Ego

“I can’t allow anyone to talk to me anyhow” is a common statement from a mindset that has perpetuated poverty more than anything. Work on your poor self-esteem, it could sabotage you. I heard of a story of a young man who said he can’t take less paychecks because he is a graduate. Don’t let “how much are they paying you” by friends or kins rub you of the invaluable opportunities to begin somewhere, and learn things money cannot buy.

Work on your ego, it shouldn’t be bigger than all the opportunities that will come your way.
I would use my brother as an example. A lady once introduced him to a British secondary school at Magodo, Lagos state. But he said he doesn’t want to teach, no matter the pay. He lost the opportunity because he felt there is no amount given to teachers that worth the work done. Now, he is a teacher, and the opportunity is gone, plus he started with a low salary compared to that. We mustn’t always lose opportunities before we learn to accept things the way they are. Stewardship is not about status, slavery nor worship. Most of us don’t even like starting small, we just want something huge without not minding the consequences. We allow our ego to Lead us to the wrong path.

Some people don’t relate with some certain people because they think they’re superior to them. How many people on this earth do you think you can be superior to?... I believe we should be humble, tend to consider yourself no special importance. There is always this set of girls who wouldn’t want to mingle, or associate with everybody, because they think so highly of themselves. Humility goes a long way, no matter how big or small, wealthy or not, let’s all respect everyone. No matter how well you’re doing at work, school, church, no matter the rank you are, try to be humble. Don’t let your ego get the best of you. Yeah, there’s a time we get so full of ourselves, but let’s always remember who we were before we got to that position.

Another common thing everyone stick to is “go where you are celebrated not where you are tolerated”. In this life, you’ll have to go to many places you are tolerated to learn and serve on your way to where you are celebrated. Life is in stages. You have to follow the process, you can’t run across time. Yes, I understand most times we all want to give up, we are tired of going slowly, our mates are doing better than we are, but then you just have to trust the process and keep moving. Ego is always needing approval. Drop your ego! Trust is hard to recover once it has been broken multiple occasions which is why I find it understandable when people shut the doors to their mind, could this just be their egos responding to the hurt? Is this the actual truth or only the voice of your ego?... Yogi Bhajan once said, “When ego is lost, limit is lost. You become infinite, kind and beautiful .” Shouldn’t we become better people from those experience rather than close down on new ones. It even really bad if you don’t want people to correct you or talk to you. Most times people correct us in awkward ways, but you just have to take people for who they are, and not allow that get to you, instead give whatever they corrected you about a deep thought. Don’t close down on anyone or tell some certain people not to talk to you because you think you’re not mates. Be humble! Try and listen to people’s ideas. Age isn’t maturity. We keep learning everyday of our lives.

Try and surrender your need for control. We are not our egos, we are not our achievements. Once you let ego control your life, you won’t be happy or relaxed because as soon as you lose one of the things you are identified with, you will be unhappy. Life has taught me a lot of lessons, the dominant one being attaining humility. Humility is a respectable character that we should all try and develop and nurture even when things get hard and the world around us refuse to evolve. Stay humble always and be of good behavior.