Is it possible to change?
Are people the same at all ages? Does it ever change? Of course it is changing, who now agrees with the thoughts of ten years ago? How can one stay the same while experiences change? Haven't we all experienced the transition from childhood to adolescence? Now the character is starting to settle in. But when we reached our 30s, that young soul realized that he was a more self-confident person. He began to question his life. So is everything right and ok? Are we aware of the change? We are all constantly changing. None of us are who we were 10-15 years ago, not even who we were a year ago. We are constantly changing. If we have the ability to maintain positive change, that change is also improvement. This is what we experience without realizing it. Do we consciously accept change, this is what matters. Sometimes change is very important for ourselves, our loved ones and the people around us.
Changing our lifestyle or behavioral habits is perhaps one of the most difficult issues in life. But it is never impossible. A little determination, a little courage and a little effort can bring you a change in the direction you want.
Of course, first of all, a mental preparation process is required to change what, why and how. Another prerequisite is that the things we want to change are largely under our control.
In addition, it becomes more difficult to change in traditionalist and conservative social structures and authoritarian cultures, and we must be willing to be resistant to external and internal obstacles that may be encountered.
What we want to change can be on many different issues, big or small. For example, our eating style, clothing preferences, daily life schedule, sleeping pattern, exercise (not doing) habits, bad habits, procrastination, social relations, circle of friends, political and religious engagements, hobbies, artistic interests, perfectionism, laziness, constant our ideas etc. We may want to change dozens, maybe even hundreds, of things that we can count.
But we should know that many of our features are our behavior patterns and features that stick to us, our personality over time, are in a solid state, and are mostly automatic as we go about our lives. We may have ingrained habits, and even if we want to change, we may encounter internal resistance that stands stronger than this desire.
Even so, if we can have a strong belief that we need to change, it is not that difficult to achieve change in the direction we want with intention, determination and effort. We can start with at least some of our chronic habits that we want to change, and each change can provide us with motivation for the future. How Does? I will try to explain some of the methods we should follow below.
*Making realistic plans: First of all, we should set a goal on the subject we want to change. However, if this goal is very extreme, impossible in terms of our capacity or potential, and the probability of realization is close to impossible, we will be disappointed from the very beginning. So it is very important to make realistic plans, we should set reasonable goals for everything we want to change. For example, it would be meaningless and unattainable for a middle-aged person who has not had the habit of exercising or doing sports to set himself a goal of becoming a professional and successful athlete. Courage will work better for attainable goals, not running for unattainable goals. Be brave, but you must make realistic plans.
* Progressing in small steps: You should know that no goal can be reached in one move. Acting quickly and impatiently can often distract from your goal of change from the very beginning. You must accept from the beginning that many of your automatic features, behaviors and thoughts that have been settled for years will not disappear at once. So, you should divide your change goal into as small parts as possible and plan to move forward in small steps. Every small step you take will give you more courage and motivation for the next. You have to digest the change, otherwise you may encounter a situation such as taking back all the food you eat fast and not being able to eat it again.
Changing in order: Dealing with all of our habits that we want to change can be very challenging and cause us to easily lose our motivation to change. It would be helpful, then, to make a list of these exchange issues and put them in order. It would be right to start with one change topic that we have chosen and put the others on hold for now. Of course, after we've done one, we have to move on to the other and show determination until we complete our list. Although we can't decide which one to start with when making our selection from the list, my suggestion is to either start with the most essential or give priority to the subject where you can make the easiest change. After all, although it is important what you start with, the most important thing is to want and make an effort. Going in order is just one way to make it easier.
*Finding a partner: Although your inner motivation on the subject you want to change is strong at the beginning, the possibilities that you may show weakness, take a step back or even give up in the process are known to us psychologists. I mean, let's not leave anything to chance. That is, whatever change you want to achieve, you can try to find someone from your family or social circle who has the same problem as you and try to create a common change plan with them. this will make your work easier by providing you with an extrinsic motivation as well as your intrinsic motivation. For example, have a change goal, such as reducing or quitting smoking. It will be much easier to take a step back when you are alone or not informing anyone about the process, but if you have a contract with someone or do this job with their knowledge, you will be able to stand firm, be more resilient and reach your goal in the direction you want to change more easily. Of course, it is important that the partner you choose is not just because you wanted it, but also someone who will stand firm in this matter and will not give up easily. Otherwise, instead of positively affecting you, there may be someone who, on the contrary, will cause your motivation to decrease. So pick your partner right and even bet with him if possible, making it harder for both of you to give up.
*Getting support/help: Our final recommendation is to get professional support. We may not all be able to have a determined, consistent personality, and our weak character may not allow it in matters where we need to show willpower. Or we may not have the ability to organize in order to bring about a change in a systematic way. In addition, we may not have enough motivation and a mental infrastructure that will make our change meaningful. In these and similar situations, what we need to do is to get support from a psychologist. I don't think I need to remind you that psychologists are not only concerned with mental disorders, but they are professionals who can be of great help to us in our life and some behavioral problems or dilemmas, in our efforts to improve and heal ourselves. In other words, by getting support/help, you can make a useful touch to your life, change, and lead a happier, more peaceful and satisfying life.
As a result, we all need changes, but we act as if we don't have time for them, postponing them, postponing them and thus wasting more time in an unproductive life. Come on, review yourself on this issue and start from one end. Life is too important to be put off and time is the most precious thing you have.
You should be afraid not of change, but of not being able to change. Let's make a plan right now and start changing the things you don't want to happen in your life without delay.
