What is it to enjoy something: Make room for Savoring in your life

It is not enough to say stay in the moment to be happy, what this definition conveys is not conveyed correctly. Staying in the moment is not letting go of all responsibilities, labeling how we feel, taking a picture of the moment we think is happy in our minds or with a camera and freezing it aside. In the same way, in this process, which is conveyed as awareness, it is not about associating unhappiness with the moment and labeling it as "I was unhappy in this image" in the moments that make you unhappy. This is why the work of staying in the moment and awareness is suspended. It is possible to hear from most people who have worked in these fields; "I understood that, how did I forget it again?"

The reason why the title of Savoring is included under the concept of well-being is explained as follows: Observing and interpreting the moment you live, when you are happy or unhappy. For this, it is important to choose the simplest moments, not big events, breaking points. To grow small, to accumulate happiness. Like a nice shower, a delicious meal, a scenic walk, or anything. Not to stay in touch with the work you do, to give it its due, to show it, not to consume it, but just to live that moment. I think when we were children, we could do this very easily during the observation and experiment phase because we were learning. Every detail, movement, smell, taste had importance. That's why we always agree that the world used to be better, although in some cases it's right, it's basically about being able to stay in the moment properly. It is about sanctifying the ceremonies of daily life.

Even though these values ​​are variable for each new generation, these values ​​include having a family structure in the social structure, eating together with the family, observing the rules of etiquette while eating, eating the food only at the table, consuming as much as the portion given, not disrespecting the food and appreciating what is done, being together with the family without haste. sharing this moment: it's a ceremony. The fact that it is repeated every day, that people who experience it know that these activities are included under the concept of family, that they experience it together, that they accompany this ritual with a willing or unwilling will make this experience different for each child, even unwilling participation is a valuable part of this repetitive experience. It takes its place in our memory as a moment of happiness.

With this experience fixed moment of happiness, it is important to realize what you are experiencing when you take green vegetable juice and say to yourself “I am doing something good for my health” and drink it from the plastic bottle. Make sure that there is a moment produced in this moment that brings you happiness, other than a repetitive act of drinking, in which you are involved.

You can try a few techniques to enhance these moments, to transition from being a consumer to a lasting happiness:

Share the moment you live with someone else,

Think you're lucky

Be sure of what you are doing at that moment, do not take pictures to stay in the moment, I am not writing this digitally, observe it.

Have at least one reason to be thankful!

Extend the pleasure time, cut the dessert in half, give yourself extra time to eat the second portion, for example “I can eat the rest tomorrow, same time and with coffee!” you can say.

talk to yourself! Let them say crazy. Your ear needs to hear you, hear yourself more than the outside sounds.

Consider the power of words, if the formation of a word is as old as human history, we should not be so ungrateful as to use them casually.

Consider kindness and just be kind to yourself first and then the outside comes.

When I say this, I always think of the following: From hosting guests to sharing what they have, checking in with neighbors, helping those in need… There are some shadowy truths behind these, for example, those who buy their house, car, phone for someone else, those who offer treats to those who come home, and those who pass them by. If you adjust the quality of what you eat and use what you wear cleanly, you can always offer the same standard for your guests. On the other hand, if you live so that guests can see it, or if you live in a technology-oriented life so that people know better, when you return home, you will lose your self-respect beyond the increase in loneliness. No one else should eat what you don't eat, even if it's your lover… First of all, yourself. This is not selfish, it is a sign that you see yourself as equal with everyone and accept yourself as you are. Care for the guest, personal care, house cleaning are more valuable than the cost of the treat. This was always the case.