Love is beautiful

Love is a beautiful thing and I so much believe in Love. Aside been raised in a toxic relationship, I thought men were disposable. But no matter how much you say men are scum or women are scum, you exclude yourself. Whatever made you think you are no scum means that several people aren’t. I’m always happy for people that found love. It is a good thing. Just because you’ve been dumbed by several guys doesn’t mean you shouldn’t be happy for your friends or sisters who found love. You should be glad they are happy and that is what matters.

I read a woman’s story. She’s been married to her first love for 35 years, isn’t that beautiful? Yes, there are sad days and happy days but what is important is they sticked to one another. They kept reminding themselves what made them fall in love with each other. Their wedding pictures remind them of the vows they made every time. It is beautiful to get home each day and have someone to tell about your day, have someone prepare you dinner, have a shoulder to rest on. Do you know how beautiful it is to have someone that laughs at your joke or even crack you up? Someone to confide in when the world is turning their backs on you. Love is beautiful even though we never can get enough of it. How about being on vacation with the love of your life, just the two of you in an unknown city. Love will make you feel like a baby once more. It will make you enjoy something new, something refreshing. Love create beautiful and sad memories.

For some of us that were raised by single parents, or raised in a toxic relationship, I know how hard it is to find someone that will love you exactly like the way you want to be loved. Sometimes, we end up been the toxic one in the relationship because we’ve never experienced it or because we just want more from it. I think in every relationships what we must first find out is, how do they do in his/her family. It helps a lot. You get to know how to deal with the person emotionally. Some people take time to love and once they are in, they are in. You need to study who you are about to date or marry. Some people will say it’s bad to live with your partner before marriage. Make sure you visit your partners often, if not how do you get to know this person, how do you know what he is capable of doing? How will you know if it’s this person you gonna spend your life with if you don’t spend time with them?
The problems most mothers are having in marriage are caused by forgoing some certain things at early stage. Once, there is a little problem in dating, point it out. Do not condone what you can’t condone in marriage. Whoever is going to leave should leave when it is still fresh. You see your guy cheating and you say it’s normal all guys cheat and it gets to marriage and it becomes an attitude you can’t tolerate anymore. Once you are in a relationship, every little thing matters. If she goes out with her girls and comes in late, please complain and say you are not cool with it. It shouldn’t be after a long time you will start calling her a whore. The fact that people ignore all red flags is what makes it hard. Every little thing you are not okay with, talk about it, and if this person is just saying sorry and still doing the exact thing, leave! You deserve better. Stop forcing yourself on anyone, you are not an object but a subject. You can’t be tossed around by anyone.

Another thing is Contentment. Whoever you are dating please be contented with what he or she have. Be happy with what you have. It is not every time you would complain or compare what someone else’s have to what you both have. Lack of contentment ruins relationship. Be satisfied with the little you have and work hard for more. Take your time to find love. Do not rush into any relationship. Don’t stay in a relationship that there’s no respect or Love. You deserve better because love is beautiful.