Things I don't want my future kids to be exposed

I'm still single. Yes, single, I mean my marital status is single (I know maybe you'll say something like "who cares if you're single?" Haha let me just write my thoughts down please since I tend to be an overthinker a lot of times). I always love some kids around me: 0-7 years old most specially because sometimes its more fun for me to be with this age range than an older kid. I like playing with them, carrying them around, taking care of them even put to sleep when I have a chance to borrow a child haha. Lately, I can borrow my niece or friend's child for me to carry/ play with. Synergizing with the kids is beneficial to us too. Haha, This idea just entered my mind. I tried to finish this article yesterday night but my body was so tired and just fall asleep.

So anyway, these are the things that I don't want my kids to engage or even expose.

Brutal words and cursing

I want to instill in their minds the importance of gentleness and respect for the elderly from an early age. Words can be as sharp as an arrow that can kill a person and ruin a relationship. I learned that the hard way. Just recently I burst out my anger and said things over a person I never wanted in my life. A person who's like always seeking attention with his mocking words and smirks. I never said vulgar nor brutal words but I've exposed my codename for that person and that he's disgusting to me. I never said those in front of him, I said those after I walked away out of anger and ranted out loud inside our house. Unknowingly, someone would relay what he has just conceived and said another version. Then everyone was mad at me, then it became known to everyone, relatives, neighbors, you name it. Everyone thinks I was a weird, over-reacting, and disrespectful person of all time. Just that first time of me voicing out what I really felt, without knowing where my anger came from, they've already abandoned me and ignored me like they never know me at all.

None of these things should have mattered to me but it bothers me still. Like without an explanation why would they be acting that way while in fact, they weren't the ones I am raging about?

You know the feeling when you're used to being close to them then suddenly they distance themselves from you like you were the one disgusting. Regardless of what I'm going through now and my why's for them, I decided not to fill my heart with anger.

It breaks my heart to just be looking at them from the window, secretly capturing them because I miss them so much and praying to God that I know one day everything will be fine.

Okay, this one made me cry while writing, it's too personal yet I wanted to share for everyone to be aware that wordings matter. Even if you never meant to hurt them but if everyone misunderstood you, even if you've done so many positive things that won't impact them but that single negative news will be unforgettable. No matter how challenging as it may sound still, practice gentleness and forgiveness.

Sexist, racist, body-shamers

Gosh! I can go on and on with this but let me focus on sexist community and mindset.

Because sexist, racist, body shamers are somehow the same for me and they all exist even until now. They are stereotypes, super-spreaders of the negativity in the world.

If everyone is the same(sexist), I want them to think and see things differently.

That women can be out there too just as men and can never be treated as slaves in the house. Let women have a voice in their workplace and never be shut down or humiliated just because they are a girl, an externally soft and emotionally person. Have them blossom on what they do best. Encourage them and show some love. Women are born multi-taskers.

Women aren't a threat to men or society but they are co-contributors to a better future, a better world.

Porns

I really can't say that I can watch over my future kids 24/7 nor will I ever control what they want to do or they're doing if nobody's watching them. But I will give them advice not to watch porn because I believe if we feed our eyes, lust will grow, curiosity will arise, addiction may occur, problems may be faced unexpectedly. Just let them be aware that children shouldn't be exposed to that kind of videos or photos or books, tell them the consequences and importance of purity up until they get married. Just because it's becoming the norm now, it doesn't mean that everyone should be. I mean, I have nothing against everyone who does as long as they're responsible adults, it's just that this is my personal thoughts about it, for my future kids.

Illegal Drugs

Not to mention the numerous cases of rape and crimes all over the world because of that so call "way tó heaven" substance. I stand firm against illegal drugs, I just can't see any good things it could bring if the person is under the illegal drugs, plus it's addictive and can ruin you as a person.

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So there, those are the things I think I cannot tolerate my child to be engaging someday. As you can see, I stress myself out of things that aren't happening yet. Children? Kids? Of my own? I wasn't enganged in the first place. Haha That's how abstract my mind is, I spent 90℅ of my mind overthinking. I'll make an updated version of this article once I have an additional something on the list. Haha

Take care and thanks for dropping by my article😊