How was the negative voice in my head silenced? 

There is a negative voice within us, always guessing the bad outcome, influencing our actions and this has dire consequences. This voice is now silenced

I will not receive my promotion this year, people think that I am an oddball character, I will never succeed in my life, I will live alone, I will become a failure, I will lose my friends, I will suffer in my life, I will die like the disease my mother died ... etc.

Whoever of us does not hear such negative voices inside him, a person by his nature tends to fear and anxiety, in order to gain possession of it. In fact, negative self-talk affects a person, as he takes possession of one’s feelings, and controls his behavior, and these negative conversations turn into something like a prophecy that will inevitably be fulfilled.

Let's simplify it with a simple example. When someone speaks to himself, saying, “I am an introvert, and I am socially awkward. I do not find anyone who wants to talk to me ”This is a model for the negative voice inside us, and the result is that this voice can feel and act, and you find that person avoids talking with people to avoid social embarrassment, and accordingly people think that he is an introverted person who does not want to interact with others, that is, that The prophecy was fulfilled by listening to this inner voice.

However, does this mean that we cannot control this passive voice? Of course we can, we are even able to change the tone of this voice and turn it into positive conversation, thus becoming more productive and bringing about positive change.

Here are some ways to deal with the negative voice in you

Analyze the situation and recognize negative thoughts well:

Imagine that you work in an institution, and after you return home you open the mail to look at new messages, and if you send a letter from your manager, he says: “I want to see you as soon as possible”. Once you read the previous message, you will be overwhelmed with many negative thoughts, such as: What did you do without meaning? Of course he will fire me. A large part of my salary will be deducted, etc., and this is how you find negative thoughts strangely conceivable of you. But why are these negative thoughts in particular that dominate you? Why not leave time for logical thinking? Most of the time a good situation analysis is absent, negative thoughts control, which is very tiring. So it is imperative that you take a break to evaluate your thoughts well, and recognize and eliminate unrealistic or illogical thoughts.

Look for evidence that these negative thoughts are valid:

In fact, most of the negative thoughts that come to your mind are opinions, not thoughts. Returning to the example of a manager's message. What is the evidence for how true you did something bad? Why do you expect to lose your business? It makes no sense to be fired without anything negative you have done. So you can bring a pen and paper. Then write the evidence that supports your negative thoughts, such as: Did you call the manager late before? Did you forget your work on one of the projects? Make a list of all the evidence and possible reasons that might support the validity of these negative voices in you, my friend.

Look for evidence of contraindicating these negative thoughts:

Just as you made a list that these thoughts are true, make a list confirming that these thoughts are not true. Including: Why does the boss fire you? Why is no meeting necessary? Why not expect that there is important work that no one else can do? You know your boss is a flexible person, and he doesn't fire anyone without a strong reason and you didn't. In addition to this list, assume the role of a colleague or friend who is a counselor whom someone with these negative thoughts resorts to. Just imagine someone coming to you and he is afraid of being expelled, and think about the reasons that make him feel comfortable. In short, why not give yourself the solace that you can offer to others in such a circumstance?

Compare the evidence in front of you until you get to the most realistic point:

Once you compare the evidence well, you will arrive at the reality, which is that this post does not support any of the evidence by more than (50%), that is, the two percentages are equal. So you have to tell yourself, “The boss has sent me a message, so there are several reasons, it may be positive or negative.” This will help you get rid of a large part of negative thoughts, because you are now in the neutral zone, and there is no need to over-expect positive or negative things. It suffices to be satisfied with the fact that everything is possible, do not get excited or give a reaction to either of them and wait quietly.

Ask yourself, how bad would it be if your negative thoughts were correct:

Sometimes, we find that the best way to deal with the negative voice inside us is to confront it with courage, for example if it tells you that you will be fired, do not let it control you and cause you permanent sadness, all you have to do is think for a few minutes, what will happen to me when I am fired from my job? Perhaps you will be looking for a different job, or you will start your own business. There are many ways to manage, my friend. Since reminding yourself that you will eventually be fine in all likelihood will alleviate the grief. So, be positive, and don't let this disturbing voice dominate your life as if they are facts that will inevitably happen.

Replace your negative speech:

It's difficult, but with training, you can get rid of this frustrating speech. The goal of replacing negative speech is to reach the point of realism, as the negative voice often leads to a depletion of one's mental powers. But if you can get rid of it with continuous training, you will survive the health problems and mental disorders resulting from it.

Finally, one is often unable to cope with such exhausting and stressful conversations, and negative consequences come. Therefore, it is necessary for a person to follow some calming strategies. There are those who use this voice to their advantage when they dictate to themselves positive words that support them in difficult situations. So, use your inner voice to your advantage, have fun.