6 Effective ways to admit your mistakes in a relationship

Making mistakes is an instinctive nature of humans. But the courageous are those who accept their mistakes instead of being an egoist.

Why you should admit your mistakes

Some of you may think that why you should admit your mistake because it will only result in self-hurt. But you can feel horribly guilty from inside by not accepting your mistakes.

Accepting mistakes help build trust, show loyalty, improve relationships, and reduce anxiety. Admitting is the real strength it shows that you are a perfectionist.

6 effective ways to admit your mistakes in a relationship

1. Admit the mistake and confess you did it

Admitting your mistake and confessing that yes I did it make a relationship stronger. For example, when your wife calls you to bring eggs while returning home, you forget to buy them. On her asking, instead of accepting your mistakes, you begin to yell at her, "I was working all day," " I was busy," or don't accept so much from me. And the situation becomes worse by reacting in such a way.

It's a normal mistake in our daily life but a mistake. Instead of that, you should own that mistake. "Yes, I totally forgot; I am sorry, let me order something for all of us. Admitting and owning the mistake brings you one step closer to resolving the issue.

Your partner understands that you haven't done it purposefully and wants to resolve the issue. It helps them to believe in you and help you to find a solution. Instead of yelling out, say I am sorry with a smile.

2. See the issue from their circumstance

Last Friday my best friend told me that his girlfriend always pulls his legs. She taunts him in front of other fellows like Oh; he doesn't know what I am saying; he's never paying attention. He doesn't remember our first anniversary or any special date.

He was pretty disturbed after hearing that over and over again. When he shared with her, she scolded him, and things worsened. She insulted and yelled at him, which hurt his feelings. Sometimes we don't mean to do that; we don't mean to hurt people.

We think we are just funny, cracking jokes, someone's laughing, but someone is getting hurt by that. So guys, when someone shares that they are hurt by your comments, by things you have done.

See the problem from their perspective, see in their shoes, and see how the issue looks. How would you endure if somebody did that to you? What would you like others to do for you, then respond to the situation accordingly?

Say I am sorry. I hurt you, but that was never my attention. I was really not aiming for that. I don't realize that I harm you involuntarily. Yes, I will really pay attention to it next time.

This certainly fixes the problem even in the long term. The person who is hurt also feels like you know you respected them. You kept the respect to listen to them. This way, you will gain respect, and they will care to never behave like this with you or anyone.

3. Pay attention to each other

Bad listening is in a variety of ways. Some people stare at their smartphones while their partner speaks. Others begin working on their counter-arguments without trying to realize their partner's point of view. Not listening is a major relationship issue in whatever form it takes.

Hearing what your partner is talking about can help you prevent and resolve many issues. However, be mindful that listening does not imply "silence." Truly listening is that you are trying to recognize what the other person is saying. Make eye contact, ask questions, and analyze what your partner is trying to say before diving into sharing your thoughts.

4. Small problems lead to bigger issues

Small mistakes don't hurt initially but could break in the long run and ruin relationships. For instance, you would not call your girlfriend when you told her you would call. The next day you got irritated with her and yelled at her.

Later that week, you didn't tell her you had an office party. You didn't meet her because of that, then you got mad at her for being upset with you, and then you cannot fix your relationship after a point.

In this situation, sit together and address the issue instead of just running away and ignoring it. Take responsibility and accept the consequences of your mistakes. It's okay; you yelled at each other but stayed there. Tell the truth; don't blame each other or the situation.

Don't try to hide your blunder or pretend that nothing happened. If required, explain the situation, why you did and what you did. Give enough time to sort it out, and keep at it until you are on the same page.

5. Some mistakes are purposeful

Your partner asked for your time, but you kept making excuses like you were working on an office project. The whole night you spent parting with your friends. Later your partner somehow saw your insta story and caught your lie. This is your intentional mistake; lying is always intentional.

You are fully aware that you are not focusing or not giving enough time to her, and this affects your relationship. Be sincere and accept your mistake that it was intentional. Communicate your mistake to those affected by it, to those who can help you.

During such time, don't be an egoist or sit arguing about what's already done. Gather courage and show that you want to fix this. You are taking responsibility for your lie. This way, you gain trust. Take it as a learning case and avoid doing it in the future.

6. Handling the stress of admitting a mistake

In a relationship, you know you made a mistake, but you are more pressurized and stressed to talk to someone about it because, in your head, you are, "oh, I will lose her, or my self-respect is at stake. Share your mistakes with elders or relationship experts as quickly as possible before the situation gets worse.

The chances of resolving issues are higher when you are open, quick, and honest about the mistake. Understanding the situation for yourself; so you are clear in mind when you tell your elders what happened. Be direct and fully obvious about it.

Apologize, but don't throw others under the carpet, don't blame others. Take a moment to relax and begin working on resolving the problem. It would help build trust and value. You would be appreciated as you took responsibility and worked towards the solution.