them to impose their own ways on what you love to do. They work with what they thought was good, probably one of those things that worked for them and they impose it on their own children lives...

It works out for the children at times, they get to meet their mother's relative who is ready to help them out and get them jobs. Few graduate with several chances of job and would not know which one to choose. But unfortunately for some, the parent that is ready to take them to his friend for help would have been gone. They politician who is ready to be of help might have been voted out already.

It can be so harsh to accept, such a situation can be heartbroken... I have witnessed such things before and I know how it affects.

However, not all parents does that. The other ramification are the ones that inquire of their children what they want to become. They know their children goals and once they know it, they support their children by advising them, giving financial support and also pray for them.

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Many of the parents show their love to their children even to the point of choosing their life partner. This kind of decision about marriage can be wrong and most of the times things goes wrong.

Consider a case of a lady whose mother pressured her to marry someone who she didn't love. The man was rich enough but after their wedding ceremony, things went out of hand. To me I don't think that there is any reason why parent should choose for their children.

It's decision about our lives... In some cases, we should be allowed to decide and choose what we want and then we can bare the consequences.

Thank you for reading through.