Don’t make such mistake

Everyone wants more out of a relationship and everyone uses the word “Explore”, but please be careful before you lose someone important. Every guy want to use his masculinity to get girls. You want other girls around while you are in a serious relationship. You want to be like your friend, Uche, the play boy. You want to club with other girls and bring them home, forgetting that flirting isn’t for everyone. You can’t be like Uche because you didn’t come to the world together and even twins are not alike in all ways. Do not toss away a good relationship all in the name of wanting to flirt. I once saw a post of Damilola Adegbite on Instagram where she said; Some guys would say “I can’t keep eating the same soup everyday”. So you think it’s women that like to eat the same soup everyday? Being unfaithful to your partner is a choice, stop making excuses. Promiscuity is a fruit of lack of self control and self discipline.

Last week, I was having a conversation with a male friend and he told me how he lost a good girl he once dated due to his womanizing, and he regrets it till date because he never dated anyone like her since they departed. The only way he knew she was “good” was because he had dated several girls after. When they were in the relationship he didn’t see her as good like he claimed. Do not throw away good people in the name of flirting or wanting more in a relationship. Some people are worth fighting for. Some people are blessings in our lives that are worth keeping. Do not allow youthful exuberance make you make mistakes you can’t fix. Good girls and good guys are so rare to see these days. Once you meet one, know what you want immediately. If you know you are truly not ready for any commitment, do not bother approaching any girl, thoughtless of hurting her feelings. Some girls will be better off alone without some of you guys messing up their lives. If you want to flirt, look for girls that are willing to do that with you, stop chasing good girls and feeding them with lies just to get down on them and dump them, it’s not fair, not at all. You end up changing these people and making them have low self-esteem. Making them think they are not good enough for anybody. If you are not ready, then move.

Yesterday I finished a particular movie on Netflix. The movie was about a woman named Billie. She was happily married with Cooper and blessed with 2 kids, but it wasn’t just enough for her as she was still fantasizing about her wild erotic exploits with her ex-boyfriend, Brad. It got to a point Billie didn’t know what she wanted, if it were her children and her husband or just Brad. Brad on the other hand was an asshole who happened to blame his father for the calamities in his life and ended up ruining every good thing he had with Billie when he had the chance to be with her. It just never worked out for she and Brad, and she was on a thin line of losing her good husband and beautiful kids for a guy who wasn’t ready for any commitment. To the girls, I know guys can be tempting but please set your priorities. Know what you want for yourself. I know how some guys would come into your life as Angel but that’s just because he’s trying to get your attention. Yes, I know everyone got their flaws but do not stick with anyone out of pity. If you are not comfortable being around them, please leave. Don’t force it.

I read a post online which says, Commitment isn’t really the issue but spending time with someone who doesn’t want you is an issue. You don’t want to waste years with someone who doesn’t want you as much as you want him. If you lose a good person now, it will take you years before you would realize it. Don’t make the mistake of dating the wrong person or marrying the wrong person. Marriage is a lifetime journey. You will get tired of flirting someday. And everything you would crave for, is a woman who is ready as you are, a good woman. Don’t make such mistake. Don’t throw away good people in the process.
Have a lovely week!