Your friend’s enemy is not your enemy

Do not inherit beef, not from your parents or friends. I once said in one of my articles on “HATE”, do not say because your parents do not like some certain people, you decide not to talk to them. Whatever happened between your parents and those people, happened in the past. You do not have an idea about it, so, don’t pick it up.

Girls do this a lot! Just because your friend isn’t talking to another girl, you decide not to talk to the girl because you think it makes you disloyal? No, you are not in the position to pick up old beef. You are not in the position to judge anyone as well, and not even in the position to settle the beef, but do not partake in the beef. It doesn’t concern you.

I can decide to be friends with both the two girls having a beef. It doesn’t make me a bad person. It more like telling my friend never to talk to someone because I don’t like them or because of something that had transpired between us in the past. It unfair to pick friends for your best friend. You don’t get to tell anyone who they relate with. Whatever happened, happened in the past and your friend wasn’t there at that time, so why tell her who to associate with?

Don’t inherit your friend’s enemy. The first time I went home during the ASUU strike. I noticed my Mom and the woman living opposite my house weren’t greeting each other. I asked my Mom what happened, she said the woman said she said something she never said. That didn’t make me stop greeting the woman. Anytime I see her, I greet her. It’s childish when you participate in beef that doesn’t concern you. You weren’t there when it happened, you didn’t know the exact thing that was said, so why join in the hatred?

Not liking someone is cool, but recruiting other people not to like them is crazy. It’s not your responsibility to hate someone your friend hates. The person did you no wrong. Your friend’s enemy is not your enemy. Don’t hate on anyone, you are not in the position to do so. Some girls carry other people’s problem on their heads. They start been so dramatic around their friend’s enemy. Be wise!

You don’t have to be your friend’s enemy best friend but don’t make them your enemy instead. There was a time a girl told me she didn’t like me before but now she does. She said it’s because Blessing talks about me. We were kids then about 12 years old then. Imagine someone not liking me because her friends talked bad about me? It’s so childish. Don’t pick grudges that ain’t yours. Stop assuming some girls are bad just because your friend told you they are.

The issues that most girls have are always men and jealousy. Just ask a friend of yours why she isn’t talking to someone, she might tell you just because she do too much. Lol. Girls can be so dramatic. Hating on someone just because you think their styles are better than yours or because the guy you’ve always crushed on, like her instead of you. Trust me, you don’t want to hate on an innocent girl because of that. Don’t carry other people’s hatred on your head. It doesn’t concern you. Whatever happened between them, happened between them and it doesn’t relate to you in any way.

There is absolutely no one I dislike at the moment. Main reason I keep small circle of friends. I have enough things on my plate than involving myself in other mess. But if you are the type that have group friendship, and you’ve found yourself in situations like that, where you don’t have to talk to some certain people because your friends don’t like them, please stop. If that person didn’t offend you in any way, do not hate on them. Let’s spread love around. @TheRandomRewarder you haven’t been visiting my articles lately. I hope I’m safe.