Knowing to listen is wisdom

Humanity has come to the level of today's "civilized society" by working hard, overcoming obstacles and shedding a lot of sweat. Civilization is also the summary of a story from stone age people to people wandering in space. In addition to working hard, overcoming obstacles, you should not forget that it is possible to get along well with others, by talking to each other on the line of understanding and tolerance, listening to each other, and mutually benefiting from their knowledge and experience.

The first step of the development culture and the balance of social relations is to talk or listen. It is necessary to choose the one that is suitable for the current social picture and environment. In a sense, this is an exchange of ideas. It is necessary to underline the importance of speaking and listening in order to understand each other, to support each other, and to get results in unity in physical and intellectual work.

We often hear; The one with the mouth speaks… But listening is rarely mentioned. I often observe my surroundings, when three or five people come together in social gatherings, one of them takes the word and continues without being silent. Such behavior is first and foremost a sign of disrespect. I think I can say that the famous American communication-human relations expert Dale Carnegie's words "Listening is the greatest kindness you can show" is my most important witness in this regard.

On the other hand, people who talk all the time are compelled to miss thinking. They don't have time to think or talk. Both those who speak and those who listen are lucky to think. As people get information and learn new things, they want to share it. He also speaks as a natural consequence of knowing. Let's not forget how important listening is as much as speaking in sharing information.

As human beings, what is expected of us is to think about the good and the truth for the benefit of humanity and to share them with others by using the mind. If they have thoughts on similar or different issues, it is to listen, understand and produce better and more useful thoughts and solutions together.

As a society, we mostly like to talk. “Listening” is hard for most of us for some reason. So much so that, when someone speaks, there are so many of us who say, "Even if this man is silent, I will speak". Listening is the lifeblood of our relationships. It is also difficult to speak. While speaking, we convey what is on our minds, what we know, what we think, and even the texts we have prepared if we have done it. While listening, we need to distance ourselves from our thoughts and mind whispers and concentrate only on what is being said.

We have to focus fully on the conversation. Listening is not just the perception of sound waves by the ears. An active participation in the conversation is an effort to understand what is spoken. We can say 125 words in a minute, says scientific findings. In contrast, we can think of 400 words per minute. Therefore, when we listen, we easily become a prisoner of our own world. We break out without speaking. When we return to the listening environment, we see that we lag behind what is spoken. From that moment on, we find it very difficult to understand what is being said.

As a result of people reaching out to each other, benefiting from their experiences, reasoning and exchanging ideas, civilization actually reached a certain level by listening and talking to each other. Talking is the words that come out from our lips, which are found by the mind, approved by the mind, passed through the filter of the heart, and which do not contradict goodness, love and science, and which are approved.

Listening, on the other hand, is to enrich the culture and knowledge of the society, by carefully filtering the positive words that add value to the knowledge of the listener.

Based on these human facts that I briefly mentioned, I can easily say that knowing how to speak and listen is wisdom.