Euphoric Love is like Nollywood and Hollywood love movies, but marriage is the "Real Wood". It is in marriage that the stage drama begins. Everything happens real.
Many marriages are so cold,
because euphoric love is no more. One partner feels that the other is no longer lovely because the euphoria is no longer visible. This has led to sadness and eventually divorce.
Rejoicing in hope; patient in tribulation; continuing instant in prayer; (Romans 12:12)
Actually, it is not that couples don't love themselves again. It is not that love has turned to hatred. It's just that, marriage has brought realities to both partners. It has made them know that they are not perfect after all.
Their weaknesses are now visible even at a distance. Things that were once ignored, things that never mattered, now matters. It's no longer just emotional love but reality love.
• The marriage has moved to the stage where love is no longer effortless but deliberate. •
Therefore, couples need to transit from euphoric love to reality love so that possible amendments can be made where necessary. But unfortunately, many couples want to stay in that euphoric stage without changing to marriage terms.
Importantly, for couples to enjoy their marriage, they have to bend and blend into the realities of their own marriage as these realities differ for all marriages.
They have to shed old leaves for new buds. There must be adjustment to fit in to each other. There must be flexibility to accommodate each other's weaknesses. Though this may not be easy at the beginning , it's worth it because it shows that marriage is really important.
It is worth noting that a blissful home can only be possible if both partners are ready to shift grounds, and do the needful in patience and tolerance.
As singles, you don't need to be afraid of what marriage will bring. Just do the needful during courtship, and purpose in your heart with your partner that your marriage must work out as you desire and you will surely have it.
Marriage is sweet, it is worth entering if you have the right attitude alongside the right person with God at the centre of it all.
ASK YOURSELF :
Am I still daydreaming about marriage when I should be preparing for it?
TELL YOURSELF
I will not be afraid of marriage. I shall have my desired home for real.
We do not see all aspects of life in times of love. But marriage is not just about love. Wr have seen only the good side of the man of love before, but if we spend the whole day together, then we know all the good and bad details of him. Our enthusiasm ebbs, it feels monotonous.