To Build Healthy Relationships, Love Yourself First

February 14 is Valentine's Day… Isn't it inevitable that city people, who live everything fast, rush when it comes to their beloved relationships?

Do you think it is possible for the modern person, who jumps from relationship to relationship in order not to be alone, to establish a healthy relationship with himself and to give the love he does not have to others? Maybe that's why we all mistook tiny puddles for oceans? There is a difference between being surrounded by the love that comes from the source and uniting in the ocean and being surrounded by a pond of unknown origin!

This tendency is actually the reason for the unhappiness of modern people who run from relationship to relationship as we do in city life… Tired warriors who are disconnected from themselves and try to be happy with outsiders, today's modern people...

We all want to be loved and loved, and in fact, our wounds attract the men and women we capture in the big picture. Life is not meant for us! Relationships are the best helpers to grow and know ourselves. I'm sure you do too, just as I see it when I look back at people.

True love

True love, true understanding is not wanting the seed you planted in the ground to become a tree. It wasn't about struggling to get you to grow up. True love was taking a step back and being open to the possibility that that seed might not hold onto the soil. And to love him too. He wasn't trying to determine the fate of the seed. It was to love that that seed continue to be a part of this life in spite of all odds. Because the seed was always one with this life. It didn't have to be a tree to be one.

You didn't have to hold on to the ground for me to love you, and I had a big place in my heart when I couldn't hold on to the ground. True love was like the oxygen you get when you enter the forest. And it was never less. It was so mixed up that its subject was neither you nor me.

If I'm not going to love with such love, if I'm not going to be greeted with such love, is there really a need to chase the stage in order not to be alone?

Let it be blank!

Like those anatomical spaces in your body, like the spaces between your fingers. It's like the spaces between your breaths… The space is not death, don't worry. Place of birth… Place of consecration…

The essence of chamomile is to be a chamomile, and the essence of a coffee cup is to be a coffee cup, the same is true for us. Our orientations, our stories constitute our essence and there is no problem in that essence! As long as we are willing to see him, let's look at each other...

True love lies in the intention to see that essence.

One of my moments of enlightenment in my own little world occurred when I realized that at the end of all the strife, all the rage, I was in line for tea at the coffee shop with effort. There was no tea where I wanted, so it was not possible for me to drink tea. It seems so easy, actually, but it's dizzying to realize.

When you start to want something from someone, from life, in an strenuous and tiring way, stop and look at yourself again, what is happening. Aren't you supposed to be dressing the image in your head in front of you?

Kindly ask: Where does life flow?

The most magical thing in the world is to love and be loved!

The door to eternity moment by moment from here… Don't waste a drop of it. Do not push for anything that is not given to you wholeheartedly with an open door. Drop the small accounts. Don't tire your beautiful heart just because I want it to be like this. Existence is blowing life and love into you with every breath. There is so much to love, but everything will be half and incomplete unless you start with yourself!

Come on, hug yourself to the fullest, every part of you, as you are...