What are your preferences?

Hey guys😁

So I basically got this idea from @Gaftekloriginal were he talked about that saying "you can never find someone better than me" but what I want to focus on is the issue of girls asking guys for money.

First of all everyone has their own preference, some people like dark skin, tall, and the likes which is fine. But I just feel a lot of pressure has been put on people especially the youths to make money early and fast and everyone wants to live a luxurious life. So to the issue of talking to a guy, chatting or the texting phase before dating, most girls tend to ask for money they feel is supposed to be that way I don't know why.

Giving a girl or anybody money should be done willingly without any pressure, or just out of love or you want to help in your own way.

I am not saying I don't like money o, that's the main reason I am going through stress of school and the likes to make money and take Care of myself, I just have this mentality of getting my own money, because I dey spend gan and money is not easy to come by especially in the country were everything is tight and I don't want to have to depend on someone before I can take care of myself, that's what my parents are there but at this stage its still difficult asking them for money.

I keep saying this relationship before in our parents time was way easier, there's no need for long talks and their trust level too was high cause you can go months without speaking to your partner and things will be be fine compared to now.

Why I feel relationship are the way they are now

(This is just an opinion doesn't mean I am right)

First is this whole husband is the head of the family, his supposed to cater and take Care of the needs of his family which means its the man that spends more. And I feel this has affected what is going on now, any little thing a girl feels you should Care for her cause that's how its meant to be that the man is supposed to provide for her needs which isn't true.

Second one

Most people tend to forget that its a two way thing. Yes, God said a man should take care of his wife and he also said wife should take Care of the husband and submit to him which implies that as a girl its goes the same way for you when in a relationship with someone, its not a one way thing its both ways, they are not your parents to cater for your needs. Its only when you are married you become your husbands responsibility.

I still don't see the genuine reason why girls tend to involve money in everything now but I feel that's where the idea of billing a man came from.

Since I started watching Korean movies I have learnt a lot from them that's why I love their lifestyle. A lady can marry someone she's older than and its normal to them, the lady can pay for a guy's meal or even marry someone she's richer than, ladies even propose to guys first. It might not be the case all the time but they have that sense of its not a one man's job.

Like I said in the beginning everyone has preferences if it doesn't suit you, you can go for what works best for you.

I don't know if I was able to express my point well, I am not trying to attack anyone, its just how I see it that I am writing it.

Thanks for reading😊