Everyone has Different Timing

Everyone has different timing. Be patient and live in the present moment. Don’t allow anyone to pressure you. This life takes process. Don’t run pass your time. Don’t allow anyone’s achievement bother you because yours is coming too. A friend of mine told me he wanted to get a car when we were in 300lv, first semester. He said if any money hit, Tee, I’m getting a car. I asked why and he said because most guys in our set already have. That’s not a good reason to get a car. Are there not better things to invest 3 million in than a car?. Everybody want to showcase. Everybody want to form Big guys and big girls but do not make mistake in the process. You have to take your time. Girls, including myself have a gallery where both wears and wigs that we screenshot are saved. I’m not going to steal to own something material. I’m going to take my time to get it. Especially if you don’t have anyone who can get it for you. There was this girl that died of recent. We heard she went for liposuction and died in the process. After a couple of weeks, an headline came out that her family resides in port harcourt and her mom sells Fufu. I’m not judging because it’s her body but I think the pressure the society is putting on us is too much. The percentage of those of us without big butt in Lagos will be about 10%. You see guys too who are not even up to your standard telling you I like girls with big butt. You people should relax. For like three weeks now, a girl on TikTok named Kelly has been going viral with so much hatch tags. Kelly this, Kelly that all over social media. She got known for her nice stature. Her big and soft butt and a moderate boobs and a tiny waist. Some people boyfriends were actually posting this girl they don’t even know on all social media platform. You are indirectly body-shaming the rest of the girls. Girls, do not put pressure on yourself. If anybody comes at you, you find something about them too. Don’t go back and start crying. It’s not worth it.

Another common questions girls get are; When are you going to be done with school? When are you getting married? When will you give birth? Haven’t you gotten a job yet?. These are questions you don’t even have answer to. First of all, not every female and even men have the same desires in life and for some, marriage and kids are not a part of their plans. And these are questions you can’t avoid, especially if you go out with your mom. My neighbor asked me last week when I will done in school and I’m like does she not know ASUU is on strike. I couldn’t even answer the question because I seriously don’t know. Everybody is frustrated that our education has been tampered with and there’s really nothing we can do at the moment than hope for a positive result. We hope they come to an agreement and everyone goes back to school. Somebody looking up to God for the fruit of the womb and you are asking when will she born or why is she not pregnant yet. You make these people feel bad and make them question God. The pressure is just too much. You are asking someone who has been jilted by men severally when will she marry. Somebody that just came out from an heartbreak. She didn’t pray for any of these to happen to her. She wants to be happy as well. Can people understand that there are questions we can’t even answer? Can people understand that everyone has different timing. You might have spent four years in school without delay or might even have been pregnant right after or before marriage. You have to know that you don’t have the same time another person have. You can’t compare. Don’t allow anyone pressure you into doing things you shouldn’t do.

One of my mates from high school recently opened his house on his 21st birthday. It’s a beautiful achievement and I’m happy for him. Definitely mine is coming and it doesn’t have to do with when exactly. It doesn’t matter the years it takes to have something like that but I’m going to own properties someday and it’s not just one. You don’t have to put so much pressure on yourself. You don’t have to put yourself in unnecessary competition. The thing is once you are making progress, trust the outcome. At the end of the day you gonna die and leave everything behind. Don’t beat yourself up because you don’t have what your friends have. Don’t isolate yourself from friends just because they are ahead of you in some ways. Stop assuming that once someone is a step ahead of you, the person is arrogant. There is no late comer in success. Anybody can run ahead of you, you going to be there too. You don’t need to distance yourself from people because you think they are not on the same level with you. Change your mentality. Be happy for people. Congratulate them when they are a step ahead because somebody is going to congratulate you. There is this sadness that dwells in your heart when you see your mates ahead of you but you need to put that away, because everyone’s timing is different.