Comparing the upbringing of parents from the 70s, 80s or even 90s and newcomers, something seems to have changed in upbringing. The slogan about beatings we heard is no longer an accepted method. The belt, the hand are not today's means of education, but there are exceptions.
I wonder what a parent who "beats" his child is thinking. Does he think about the child's feelings? About the causes that led to the child's unwanted behavior? Or just to restrain his beloved child at least for a short time.
In addition to physically hurting the child, the parent also hurts his pride and his emotions. Every child sees his parent as the most important and best person on the planet. And then all of a sudden, "Mom's angry, Dad's angry." Every kind of beating and physical violence against children (and by such violence I mean everything that leaves traces on the child's body, face, hurts and is brutal even to watch, and not yet to experience) is short-lived.Modern parents read much more literature related to childbirth, upbringing, pedagogy, psychology, personality, than ours did, not to mention grandparents. How, then, does this happen to educated and broad-minded people? I think the problem is that many of them are not ready to be parents. They never thought about what it was like to be a parent. They did not ask themselves: What kind of parent would I like to be? What would you like my child to grow into? To believe that the way to solve problems and remove tears and hysteria is a belt? Without any further explanation. And parenting is rightly called the hardest job in the world.
And no one is a perfect parent. And it's okay. There are no perfect ones. Just, don't teach your child not to hit a classmate or beat a brother or sister, and explain it to him by punching him and punishing him for "undesirable" behavior. What example do you give? What standards and rules do you represent?
The child learns from the first day of birth. If he is four, five, six, ten years old and he is rolling on the floor hysterically, he is spoiled and wants everything in his own way, instead of violence, ask yourself why. Talk to him.We learn to talk to children. Children checked prices. The word has an effective effect, if it is uttered with love, warmth, and at the same time with a disciplined attitude about things that are not allowed. Because granice kids definitely need boundaries. The reasonable ones.
Source Green Classroom
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Parents' education in developed countries has improved. but there are some cultures in developing countries that have the ability to make up for the shortcomings of parents in educating their children. culture which then helps to maintain the quality of children's education from parents.