Dating Tips

Finding the right one is not easy. Especially in this time of pandemic. But as the saying goes - "never lose hope".

Here are some dating tips you can apply. Hope it works.

Keep stuff in perspective

Do not make your search for a relationship the priority of your life. Focus on things that you enjoy, your work, fitness, and relationships with friends and family. It can keep your life balanced when you concentrate on making yourself happy, and make you a more interesting person when you meet someone extraordinary.

Remember that first impressions, particularly when it comes to Internet dating, aren't always accurate. It often takes time to really get to know a person, and in a lot of cases, you have to experience being with someone. How well does this person, for instance, hold up under pressure when things are not going well or when they are tired, upset, or hungry?

Be frank about your own shortcomings and flaws. Everyone has faults, and you want someone to love you for the person you are, not the person you would like to be, or the person they think you should be, for a relationship to last. Besides, what you consider a defect can simply be something that another individual considers quirky and attractive. You would inspire the other person to do the same by shedding any pretense, which can lead to an honest, more satisfying relationship.

Build a genuine connection

Dating activity can be nerve wracking. It's only normal to think about how you're going to come across and whether your date is going to like you or not. But you can conquer your fears and self-consciousness and forge a great bond, no matter how shy or socially awkward you feel.

Concentrate outward, not inward. Focus your attention on what your date is saying and doing and what's going on around you in order to counteract first-date nerves, rather than on your inner thoughts. Staying completely present at the moment will help to eradicate fears and insecurities from your mind.

Be curious. When you're very curious about the feelings, emotions, perceptions, stories, and perspectives of someone else, it shows, and they'll like you for it. If you spend your time trying to sell yourself to your date, you can come across as even more desirable and interesting. And if you are not really interested in your date, there is no point in continuing to try the relationship.

Pay attention. Make an attempt to listen to the other person honestly. You'll easily get to know them by paying careful attention to what they say, do, and how they communicate. Small stuff goes a long way, like remembering the interests of others, the stories they've told you, and what's going on in their lives.

Put away your mobile. When you're multitasking, you can not really pay attention or forge a true connection. Subtle gestures, expressions, and other visual signs of nonverbal communication tell us a lot about another person, but unless you're tuned in, they're easy to miss.

Put a priority on having fun

For some individuals, online dating, single activities, and matchmaking services such as speed dating are fun, but they can sound more like high-pressure work interviews for others. And there is a huge difference between finding the right job and finding lasting love, whatever dating experts might tell you.

Think of your time as a single individual as a perfect opportunity to extend your social network and engage in new activities, instead of scouring dating sites or hanging out in pick-up bars. Make your attention fun to have. You'll meet new people who have common interests and beliefs by doing hobbies that you enjoy and putting yourself in new environments. Even if you don't find a special guy, you're always going to enjoy yourself and maybe build new friendships.

Handle rejection gracefully

Everyone looking for love would have to deal with rejection at some stage, both as the individual being rejected and the individual doing the rejecting. It's an inevitable, and never fatal, aspect of dating. Handling rejection can be much less daunting by remaining optimistic and being honest with yourself and others. The trick is to accept that rejection is an inevitable part of dating, but not to think about it for too long. It's never deadly.

Don't take it personally. If you are rejected after one or a few dates, the other individual is just likely to reject you for shallow reasons that you have little influence over, some individuals either prefer blondes to brunettes, chatty individuals to quiet ones, or because they can not solve their own problems. It will save you much more misery down the road. Be thankful for early rejections.

Don't focus on it, but learn from the experience. Don't beat yourself up for any errors that you think you've made. However, if it happens repeatedly, take some time to think about how you relate to others, and any concerns you need to focus on. Let it go then. Dealing in a positive way with rejection will improve your power and resilience.

Acknowledge your emotions. When met with rejection, it's natural to feel a little hurt, resentful, disappointed, or even sad. Without attempting to hide them, it is necessary to recognize your feelings. Practicing mindfulness will help you stay in contact with your emotions and move on from adverse experiences quickly.

Watch for relationship red flags

Red-flag acts will reveal that a relationship will not lead to good, enduring love. Trust your instincts and pay careful attention to how you feel about the other person. It might be time to rethink the relationship if you appear to feel nervous, embarrassed, or undervalued.

Deal with trust issues

A foundation of any close personal partnership is mutual trust. Trust doesn't happen overnight; as the relationship with another entity deepens, it grows over time. If you are, however, someone with confidence problems, someone who has been betrayed, traumatized, or abused in the past, or someone with an unstable attachment relationship, then you may find it difficult to trust others and find lasting love.

If you have trust issues, fear can control your romantic relationships: fear of being deceived by the other person, fear of being let down, or fear of feeling insecure. But learning to trust others is possible. You will recognize the cause of your mistrust and explore ways to establish deeper, more satisfying relationships through collaborating with the right therapist or in a supportive group therapy environment.

Nurture your budding relationship

Finding the right individual is only the start of the journey, not the destination. You need to cultivate the new bond in order to transition from casual dating to a committed, romantic relationship.

Be open to change.

Over time, all relationships change. At the beginning, what you want from a partnership can be very distinct from what you and your partner want a few months or years down the road. It should not only make you easier to consider change in a stable relationship, but also make you a better individual: kinder, more empathic, and more compassionate.