Marriage is a sacred act, a union between a man and a woman coming together for the purpose of companionship, mutuality and procreation among many other aims. This is to show that marriage precisely is very much needed or essential as it have its part in the continuous survival of human race. Marriage rites differs across different religions, geographic locations. It also differs based on the diverse beliefs of people towards marriage. Notwithstanding, marriage is an institution promoted by many in the world today. Actually it's a lifelong establishment. People have been marrying before we came to the world and also will continue to do while we are gone. In this part of the world today, marriage is seen as an achievement most especially with ladies and they are often fond of it.
Looking at marriage in its splendorous image will be seen as something that is perfect and that people that engage in marriage often enjoy and feel fulfilled more than their single counterparts. Though this is supposed to be true, but is it always true, is marriage an avalanche into happiness and peace of mind?
Marriage of nowadays now have more divorce rates than that of the olden days long before us. We can't help but wonder why people get it all wrong today. We believe that our forefathers and mothers were being able to keep their marriage running smooth and have less divorce than contemporary times. I will be sharing my points on some of the reasons while people divorce each other and why marriage crashes today.
1. Lack of love
Although it might sound a bit strange but not all marry their partners because of love. One of the things that sustains marriage is mutual love. Some marry not because of love but because of personal interest, some marry because they see the wealth of their partner and the best way they think of to enjoy the money is to marry that person. Now considering this,you will see that the marriage is likely to crumble later probably when the motivating factor- money runs out of hand. They begin to hate each other and they may eventually divorce one another. Hypergamy has killed more marriages than it has helped. Once you marry for love and not for materiality, you have a better chance at keeping your marriage lasting.
2. Cheating or Adultery
This cause contribute to more than fifty percent of all divorce rates we have in the world today. An obvious cheater can't keep a marriage, it will surely crumble. People do cheat on their partners for many reasons but the end result of that act is not always palatable. Many have even killed their partners who engage in the very act of adultery because many can't simply take it in. That's why it's advisable to always know your partner sexual wise before you marry them. Don't assume a spinster who is a prostitute will change once she marry. Someone said old habits die hard. It's better to be loyal to your spouse because it is for the good of you too. Celebrity marriages are always believed by people not to last owning to a cause like this.
3. Lack of emotional intelligence
A person who lacks intelligence or is immature will find it hard to keep a marriage. Staying together in a marriage require diplomacy between the partners. We are not the same in character, strength etc. Partners should be able to strike the balance between their imperfections and work on it. A wife can be a lousy person while the husband is very reserved. They should respect each other differences and should never push each other to the wall. Marriage requires patience. You need to have a lot of patience in your marriage if you want it to thrive. Many have lost their marriage to impatience. Ability to control one's anger in the heat of argument is a very good virtue people should try to emulate. Don't be a wife beater or trying to form James bond. It's not always worth it at the end.
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Number 3 is crucial.