She is really a bright kid before, she often laugh, she talk everything about her days, she's so clingy and love our attention. She used to be my princes but now, she's the oposite of what imshe is before. She now bend rules, don't listen to us anymore and can answer back with a tone now. I can't find my princess anymore, what's left is a Rebellious Teenager.
This is the most problem that a parent is facing today or even before, a child being rebellious. I'm sure you too had a fair share of defiance with your parents, every kids or most. You are now a parents who is getting through the same thing that your parent gone through when you did the same.
What is Teenage Rebellion
According to MomJunction.com, Teenage Rebellion is an act of a highest declaration of freedom and observation to parental advice during children's life. Rebellion, it is an intense confrontation between teenager and their parents.
There is a lot of reason why Teenager has going through to this stage. They are just teenager that is why they want to prove something or what to do thing but they dont have the freedom to do it. Off course they are just teenager, a minor so it is really just right that a parent must look to their child, growing them to the way they want. And that's where the Rebellion rises, they want freedom.
Reasons why teenagers become Rebellious
There are so many reason why, I know some of your knows it because you once experience it. But you change for the better and that's important.
They want to be Independent, the strong urge that they are feeling, they want to be independent so much even if they have nothing to prove off yet, they want it so bad but the money that they are spending was their parents money. Teenagers want to be adult but their thinking is still for just a kid.
Suffocation. If before they don't bend rules, the rules that you set for them now they feel suffocated to it. They now questioning your setted rules and contradicting it.
Hastiness. According to experts, teens are really prone into making impulsive decisions, they want to hurry everything. A teenagers judgement can be set aside by their desire to look for thrill and experience the excitement. They can violate any rules and may ignore the risk just for the rewards, andbthat is because they were clouded by their desire to do the thing in process, or the right way.
Pressure from Peers. Teenager wants to feel a sense of belonging to some group of friends so they will do anything just to get the approval of them, even if it's against the law.
How to know if the Teenager Rebellion is more serious than you thought.
There's a teenager that can be control with a heart to heart talk or can be stop by it. But there is also a teenager that the Rebellion can be got out of hand.
When your child becomes aggressive and annoyed, always with the parents or other family members, that's where you should take some action.
When he changed the way they inyeract with you, the way they talk and hard to talk with, that's where you should take some action.
When he always give you a short and rude answer, they really need a beating.
When they defy you by doing things like going outside without a word, or doing things asked not to do.
They don't about anything, they do whatever they want like risky thing, drunk driving and overdosing with drugs.
How to deal with a Rebellious Teenager
Dealing with rebellious teenager is so hard, you can't just do whatever to make them stop it because they might look into it differently and they do drastic thing that will result of more wrongdoings. Let's take a list of how you can handle them, carefully.
Be Calm
Teenagers is still a child, they have their own mind but we should still be considerate. Don't just do ant drastic move. Be calm and ask them carefully what's the problem and or what's on their mind. Show that you are concern, don't just throw any question that will make them feel like they are some criminals.
Talk like Bestfriend
I'm sure you've been through teenage years too. Think of how you think before, you can use the right words, phrase and sentence to make them better. Talk like a bestfriend, don't use your authorative voice, use a calm voice to make them talk to you.
Tell Your Intentions
Teenger won't undertand the rules if you don't make them undertand it and the reason why you make rules like it. For example you forbid them to party because there's a lot of booze there and they might get drunk and do elicit activities. Explain the concequenses if he do those things use examples if needed. And most importantly, listen too, make them talk not just you and listen.
Compromise
Discussing a limitation to them does nor mean you are approving their demand. You can come up with a solution that will benefit both of you, a win-win. For example is "I will allow you to party, only if you accept my condition. You will go home once the clock hit 11:00 PM." Tour kid will feel like that you are compromising with them and not just ordering them to do this or that.
How to prevent Teenage Rebellion
We can't completely stop or avoid the Teenage Rebellion, but we nay prevent it.
Set a very reasonable rules, but it should be also firm.
Have a very light conversation, a calm and not an argument.
The concequences must be reasonable, not that hard but not too light.
When they been good in the entire months or years, give them a praise. Praise is good but material or things as a rewards is not that bad too. Just make sure that this rewars won't hinders to their studies.
Even teenager need a privacy, so we can give them that. You know, they have their things too, all of teenagers is experiencing that.
Share knowledge about everything, from sex education to teenage rebellion.
And the most important is, make them talk and you listen. Teenager has their own outlook or point of view so we can take time to listen to them
Teenage Rebellion can be prevented if you have a healthy relationship with your kids. Having a heart to heart talk is really a big help. Don't jump into conclution you must ask them the problem and guide them, carefully.
In that period, teenagers feel like adults and think that they make the right decisions, so the opposition of their parents feels rebellion ...