Our Union is Our Strength
Unity and togetherness bring social strength. The first obstacle in front of this power is the "Ego". The most important problem for a human being is that he is defeated by himself, that he does not know how to be one with those outside himself, that he cannot succeed. It is the inability to control himself.
Many people know that the first murder on earth was committed as a result of Abel's jealousy of his brother Cain. Saying "me first" is the basis of jealousy. The basis of all negative feelings and thoughts is “I”, in other words “Ego”. We get angry with others, we get angry, we criticize very easily and we become the only perfect ones. We evaluate, judge, classify, and oppose others. This is how getting away from unity begins. The work of the devil, who makes man an enemy to man and wants him to act against God's wishes, will also be easier.
In order to eliminate selfishness, we have many other sayings such as "Where there is unity, there is unity... A thousand candles burn from one candle... A bird alone does not make a nest, only a stone wall does not...". Bilge Kagan calls out: “O Turkish Race!.. If you are a prisoner, you will be free; if you are poor, you will be rich; if you are naked, you will be dressed. As long as you don't be fooled by your enemies!.. As long as you don't break your unity!..”
Man lives in society as a social being. He cannot live alone. By nature, it is in communication and interaction with other people. If the effect is positive, it is beneficial to people and society. In case of negativity, damage is inevitable. If human relations are carried out with tolerance, respect, love and empathy, healthy, peaceful individuals and gradually families and societies emerge.
Societies that are in unity and togetherness are more successful in solving all their problems. It has been seen that societies that act in unity of thought, unity of heart, unity of action are successful and progress in peace. This is an immutable historical fact. Societies composed of people who are united and acting have developed more healthily, established civilizations, ensured justice in administration and were not oppressed. Societies or states that were divided and disintegrated due to internal and external reasons disappeared from the stage of history in a short time.
"Language unity" should not be ignored when talking about unity and togetherness. In the simplest terms, language is the energy-emotion-thought channel that tells, introduces and delivers us to each other. When the energy in the eye is combined with the power of the tongue, it is easier for people to understand. The development of culture and knowledge and its transfer to future generations are possible with language. The knowledge and unity of destiny provided by language has become eternal with writing. Language is the crown jewel of a nation's cultural values and should be understood by all its inhabitants.
In this context, I have to underline our differences. Our differences are never an obstacle to our unity and togetherness. The human generation lives in different nations, communities, tribes; learns to support each other, not hinder, in science, knowledge, wisdom, ingenuity and charity.
Diversity is not given to any nation or society so that it can stand out or be superior to others. No family, company, institution or even the state can survive without acting in unity and solidarity. The commandment in our scriptures to “compete in good works” sheds light on this truth.
Unity and togetherness are not uniformity or order. It is walking around the same ideal, respecting the same values, and walking towards the same goal. Despite differences, it is to be one by empathizing with tolerance. To be together by embracing our differences. It is to live by supporting each other without dealing with each other, without bickering, accepting everyone as they are.
To live in harmony and peace is to be a partner in pain and joy, to find solutions to troubles and problems. The individual's personal or the society's perspective on life is to create the realization of daily life practices on the basis of "Humanitarian Unity". Personal values, family values, national and universal values should not contradict each other as separate whole-understanding.
Living together, learning, taking lessons from problems and life is the first condition for the society to survive. If the second is to establish unity in the most realistic conditions possible, the third condition is the natural consequence of the second. In short, it is to live in peace. Life is a taste for people, it is peace, it is the joy of living, it is peace and contentment.
Peace cannot be attained by accumulating material and spiritual troubles and problems. We find peace and happiness by sharing them with others. The secret is in unity and togetherness. In fact, the future of our world depends on the collective application of these two words on a global scale. Otherwise, we will need another world as much as the one we live in.
I also wish for a world in unity, togetherness and peace, I hope and believe with all my heart.
Let's Look With the "Eye of Love"
We all know very well that February is integrated with "Valentine's Day". While celebrating this day, which can be counted as one of the happiest days in human history, I would like to emphasize that in order to be a "lover", one must first have "Love" in real terms.
I was in my teenage years. One day my father called me and asked me to listen to him carefully. The advice my father gave that day is still very vivid in my memory, very fresh, as if it were spoken today.
“Son, you are hardworking and smart. I hope you will be very successful in the future. Don't forget what I'm going to say now; Try to look at every person you come across with the "eye of love". The eye of love is an understanding that encompasses life completely, combining the way of reason and the feeling of the heart. Every human being is worthy of being loved for being human first.”
I couldn't quite grasp these two words in particular; love eye...
I asked my father several times, each time he said, "Think, you find." I was really curious. I've been thinking and calling. I shared what I found with him. I explained my comments, but I could not satisfy them somehow. One morning, I caught him smoking a cigarette with pleasure next to his tea after breakfast, “Hahhh! Here is the opportunity,” I said, and asked him to explain the answer to the question. I started to listen to what he said with my ears and eyes wide open.
“The eye of love is to look at everyone and everything with love. The most important thing is to help those who don't love you. This help elevates the person spiritually. It means that a person does not love you, sees you with a bad eye, and thinks that you will harm him. And because he doesn't like it, he often thinks badly of you.
When you help this person,
-No harm will come to you from me,
-No harm will come to you from me,
-No negative feelings or behavior will be reflected on you from me,
you said.
Afterward, you will see relationships develop again and differently. Your enemy may gradually become your friend. This behavior has two benefits. In order to help the one who does not love you, it will be necessary to overcome the darkness, feelings and thoughts, especially grudge and hatred. This inner struggle will also purify you.
Another good thing is that the person starts not to think bad about you and others. Maybe she will like it. Thus, with your behavior, you are giving him a good life lesson.
My son, evil is to the detriment of both the doer and the doer, as well as to the benefit of good and love. This is the act of looking at the world and people with the eyes of love, he explained.
I have always tried to apply this teaching throughout my life. But I have to admit, it hasn't been easy at all. There were even times when I couldn't. I did not give up and always gave priority to the feeling and thought of love.
Love is a human emotion that is talked about, missed, written about countless poems and novels, shared with letters, and feared that it will be lost when it is obtained. Even today, despite all this lovelessness and loneliness, it continues to come to life by continuing on "Mail or private whatsapp".
Love gives us social success. Social success is inevitable when the love inside is reflected on the outside with attitudes such as respect, empathy, and smiling, and when it is integrated with peaceful relationships. On the other hand, love pleases our body and soul, relaxes, relaxes the muscles, and makes us look lively and sympathetic. Inside and out, there is no lie and it is simple!.
All over the world, or in other words, wherever there are people, the most loved ones are those who know how to love and give. They are those who do not avoid cooperation and share their love and knowledge. Love opens the door to spiritual paths such as appreciation, learning, kindness and cooperation. Our resistance to the trials of life increases.
Based on Michelangelo's saying about love and love, "Love is the wing that the Creator gives man to rise up to himself," I open my notebook, which is the accumulation of many years; “Do not be afraid of falling into poverty. You're afraid of not loving or not being loved,” I noted. “Love is a flow of light,” I said on another page. I have included the words "If there is a flow from a clear heart to a clear heart, there is the best of light".
Today, I can say that the voice of love is lively, exciting, and carries happiness. It transmits, must transmit the power, energy, magic of love. Love must come from the heart. Let your voice, your words say that you love!..
We Must Think Right
We owe the civilization we have reached today to the products of thinking minds. We owe it to those who know how to think about the point of technology, culture and art, who work, who produce innovations for humanity and science. In short, THINKING...
Scientific thought is the basis of the level of civilization achieved by humanity in the last two centuries and the steps to establish dominance over the outside world. Scientific thinking, on the other hand, is realized by method, logic, observation and experiment.
However, it is also a fact that we cannot act with scientific thought in every aspect of life. In our daily work, personal planning, and social life, we have to come to a conclusion with the methods of reasoning, thinking, and comparing the relations and information between the mind and the subject, which I call "PRACTICAL THINKING".
To think is to use an independent, impartial, unique mind apart from sensations and impressions. The effort to determine the images and what will happen with the mind through symbols in order to know in advance the effects of the relations and behavior patterns of people with others and their natural environment is thought. We have to think correctly in order to act well, establish healthy relationships and lead a peaceful life.
However, in social life, people are not encouraged to think, especially to think critically. Those who manage the established order and supporters are afraid of people who think. These concepts are not foreign to our society.
It is conditioned to be a leader only in vital actions, with the suggestion of "the small one is the bigger one". “What is it, you are pensive, are you sick?” then the idea of thinking equals being sick is popularized. Doesn't the saying "Keep your feet warm, cool your head... Don't think so deep" shows that thinking is equivalent to crazy or cold!?.
These are the external barriers. Based on Einstein's saying, "It is harder to break a prejudice than an atom," we cannot avoid the fact that internal barriers also distort correct thinking.
1-A person who does not renew his knowledge and himself cannot achieve modern thinking.
2-A person who has laziness in thinking thinks but cannot get to the core of the subject. There are those who do the work done with the body "half-way" or "sloppy", and there are those who do the thinking in a short time with a hasty or narrow understanding.
3-People who have a mixed emotional world, who have been hit hard on the way of life and who have lost hope, cannot think correctly. Their inner world, the imbalance in their emotions is also an obstacle.
4- The education we receive, our intentions, our perspective on events, and our interests can "cloak our eyes" in the face of problems and realities. Our perception of the outside world or the view of the world may be blurred. In order to make these images clear, it is necessary to read a lot, talk to intelligent people, discuss, learn the art of thought.
5-If our thoughts are not expressed with sound or text, they will not contribute to culture. Words are essential. The human mind is a small universe (micro-universe). The relationship between it and the outer world (macro universe) must be established with the right words. Thus, the formation of small or large confusions such as disagreements, conflicts, misunderstandings can be prevented. Reconciliation can be achieved and communication can be established if the words we use are understood not only by us, but also by the other person and if they have the same meaning.
6-Those who follow any leader without thinking with the practice of “followed by the mind” cannot think correctly.
7- Those who do not question life, issues and events and do not consult them have less chance of thinking correctly.
8-Today's civilized people, while planning, make decisions by looking at their surroundings, the people they can take as an example, by sampling and thinking, as well as their personal truths.
The success goal of people in consumer societies is to reach financial opportunities in a short time. Visual and written media work so much that success is determined by materiality and social status, that people's brains are loaded with earning a lot. This is a trap for right thinking. Successful people are the first example to be taken while making a work program, choosing a target, and making plans and projects.
9-Human life is getting harder and faster, and there is a confusion of technological innovations. It is natural for us to make mistakes in our thoughts with the logic of "There is no servant without fault". Sometimes we cannot draw a picture of the whole environment and conditions with an objective eye, we cannot evaluate it. Therefore, as the ancients put it, we must leave the "door of consideration" open. We must be open to listening to new ideas and alternatives, rethinking and drawing conclusions.
The ability to take big leaps of thought is a common denominator among groundbreaking idea creators. This skill is mostly found in people with a very comprehensive background, a multidisciplinary mind, and a wide range of experience.” is another expression of how accurate my determination is.
The issue of thinking or thinking correctly is of particular importance for many scientists and philosophers who have gone down in history. I wish that each of us produces the right thoughts that will bring goodness to ourselves and to all humanity.
Culture and Art are Symbols of Civilization
Civilization is the reflection of art, thought, science and technology products integrated with the culture of a society to practical life. It is the accumulation of the human mind and the emotions of the labor that emerged with the support of science and technology as a result of the developments that lasted for thousands of years. Civilization both facilitates and improves the life of human beings on this earth.
When the economy, industrial power, agricultural sector, working life, lifestyle and level of a country are examined, the level of civilization is revealed along with the understanding of art and culture of that country. Countries that want to progress and develop must first of all be civilized. In the name of civilization, they have to take culture and art as the crown jewel. Because the industrial level, agricultural power and economy that do not pass through these two high-level filters and control and do not receive their support can never reach the level of civilized countries.
While civilization brings scientific competence to human life thanks to culture, it also beautifies it with the contribution of art. No matter how technology and equipment develop, without the finesse, beauty and guidance of culture and art, civilization cannot develop at full speed because it will be devoid of tolerance, forgiveness, unconditional love. However, he walks or develops with a limp.
World civilization has emerged as a result of countries' interaction and learning from each other. Starting from the depths of history, the contribution and truth of China, India, Mesopotamia, Greek, Egypt, Roman civilizations, the European enlightenment age, America and Japan on this issue is indisputable.
Culture is the identity of society. Lifestyle is the accumulation of language, thoughts and feelings. Beliefs, norms, customs and traditions are ways of thinking. In addition to these spiritual elements, the structure, architecture, tools and equipment, techniques, art structures, parks, places of worship and museums of cities also constitute material cultural assets.
A society's culture is unique, unique to its history. This culture is formed by the accumulation of mind, scientific studies and the life process of that society and the lifestyle adopted by the majority. The members of the society are also living elements that carry the culture.
Culture is not static and changes over time. Different cultures influence each other. Social changes occur as a result of cultural exchange. This exchange allows people to get to know each other, to be more loving and tolerant. Social cultures can become the common culture of the world over time.
Cultural change in society takes place faster in material items. Spiritual changes take time. Even though this rapid change and development is accepted by the society very quickly, it may not be able to keep up with the living culture at the same speed. For example, the "mobile phone", which started to be used in the early 1990s, has taken over the world in a very short time. So much so that there are many users who use their mobile phones by talking loudly everywhere, even in environments such as cinemas, theaters, concerts and seminars.
The rise of "Art" in societies with a rising cultural level is undeniable. Art is the world of human emotion, thought, enthusiasm, inspiration and imagination; It is to be expressed in a beautiful, original, impressive way that invites the viewer to a higher dimension by hearing, seeing, reading, through line, sound, form, color and rhythm.
“The art of influencing”, “the art of eloquence” and “the art of living”, which have settled into our language and are used frequently, are word groups formed by utilizing the connotation power of the word art. In other words, the presence of beautiful and impressive qualities in a job, an activity, an action makes it close to art. The more we glorify a work, the more we do it with enthusiasm and sincerity, the more beautiful, impressive and original we can add to what we do, the closer we get to the "Art Dimension".
From this point of view, I would not like to pass without mentioning a fine point that we need to be enlightened about art. Art is not just a painting on the wall, a sculpture in a city park, an ornament. It is not a reason to show off and brag.
Art is respect, tolerance, beauty, love of people and nature, environmentalism that integrates with human life. Goodness, beauty, truth. Because art develops a person's self, elevates his feelings, educates him, and brings his soul to peace and vitality. As Tolstoy said, “The purpose of art is to reveal emotions, to lead people to the right path and happiness...”
If the society applies these concepts in their daily life, people's creative powers, their power to see the more beautiful and better, to recognize and transfer them to life will be sharpened. "A nation without art means that one of the lifebloods of a nation is severed," and I explained how important culture and art are for a society, by saying, "No country that has not reached a place in art and culture cannot develop in industry, economy and technology, and cannot be at the forefront of the race for civilization." I want to end.
Let's not be a victim of technology
Due to my work life or social relations, I communicate with about 40-50 people in my daily schedule. Thankfully, the spouse calls, comes and goes. So do I... I call, I go, or we meet in various social environments and talk. What caught my attention, especially after discussing routine issues in recent years, is "What happened to us?" It started with.
What really happened to us!?.. Everyone's faces are sullen and unhappy. We even forgot to smile. People feel lonely. The number of lonely people is increasing rapidly. On the other hand, it is a sad fact that people run away from people.
Mankind is a mysterious being. Versatile and multidimensional... If we accept the fact that "man's loneliness" and "man's escape from man", which I photographed above, are the problems of civilization and the modern world, we will see that their solutions and implementation in life are not that easy.
Problems change according to the era we live in. New ages bring with them new problems. For example, although unemployment, economic distress, traffic, stress, depression and distrust of people are our chronic problems in our country, we have to deal with brand new problems brought to us by the new age.
Loneliness... Obesity... Human escaping from humans... Modern life has put these on our shoulders.
We hoped that technological advances would raise our lives to a happier level, whereas “Individual Solitude” offered us. More than being alone, we ran away from each other. We even withhold a greeting. The number of unhappy people in society has increased. City life that is accelerating, living conditions getting harder, daily problems that make people tired all the time, bills that must be paid and not kept up, air pollution or the rush to finish a lot of work in a short time...
Another negative effect of urbanization is the rapid flow of time for the individual. Life is expensive and more tiring compared to small settlements. Socialization is very difficult in big cities and people are automatically pushed into loneliness.
It hardly comes to mind, but loneliness has adapted to the times and modernized itself. People have started to think of it as the normal and best way of life. However, loneliness is the cause and origin of many mental and physical disorders.
Today's people, as a requirement of the age we live in, have to know, hear, read and watch everything. He is faced with the fact of doing all these alone without communicating with others. He can't find anyone to talk to, to worry about, to share his life with. Living for days, weeks without sharing a conversation environment with anyone makes the human soul sick.
Today, there are so many reasons forcing people to be alone!.. The idea of popularizing individualization is injected into society by certain actors. The mass media offers models that should be taken as an example to the society. Studies should be carried out on the political, sociological and psychological reasons and methods of this initiative. It would be good if people were awakened from their laziness in this matter!..
Just as the degradation of nature, air and water pollution, and tree slaughter threaten our future, the deterioration and rupture of people's natural behaviors and family structure is also a threat to our future. If a person's essence, inner, spiritual values, what he sees from family and society are clean, selfish and humane, that person cannot corrupt nature. He can't even think of it.
Serious, scientific and comprehensive studies should be disseminated and announced in order to prevent the deterioration of the unique and original structure of societies at the global level. Mass media are the most important elements that make up the popular culture understanding, which provides instant satisfaction and happiness that can be easily reached.
In the world we live in, there are many people who prefer to watch television instead of sitting and chatting together as a social need and minimize going out. Today, banking transactions, communication, corporate transactions and even shopping are very easy and at our fingertips with a single click. Although this point seems to make life much easier, it is a fact that it makes people lazy and pushes them to loneliness.
I consider those who choose this life as “Technology Victims”. Technology directly affects daily life, especially with the use of mobile phones and the internet. On the positive side, of course, we cannot blame these innovations, which have become an integral part of our daily lives, such as the internet and mobile phones. However, we must learn to use them without breaking away from social unity and people.
Loneliness should not become an indispensable part of modern life by changing its dimensions. No electronic "CLICK" can replace people's mutual relations, one-to-one conversations and meetings. They say, "Man takes the money," which is very true. Try to be with a cheerful friend when you are sad and unhappy. After half an hour of conversation, return and take a look at your inner world; there you will find joy, energy and love.
Without putting an end to my thoughts, I say, let's make use of technology as much as possible, but let's not be a victim of technology. Let's not forget to be human, stay human, love human.
Let's not live without a plan
A plan is an order, a method designed for the realization of a work, a work, a viable idea. It is the written form of the determination of the works to be done, their ordering, priorities, and the risk points to be considered. Or it is a drawing showing the sections and stages required for the realization of a building, a commercial investment, or a city development.
People have or should have a life plan, just as students have study plans and companies have organizational plans. The plan can be made daily, monthly, yearly. The essence of planning is to walk and carry out the human mind and energy in the name of a single purpose, in an order and system, without deviating, on the right and regular path, and to carry it to success.
Unfortunately, most people in our country do not bring up issues such as personal and family budgets or reaching and achieving a certain goal, within the framework of a plan. We are a society that speaks a lot, reads little, and cannot think in detail because it reads little. As a result, we have a structure that cannot develop continuously and is not very open to innovations. Unfortunately!..
Although I regret to make this determination, if we know and accept what we are not, perhaps we can grasp much more quickly what we should be. Life and time are a once-in-a-lifetime gift. Life is not a destination but a process of formation, a place of transition. There is no doubt that we all wish for a better life or a more correct direction. It is in our hands, in our minds, in our will, to create this direction. Determining our priorities and living in a planned way will always lead us to go further in every subject.
A planned person is an energetic, alert person. As the phrase goes, it is not "empty". The secret of his energy is in his motivation. A person who believes in himself and his plan knows that making a plan brings motivation. It takes advantage of it. The success of the planned plan generates excitement and energy for the next plan.
In the first place, we must set our priorities. We have so much to do in life. I believe that it will be very useful to choose, to study by thinking first, to negotiate with a few friends who are very knowledgeable and whose impartiality is believed.
The best part of the scripted plan, which we watched closely, is that it makes us notice the flaws. It will enable us to discover our features such as whether we are superficial, exaggerating, pursuing futile goals, or are we realists. We realize our next plan by thinking and considering these shortcomings.
The most tiring and upsetting thought is the circling of unfinished and unplanned works in his mind. It is physically tiring, but also psychologically tiring. With planning, we experience the comfort of doing things unhurriedly and on time, as we sort things according to their priorities. Our minds are calm, success is close.
Having a plan is really the key to success. As we work on the plan, we become more detailed and learn more about our work. The result of this is to take a clean, logical, careful path. It's a quick success.
As a necessity of life, sometimes our plans can fail. We have to take this risk as well. However, we should accept failure as a lesson and an experience so that we do not have difficulty in identifying the reasons. There may be deficiencies, errors and glitches in the plans we implement. In the light of these, thinking and realizing more accurately, logically will also make our next plans successful.
Living with a plan is also the main way to save time. Those who know the value of time and spend it with smart plans gain health, wealth and success. Let's not forget that time comes first among the values that we cannot buy with money.
On the subject of “Plan” and “Time”, I have always accepted it as my duty to present some of my experiences and suggestions to my young friends;
- Make good use of your time.
Do not neglect your monthly, semi-annual and annual plans.
-Do everything on time
-Read a certain number of books each month.
Remember, time is money.
-Using time in moderation is not letting ourselves go with the flow of events.
-He who manages time gains time.
-The one who manages the time by dividing it into sections with a plan adds richness and more meaning to his life. There is no denying the joy of such wealth.
- Especially if we consider today's business world, those who use time most efficiently, most beneficially and successfully for themselves or others are the anonymous geniuses of our century.
Time is running fast. Please make a plan so that you don't live your life with excuses. Do not delay to plan the future. For yourself, for your family, for the world you work for, for your country!..
We Will Pay the Price to Nature
There is a simple truth that we have forgotten! As human beings, if we are still indifferent to the protection of the environment and nature, and the conditions of existence, it means that we are still not aware of the great danger that awaits us. I can say without further ado that this approach, this indifference will turn around and affect all of us negatively, and we will not be able to avoid paying a price to nature.
The environment is the air that surrounds us, the water we drink, the soil we feed on, and the living environment of all living things in general. Ecologically, it is everything that is related to humans, living or non-living.
We should not forget the fact that people observe the environment with a more accurate awareness and stay in closer relations throughout their lives, while the lifestyle is slow and technology has not yet developed that much. Maybe he had more time for that. For example, when someone saw a beautiful tree, a flowing stream, or a fragrant flower, they would say, “This is a blessing, we should appreciate it.” Therefore, he would protect and watch more.
He came across a friend he loved on the way, pointed to the shadow of a tree and said, "Well, let's take a breather and drink tea here, and we can have a couple of words. What's up?" he would say. They chatted, talked, purified each other from their life difficulties and troubles. By talking...
He thanked God for the smell and taste of a green pepper plucked from the garden or a peach tasted from its branch, and appreciated it. Maybe he didn't despise nature and the environment from a one-to-one relationship and he would take care of it. It was sensitive. He had time for that too.
Sensitivity is to establish a relationship with people, the environment-nature-world and the events we experience, to show sensitivity and to take responsibility.
Today, living conditions and style have completely changed. Technology, the pace of life, the alienation of people from people, the disconnection of communication have made people quite insensitive. As a result of technological progress and industrial development, insensitive behaviors, excessive consumption, waste, "take-use-dispose" mentality have led to consequences such as nature pollution, extinction of living species, depletion of energy resources, nuclear danger, and have turned the world's ecological balance upside down.
The artificial environment created by man for himself on earth is constantly developing against nature. Or, as the natural environment shrinks, the artificial environment expands against it. Consumption of natural resources, polluted air, soil, water, trees cut down and forests destroyed every day threaten the future of humanity. I can say without exaggeration that our future is in serious danger.
Towards the end of the 20th century, environmental pollution knew no bounds, health problems increased remarkably, and therefore, as a result of the speed of communication between all countries of the world and the instant dissemination of information, a certain "environmental awareness" entered our agenda.
So is that enough? Of course not. It is imperative that all people, countries and even states directly feel responsible. A planned and long-term work should be started without wasting a day. I do not find the existing international agreements and practices on this subject sufficient.
The priority in acquiring a true and real environmental awareness and protecting the environment should be in education. I foresee education in four basic areas; The first education should begin in the family, in the pre-school home life. Afterwards, they should be supported during the school period and young people should be educated with more scientific approaches.
In the third stage, social life, local community habits and this education should be integrated, and it should be ensured that individuals who are sensitive to the environment are raised. People who are willing to take positive thoughts and initiatives against environmental problems are sensitive to the environment. As this level of awareness increases, it will be easier for us to protect the environment. For this reason, an active education system that reacts to insensitivity and all negativities should be developed.
In the fourth place, social media is written, verbal and visual media and all internet communication ways – facebook, whatsapp, messenger etc. - should be sensitive to this issue. The basis of this long-term, planned work that I have listed; should be considered as an "ENVIRONMENTAL EDUCATION" that prioritizes environmental problems and environmental awareness.
Humanity is in a great change, either individually or socially. As he grows, he becomes selfish. Man is pushed into solitude. He hides this from himself with the claim that "I live free". Maybe he is free, but he is alone. Individualization and isolation also cause emotional blindness and deafness.
In order to shelter birds such as doves, sparrows and pigeons on cold winter days, birdhouses were built on the exteriors of some buildings, especially places of worship. This sensitive application stands before us today only as “a leaf from history”.
The cultural pattern that has been prevalent at the global level in the last few centuries, "CONSUMER CONSUMPTION APPROACH-ENVIRONMENTAL AWARENESS" is not a viable cultural paradigm for our planet, which is home to seven to eight billion people. We have to create a sustainable civilization that will last for thousands of years without destroying this planet that gave us a chance to live.
We have to ensure that our lifestyle, habits, consumption culture and economy are sustainable for future generations. We cannot continue to live irresponsibly and insensitive to the environment. Either we will achieve this or the world's ecosystems will be destroyed; great climate changes, giant storms, massive droughts, floods, water shortages, sudden heat waves and mass human migrations that will emerge as a result!
I know that I paint a very pessimistic picture. Although we have started to see the signs, I am sure that we do not want such a future for ourselves, our children, grandchildren and all humanity!
We Must Share Happiness
If we accept this as my first suggestion for happiness, we will say to the second: “It is very important for a person to love himself first, realize his own values, and be at peace with himself. I can put the thought of "He who does not love himself cannot be happy".
It is possible to reproduce these suggestions, For example;
One of the biggest reasons for being unhappy is jealousy. Jealousy will never make a person good.
The more maturely we can meet the good and bad things that happen to us, the sooner we can overcome the exams we have to win, the sooner we can climb the steps of happiness.
We must work and produce. An idle person is unhappy. In other words, he cannot find happiness. The producer knows the importance of being useful to the society and being a part of the society.
Happiness is also a way of thinking. Positive thinking opens our channels. Then it spreads around us. From there to our surroundings...
People who increase their knowledge are happy. Learning is another happiness. As we learn, we differentiate, develop and mature. We understand life more and more accurately. That is why learning and teaching is one of the greatest sources of happiness.
Beyond all these general thoughts, when I ask myself about happiness, my answer is, “Another source of happiness for me is the friendships I have built with years of effort, faith and most importantly love. They are my friends who stand by me in bad times, share my distress and pain, and add joy and pleasure to me in good times.”
I say, make time for others. Do this for the happiness of others and for your own happiness. It is a fact that we know that loneliness and running away from people cause psychological and physical disorders. The best moments in our lives become more beautiful the more we share them with others. It contributes to our knowledge and intellectual development. As a result, we become spiritually rich.
As we get to know each other, we begin to know and love someone we have never loved. We get the chance to love someone we love less. To love and be loved is the foundation of life. As long as we love and are loved, we hold on to life more tightly.
While making time for others, the first stop on the road to success; It is human relations. It is the key to peace and happiness. All doors open comfortably in front of us if we use the right key. Even the easiest relationships get stuck if we don't find the key. Building a tangle of relationships with people based on understanding and dialogue without trying to change them, without forcing or directing them... Here is the secret!..
Everyday life is advancing and changing at an alarming rate. Keeping up with this speed is not for every brave man. So what should we do to adapt?... Trying to understand... Empathizing... We should sincerely apply methods such as watching people with patience and love.
Fast forward movement, even multiple movements, prevented people from gaining depth. We can go even further and say, “Life has become shallower”. Therefore, we have no choice but to adapt and try to understand.
So far, I have tried to apply these thoughts and what I have expressed in various environments in my life practice as much as I can. I wanted to take here as an example two of the things my friends wrote for me in the gift book prepared by my children on the 50th anniversary of my business life:
Here is my happiness!.. The great reward for me to share my life with people!..
My Troubled Partner
We know very well that there are no people without problems. The important thing is that we have a trouble partner with whom we can open up and share their problems with us... In my opinion, the most accurate definition of "partner in trouble" is to listen carefully and patiently to the person in front of us, to shed light on their troubles without upsetting them, to approve them wholeheartedly when describing the injustices they have suffered, and to make them think more deeply and objectively if possible.
Because when people have a problem, the first or the only thing they look for is to pour their heart out to someone they trust. It is as if he is talking in a psychologist's chair, as he comes to his senses... To talk, to chat is to have a short conversation. What they want is to be "Discharge", not to get advice or offer a solution.
However, we generally agree with what they say with comparative, suggestive and guiding sentences and answers such as "Come and look on the brighter side..." or "There are worse ones than you," or even "If I tell you what happened to my neighbor, you'll have a sore lip". We also make mistakes with this behavior. However, what those who have trouble expect from us is to listen carefully, to feel the friendly warmth of the other person and to be given the right.
We should reflect to the other side how sincere and understanding we are while listening to trouble. The other person will be extremely pleased with the presence of someone who listens and understands him. He does not expect discourse from us about what he should do or how he should feel. He just wants to pour out what's inside his rib cage.
Success, peace and happiness in our lives depend on our social skills and our harmonious relations with other people. In order to be able to cooperate with them and to get along well, we often have to be partners in trouble. If we develop and train ourselves in this direction, it is possible for us to gain a level skill in getting along well, correctly and nicely with other people.
There are a number of positive and constructive behavior patterns that we should not forget. In my opinion, a sincere smile comes first. It is a very effective step. The Chinese say, "He who does not know how to smile should not open a shop." It gives the message to the other person, “I accept you as you are, with all your pluses and minuses.” He also feels valued, important, meaningful and relaxed.
Another is to give the feeling of “I am an easy-going, friendly person with whom you can talk about many subjects easily”. The way to achieve this is to listen to it with all our attention, without getting bored. Listening is the true measure of attention and interest in human relations. When we listen intently, with concentration, we reflect on him that he is valuable to us. This makes that person extremely comfortable and happy.
In addition to your friends, the best leaders and managers are those who listen to others and understand human psychology. Just listening is giving it a right. It is surrendering the right to quarrel.
If someone listens to us attentively, with pleasure, with understanding, we trust him. When we trust him, he acts closer to us, trusts us, and an atmosphere of friendship is formed. With the energy created by this environment, the person in front of us values himself more, loves and gets stronger. Listening carefully to a person gives the listener tremendous personal mastery and inner discipline. Inner discipline is a powerful trait.
Listening is a very powerful communication behavior. It is the primary way of making a person experience the deepest meaning of their existence. People only find themselves while being listened to by someone else, and get rid of the thought of being alone, helpless and lonely.
Most of us think that friendships are formed and rooted in conversation. This is not true. True friendship comes from listening. If both parties listen to each other sincerely, a "spiritual blood brotherhood" is experienced.
The third message we will give to the other person is to show him that we are happy to be together and listen to him despite his troubles. The deepest need of human psychology is the desire to be pleased. It creates feelings of being valued and loved. Those who can make others happy are also the happiest.
If the one who cares has characteristics such as generosity, determination, benevolence, punctuality, tolerance and cultural richness, praising and complimenting him will help him understand his own worth and will give him strength to fight his problems. His happiness will reflect on us.
A shared picture of happiness emerges. Shared happiness is a strong, lasting happiness that has its foundation. Moods that make us happy with the happiness of others renew the meaning of life and add “Lightness” that is difficult to describe.
Let's not forget that the only thing that is permanent is the gain of what is done with sincerity and love!..
Multicultural Life
Mankind has not come to the level of civilization today by easy means, by crossing the plains. Hills, dead ends and mysterious turns have always appeared in front of him. In short, it was necessary to overcome the problems first.
About 70 thousand years ago, humankind, combining the ability to use "Language" with the power of "Thought", gained the ability to shape both nature and itself. This is the beginning of the culture of thought and communication. One of the characteristics of human beings is that they are "culture bearers" and this feature makes them unique.
Culture is the sum of the material and spiritual values, all artistic activities, customs and traditions, beliefs, products transferred from generation to generation, and the sum of the characteristics of a nation. It is a way of life!.. It is knowledge, moral laws, education and habits. The justice system is its language, its legends plus its philosophy. It's science, it's folklore.
The influence or power of culture is clearly reflected in our temporary and permanent relationships in the structure of our daily life. In one's life, working hours, educational stages, preparation plans for the next day, relationships during this time, and direct reflections of culture in the events experienced are seen. While listening to music, having fun, resting, on the road, shopping, the environment that surrounds us, our relationships, our behavior style and the language we use are directed by our culture.
Culture is relative... Culture is accumulation, history... Culture is man-made and not static... Culture is everything that humans cannot find ready in nature but adds to nature... Culture is a world that will provide a comfortable environment for one's own home.
Culture directs personal behaviors and gives identity to society. It deepens and enriches the sense of solidarity and unity of the society.
Until the 2000s, culture took place within this spectrum that I drew. In the past, there were different cultures. But people were more tolerant, more loving and understanding. Nowadays, the world has shrunk, but individual people's worlds have grown. There are so many possibilities, lifestyles to be preferred, ways to go and goals that people do not know how to deal with options, which norms and measures to use, and have difficulty in overcoming them.
In today's world, all kinds of cultures, religions, beliefs, languages and social structures are intertwined. It is impossible to separate one from the other. In our globalizing world, monocultural, introverted societies are incapable of preserving their existence. Because they cannot renew themselves. Sooner or later, they fall under the influence of advanced and developed cultures, and disappear within them by shrinking and losing value.
As a result, it is no longer possible for societies to remain monocultural. Communication is the most important factor in the development of culture and the progress of civilization. Our world is now in the process of creating all cultural values, the common cultural values of all humanity by "melting them in a pot".
Within the scope of multiculturalism; Universal culture, national culture, regional culture or local culture, which we call "Civilization", are the main topics. Multiculturalism leads to cultural relativism. According to this understanding, the lifestyle of each group is a culture and each is of equal value as a culture.
The view that "the world belongs to all humanity" is becoming widespread. Indeed, opportunities such as the internet and facebook; The incredible progress of transportation vehicles, technology, the spread of "migration" waves, the influence of the media has turned the world into a small town.
Globalization is our common and absolute destiny. Adapting to a multicultural life as a result of globalization is an inevitable way, a line. The first reason for the rapid development of the phenomenon of globalization is the MEDIA.
The world of radio, television, film somehow dictates to us through the virtual environment our identities, our sense of self, our being male or female, the cornerstones that make up our privilege and us. The media also provides pedagogical education. What is being a man or a woman and what is not? It teaches. It gives moral education. What is good and bad, what is not?
It creates our daily life. What is fashion? It tells us how to become popular and how to succeed. We create a common culture thanks to media stories and guiding tips. Media culture offers perspectives, behaviors, thoughts, identities that will help us make sense of the world. Today's societies see with the eyes of the media and hear with their ears. As long as these directions are humane, universal, nature-friendly, in favor of freedom and not discriminatory, no one can object.
The second reason is the phenomenon of Immigration. Regardless of the reason for migration, the cultures of the societies that receive and emigrate social, political or economic are affected by each other. Interaction is inevitable and comes with multiculturalism. If there is harmony between cultures, there is no problem. However, it is not easy to solve problems in case of conflict. Governments of receiving countries must find ways to quickly adapt public opinion to multicultural life. It has been accepted by many examples from all over the world that the exclusion of immigrants from the society has very bad results and that it is not possible to dissolve the immigrants in the new society culture in which they live. Immigrants must make genuine and well-intentioned efforts to integrate them socio-economically in their new home country.
Any economic, social and political problem that people face cannot be solved alone, without thinking about other people and without making a global assessment.
In the light of these, the question that needs to be answered is; How will people from different cultures live together in peace and harmony? Democratic political idealism expects us to respect our differences, to have the desire to argue over them, to show the ability to accept the other person's opinion if he or she thinks more right than we do. Societies that defend the freedom and equality of all people develop and rise by respecting cultural differences and accepting that there are "good and right ways of thinking and knowledge to learn" from each other.
And the future of humanity is hidden in the understanding of sharing the blessings of the world without destroying it!..
Sharing is Virtue
Bread is the main food item that people share most all over the world and on which the word "sharing" is used.
Perhaps the shortest way to make them happy is to challenge them by sharing a bite, by sharing their pain, to increase their joy and happiness, to share it with a loved one, friend, neighbor by telling them we love them and reflecting them on our behavior.
We must share our world, our village, our home, our culture, in short, everything we have in the universe, without forgetting that we are travelers in this world. When people think of sharing, material things immediately come to mind. There is definitely this in this beauty, but first comes sharing people's lives, joys, pains, troubles and loneliness. There is no spiritual pleasure that gives peace to a person as sharing the pain of another person. What a great act it is to share the pain of a death.
In order to share, one needs to know how to give his time, to allocate time. So we have to share the time. When we consider today's living conditions, this is perhaps the most difficult one!..
Being poor in terms of financial means is a difficult and troublesome reality. Yes, it is very difficult!.. However, other poverty is even more difficult, it is painful and thought-provoking. I feel very sad when I see people who are poor in time, poor in mind, poor in love, poor in heart, poor in learning, poor in knowledge, poor in reading. The money poor will be satisfied with "olive bread". But the poor man does not know how to enrich his mind. It remains so. You cannot feed him. When the brain is poor, he can develop his mind only by his own will. Otherwise, he will live and die with an empty mind, an inoperative mind for a lifetime.
So are the knowledge-poor. If he does not read a book or even a newspaper, the mind does not work or works in a limited way. Their experience is also limited. His awareness is very limited. Under these conditions, a person stays behind himself, leaves his family behind, and the society...
Human beings achieve happiness and peace by sharing their material and spiritual values and power with others. Human is a social entity. He is a member of the society he lives in. Individuals in a society have different abilities and characteristics. That's why they always need each other. Helping each other in meeting these needs strengthens the consciousness of the society.
Helping and sharing helps my community to rise spiritually and materially. It prevents economic and social imbalances. It makes the future of society bright. Especially teaching our children to share is to pave the way for future generations and the future of the world. To help increase the number of peaceful, balanced and happy people. For this reason, the main subject of the education we will give to our children and young people should be "Learning to share".
Stacking information in the brains may not be enough in the school of life. It is necessary to help the child understand the uniqueness of the young person, teach him how to develop this with the information from the book and then share it with others.
In my own life, as much as I can, I try to show my grandchildren how important it is to share with patience, in life, with living examples. I watch their spiritual structures and their personal development. I know that the sense of sharing, understanding and practice is a sign of maturity.
Sharing in the world of business, sports, politics, all kinds of social life, in short, in every environment where human beings coexist, is the shortest way to be happy, to succeed and to rise in unity.
Many of the world's problems turn into crises without being resolved. These problems can only be resolved peacefully, without the use of brute force, through exchange of views, meetings, negotiations and discussions. Here is the key to solving the crises in all these developments; Finding solutions in the unity of "Peace-Understanding-Empathy-Mutual Respect" passes through the verb "Sharing"!..
Understanding life is an outward journey. It leads us to success, creativity, helpfulness to others, and humility. Sharing our life with others gives us experience, knowledge and new thinking practices in this way.
Understanding ourselves is an inward journey. It leads us to peace, enlightenment, confidence in ourselves and in God. This is the hardest journey. Sharing this journey with friends we trust will shorten the road. What we share gives these people insight, experience and enlightenment.
Understanding people opens the way for human relations. Understanding people is a difficult journey both inward and outward. There is a commuting requirement. It carries us to harmony, happiness, positive relationship balance, wisdom. Sharing also makes it easier for us to climb this steep slope.
In order to add a true and beautiful meaning to our lives, let's not forget that sharing is happiness... Sharing is virtue...
Love Is Exalted By Giving
“Love” is at the root of the definitions of life, friendship, society, universe, culture, time, happiness, knowledge and even death, based on human. The problems that these concepts or facts that I have mentioned will be solved with love. If we think about it a little, we come to the fact that there is an inexplicable magic and power in true love. '
As the basic conditions of being human; I count working, reading, loving and giving freely. The most important thing, of course, is to love. Because you can only do it by loving to read, by loving to work, and by loving to give. If we truly love, we give without thinking about who will be more profitable.
We know that love is a great gift from God to man. Therefore, loving the one who puts love in our hearts first makes it easier for us to love ourselves and others. For love to grow and develop, for it to be concentrated at the apex, a reciprocal flow of energy is required. Although different kinds of love are mentioned, they are one in essence and unite at the top. The highest level of intensity of this makes people think about Allah and draws them closer to him.
The love that is most missed and spoken about by all humanity, on which stories, poems and novels are written, if it is real, enslaves everyone it encounters. It directs him to be positive, accelerates his transformation and evolution. There is a hidden energy in the essence of the word love. It is an extraordinary beauty that we all realize this and make the necessary effort to place it in the depths of our lives.
When two hearts become one, something new is created. Love is an artistic creation. When his happiness increases, he wishes to give more by renewing himself, gaining new values” almost reflects this fact.
Let's not forget that there is no end in true love, there is eternity. There is no giving up in true love. To love is also to expect nothing. It is a stop where expectations come to an end. To love is not to be offended, and to learn not to be offended.
When talking about love, it is seen how much it is intertwined with the concept of "giving". “To love” and “To give” are two separate words, but in fact they are an indivisible whole. They have one meaning in two separate words. They complement each other and add depth of meaning. Love is felt, but first begins in thought. Every action, every thought that takes the first step through the mind gains a different meaning when it is supported by emotions.
Showing love is supremely important, and giving is a great virtue. It is a duty for a person to use worldly goods somewhere, to live in a worldly materiality. However, according to our religion, using property only for our ego is to be defeated by the nafs. This distinction is a test. In this test, “What could I give at the point of approaching God? What could I give to man? What could I give to my country? What can I give to my business? What have I been able to give to my family?” We have to answer your questions.
Those who can answer these questions correctly, share their possessions with others within the framework of reason, do their best to keep their country, institution and family afloat, and make the necessary sacrifices, can pass this test.
A person, on the other hand, can only experience the peace of passing the test if he feels a sense of comfort and well-being in his soul after every good thing he does and every financial and moral support he gives. Because of this, if he starts to become spoiled, if he falls into the trap of the delusional person and becomes proud, he will quickly drift away from the peace he has gained.
The most loved ones in society are those who know how to give, those who share knowledge and love. But sadly, the number of these people is not enough. Educated, wise, and creative people have much more to give than the ignorant ones. Therefore, in order to be able to give support, trust, friendship and love to others, we must educate ourselves more, become more knowledgeable, talented and loving people in order to share more material and spiritual values that we have.
Despite all these beauties and ideal thoughts, giving worldly goods is not an easy task. In the materialized world, this phenomenon and emotion unfortunately decreases and even runs out from time to time. But we should never forget that we are exalted to the degree we give, and as long as we are attached to the blessings of the world, we become a prisoner of the material world.
A person whose heart is full of love and who loves every being without discrimination becomes a little more mature, enlightened, and takes firm steps towards becoming wise. It takes an age every year, but it never gets old. His heart, mind and consciousness are always fresh.
Don't be afraid to give and stay with love.
Tomorrow Starts From Yesterday
When I was a kid, I used to ask myself when I was in primary school. Why did my father say that so often? I couldn't find a logical answer. When I reached middle school age, my curiosity increased even more and one day I asked him directly. I was so moved by what he told me that I still remember it word for word.
“Look son, listen!” he had begun. “Yesterday-today-tomorrow is the inseparable trinity of time reality. Triplet siblings or triplets who go arm in arm in endless time travel... Even though they are inseparable and inseparable, all three have a different value. That's why we should consider each one both together and separately.
The positive and logical steps we took yesterday enable us to spend our day properly. We cannot ignore yesterday. Yesterday is not separate from today. The positive and negative steps we take today and the decisions we make also shape our future. So think before anything you do. Make a good plan. Then take a step and do everything on time!.. That is the secret of life, my son!..”
As I got older, I understood more deeply the philosophy of life that my father put into these two or three words. It has become my indispensable principle in both my business and social life. I am grateful to him!..
In fact, human beings do not have equal resources other than time. Time is a scarce resource. Once consumed, there is no chance to be consumed again. Time is an immeasurable eternity. We cannot change the past, but we can learn lessons. The more lessons we can take and the more we can educate ourselves, the more we live the next moment without regret. The steps we take today, the plans we make, the decisions we make reveal the picture of tomorrow.
I can't remember the source, “One day is worth two tomorrows. The saying, "He who has two equal days, has a lost day" reflects a simple truth. “Today” is the current time period we still have. “Tomorrow” is an imagined now. It is our mind's projection of the future. Today we have to do better than yesterday and tomorrow we have to do even better.
People always want to progress, to be renewed, to learn new things. He often finds it difficult to take the first step. We can never move forward without taking the first step, we count where we are. Life is difficult. It's getting harder and harder. But the beautiful thing is the generosity of giving the chance to take the first step every day, every moment. This is a gift to us.
A book we read can change our lives. A piece of theater that we will watch can draw a new path to our thoughts. A phone call we receive can be a harbinger of an important relationship. An apology we say makes a heart. A conference we attend, a question we will ask, a knowledge we will gain can open new doors to our lives.
These are always the first steps. It comes back. We do not know where it will take us or what stages it will lead us to. With these steps, we gain rich experiences, and sometimes we reach opportunities that we could not even imagine. Before the first step, it is a mistake to be frozen with fear, in indecision. We should know that God helps every servant who takes bold steps, works, and wants to progress. As long as he is good and right.
As long as we live, we are presented with many possibilities. Hayat said, "Here's your chance. Think, use your mind and take action. Work, strive, find the way to new possibilities,” he says. If we do not realize these possibilities, think about them and take the first step, the opportunity will fly away.
Every step we can't take, every time wasted brings unhappiness and distracts us from our goals. Man tends to belittle small steps. That's why the first steps are perhaps very difficult... The saying "Beginning is half of finishing" is the most accurate expression of this truth.
Unfortunately, our people have the "Procrastination" feature. We must accept it, become conscious of it, overcome it and change it. “Yesterday” is experience and “Today” is yesterday's student. If we have learned the right lesson from yesterday, we will gain new knowledge and experience today. You can't delete yesterday, you can write tomorrow, today is an opportunity, use it!..
We must not forget, the earth is three days; yesterday, today, tomorrow... In these three days, a person is presented with 24 hours or 1440 minutes every morning. It is a gift. Most of the time we don't know the value of it. Just as we do not know and forget the value of the breath we take, the water we drink, the nature we live in...
Every minute, every hour is an opportunity for us, for humanity, for the world, to do good, correct and beneficial works, to produce and to find innovations. He who sheds sweat for humanity illuminates both his own future and the future of humanity.
I would like to end my article with the words of a thinker:
Don't say you will do it tomorrow, you will do it tomorrow! Today was yesterday's tomorrow, what could you do?
Addiction to Power…
Being strong and seizing power has an important place in the life of every living thing. In the animal kingdom, power is necessary for the continuation of the progeny and the herd. The mighty animal is the leader of the pack and guides the pack and its future until someone comes along and takes it down.
In the human world, power is quite complex. Power is particularly associated with "masculinity". It includes rudeness, rudeness, and intimidation, sometimes with the power of sanction. Sometimes it symbolizes love, compassion, generosity, respect and courage. Strength, childbearing, nest building, protection and development for women who are human females; It symbolizes grace, delicacy, beauty, endurance and kindness. Again, unique to both genders, power includes features such as getting what one wants, resisting difficulties, scaring the enemy and rivals, and getting what one wants.
Based on the motto "The only value is no value", power alone is meaningless. If power is destructive, it strays away from its purpose no matter who it is. But if it is power maker, developer, productive, guiding, pacifying, deterrent, it is useful and just as necessary.
There is nothing wrong with power itself. Power is important for everyone, in the right content and in the right amount, but addiction to power is no different from other addictions and is dangerous. When power is focused and begins to take over and monopolize power, there is a danger of harming both that person, nation and community, and others. Because if the power does not contain virtue, tolerance, love, respect and moderation, then dependence on power becomes a problem.
There are various forms of power. Money, physical attraction - beauty in women, handsome in men - rank, position, land, jewellery, knowledge and weapons are elements of power. How these powers are used is important. Sometimes it is provocative and sometimes preemptive, but power is so valuable to man and humanity in the right measure and in the right direction.
Behind the dependence on power lies man's inadequacy and weakness compared to other living things - apart from his mind. Weakness is intolerable. He gives various struggles and battles to be strong and seize power. The pursuit of self-preservation and future-proofing is the cause of the power orientation. Therefore, material elements have become more valuable for power, and power has been identified with money, property, position, authority, that is, having something. The meaning of property, money and other powers when power is identified with only having something, when it lacks values such as love, excitement, hard work, honor, honor, courage, knowledge, compassion, cooperation, respect, which will make people virtuous, enjoy living and look at the future with confidence. will not stay. And the ambitious will turn into an ambitious person, he will never be happy. Losing will live in fear. While living in fear, he will cling to more power and then become self-destructive. History is full of such stories for those who take lessons.
However, we know that power is knowledge, virtue, humility, tolerance, being loyal. It is a person's dreams, cooperation, courage, the desire to learn, the feeling of achieving something, the desire to leave a trace, self-respect, character, being reliable, honesty, not hurting anyone, empathy, being able to wonder for one's head, compassion and love for animals, trees, insects, respect. …
Spring has arrived, but what about the spring inside you?..
Our Memories and Memorial Trees
Throughout history, forests have been more than just tree communities, they have also been residential areas for people. People hunted in the forests, set up camps, rested and made a place for their pleasant moments. Each of us experiences such moments in our memories over and over again.
Let's also remember that there are many trees and forests that we remember from the novels we read, the stories, the movies we watch, and that adorn our dreams; The English folk hero Robin Hood lived in the trees with his men and led a joyful life that fell into the hearts of the people.
Are we looking for trees with thick branches parallel to the ground for our swing?!. Isn't the first boat we boarded or the primitive raft we crossed on the river a gift of trees to us?
Aren't these "Memorial Trees", each of which has entered our lives in one way or another, also the "Monument Trees" of our dreams and memories?!.
Today, gum trees still live like a monument with their roots protruding from the ground on the streets of Moda district and on the slope of the swing backs.
Although I refer to it as a "Monumental Tree", it is not easy for every memory tree to become a "Monumental Tree". Just being old is not enough. It must have left its mark on history, contributed to the local culture and have aesthetic characteristics. In other words, not every old tree is a monumental tree.
All nature, with its tree, soil, water and air, was created for us to sustain our lives. Just as we protect our existence, the future of our children, and our country, protecting the whole nature, especially trees, is saving our future.
It is stated that the number of people who visit forests for rest and mental health in Germany is 40 times more than those who visit city museums. Based on this example, let's take concrete steps to protect our trees. I hope our thoughts don't get stuck in lines and they are just memories.
May they continue their existence with all their magnificence, not only in our bees, but also in our world, which lives as "monumental trees".
What is mind? What is the heart?
Although both of them are intangible and invisible, mind and heart are two basic concepts that we believe in and direct our lives!... Two concepts that have occupied humanity for centuries, about which endless thoughts have been produced and countless articles have been written, two centers of vital importance. ..
According to some philosophers, reason is the ability to know, right thinking, judgment and concept formation, which is unique to humans, unlike revelation, belief, intuition, emotion, perception and experience.
The mind guides us. We distinguish between right and wrong, truth and falsehood. We think, talk, discuss, analyze and draw conclusions on a subject using the mind. The food of the mind is to benefit from the experiences of others, to read, to gain knowledge.
The mind is the only objective means of communication and agreement between people, and it is the ability to run the thought process, working through illuminating concepts and information.
The mind is our most precious feature that receives all information and was created to develop. It is a great blessing to have a mind that knows how to think. Those who "think" have found the best things that make life easier for humanity. The obstacles in front of him are negative human characteristics such as anger, grudge and selfishness.
Hz. “Speak to people according to their intellect,” said Muhammad. Rumi: "If you don't tell those who understand, you will persecute. If you explain to those who do not understand, you will be persecuted again” also contains many thoughts on the mind.
The heart, on the other hand, is a center where beauty, love and God are perceived. In other words, the heart is the "House of God". In all religions, in all teachings, and even in the entire history of humanity, the concept of "keeping the heart clean" has taken place. Hatred, jealousy, arrogance, anger, excessive ambition, passion for substance, excessive indulgence in bodily needs and the like are a veil inside or in front of the heart. These concepts, which are also defined as “heartbreak/rust”, harden the heart, deviate from the path of reason, and turn people away from God.
The heart is also defined as the center of love, secrets and wisdom. The soul is in the heart! A person who wholeheartedly embraces God, love, friendship and knowledge is exalted spiritually and his behavior is defined by words such as "entering hearts" or "taking hearts".
When we keep away from material ambitions that want to direct our hearts and even attack us, by using our minds and thinking correctly, we feel “God” with all our emotions. It is an extraordinary feeling to be grateful in the serene silence of the morning or in front of the intoxicating beauty of a nature landscape. That point in time is the moment when a purified heart meets God.
In order to keep the heart clean, we must first know ourselves. But how?!
Thinking, questioning is the shortest way to integrate the right information with goodness, truth and love. If we pass these through the mind filter and make it accepted by the heart once, no negative event or person can deviate us from this information.
The moment we save ourselves from the "Perception Operations" and "Fast Consumption Fury" presented to us by the media, virtual world, politics, and material world with the "ready-to-use life" recipes today, the clear light of the mind and heart illuminates the road ahead.
Those who adopt love, truth and goodness in their hearts, enthusiasm for knowledge and working principles in their minds make a difference in society. Every person who uses his mind is on the way to spiritual elevation when he understands that every formation and every emotion affects something in the universe, and when he becomes conscious of this. This knowledge, this depth of understanding ensures that that person is always mindful. It directs all movements, words and feelings and is the first step of the "Mind-Soul Unity".
Many positive developments, defined as “Soul Unity” in my society, come after these first steps. Those who are in unity of mind and heart also display harmonious behavior in every environment and condition. However, he makes these two power centers "One", using his mind for the heart. A person can direct the mind, but cannot directly influence the heart.
The most important trap is the ego. As those who beat their egos, control their thoughts, and unite their minds and hearts increase, it means that the peace, harmony and balance of the society are ensured. Material and spiritual development is also the key to social happiness.
Reading Saves Us
Reading is the easiest and most effective way of learning for people. The education process, which starts in primary school, continues throughout life. Even though the university is completed and the final point is set, educating oneself, observing the world and life, keeping up with the changes that come across, and improving oneself by taking lessons from experience are also the unnamed classes of the school of life.
In this "School of Life", which is the most difficult of education, success, the power of overcoming difficulties and overcoming obstacles winks at us from the pages of the book. Not only success and power, but also the secrets of self-knowledge and walking on the right path are hidden in the pages of the book.
Whichever organ a person uses specifically, that organ develops more. For example, basketball players get taller, athletes have strong leg and arm muscles. The brain and thinking skills of those who acquire the habit of reading books develop. A person who does not read is incapable of doing mental gymnastics. The more awake and aware the reader is, the more dull the thoughts and expressions of those who do not read.
A book we read first reflects the author's thoughts and diagnoses. Rethinking those thoughts, arguing with others, accepting or rejecting them makes the brain think and tire, but it also improves it.
The habit of reading is not easily achieved. This requires perseverance and determination. In daily life, watching television, playing games in virtual environments, chatting, watching movies is a very easy and attractive way to put aside reading.
Voltaire said, “Learning to read is the most powerful of the arts.” In order to acquire the habit of reading, one must really take control of himself and make daily reading schedules. Reading nourishes people spiritually and strengthens them with knowledge. It warns and educates against the difficulties of life.
We live in the information age; knowledge plus thinking and putting innovations into practice by working and producing brings success. “Knowledge is power,” said the English scientist and statesman Bacon. We see that reading rates are very high in strong and advanced countries in economy, science, art, sports, every branch of social life, politics and country administration.
A book we read should shed light on “history”, and a text that includes ethical views should help us to correct our behavior. We must adapt the books we read and the knowledge we have acquired to life. This is how our culture, spirit and personality develop and rise.
Let's not forget the importance and benefits of reading as well as reading. A book is the best gift for any occasion. For example, we should spread the gift of books on special days such as New Year's Eve and birthday celebrations. The importance of reading in oral and written media, television and virtual environments should be constantly emphasized. Apart from newspapers and magazines, book information is more permanent and is a source to be consulted at any time.
As much as they teach, the book introduces us to life and makes us love it. It enriches our vocabulary and improves our speaking ability. As a result of these, human relations develop more and social character is gained. Richer vocabulary provides broader thinking ability and broadens our horizons. It enhances our ability to make decisions as well as enhances our imagination.
Reading is the first step to success. Thinking right, making the right plan and working properly are also the key. UNESCO's definition of "literacy" is "the ability to identify, understand, interpret, assemble, communicate and calculate using different types of written sources and records". Literacy is deserved by actively applying the knowledge and skills gained through reading in life.
Literacy creates a visible change in an individual's life. While this change is positive, our society does not generally reflect the respect it deserves to the “Literature”. There may be many reasons, but two of them make me very sad and worried: People with wealth, beauty, fame and similar qualities are admired more than people who read. Another is that cunning is preferred over the ethical values brought by knowledge in overcoming the difficulties to be encountered in life.
In today's world, where technology is advancing at such a dizzying pace, it does not suit us to sit idly by and watch the world with dull eyes. It promotes reading. Let's strive to reach a level that can compete with the countries of the world in the number of literate people. Only in this way can we leave a more civilized future to our children and grandchildren with rich knowledge and culture.
Our Friend is Our Hope for Life
There are different kinds of people. Each of them has a different character structure, spiritual maturity, cultural level, understanding of communication, speaking and listening habits. The problems are just as diverse; happiness, unhappiness, loneliness, despair. The solutions for each are so different from each other.
However, there is only one medicine that is good for all problems, the difficulties of life, the monotony, the pain of loneliness, fears and worries: A true friendship beyond friendship!.
If a person's problems have become a tangle that is difficult to solve, a good friend is the only remedy. A friend is like water, like bread. It is an indispensable part of life. He knows when you need him and is there for you instantly. Even if you do not call for a while, he will not be offended, offended, and his love will not decrease. When he is in the tightest, he is right next to you either with his voice, his thoughts or his presence.
Our friend is the life energy of our heart and brain. He is someone we can share our possessions with, believe in and spend time with. “Friendship” is the true definition of happiness, regardless of economic and class differences.
Chatting with a friend, helping each other, giving strength to each other, accepting each other as they are even if they have different opinions, being for each other are the features that add meaning to life. A friend lessens the fatigue and pain of the inevitable conflicts that a person experiences with the world. It saves life between narrow and troubled four walls. Because a friend is a safe haven for people, it is loyalty and sharing. It is the spiritual door that colors the awareness level of life. Friendship is the hope of life.
I must say with regret that we live in days when forty-year-old friends ignore each other and even withhold greetings. The number of people who do not take the time to make calculations, monitor interests and establish friendships is increasing rapidly. However, friendship or our friends set a barrier against the decay of our human values, accumulations and cultural identity in today's world where individual interests come before human feelings.
If we take care of friendship and our friends, we add strength and energy to our joy of life. We will be happy. The famous thinker-writer Montaigne used the expression "Such a chance happens to a person once in three hundred years" for his dear friend La Boétie. Balzac's determination was, "If disaster has any good, it is knowing its true friends". Oscar Wilde speaks of a very different virtue in friendship: Anyone can share in a friend's sadness, but it takes a quality of spirit to be genuinely happy about his achievements.
If we call any acquaintance or friend at a late time, we will understand if they are uncomfortable. Dost, "Why did you wait until this hour to tell your troubles?" he asks. The acquaintance thinks it's all over after an argument. The friend calls you without hesitation and without wasting time.
The acquaintance is with you when you have no problems. A friend, on the other hand, does not leave you alone when you have a problem, he listens, seeks and finds a solution. If the acquaintance finds out about your weaknesses, he can use them, while the friend covers them and prefers to help you overcome them.
Friendship gives light to the gray-dark aspects of life. In this process where individuality is widespread, egos are at the forefront and rapidly multiplying, we must protect friendship. Our joy of life and happiness increase in proportion to the number of our friends and associates. By giving them love and support, we relax our hearts and attain inner peace.
The famous Roman scientist and statesman Cicero idealizes friendship as “an intimate relationship based on mutual natural attraction and love of virtue, stemming from the similarity of character” and “It is a relationship that includes a sweet union of feelings in all matters sacred and human, and to which gentle feelings and devotion are added. ” defines.
Today, the interests, obligations, perspectives, and diversity of personalities of modern individuals can lead to some disagreements among friends. To overcome this,
Tolerance
Empathy
Understanding
Love
And when necessary, silence and silence are the best ways to respond. People who are locked into their mobile phones and computers talk too much whenever they get the opportunity, with the baseless and effortless information they get from here. However, speaking without listening is the ruthless enemy of friendship and human relations.
Civilization is Man's Work
Hands that once only carved and gathered, today use computers and make plans to live with robots. Mankind is almost in competition with the world of science-technology-innovation that he has created. The difference between cavemen and modern-day people is a very clear result of cultural development. The rise of man is the rise of civilization.
Civilization exists for man, it is the work of man, and it develops to the extent that it encompasses and embraces all people. The common mind is the development of all humanity and the benefit of the world's blessings.
Civilization is the sum of human efforts to recognize and control nature and self-governing forces. It is the accumulation of culture in this direction. In order to protect himself from the forces of nature and to defend himself, man has observed nature, recognized it, and reached scientific facts by determining its laws. With the techniques he has developed, he has learned to use science at the most optimal level.
Humanity uses civilization for its own future, peace, comfort and convenience. Don't we owe it to civilization to be able to communicate instantly by e-mail, instead of the letters that are first written on paper and then put in envelopes, instead of reaching the recipient weeks later by changing various means?..
Radio concerts, which we could hardly listen to due to the parasitic noises they made, are a thing of the past. Now, we can enjoy the musical feast of the orchestras by leaning on the sofas in our home, with the images reflected from the big glass screens of the televisions. Our grandmothers, even our mothers, would add the ash from the barbecue to the water and press the white laundry into this water. In the morning, they would take the laundry that remained all night out of this lye, rinse it with plenty of water and put on our white shirts. Now, the washing machines that are rotated with a pinch of detergent make everything sparkling in an hour. In our childhood, our fathers used to climb the stairs wearily to the upper floors of the houses after work. Now, by pressing a button on the elevator, we reach the top floors of the buildings competing with the sky in a few seconds.
It is the extraordinary development of science and technique that gives the western civilization its real color and strength. The level of civilization that human beings have reached for the first time in history, thanks to computers that undertake the brain function, is that they have gained the strength to stand without exploiting other people.
Medical science has extended the lifespan of human beings, giving them the chance to benefit from the blessings of life for many more years. The development of the economy at a scientific level, with the effect of technology, has provided a significant increase in the material welfare and wealth of people, and therefore states.
The means of communication and the rapidly developing means of transportation have brought the continents and people closer together. Anyone who enters the system is instantly aware of what is going on in any part of the world, even if it is in the most remote part of the world. Every part of the world is now in a location that can be reached and reached. In this way, people have gained the necessary free time to improve themselves. Machines used in production, transportation, communication and homes offer this to people.
Throughout history, people have observed that unity makes the society safe and strong, the benefits of cooperation and solidarity, and their contribution to their progress. Starting from the family, they learned to benefit from the peace of togetherness and the energy of solidarity by establishing unions that reach nations, including non-governmental organizations, social and political unions, various charities, thought clubs, and economic structures.
The tools and opportunities offered by science and technology have enabled the culture created by nations to spread globally, and all people to benefit from it. The loss of knowledge has also been prevented in the transfer of civilization and cultural heritage to future generations. With the vehicles produced, the economic level of people has increased and their daily lives have become much easier.
Civilization has shortened the time with fast transportation and communication tools, and it is very useful for people to have fun, have a good time and educate themselves.
Numerous cultural products and virtual environments have provided entertaining educational opportunities.
According to British mathematician Alfred North Whitehead, one of the most important thinkers of the 20th century;
* Respect for human and human rights as human beings
*Freedom in the sense of self-actualization
*Wisdom with the power to transform the individual and society
It is possible to achieve civilization when the conditions that determine the environment in which civilization will emerge.
While I wholeheartedly agree that civilization with all it has brought and brought is a blessing for humanity, as we see the last days of our world, Nietzsche said, "We are living in an age of civilization that is in danger of being destroyed by civilization!" I can't help but justify what he said.
Our future belongs to generations with good morals
It is the national and spiritual elements such as unwritten rules, bonds, principles, language skills and sensitivities among people that have made people who have lived together throughout history become a society. In this context, human relations come first. The main subject that compiles, directs and brings order and order to these relations is morality. The human mind is also the magic key.
The truth that emerges when carefully reviewed; These elements have historical development, a long formation process and character traits that make the identities of nations evident.
First of all, morality is the behavior patterns and habits that the people who make up the society adopt, prefer, and willingly obey. These are all "Ethics Rules". It is constant and unchangeable throughout history. Until something better, more suitable for the development of people and society, emerges.
Good morals, on the other hand, are good, pleasant and good behavior that make both the person and the other person happy. They are good habits!.. “Good Morals” and “Good Morals” complement and integrate each other. Unless both are in the same person, that person is morally flawed.
Good morals are acquired through education, reading, thinking, learning good manners, and making friends with cultured people. It is adopted by reading and interpreting the lives of the sages who have left their mark on history. Good morals are to tolerate those who are created with the power of belief in the Creator and thinking about Him. A person with good morals does not have negative feelings such as swearing, lying, sarcasm, jealousy, backbiting, and stinginess, or they are at a minimum level.
They exhibit pure, sincere, simple and clean behaviors with good morals. He knows how to shut up and listen. He is patient, hardworking, forgives, speaks the truth. He is smiling and soft spoken. He takes care not to upset or upset anyone. He does not curse, he is tolerant. He knows how to give thanks and do good deeds. He does not express the faults and faults of others, but makes maximum efforts to eliminate his own faults and faults. He always thinks of ways to be better and right.
A person with good morals shows love, compassion and understanding not only to people but to all living things. He does not gossip, he tries to warn those who do. If he is not successful, he prefers to stay away from the environment. The two primary virtues one must avoid in all teachings are non-lying and gossip.
It is not easy to be blessed with good morals. You must be chaste and virtuous. Chastity and virtue... I would like to dwell a little on these two words. What is chastity?. Shame when doing bad deeds, pity, trying to be good-natured, self-control, protecting everyone's rights, getting on well with everyone, forgiveness.
So what is "Virtue"? It is a force when needed. It moves or it can move. Virtue is all of a person's good habits and behaviors. It is to act humanely. To want humanely, to think humanely, to limit one's feelings to human values.
Virtue is the value that makes people human. It demonstrates inherent perfection. Moral virtues make a person more human-like or more near-perfect than others. It is goodness itself, an acquired ability, desire, and action to do good. Courtesy, loyalty, prudence are both virtues and steps of good morals. I think that the context of human and virtue was summarized by Spinoza, one of the famous philosophers of the 17th century, by saying, “Happiness is not the reward of virtue, it is virtue itself”.
Good morals are also gentleness. A heart without violence is a strength without hardness. It is love without anger. Justice, humility, tolerance, and a sense of humor are also the sine qua non of good morals.
I decided to write about morality and good morals, especially considering our young people. I offer them; To our agile, intelligent, enlightened young people who are as knowledgeable as a Westerner in the entire virtual world, computer technology and software!..
For countries to have a say in the world is possible with the integration of their people, societies and systems with good morals. I believe in you. I trust you. You will succeed!..
We must think with reason and understand with knowledge
Some bodily forces and dynamics endowed with human shape our lives. Sometimes it leads. These are core values and concepts. They actively help us get things right. As long as they are at the forefront of our lives, they lead us to contribute to the level and culture of humanity by leading us to peace, truth, well-being and being more sensitive.
The first two of these powers are 'Thinking with Reason' and 'Understanding with Knowledge'. For example, an old lady is trying to cross a light-free spot in a congested traffic. The situation is difficult and it forces traffic. We turn our minds to his condition. We use the knowledge of either walking to the lights or stopping the vehicles with signs and crossing them.
Christopher Columbus studied countless information, believed in the roundness of the world, and set to work, using his mind to achieve the unbelievable. Don't we think about the knowledge of a book or movie that has won many awards and decide to see that movie and read the book?..
“Reason” is the most valuable treasure presented to man, a spiritual force. It is the power of thinking, knowing, learning, determining behavior, controlling, judging and discerning. We distinguish between the good and the bad, the beautiful and the ugly, with the mind. Reason envisages us to act correctly, logically and conscientiously. It is the ability to distinguish between falsehood and truth, truth from falsehood, and the ability to hold opinions.
Man has created a "Cultural World" by making his environment and all nature livable with his mind. In this sense, human is a being who knows, finds, makes science, believes, creates art, learns and teaches, has a language and transfers his cultural knowledge from generation to generation. It takes this power, accumulation from the mind. It stores power in knowledge. Every new information is used in the work of the mind and in making the events meaningful. When used correctly, positive results are inevitable.
Mind is not static. It develops with thinking and experience. However, we should evaluate our experiences correctly and get the right results. This is where "Thought" comes into play. Thought is also a separate power and energy. It contains vibrations reminiscent of electric current. It finds scientific facts in our life and in the universe. If it condenses, it can reach objects and other people. In the near future, it is no longer a dream that we can send our thoughts to our friend anywhere in the world while sitting at home.
Thinking is done in accordance with the rules of reason and logic. Logic is a discipline that studies the principles of correct thinking. It deals with the form of right thinking. To think is to exercise the mind, to draw correct conclusions from events, to find the unknown. Finding the unknown for the peace, tranquility and development of humanity!..
By thinking, man acquires new knowledge. It is expressed in terms of “coherent thinking” or “logical thinking”.
The human mind develops by questioning, thinking, obtaining results and doing them in a logical order. In fact, thought, in other words, happens with reason and logic. When thinking, reason and logic go hand in hand and in harmony, the right result comes out. Thinking is exercising our minds. As the mind works and constantly develops, the "Understanding" event or awareness develops with the new information obtained. It gains depth.
As we think, it takes time to learn to beat the negative whispers in our ears. Achieving this makes people more peaceful, serene and happy. The voice that whispers to us gossip, lies, envy, and false condemnation is the "Giving of Delusions" itself. This whisper is a very difficult test for those who live far from knowledge and lack belief in God.
Thinking leads us to new realities. Until today, only those who think, work and shed a lot of effort have found useful information and results for humanity.
All these names and many more have thought and worked for a lifetime to reach the top of knowledge and thought, which is the most meaningful of human's basic goals, and humanity will never forget these names. It is my wish that our younger generations will emerge as respected thinkers on behalf of our country and humanity, and they will be remembered with respect.
Our World Is Running Out of Patience
It seems that climate change comes first. Already in the information obtained from scientific sources, the determinations of some scientists are mentioned; According to one researcher, carbon dioxide emissions have reached 400 parts per million this year as a result of the greenhouse effect. This is the highest figure in the last three million years!
The scientific world is warning us. It sheds light on how the future will be, or rather, it will not be very heartwarming. In one of my articles, I put forward my thoughts and theses by touching on the subject, “New concepts such as sustainable development, economic development, sustainable ecological structuring are on our agenda. I am blending and integrating all these concepts, bringing the question 'Is the world sustainable?' to the agenda.
We consume more than nature offers, we destroy natural resource stocks. As a result, although all these concepts are expressed with the definition of 'sustainable', it WILL NOT BE SUSTAINABLE. Because nature and the world are running out. I liken the way we handle nature, the way we use it, our rapid consumption, to a tiny snowball that we roll from the top of Everest. TOP is the consumption mentality of the years we live in. As it rolls, it will grow, as it grows, it will swallow everything before it,” I wrote, and continued, “Is the end of the world and civilizations coming? The answer to the question is YES, if we continue to cut the branch we are on in this way. The answer to the question is YES, if we do not stretch our feet according to our quilt or do not know our place while taking advantage of nature," I said, and listed "YES" in a negative sense.
I regret to see today that nothing has changed. It is said that “consumption is freedom”. “Consume!. Use brand products, you will prove your personality and you will be more successful in socializing! it is called. “The more you consume, the higher your personality will be, the more you will be recognized!” perception is presented to humanity from all four sides.
We have to say STOP to this trend, this madness. Before it's too late!. Because time passes quickly.
I especially recommend that our young people think carefully about such thought patterns and indoctrination elements and weigh them on the scales of their minds. At every opportunity I get, in my social relations, television talks, writings, conversations, I try to bring the subject to the agenda and keep it on the agenda without getting tired of it.
In order to put an end to the consumption frenzy, the primary problem of the world and Turkey is the protection of nature. Protecting nature means protecting our future, our children and even our grandchildren. Now more than ever, we have to take the warnings of science and scientists seriously. It is a duty of humanity to love our world and nature, and to strive to struggle with the harm done to it and those who do it.
We should know very well that science warns us to realize the facts. The future is still in our hands. In the light of what we will or cannot do, we will either exist together or perish together!..
Love is the Foundation of Family
It is extremely difficult or even impossible to come up with a formula on behalf of all human societies in defining the family. Throughout history, societies have perceived the concept of family depending on their living order and structures and have attributed different meanings according to their conditions.
For example, in primitive societies or in the period when people started to live under the family structure, and after, the intertwined "Great Family" structure such as tribe, lineage, tribe, clan is common. Right after this structure, there is the "Extended Family" Order, which includes relatives such as grandfather, grandmother, aunt, uncle, and aunt. In today's modern societies, the concept of nuclear family consisting of only parents and children remains valid.
The emergence of the modern family was based on the abolition of slavery and the feudal structure as a result of social evolution, the development of the consciousness of freedom and democracy, and the acceptance of equality between men and women. However, although industrialization, modern life style and urbanization have affected the relations between family members in many ways, the "family" institution is still alive, thankfully.
Based on these definitions, according to post-modern understanding and cultural interactions, family is a system in which a group of people who share a common past, present and future expectations exist or live in mutual relations. This is the independent nuclear family structure.
In the sociological sense, the family is the smallest unit of society and if its structure is strong, that society is also sound. The healthy, peaceful life and development of societies depend on mutual love, respect and tolerance of their members, starting with the family.
“What are the benefits of being or starting a family?” when we ask:
* The person gets rid of loneliness.
* It is a moral institution. It educates people.
* It is the place where the first manners, morals, behavior patterns, speaking style, communication with people and the teaching of maintaining it, which will be necessary throughout life, are learned and acquired for the first time.
* Provides training on life difficulties, problems, understanding, empathy skills, and the continuity of good and correct relations with people.
*A happy and peaceful family in an environment of love makes people experience heaven and vice versa.
I think we can easily give answers.
The fate of our future is hidden in the minds, hearts and working capacities of today's children. A good and beautiful world will await us, in line with the increasing proportion of our children who are questioning, thinking, adopting the universal culture, and whose conceptual power, education and training level are advanced for our future.” The youth that will carry us to this world will grow up in families that are strong, peaceful, seeking knowledge and accustomed to reading.
Parental love and support, formed in the family environment, gives the light of first learning and moving forward before schools. We learn to be happy in the family. Happiness is a way of life that we mature with the culture, intelligence, understanding and intelligence we have developed with our personality, starting from our childhood.
The first key to happiness is hidden in the ability to smile and laugh. Cheerful mood is a richness for our personality. Being optimistic is a valuable habit. Love, on the other hand, is an indispensable feature of being human!
The cornerstone of a strong family structure is undoubtedly "LOVE". It is a blessing bestowed upon us by Allah, which increases as we give love, and for which no fee is paid. In the family, we learn the structure of loving and being happy, which will give us strength, energy and well-being for a lifetime, in the most correct and permanent way.
My order of thoughts and feelings towards my children is as follows:
-Take care of your mother
- Protect your family integrity
It starts with the words.
Families formed by happy, peaceful and healthy individuals who are fed with the concepts of love and respect are indispensable institutions not only for themselves but also for our national unity. Societies consisting of families with the principle of unity and togetherness are more successful in solving all their problems. If we want to protect our future, let's try to do our best to protect our strong family structure with the belief of a sacred duty.
Let's not miss the moment we live in
Living in the past, preoccupying our minds with worrying about the future, and judging the people we come across as an automatic observer makes us miss the present. We are happy in the presence of a beautiful view, the richness of colour, scent and design offered by nature. If we keep looking, if we just think about this beauty and watch it to the fullest, there is no problem. It means “We are making full use of the blessing”. In short, we are in the "Awareness Dimension".
However, if we are simultaneously thinking about what will happen the next day or what we experienced last week, happiness disappears. Awareness also disappears. Our mind is in a whirlpool of thoughts and emotions that have captured itself. It is a fact that exists in human nature; The person cannot see what they are looking at, he is just immersed in the preoccupation of the mind, that beauty is just an image for him.
Sometimes we become a prisoner of our thoughts and feelings. They hover in our minds and rule us. We cannot understand, think and interpret the beauties in front of us, the characteristics of the moment we are in, and the positive contributions they will make to our lives. In a way, we are in a “sleep-walking” state.
The person in the awareness dimension observes his own feelings and thoughts. He looks at them like an outsider. He does not reject his thoughts and feelings, does not judge them, does not try to suppress them.
Mindfulness is a method that involves concentration. There is a conscious development of attention. When the ability to comprehend and understand is combined with the habit of being open, staying neutral, not judging, not dwelling on people and events, accepting them as they are, it becomes easier to concentrate attention and gain a peaceful awareness.
Awareness ensures that we are not disturbed by unpleasant experiences. Since we will be unresponsive or minimally responsive to what is happening at the moment, our tendency to suffer, grieve, worry first decreases and eventually goes down to a zero level state. This is an important contribution to our happiness. It is the way... Positive or negative, it accepts the past as it is, with instantaneous time periods and completely.
Concentrating all attention on the moment he is in is only living in that moment;
Energy
Understanding
a natural state of contentment
It gives happiness and peace.
People who experience unhappiness often regret, regret, or feel guilty about their past experiences. Anxious people also fear the future. In general, the further we move away from the moment we live, the more suffering we suffer. When we spend our attention on mental activities, we get caught up in daily dreams. We dream, we get away from daily reality.
The person who is “aware” stops the painful mental activity, accepts the past as it is, accepts the environment and people without judgment.
The most specific definition of the awareness skill is to protect our perception level of what is outside and inside us, our strength, from successive moments. As a result, a clear and determined state of consciousness, “Awake Posture” is gained at those moments.
Those who gain high-level awareness skills approach life with a new perspective. They become spiritually integrated with people, with the world, with the universe, and as a natural result of these, with God, regardless of language, religion or race. For them, the concept of happiness takes on a new dimension.
This dimension, which we can define as "the greatest happiness", is to serve humanity and the universe. This is heaven on earth and that person has found the key to a happy, peaceful, energetic and loving life day and night.
Let's Start Our Day With A Laugh
I am a bookworm. As long as I live, I have tried to instill a love of books and reading habits, and I am trying. I want and wish our people, especially our young people, to read a lot in order to contribute to the development of thinking and questioning tendencies.
I often go abroad. During these travels, I carefully follow the lives, social relations, and attitudes of Europeans and Americans at the entrances and exits of the cinemas and show halls I go to. First I ask myself, “What should we learn from them?” I ask. Then, “How should we evaluate our lives and theirs?” The question comes to my mind.
They are abundant and prosperous. But they are not aware of it. I also think that they are not grateful. However, happiness is hidden in being conscious of what we have and knowing how to be grateful.
Their lives are dominated by only consumption, speed, electronics and communication with the virtual world. Their clothes, outfits and financial situation are at an extremely advanced level. But each of them is more tense and sullen than us, and there is not the slightest smile in their eyes and on their faces! It is very difficult to see people smiling sincerely on the roads and in cafes. However, a smile is the most powerful magic that a person can use throughout his life. I try to benefit from this magic as much as I can, whether in my business life or in my social world.
There is no trouble that a smile can't dispel, no door that it can't open, no heart that it can't win. It gives the other party the message that he deserves to smile, that he is cared for and loved. When you smile and say nice things to someone, the happiness they create will come back to you. The fact that a person perceives that he is important and can say "I am important" also causes an increase in self-belief and confidence. This too is happiness.
Human life is very short. In childhood, it seems like it will never pass, but as age advances and intelligence and experience develop, the brevity of life becomes more evident. Therefore, we should make good use of the days we live in and try to have a good and pleasant time. I say, “We should remove the issues that darken our souls and distress us from our agenda.”
I always try to stay away from people who spread negativity and events that make me uneasy. I try to prioritize humor in daily routine and relationships. Our people say, “Anger is sweeter than honey,” but I prefer the taste of a smile or humor to honey. Where these two exist, there is taste and beauty.
I love cinema and theater very much and I try to go every chance I get. Not only do I go myself, I also encourage my family and close friends in this regard. A pleasant time I spent there, a small smile that appeared on my face will definitely be recorded in the profits of my life.
One of my personal hobbies is to have a rich photo collection. In this collection of thousands of photos about my family, friends, places I've been to, visited, seen, places I like, and my work, the most important ones are the ones taken in my office.
My friends come to visit me or I come for a business meeting or meeting. First, I look carefully at my surroundings. If I feel excessive tension before the meeting, I immediately call my assistant and ask him to take a photo of us. We pose. During the shoot, I insistently “Laugh” and “Say Draw” and I get stuck. After a while, a smile appears on their faces. After a few poses are taken, the tension ends, the sullen faces soften and the meeting begins.
Who knows, maybe reading or every page turned is the most special key to looking at life with a smile. That's why I say, start each new day by remembering a funny moment from the day before and laugh to the fullest. Couldn't find it?. At least smile!
Our tongue is the mirror of our heart
The hopeful outlook, mental and physical health of the individuals of a nation begins with harmonious communication. This structure also accelerates social development and adds strength.
Human relationships begin by filtering thoughts and feelings through the love of positive energy in the eyes or the lovelessness of negative energy in the eyes. Then it's time to use our language. The secret is hidden in the well-known and used saying "A sweet tongue gets the snake out of its hole". The power of the language, the energy of the words make the enemy a friend, the patient good, and the unhappy happy. Ask Confucius, "If you were called to rule a country, what would you do first?" they asked. “No doubt I would start by reviewing language,” he said.
Language exists for speech, agreement, thought, and culture. If the language is flawed, all of these things I have mentioned will be flawed. According to its place, the tongue is mightier than the sword. When used maliciously, it destroys the psychology of the other person. With good intentions, it is one to add richness to the soul, joy and peace. In fact, everyone wants to be praised and admired by others. Being liked by others increases self-confidence and self-confidence.
Praise is the most important source of motivation and encouragement. It is a culture, manners and education to value a person, to take care of him, to make him feel valuable. And this education can only be obtained by oneself, there is no school. The way is through being human.
Just as generous people who love to give are appreciated, loved and respected by everyone. Here, the human model, which our society lacks, is the phenomenon of a generous person with both hand and tongue. "Hello my friend. How are you? The person we greet with the words "I saw you, it means I'm going to have a good day" is the person we love and establish good relations with.
There are two main ways of communication between people. The path of harmony that enriches our life, or the path of harmony that impoverishes our life. We have to build our relationships, personally or with society, on the path we choose.
Behaving in a balanced way, controlling his thoughts and feelings, using his language in the way of praise-love-harmony, empathizing, being friendly without judging people, looking into the eyes of others with love, expressing the praiseworthy feature of every person, knowing how to take heart, using the words me-me-mine-mine People who can remove "you" from their vocabulary and use "you" frequently, raise the moral and social power and happiness level of the society. These are the building blocks of society.
These findings of mine are an invitation to the "path of harmony". It is a call. To the extent that we can respond to the expectations of the person in front of us, we adapt to the extent that we can look at the features that are contrary to us with tolerance, love and understanding.
I wish that a society that minimizes friction in personal relationships, can solve problems without turning into a fight, prefer happiness instead of pain, love and tolerance instead of grudge and hatred, will be re-established without wasting more days.
Knowing to listen is wisdom
Humanity has come to the level of today's "civilized society" by working hard, overcoming obstacles and shedding a lot of sweat. Civilization is also the summary of a story from stone age people to people wandering in space. In addition to working hard, overcoming obstacles, you should not forget that it is possible to get along well with others, by talking to each other on the line of understanding and tolerance, listening to each other, and mutually benefiting from their knowledge and experience.
The first step of the development culture and the balance of social relations is to talk or listen. It is necessary to choose the one that is suitable for the current social picture and environment. In a sense, this is an exchange of ideas. It is necessary to underline the importance of speaking and listening in order to understand each other, to support each other, and to get results in unity in physical and intellectual work.
We often hear; The one with the mouth speaks… But listening is rarely mentioned. I often observe my surroundings, when three or five people come together in social gatherings, one of them takes the word and continues without being silent. Such behavior is first and foremost a sign of disrespect. I think I can say that the famous American communication-human relations expert Dale Carnegie's words "Listening is the greatest kindness you can show" is my most important witness in this regard.
On the other hand, people who talk all the time are compelled to miss thinking. They don't have time to think or talk. Both those who speak and those who listen are lucky to think. As people get information and learn new things, they want to share it. He also speaks as a natural consequence of knowing. Let's not forget how important listening is as much as speaking in sharing information.
As human beings, what is expected of us is to think about the good and the truth for the benefit of humanity and to share them with others by using the mind. If they have thoughts on similar or different issues, it is to listen, understand and produce better and more useful thoughts and solutions together.
As a society, we mostly like to talk. “Listening” is hard for most of us for some reason. So much so that, when someone speaks, there are so many of us who say, "Even if this man is silent, I will speak". Listening is the lifeblood of our relationships. It is also difficult to speak. While speaking, we convey what is on our minds, what we know, what we think, and even the texts we have prepared if we have done it. While listening, we need to distance ourselves from our thoughts and mind whispers and concentrate only on what is being said.
We have to focus fully on the conversation. Listening is not just the perception of sound waves by the ears. An active participation in the conversation is an effort to understand what is spoken. We can say 125 words in a minute, says scientific findings. In contrast, we can think of 400 words per minute. Therefore, when we listen, we easily become a prisoner of our own world. We break out without speaking. When we return to the listening environment, we see that we lag behind what is spoken. From that moment on, we find it very difficult to understand what is being said.
As a result of people reaching out to each other, benefiting from their experiences, reasoning and exchanging ideas, civilization actually reached a certain level by listening and talking to each other. Talking is the words that come out from our lips, which are found by the mind, approved by the mind, passed through the filter of the heart, and which do not contradict goodness, love and science, and which are approved.
Listening, on the other hand, is to enrich the culture and knowledge of the society, by carefully filtering the positive words that add value to the knowledge of the listener.
Based on these human facts that I briefly mentioned, I can easily say that knowing how to speak and listen is wisdom.
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