"You need it, I know you do!"

You can't command the heart.... Or maybe we just don't know how to command? We don't know the language in which our heart speaks, the language of images, strange and vague colors, movements, forms, half-tones and aromas, the language from which the melodies of our feelings, expectations, fantasies and hopes are woven - but we all still try to order it something in our native spoken language...?

And, in fact, why control the heart? Well, not in the literal, physical sense, of course, like the yogis to speed up, slow down, or even stop its course - but to control our own feelings. To create, modify, strengthen, weaken, and remove them at one's own will? Is that even possible in principle? Or are we doomed to remain their slaves forever, and, like a helpless vessel without sails and oars, to sail where the uncontrollable mighty forces of the winds and currents drive us. And only by an effort of the will not to show our face, to pretend, more or less successfully, to pretend and to hide what is going on inside us. It is an effort of will to force ourselves to follow common sense, calculation, and the decisions of our own mind, regardless of our inner desires, aspirations, and oppositions. Yes, humanity has succeeded in this kind of violence against its own nature, but that is not what we are talking about here. There is perhaps a difference between flicking a switch and turning on a light - and pretending that you are already light. Moreover, if you don't know where your light switch is and how to use it, and instead of just turning on the light, you successfully pretend year after year that you can see everything anyway, and read or work in semi-darkness - you are likely to end up with serious vision problems. Similarly, doctors and psychologists have long known that if a person successfully pretends for a long time, year after year, that he does not feel what he wants, loves, hates, is afraid of, what he really wants, and continues stubbornly, guided by reason, calculation, or decency, to do what he decided, ignoring feelings, then it will end just as miserably. Only it is not the eyes that will suffer, but many other, no less important organs and systems of his body. Everyone knows that most cardiovascular diseases are caused not just by strong feelings, fear, grief, resentment, but by chronically ignoring and suppressing them. Less known is a long list of other so-called psychosomatic, i.e. mind-body, diseases, in which each repressed, ignored feelings and emotions corresponds to a specific, and very common ailment. Thus, prolonged suppression of anger often leads to the development of arthritis, fear leads to neck and upper back pain, and feelings of humiliation and unfreedom lead to known to many of the problems with the lower back.... It is no coincidence that for decades modern authors of books on popular psychology have been urging us not to suppress, not to hide in ourselves - but to actively express and manifest our feelings. And in this, of course, there is a reason - even if it makes us less adequate and successful socially, but the health and well-being - mental and physical, is probably worth it! However, let us leave all these horrors, problems and diseases for the readers of the relevant literature - and let's talk about something else at last. About the true management of feelings. And as a natural consequence - about managing your own life and destiny. About life management, as it is popularly called now in English. After all, our life, all events, people, things, and phenomena surrounding us, all our social, property, family, cultural, and educational status are set and formed, as it is known, by our own deeds and actions. Deeds and actions, in their turn, are determined by thoughts, plans, dreams and fantasies, which, in their turn, are generation and reflection of feelings - likes and dislikes, affections, loves and hates, fears and fears, irritation, boredom and anger, inspiration, joy and happiness - and many others. To become educated and communicate with intelligent people, we only need to love learning and hate stupidity and ignorance, and to become rich - to hate idleness and love work! That is all! Not any work, of course, but entrepreneurial work, connected with the love of taking responsibility for your own decisions and the destiny of others, of thinking, planning and taking risks, of creating new things and independence. After all, if you love to sweep the streets, clean the snow, or, say, whittle planks with a plane, with all due respect to representatives of such professions, it is unlikely to bring you wealth.... It's the same in everything else. If you want to destroy your family, all you have to do is love another woman (another man....) with all your heart, or, say, loneliness and freedom. To grow old alone - to do similar tricks every two weeks.... That to ruin your life without waiting for old age - in addition to that, to love with passion a certain kind of drink, or, say, gambling.... What would achieve the opposite result - to feel the deepest and most persistent aversion to this kind of entertainment.... It's really simple: if you like to communicate with people - you are a great conversationalist, friend, comrade, if you like to trade - an excellent, the best, seller, if you like to solve mathematical problems - a programmer, if to take responsibility and create new things - an entrepreneur, a creator,

Maybe he has become unpleasant to me and I am indifferent to him? This is what we constantly do to ourselves when we fall in love, or on the contrary, cool down, without realizing the power and efficacy of the technology we use. The same, only consciously, is done by producers of the most various goods and services, as well as by political and religious figures. And it has worked every time, for thousands of years, over and over again. Although, of course, there are failures and errors-but in general, the scheme works just so. One important nuance. Why do the questions I mentioned begin with the word "Maybe"? Every successful salesman knows that you can't force the product on the buyer just by offering it, much less ordering it. You will immediately get all the imaginable and unimaginable resistance. Try telling someone, "You need it, I know you do!" And what will you hear in response? Another thing, a cautious suggestion: "Perhaps you might be interested in it....". Yes anything is possible, why not - and then, not even half an hour later, the client is already awakened interest, a new need is formed, and a purchase is made, which he had not planned! Similarly, in order to form a new attitude, we have to act like an experienced and careful salesman, and literally sell ourselves a new feeling and attitude! And we will buy it! And it will change our lives. It will really change, as new feelings and desires that have suddenly burst into it have changed it more than once, and sometimes even turned it upside down. Only this time, everything will not be accidental, and nothing of value or importance will be destroyed or lost. On the contrary, by consciously planning a strategy of creating, promoting, developing and timely introducing into ourselves new feelings, desires and needs, and transforming old ones, we will give our lives a fundamentally new quality and dimension. It is quite possible that reading this you are experiencing some discomfort, or even anxiety - is something like this really possible, and is it happening just like this? Don't take my word for it, but pay attention to your own experience, check what you're saying on yourself - and you'll find out and feel a lot of interesting things. And that's not all! The methods and approaches outlined above are the simplest, slowest, and most painful, despite their unconditional efficacy! For modern psychology this is long past yesterday. Now we know the language that our heart speaks. The language of our soul. We really do. And we can speak, ask, persuade and give orders. And, what used to take years, or at least weeks, today can be done in minutes and seconds.

6.06.2022