Before you love someone else

Right now, what we need is self-love. Which means having a high regard for your own well-being and happiness. Do things that make you happy. We don’t do things with ease anymore. Adulthood is frustrating. Everybody wants to tell you how to live your life. Everybody thinks they have a say in things you should do and shouldn’t do. At one point in everyone’s life, there will be a moment where you think there isn’t a single place on earth where you actually belong. Some days, we cry ourselves to bed just because things aren’t going as planned.

Everyone thinks as the last child of my family I’m supposed to be living off my siblings savings and parents. But, how do I explain life isn’t a bed of roses, and it’s just an assumption. That assumption that every last child of a family enjoys is a total crap! It is not applicable to every family. Not when things are hard in the country today. No one is ever gonna remember the last child when everyone is pulling their baggage individually.
I respect every adult in school who are trying to build a better future for themselves. They work and still study just to have a better life. And out of all these struggles, little problems still arise. Yet, we still face peer pressure.

There are times when we feel like giving up. There are times you question your existence on earth. There are times you get tired of living, but keep pushing, It’s just a phase. Most times we create stress for ourselves because we feel we have to do what other people do. That has been a major challenge for the younger generation. Peer pressure is everywhere. There is no where you go to and you don’t meet people doing better than you. Logging in on Instagram, I see influencers of my age signing some huge deals and I feel like Whoa! Another one? Lol! One thing I know is, it’s their time and mine will definitely come because, I’m not just sitting and waiting for a miracle to pop in. You don’t have to let someone else’s success take a hole inside of you. Love yourself more than anybody else. Appreciate your small wins. It is not until you sign a huge deal before you appreciate yourself. Take yourself out and do things that make you happy. The problem doesn’t finish, it keeps arising. The only solution is to love yourself. Do not allow anyone talk you out of your life. No one is going to understand you, only you can.
There are times I just want to be alone, I just want to listen to my voice. I just want to check through my photos and tell myself how beautiful and successful I’m going to become. It’s okay to stay indoors when you don’t feel so good, but do not hurt yourself.

There are people going through depression now, there are people celebrating their achievements, and there are some we’ve lost. So, what makes you think there is no hope?. What we need is to believe in ourselves. Believe you can do it. Believe you can be great. Believe you can do things that no one can. Get out of that sorrow, and smile every day, because you will be there. You will be like whoever you want to be like, if you don’t give up on yourself. That role model that you are looking up to, have a past. But, we wouldn’t know because the world isn’t interested in some old boring story. There is always a starting point before a finishing point, why not go through the process first. Stop hating on yourself. Stop being unfair to yourself. Change those harsh words you say to yourself to some nice words. Love yourself. Do not do things that will detriment your happiness. Love what you do and be happy always.