Why they shouldn’t be blamed

I read two articles this morning and the two articles were talking about young girls getting pregnant at teenage age. It quite easy for a guy or a lady to tell you who and who not to sleep with but you never can talk about others mistakes if you haven’t walked a day in anyone’s shoes.  This topic about little girls getting pregnant didn’t start today, and most of us are coming from the same background. Most parents had their first child before marriage. Why didn’t anyone asked their mothers why it happened? We all fall into crazy love, we find ourselves in relationships we have no business with. And it baffles me when I see someone trying to judge the little ones for getting pregnant...

Life isn’t fair for anyone. We hear divorce everyday, and most of us grew up with a single parent or even in a toxic marriage. Some of us if we are giving the chance, we will take our mothers away from her marriage, because she is not happy in it, but she stood there because of us( The children). The fault is in everyone’s hand, both the parents, the kids and the country itself. People with money want to prey on the poor ones. 

I read one article, asking why a girl will open legs for someone who doesn’t have enough and get pregnant for him? Littles girls needs enlightenment. Everyone knows where they are coming from. There are things you go through at times that you can only discuss with the person you are in love with. The first person to make a move during an intercourse is the guy, has anybody said anything about that? These guys make the girls believe there is shoulder to cry on and try assisting with everything within their power only to prove to these girls that they love them, so the love can be consensual and end up impregnating them. How many parents have taught their kids how to be in the world and not the world being into them and controlling them? Have you ever asked your mom if she’s happy in the marriage she is?...Everything is always rosy and beautiful in the beginning until kids start coming in. Every relationship is always good at the beginning until the two parties involved start revealing their behaviors. 

You are in no position to blame these girls, because if there was a time travel, they would go back and amend those mistakes. The only solution is to enlighten the coming generation so they don’t make the same mistake. We all should be grateful that we raised ourselves well, and we didn’t make same mistake. The way poverty is dealing with teenagers, it’s possible they go astray. You don’t expect a girl without food in her stomach to meet someone that buys her food and not be happy to do the unexpected as a reward. 

I grew up with some girls in my vicinity. They were my childhood friends. We went to same school together, but they stopped at high school. There was no father figure in their lives. These girls are twins. Their mother lost her sight when they were young, and the father left them and married another wife and moved in with her. The older brothers were out too pulling their baggage individually. No one had their time. When I got admission into college, they were learning trade already. The Taiye was learning Tailoring, she’s the coolest. The Kenny was jovial and carefree, and she was also learning make-up then. I got home one day and discovered the Taiye which was the coolest was pregnant. I mean my mom used to use Taiye as an example for me because she liked the way she dresses. She put on long skirts and doesn’t wear clothes that exposes her body. Everyone was shocked that she was pregnant. How can someone who dresses that way be slept with? Is it possible? But then, will they tell you they were facing any challenges? How were they supposed to survive if not that they find comfort in some guys. Won’t their mother eat?...It doesn’t justify the fact that they went off track, but then whose business is it at the end of the day?. It’s their lives. Few months later, the Kenny discovered she was also pregnant. Meanwhile, she told her neighbors that if Taiye had told her they would have removed hers, not knowing hers was protruding as well. Luckily, Taiye’s boyfriend accepted the pregnancy and agreed to introduction between both families, but Kenny’s guy denied hers.

Here in college, we know what youths are doing. Even parents now depend on their children in school, because the youths are more exposed to making money than the parents. Everybody knows what they are facing individually. Not everybody have the grace that you have. You should be thankful that you are who you are today, even if you’re not there yet, but you’re making progress. Let’s create awareness for the coming generation. Let them know there is a stage you will get to and you’ll meet this strange guy that will feel like comfort, or God-sent to you but be aware that he will want something from you and it’s something you can’t say NO to. Sex education should be among extra curriculum activities in school. Sex shouldn’t be a topic everyone will be shy to discuss among little children. Parents should create more time with their kids. Ask your children how they are coping with adulthood. Ask them how life is treating them. Be your female children Best friend, let them be open to you.