Self-rejection is when you reject yourself before anyone does so. Those are the moments when you presume that you are not good enough, or not worth it to get someone’s love and attention. You modify your own attitude as if you have no choice. Self rejection is an invisible thing because we hardly see it coming. We might know ourselves pretty well at any given moment. But most people are highly skilled at putting in their self-doubt until an outside force triggers it. These tips will help you in avoiding self-rejection:

Be kind to yourself

When I was experiencing self-rejection, I was feeling intense. I felt sad, rejected, or angry at myself. Sometimes I even feel ashamed for not feeling worthy of love and attention. Being kind to myself helped me get through the feelings of rejection and give me the space I need to move through them.

If you are also facing such sort of self-criticism it is normal for you, it’s important to be nice to yourself during this time. Being kind means speaking to yourself as you would a friend. Allowing yourself to feel your feelings without scolding yourself. It means admitting that you are human and deserve attention and love.

Practice vulnerabilities Set boundaries

There’s a neat line between being sufficient of yourself and someone who can love you. It’s up to us to find that balance and walk it as best we can, and then maintain it as life moves on around us.

 One way to help push away self-rejection is to invite more vulnerability into life. The vulnerability may not look like an obvious choice for fighting self-rejection. But when we invite more vulnerability into our lives, we invite more love. Not everyone around us will let you be yourself. But some will. And that’s the kind of love we want around us. 

A great way to practice vulnerability is to show up in the world in a way that feels real and genuine. If you’re normally reserved, try sharing a bit more with the people in your life. 

Recognize the signs that you are e about to self-reject

When you know that you’re about to self-reject, you can try to interfere before you result in shutting yourself off from the world. You may have no idea why you suddenly feel so unfit for love and attention. It can occur for no reason at all. You may be able to recognize the signs that you’re about to go into self-rejection by looking at your current situation. 

I was able to comprehend the signs that I am about to go into self-rejection by looking at my thoughts. I was constantly thinking, “no one will ever like me, I am not good enough, or no one will ever take me incredibly, I was about to put myself in a self-rejection disorder.

Take action by doing something that makes you feel good about yourself

Self-rejection has a way of shutting you down and closing you off from the world. It’s at its most dangerous when its spiral is out of control. The best way to do this is by getting some physical energy out of your system.

 There are tons of physical activities that can help you feel better about yourself and help you interrupt a self-rejection spiral. You can go for a run, lift weights, do yoga, go swimming, or even play a sport. Just make sure that you’re doing something that provokes you to feel strong and influential.

Commit to showing up and being your best self

The best way to commit to showing up and being your best self is to remind yourself why you’re doing it in the first place. Are you pushing through feelings of self-doubt and insecurity when they’re telling you to shut down? If you can remind yourself why you’re devoting yourself to being yourself, it would be that much easier to push through the tough times.